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Johnsown1:
I suggest you try this list out

1:Try to apologies to her if in any way that you have offended her that you forgot even if you have to cry out blood for her to forgive you; for a peaceful home.

2: I swear you might not survive it here (9ja) again if you ever return to street empty handed.

3: since she is ready to destroy your career, i think you should contact your lawyer for a temporary separation for up to 5 years and you pay for her upkeeps.so that you can sort your black ass out.

3: the last on my list is to find a way to bundle her to Nigeria.

You only read the first post of a 30 page thread

Make I no answer you first

simbated:
Not too late to go back to school. We need people who can spell in the society

Yes, and people who know that there's no such thing as "cousin brother" and "cousin sister"

They're all over this forum yo. I wonder what kids are taught in schools these days.

sisisioge:



I have already mentioned before that spelling bee was never my show. I will adjust...thank you.

No wonder

Please do. I will give you more time

sisisioge:
You're definitely on edge dude...how can you contradict yourself in a singular sentence? Fictional daddy...who is able to let things happen. If He's so fictional then he shouldn't have the ability/power to make things happen nau . It is well.

Anyways, may there be calm in the land. May whatever is annoying you ease up....may peace be our lot. Happy Sallah.

I'm going to rate your comprehension skills in a bit. Please stay tuned.

mikywonder:
Shut up
Linguistic master

You must be a waste of school fees.

Take a class on family tree terminology. Thank me later

etrange:
Then Nigerian men are all unfaithful, rapists and fraudsters. We should all hate Nigerian men.

Yes

monfizzy:
I’m afraid if they’re in the U.K. he can’t sell the house. She can approach the courts to secure an injunction stopping him from selling the property. A friend in the U.K. wanted to sell a property after his marriage started having cracks the wife now ex went to the court in defence that the house is their kids inheritance and should it be sold their kids will be rendered homeless and court granted her injunction restraining him from selling the property or any assets in the U.K. The West is a mess for men.

My advise for any man is to ensure their wife remain in Nigeria and never file for them to move to their base otherwise they’re done for life or marry at their base even if na oyibo. It’s only about 2 in 10 marriages that survive beyond 3years and the 2 that survive will mean the man has to be a doormat for these women.

Like my big bro will advise me anytime I think of going home to marry and he’ll be like...why do you think any girl will prefer to marry you that lives faraway as against guys that lives nearby her? Are you a golden boy?. It’s all a means to an end and forget all the good character they display...it’s all deceit.

Oil dey your head

OFEMANUGURUMARA:
When you have a nonsense family who are all about the hustle, you can never have a peaceful home. Your nonsense family ruined your sister's marriage with their being unreasonable and stupid expectations. OP posted how he is yet to recover from the expenses of bringing them here. You mentioned they have three children. So you think relocating 4 people at the same time is cheap right? You guys are in Nigeria planning their family for them in the UK, and expecting your sister to start sending plenty money to you just within a few months, well congratulations as you have now destroyed your greedy sister's marriage and her immigration record. Her ass would be shipped back to Nigeria and she is unlikely to be able to get a visa to re-enter cos she now has a criminal record and is classed a violent person who poses a threat to the public. She needs to leave the country and come back to you people in Ibadan where she belongs, while she still has some dignity left.

At present, It would be very difficult for your sister to put forward any circumstantial evidence to prove violence against her husband. Don't you think something is wrong with your sister? She has already called the police on her husband at least 5 different times and they never arrested this man on any occasion because they found nothing against him. Is this what you meant when you said she is trying to preserve his career? You preserve your husband's career by calling the police on him, making baseless allegations? You evil ''WERE'' people. All of you in your house can never have a good marriage and your sister is probably better off alone to protect the society from her madness. I pity the next man that would fall victim to her. The evidence this man has trumps all circumstantial evidence your sister is banking on. It's still a loss for her because no matter what happens, your sister is surely returning to Nigeria, she is only just struggling to come to terms with this fact and this is why she wants everyone else to follow her including the man who brought her, the father of her children and you’re all encouraging her to keep causing trouble.

