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neonly:
Record everything that happened in d house
Destroy her pass port
Put a very little amount of drugs in her food constantly so in case she get tested she be a drug addict
I can tell u more
But no woman get to mess with me after all my struggles

I like people like you, we should start a WhatsApp group

jullikay:
I thank God for you. I can relate well, when it comes to relationship abroad, especially with African women. I am experiencing something very similar to this now, the difference is that my wife and children have been living abroad before joining them. I left a good banking job in Nigeria, I think I will share my story later. My advice to you is that please don't look back, go ahead with the divorce. African women have destroyed a lot of men because the laws favour them abroad.

I hope you wouldn't open a new profile to hide your identity. Tag us when you start your thread

newride:
Please send her back to nigeria.. With style.. Am very angry. As for your gra gra.. My brother everybdoy get their own for body...

You will be surprise that shes already planning to date one white guy their.. Dump your kid for you..

Ao before that time. Be wise..

Don't just send her back. Pretend to want to help her get back to the US, set her up as a drug mule and allow the DEA take over

atoleybaba:
Just seeing this thread and it reminded me of what a Nigerian lady that was in the u.s illegally did for my late Aunty's husband ooo... Baba wanted to remarry, he saw this "innocent girl" she even called us and talked to us on phone(Jesus she sounded us nice) even promised to care for my late Aunty's kid. Few months to the marriage, they found out that she has a bf and only got married for the paper so she can bring her guy in. The funniest thing was that the stupid girl started holding this man on ransom, seized his passport and left the home for some time, when she is around dares the bro to do his worse and point fingers at him that he can't do her nothing.....thank God the worse is behind him and they have divorced each other and she has married whoever she wanted to marry. Something that is certain is she will reap the consequences of her actions in the future. One thing is to tell the person about what you're planning to do and another thing is to be dishonest about your plans and causing heartbreak and problems

You see those 20 Nigerian men that killed there wives abroad. Those are real men!

WILLuKPquiet:
My guy arrange for a trip back to Naija with her.

Start beating the devil out of her life right from the Airport. Collect her traveling documents and damage them beyond repairs.

Keep your papers and fly back to your base.

My advice may sound odd because I don't know where exactly you are based. . But if what I said is possible and obtainable, do it.

Let me tell you about a dead colleague of mine. His story is almost same as yours.

Gbenga that is his real name. He was an artist.

He was in the UK for like four years. ( I am not really sure how long though) He later brought the wife over and Gbam! The problems started. His wife started becoming uncontrollable and all.

One day Gbenga left for work and forgot something. He came back and met a man in his apartment fucking the wife. My guy started problem with them and started beating the wife.

The wife's lover called the police on him while escaping. That someone was beating his wife at so so and so apartment. Police came and whisked Gbenga away.
To cut the long story short, Gbenga found himself in Nigeria. He tried to go back to no avail.

Before you know it, Gbega started showing signs of insanity and eventually ran completely mad. Three Years ago my guy died in UCH Ibadan when he was taken there for treatment.

The wife married one of his friends and life continues. Gbenga is dead but the wife remains in UK flexing

You see life?


Send that woman back by all means. You will take care of your kids in Nigeria when they are back.

Trick her to come to Nigeria and collect her traveling documents and burn them. I pray you won't end up like my guy Gbenga.

Take care

Maybe Gbenga reincarnated and came back as this muthafucking OP because he does not learn

vickydevoka:
Brother you are the caus of your problem. U knw your wife still u insist of bringing her to abroad

Most importantly, he no dey hear word!

The scam has even deactivated his NL profile

etrange:
For all it's worth, I live in Canada. I don't argue that some women don't cause problems for their husbands. I am saying a lot of women still live well with their husbands after coming abroad so saying 'I hate Nigerian women' is sexist and over reaching. We men have our faults too. Some of us live in the Western world where women have equal rights with men and yet we try to subdue our women with the fear that they will be difficult to manage if allowed to explore. At the end, this makes them turn against us. A lot of homes are broken here cause some Nigerian men can't bear the slightest hint of equality. My point is, if the OP's wife is terrible (neglecting the dangers of one sided stories), then she should be criticized and not 'Nigerian women'. You don't bash all women cause of the action of some. If we treat men-related issues like this, nobody will like Nigerian men as well.

