₦airaland Forum

mikywonder:
My brother na u Bleep up
Chai same thing dat ended my cousin bro's carer
Fear woman

These Cousin brother people again.

Abeg which school una go?

Eulalia:
Hmm... We women are chickened brains at times. This is obviously bad advice from friends with this local mentality they have about womens right being protected abroad hence wanting to leverage on that to be acting unruly and disrespectfully to their husbands. Whatever happened to submmiting to our husbands as the Bible commands? Or even try to maintain our traditions and culture when we get to the white mans land.


You should have just tripped them back to Nigeria on one Summer or December period like that and leave her behind after the whole thing let her learn her lessons. Divorce is never an option and im not an advocate for divorce.


Anyways, glad you have everything under control now. You really meant well for her but her local mentality could not allow her enjoy all that.

You sef shift one side. So you need a bible to tell you to act like a human being? What separates you from other animals then?

Do you know it is even the religious ones that do the most?

Vulcan24:
Dear Friend

am a married man with enough experience
the handwriting has always been on the wall, but the fear and social stigma some good men feared of failed marriages kept you(us) going

you have started fighting fir your life, sanity and future, bear in mind the consequences of all your actions on your children

I am not saying and would never advise you to take such a woman under your roof again(although we haven't heard her own side) but on basis of this values you presented here and because it is a situation many of us are familiar with, we believe you might be telling the truth

please don't stop untill she's utterly destroyed, I mean rendered incapable of sabotaging you.

she's no longer your wife

She will come back with sober stories or plot bigger styles, be prepared

stay sharp

THIS! So many rare gems littered among the replies!!

pokipoki:
Dude, I had similar problem in 2017. The marriage was becoming hellish. Luckily for me, the first day I started working abroad, I made it a compulsory to save money no matter what. When I got tired of the drama, I relocated back to Nigeria . My plan is to finalize the divorce and arrange my way back.
Bottom line - There are always alternatives. Dont be stuck in an unhappy life. Life is short!!!

Why did you leave her there? Why not bring her back to Nigeria, render her broke, destroy her passport and return to the US. Nigeria is meant for animals

adewumiopeyemi:
I gues she has already cut the distance with her family She no what she is doing
Thank God is not in Canada if it’s is Canada
Mehn they focus more on woman no matter what even the woman is guilty

Even better! Much easier to attack a lone wolf

Segzy19:
Lol! You smell fake story. Then give us the real gist since you knew what happened

He has a point and I won't blame him. Bloggers these days have made us doubt every single story published on forums like these

They have evolved to call themselves CONTENT CREATORS and that's exactly what OP is!! He has even deactivated his fake profile

007inc:
Be a man, u didn’t handle d situation well at the initial stage.
This is what what u should have done :
Plan a family trip to naija , seize her passport n dump her here. Then get urself a new wife . That woman will eventually kill u.

I like how you're thinking

myles16:
your hubby will try o, cause it seems like you'll have trust issues, Baba has replied like 8 times telling you he didn't do her sh!t and he almost divorced her back in Nigeria, still you don't believe Ha!!

Woooo! Tiri gbosa for you

Lol. Na dem.

If only future husband's had access to their wives' nairaland posts before saying "I do"

OmoDavido:
And you say this one no be devil?!

You made a very big mistake by bringing such a woman abroad.

The good news is that he has enough time to undo this particular mistake if only he would listen to advice.

Mcslize:
Congratulation! One thing people don't know is that no one can change anyone if the person solely refused to change. She is not a wise woman. Permit me to use that expression. How can a woman who have already had children with a man not even have the thought of working things out with her man for the sake of the children rather her thought is to destroy the man? She believes she won't be affected.

Please, don't make the mistake of not extending that restrain. Talk to your lawyer and put an indefinitely restrain on her so she can't have access to you.

She is simply a typical foolish woman. No woman with sense will work against the father of her own children. She needs to be sent back to Nigeria if it is possible so she can go marry another man she will destroy.

Lol. You're asking for permission to call a spade a spade? You've said it all. She is not a wise woman and is the typical foolish type that should be bundled back to Nigeria because all she's going to do there is to give our Nigerian sisters a bad name.

Mr. OP, please send her back to her village. The home training was not complete

Nawaaoh:
Can this probably cure the sick men? This 23-year-old naughty nurse is going viral.

A Russian nurse has been suspended after she arrived at her shift in the all-male coronavirus patient wing with no clothing save for her skivvies under her transparent personal protective equipment. She worked at the hospital in Tula, 100 miles south of Moscow.

Details through the link below


https://www.mazechmedia.com/2020/05/hot-nurse-suspended-for-exposing-bra-and-panties-while-attending-to-patients/

Is this not off a pórno flick?

LinLinGentle:
Divorce has been filed. I got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

Lol, abroad has truly humbled this young man so your wife slapped you and go report am

If I were you, I would find a way to have her deported back to Nigeria!

If deportation is not possible, make it impossible for her to have a fulfilling career for the rest of her days in the country.

Snaagg:
Haba! There are people seriously considering it o... mainly for that sense of "community"

I know someone planning to move back before the end of the year in case there's a second wave of this pandemic. That way, she can be with her friends / family during a second (and possibly more stricter) lockdown.

Your friend is proof that going abroad does not guarantee sense

joshjc:
Nawah o how many phone they dey release in a week

They are using the same substandard processors and hiring economic saboteurs to market it as an awesome device.

festwiz:
Oga Eric, why did you stylishly omit the S5s SoC in your post? Are you suddenly ashamed of the Helio P35? Didn't you once call it a "flagship processor"?

95k for this Junk? Lol. This device exists so that ignorant customers can watch O2TVseries in 360p and brag at how "clear" it is.

When will you ever make an unbiased review on Transsion products and call it as it is. The Realme 6i for example is literally 2.5x more powerful than this device and costs around 60k and yet this toy can't match up and then the uninformed buyer will use price to judge premium. Where is your conscience as a tech savvy Nigerian?

N96k for a Helio P35?

And this product is being marketed by a fellow Nigerian who has been offered peanuts. Tomorrow he will complain that the economy is not doing well when he has contributed his fair share of destroying the value of his naira

The keyword is "may"

TallNigerian:
Hello Nairalanders,

I will be 30 years in a few months and I have never felt so much unease as I do right now. I work with one of the federal parastatals and I am currently on level 10 going to 12 next year. I have a Master degree athough it is not exactly relevant to my current job.

The problem is that my organisation uses the Ministry salary structure and my monthly net is below 80k even as a level 10 staff.

I am not married and I am academically inclined. Asides having a Master degree, I have over 8 professional certifications.

I have been trying to clinch a transfer of service to a better parastatal where the remuneration is better and where my knowledge/experiences as a science graduate will be better appreciated but it has been a bit difficult.

However, just before the COVID-19 episode in Nigeria, I got the right link for a transfer of service to a better parastatal but the process got stalled with the COVID-19 palaver.

I have 4 siblings who are Canadian citizens and they have been on my neck to migrate. I never took the calls seriously until this lockdown period. My siblings are arguing about the uncertainty of the Nigerian economy post-covid and advising me to seize this opportunity to migrate and start a new career over there?

My question therefore, "is it wise to stay back since I have gone quite far in my public service career and just wait for the opportunity to transfer my service to a better paying federal parastatal OR do I migrate to Canada and start a new career?

Your honest inputs will be highly appreciated. Thanks!

@CrazyMan @1forall Please I need your help in pushing this forward for a wider view. Thank you.

You should do both! Leave no stones unturned