Are your family hopeless people? Why can’t your sister get a divorce, get her own career started, go back to Nigeria to reapply for her own visa and come back. Her mates are doing the same na. It’s appalling that she is so enraged with vengeance that her children’s welfare is not her priority and you all are also acting like the children don’t matter. All these would work against her eventually and she would lose all. If she is not careful, she would not be allowed to see her children again unless in a controlled environment. You people should keep encouraging her to cause trouble o, una eye go see.

Thank you for this post!

sterlingD:
When l saw the thread l read the Op story and left but then a thought came to me to revisit the thread and chip in some words only for me to see series of counter posts and countered countered posts.

For the sake of the children and families on both sides of the divide,both parties should reconcile.lf it is to reconcile and part ways temporary for sanity to ensue do so.But if it is to part ways permanently let it be amicably.

The matter tire you abi? Lol

jumpymonkey:
Was the woman violent or not in Nigeria and abroad?

Just a simple question.

The system has picked up the real violent person and she is now suffering for her crimes.

I'm counting on the government to send her back to Ibadan

galaxyking1:
please don't take the anger out on ur children they have better chances here in the UK and it will be better to have help their mother stay in the UK, even if the divorce goes through, considering the cost of child care.

bollocks!

Send the children back to Nigeria and let them know it was their mother's silly attitude that denied them the opportunity of living in a better society. They would never forgive her.

sisisioge:
Been catching up since I read your post. I see both his and his wife's alleys countering one another. [s]May God really help them resolve the matter. [/s]It is well.

Can't you people say something without mentioning a fictional, sky daddy who let all this rubbish happen in the first place?

mickyeddi:
I'm really glad the law was on your side in this case. Never bring crazy women from Nigeria to western countries because once they find out how much money the state will pay them in benefits as a single parent, they will 4ck you up!! I've seen a lot of Naija guys that have been kicked out of their own homes or even deported because of a crazy woman. That's the reason why black on black crime is very high because of young black boys being raised by crazy single mums!

I think the system was carefully structured by psychologists who have studied the way the average black woman would react to such "benefits" with the endgame of destabilising black families. Our dumbb women don't realise it so they fall for the bait, hook-line-sinker, giving rise to dysfunctional black homes in these countries.

jumpymonkey:
Ibukun, Adunola and Joshua. You guys should accept now that Ariyo is the one that would bring shame to your family. She is a potential murderer as she is presently planning to kill her soon to be ex-husband cos she knows that she will never find a better man due to her aggressive nature. You will all suffer it when it goes down very soon. If you continue with your recklessness, the internet would leak your sister's abusive videos towards her husband and their children for the for the whole world to see. You should all be busy working towards moving your mentally sick sister back to Ibadan as quickly as possible and securing her a space at a suitable psychiatric hospital where she'll be living on her arrival.

Saved, for posterity

Carmerchant101:
Bro dnt mind the foolish Guy, I have been in your shoes, women are terrible and once they move to Abroad they turn to wolves. My greatest fear of migrating with my family. Unfortunately their family and friends dnt advise them rather encourage evil. My advise is for you to become prayerful and use wisdom to manage her, but since she is bent on showing you pls try to divorce her. She will.be at the receiving end and won't get her citizenship out of her foolishness. My only advise is dnt let her send you back home because Naija is bleeped up right now. Please remember you need to be more prayerful and device a means tone happy and not fall into depression. I waih u the best

Fixed

Tunks2017:
It very difficult to marry black/african women in USA.............. Its better to get a baby mama


They all always abuse the law that favours women

It's in their DNA to be the scum of the earth

sunkieisland:
I laughed when I saw the multitude of people claiming that the story is fake.

Even if it's not plausible to you, it doesn't mean that it's impossible.

Theze claims are clear demonstration of naivety and inexperience of many on this forum.