Why do you think Trump banned the entire Nigeria? When you repeatedly have the same kind of behaviour from a particular demographic, it is safe to generalise.

Coolcalmcollect:
get her deported back to Nigeria na, hide her documents and report a foreign alien in the country and have the bish deported. se bi she say she mad ni, show her say you craze pass am... I hate weak men o

Azzin!!! OP is weaker than his errection

Let's give him the benefit of doubt that he is under pressure and cannot handle such situations. But mehhhhn weak AF

Cephas11:
Some people are so fking daft..For him to have genuinely created an account to pour out his heart to people on here should have firstly be seen as courage in seeking advice but trust me we have more sadist here than anywhere else....I pray you pull through this bro...This type of news has been on the front for a long time...Stay safe and be ahead of the game..record her codedly when she starts her madness

You neva see something

mikywonder:
My brother na u Bleep up
Chai same thing dat ended my cousin bro's carer
Fear woman

These Cousin brother people again.

Abeg which school una go?

Eulalia:
Hmm... We women are chickened brains at times. This is obviously bad advice from friends with this local mentality they have about womens right being protected abroad hence wanting to leverage on that to be acting unruly and disrespectfully to their husbands. Whatever happened to submmiting to our husbands as the Bible commands? Or even try to maintain our traditions and culture when we get to the white mans land.


You should have just tripped them back to Nigeria on one Summer or December period like that and leave her behind after the whole thing let her learn her lessons. Divorce is never an option and im not an advocate for divorce.


Anyways, glad you have everything under control now. You really meant well for her but her local mentality could not allow her enjoy all that.

You sef shift one side. So you need a bible to tell you to act like a human being? What separates you from other animals then?

Do you know it is even the religious ones that do the most?

Vulcan24:
Dear Friend

am a married man with enough experience
the handwriting has always been on the wall, but the fear and social stigma some good men feared of failed marriages kept you(us) going

you have started fighting fir your life, sanity and future, bear in mind the consequences of all your actions on your children

I am not saying and would never advise you to take such a woman under your roof again(although we haven't heard her own side) but on basis of this values you presented here and because it is a situation many of us are familiar with, we believe you might be telling the truth

please don't stop untill she's utterly destroyed, I mean rendered incapable of sabotaging you.

she's no longer your wife

She will come back with sober stories or plot bigger styles, be prepared

stay sharp

THIS! So many rare gems littered among the replies!!

pokipoki:
Dude, I had similar problem in 2017. The marriage was becoming hellish. Luckily for me, the first day I started working abroad, I made it a compulsory to save money no matter what. When I got tired of the drama, I relocated back to Nigeria . My plan is to finalize the divorce and arrange my way back.
Bottom line - There are always alternatives. Dont be stuck in an unhappy life. Life is short!!!

Why did you leave her there? Why not bring her back to Nigeria, render her broke, destroy her passport and return to the US. Nigeria is meant for animals

adewumiopeyemi:
I gues she has already cut the distance with her family She no what she is doing
Thank God is not in Canada if it’s is Canada
Mehn they focus more on woman no matter what even the woman is guilty

Even better! Much easier to attack a lone wolf

Segzy19:
Lol! You smell fake story. Then give us the real gist since you knew what happened

He has a point and I won't blame him. Bloggers these days have made us doubt every single story published on forums like these

They have evolved to call themselves CONTENT CREATORS and that's exactly what OP is!! He has even deactivated his fake profile

007inc:
Be a man, u didn’t handle d situation well at the initial stage.
This is what what u should have done :
Plan a family trip to naija , seize her passport n dump her here. Then get urself a new wife . That woman will eventually kill u.

I like how you're thinking

myles16:
your hubby will try o, cause it seems like you'll have trust issues, Baba has replied like 8 times telling you he didn't do her sh!t and he almost divorced her back in Nigeria, still you don't believe Ha!!

Woooo! Tiri gbosa for you

Lol. Na dem.

If only future husband's had access to their wives' nairaland posts before saying "I do"

OmoDavido:
And you say this one no be devil?!

You made a very big mistake by bringing such a woman abroad.

The good news is that he has enough time to undo this particular mistake if only he would listen to advice.