Not our fault. CONTENT CREATORS have done a number on my ability to believe anything posted on shitty forums like this

Karda20:
I was very furious at the beginning but that "update" gladdens my heart. Everyone should know this: No one has the right to make your life miserable unless you give them the permission to do so. If anyone try to make your life miserable, cut them off.

This guy is a chicken. Don't be surprised if his wife bullied him to write the "update"

Wow! front page....

I read a few comments posted by some trolls who claim they know me and are threatening to update the blog when they have finished bringing me down. Well, if your claims are indeed true, there is nothing to worry about then. Let us all allow an unbiased legal system to deal with the situation while both parties present all evidences they have. It's so funny how people don't know when to advise parties embroiled in a toxic marriage to move on peacefully, instead of triggering them further to take disruptive steps that could ruin the lives and future of some innocent children who were not there when they were happily shagging.

Whoever you are, remember this and inform my toxic ''soon to be ex-wife'' that...

‘BEFORE SETTING OUT FOR REVENGE, FIRST DIG TWO GRAVES: ONE FOR YOUR ENEMY AND ONE FOR YOURSELF'

Why did you deactivate Mr. OP?

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Charly68:
Quote me;the power from your village are bent to cause you the headache ..what both of you need is deep prayer..the nonsense will stop if you can pray but in abroad, unfortunately Govt is seen as god..so you guys are blind to tje realities of spiritual warfare .

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Rubbish

djon78:
Again this is a very false narrative.
Contracts is a serious binding thing in the west. There is rule of law and respect for agreement over there.
All the men I know that signed prenuptial agreement won there cases.

Preach brother!! Tell them!!!

amliftedhigher:
I don't think is a tale. My friend is suffering the same thing now in Texas because of his witch mother in law whom he brought to the US to assist during omugwo. As I am talking to you now. The wife leaves differently with her mother. The story is very long oh. It started in Aba Abia state. The young man thought that the wife and mother have repented

Aba? If I talk now nairaland would say I am racist/tribalist.

The biggest mistake any rich young man can make today is to marry a girl from a poor family in Abia state, especially the ones that have no father in the home.

Trust me on this one guys

igbowoman:
I have read up to page 7 and feel sorry for this guy.
All the people saying send her back or trick her to naija sound like immature children,shows you the mentality of the African man where women are seen as pieces of furniture.
I feel for this guy
Even if he decides to divorce which seems to be what he is doing it will cost him.she will most likely get her own lawyer and he will also pay for her lawyer.
Make sure you check through the contract with the lawyers and how they are billing you or you will have a huge bill on your hands.
Most sensible men just allow her take what she demands so they can make it snappy to cut costs and move on.
This is not an easy road but seems to be the only sensible one.
My heart goes out to the innocent children in this mess.I can only imagine the trauma they are going through. God protect them from any damaging long term effects.

Is she not behaving like a piece of furniture? Send her back to naija jor! Nonsense and ingredients!!

neonly:
Record everything that happened in d house
Destroy her pass port
Put a very little amount of drugs in her food constantly so in case she get tested she be a drug addict
I can tell u more
But no woman get to mess with me after all my struggles

I like people like you, we should start a WhatsApp group

jullikay:
I thank God for you. I can relate well, when it comes to relationship abroad, especially with African women. I am experiencing something very similar to this now, the difference is that my wife and children have been living abroad before joining them. I left a good banking job in Nigeria, I think I will share my story later. My advice to you is that please don't look back, go ahead with the divorce. African women have destroyed a lot of men because the laws favour them abroad.

I hope you wouldn't open a new profile to hide your identity. Tag us when you start your thread

newride:
Please send her back to nigeria.. With style.. Am very angry. As for your gra gra.. My brother everybdoy get their own for body...

You will be surprise that shes already planning to date one white guy their.. Dump your kid for you..

Ao before that time. Be wise..

Don't just send her back. Pretend to want to help her get back to the US, set her up as a drug mule and allow the DEA take over

atoleybaba:
Just seeing this thread and it reminded me of what a Nigerian lady that was in the u.s illegally did for my late Aunty's husband ooo... Baba wanted to remarry, he saw this "innocent girl" she even called us and talked to us on phone(Jesus she sounded us nice) even promised to care for my late Aunty's kid. Few months to the marriage, they found out that she has a bf and only got married for the paper so she can bring her guy in. The funniest thing was that the stupid girl started holding this man on ransom, seized his passport and left the home for some time, when she is around dares the bro to do his worse and point fingers at him that he can't do her nothing.....thank God the worse is behind him and they have divorced each other and she has married whoever she wanted to marry. Something that is certain is she will reap the consequences of her actions in the future. One thing is to tell the person about what you're planning to do and another thing is to be dishonest about your plans and causing heartbreak and problems

You see those 20 Nigerian men that killed there wives abroad. Those are real men!

WILLuKPquiet:
My guy arrange for a trip back to Naija with her.

Start beating the devil out of her life right from the Airport. Collect her traveling documents and damage them beyond repairs.

Keep your papers and fly back to your base.

My advice may sound odd because I don't know where exactly you are based. . But if what I said is possible and obtainable, do it.

Let me tell you about a dead colleague of mine. His story is almost same as yours.

Gbenga that is his real name. He was an artist.

He was in the UK for like four years. ( I am not really sure how long though) He later brought the wife over and Gbam! The problems started. His wife started becoming uncontrollable and all.

One day Gbenga left for work and forgot something. He came back and met a man in his apartment fucking the wife. My guy started problem with them and started beating the wife.

The wife's lover called the police on him while escaping. That someone was beating his wife at so so and so apartment. Police came and whisked Gbenga away.
To cut the long story short, Gbenga found himself in Nigeria. He tried to go back to no avail.

Before you know it, Gbega started showing signs of insanity and eventually ran completely mad. Three Years ago my guy died in UCH Ibadan when he was taken there for treatment.

The wife married one of his friends and life continues. Gbenga is dead but the wife remains in UK flexing

You see life?


Send that woman back by all means. You will take care of your kids in Nigeria when they are back.

Trick her to come to Nigeria and collect her traveling documents and burn them. I pray you won't end up like my guy Gbenga.

Take care

Maybe Gbenga reincarnated and came back as this muthafucking OP because he does not learn

vickydevoka:
Brother you are the caus of your problem. U knw your wife still u insist of bringing her to abroad

Most importantly, he no dey hear word!

The scam has even deactivated his NL profile

etrange:
For all it's worth, I live in Canada. I don't argue that some women don't cause problems for their husbands. I am saying a lot of women still live well with their husbands after coming abroad so saying 'I hate Nigerian women' is sexist and over reaching. We men have our faults too. Some of us live in the Western world where women have equal rights with men and yet we try to subdue our women with the fear that they will be difficult to manage if allowed to explore. At the end, this makes them turn against us. A lot of homes are broken here cause some Nigerian men can't bear the slightest hint of equality. My point is, if the OP's wife is terrible (neglecting the dangers of one sided stories), then she should be criticized and not 'Nigerian women'. You don't bash all women cause of the action of some. If we treat men-related issues like this, nobody will like Nigerian men as well.

Why do you think Trump banned the entire Nigeria? When you repeatedly have the same kind of behaviour from a particular demographic, it is safe to generalise.

Coolcalmcollect:
get her deported back to Nigeria na, hide her documents and report a foreign alien in the country and have the bish deported. se bi she say she mad ni, show her say you craze pass am... I hate weak men o

Azzin!!! OP is weaker than his errection

Let's give him the benefit of doubt that he is under pressure and cannot handle such situations. But mehhhhn weak AF

Cephas11:
Some people are so fking daft..For him to have genuinely created an account to pour out his heart to people on here should have firstly be seen as courage in seeking advice but trust me we have more sadist here than anywhere else....I pray you pull through this bro...This type of news has been on the front for a long time...Stay safe and be ahead of the game..record her codedly when she starts her madness

You neva see something