Mcslize:
Congratulation! One thing people don't know is that no one can change anyone if the person solely refused to change. She is not a wise woman. Permit me to use that expression. How can a woman who have already had children with a man not even have the thought of working things out with her man for the sake of the children rather her thought is to destroy the man? She believes she won't be affected.

Please, don't make the mistake of not extending that restrain. Talk to your lawyer and put an indefinitely restrain on her so she can't have access to you.

She is simply a typical foolish woman. No woman with sense will work against the father of her own children. She needs to be sent back to Nigeria if it is possible so she can go marry another man she will destroy.

Lol. You're asking for permission to call a spade a spade? You've said it all. She is not a wise woman and is the typical foolish type that should be bundled back to Nigeria because all she's going to do there is to give our Nigerian sisters a bad name.

Mr. OP, please send her back to her village. The home training was not complete

Nawaaoh:
Can this probably cure the sick men? This 23-year-old naughty nurse is going viral.

A Russian nurse has been suspended after she arrived at her shift in the all-male coronavirus patient wing with no clothing save for her skivvies under her transparent personal protective equipment. She worked at the hospital in Tula, 100 miles south of Moscow.

Details through the link below


https://www.mazechmedia.com/2020/05/hot-nurse-suspended-for-exposing-bra-and-panties-while-attending-to-patients/

Is this not off a pórno flick?

LinLinGentle:
Divorce has been filed. I got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

Lol, abroad has truly humbled this young man so your wife slapped you and go report am

If I were you, I would find a way to have her deported back to Nigeria!

If deportation is not possible, make it impossible for her to have a fulfilling career for the rest of her days in the country.

Snaagg:
Haba! There are people seriously considering it o... mainly for that sense of "community"

I know someone planning to move back before the end of the year in case there's a second wave of this pandemic. That way, she can be with her friends / family during a second (and possibly more stricter) lockdown.

Your friend is proof that going abroad does not guarantee sense

joshjc:
Nawah o how many phone they dey release in a week

They are using the same substandard processors and hiring economic saboteurs to market it as an awesome device.

festwiz:
Oga Eric, why did you stylishly omit the S5s SoC in your post? Are you suddenly ashamed of the Helio P35? Didn't you once call it a "flagship processor"?

95k for this Junk? Lol. This device exists so that ignorant customers can watch O2TVseries in 360p and brag at how "clear" it is.

When will you ever make an unbiased review on Transsion products and call it as it is. The Realme 6i for example is literally 2.5x more powerful than this device and costs around 60k and yet this toy can't match up and then the uninformed buyer will use price to judge premium. Where is your conscience as a tech savvy Nigerian?

N96k for a Helio P35?

And this product is being marketed by a fellow Nigerian who has been offered peanuts. Tomorrow he will complain that the economy is not doing well when he has contributed his fair share of destroying the value of his naira

The keyword is "may"

TallNigerian:
Hello Nairalanders,

I will be 30 years in a few months and I have never felt so much unease as I do right now. I work with one of the federal parastatals and I am currently on level 10 going to 12 next year. I have a Master degree athough it is not exactly relevant to my current job.

The problem is that my organisation uses the Ministry salary structure and my monthly net is below 80k even as a level 10 staff.

I am not married and I am academically inclined. Asides having a Master degree, I have over 8 professional certifications.

I have been trying to clinch a transfer of service to a better parastatal where the remuneration is better and where my knowledge/experiences as a science graduate will be better appreciated but it has been a bit difficult.

However, just before the COVID-19 episode in Nigeria, I got the right link for a transfer of service to a better parastatal but the process got stalled with the COVID-19 palaver.

I have 4 siblings who are Canadian citizens and they have been on my neck to migrate. I never took the calls seriously until this lockdown period. My siblings are arguing about the uncertainty of the Nigerian economy post-covid and advising me to seize this opportunity to migrate and start a new career over there?

My question therefore, "is it wise to stay back since I have gone quite far in my public service career and just wait for the opportunity to transfer my service to a better paying federal parastatal OR do I migrate to Canada and start a new career?

Your honest inputs will be highly appreciated. Thanks!

@CrazyMan @1forall Please I need your help in pushing this forward for a wider view. Thank you.

You should do both! Leave no stones unturned