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u guys are funny, esp. The pack of abusers. Nway,individual differences.

sunkoye: @OP, with the look of things i dont need to argue with you as u already drawn a pre-determined inference. so why play on other people's intelligence? i belive you only want to showcase u research. but it's unfortunate your defence lines were very faulty especially when you start quoting BIble. as it is evident with due respect u foolishly pick the verses and bible chapters that suit your research. whatever am responding here is definitely for the christians here. not for you that is nither here or there!

For the record, you cannot proclaim your self a christian and walk the word of God and deny spirituality cos the word of God never shy a way from it. it is evident that there are lots of things that is out of our grasp, due to limits of humanity. they bible made me believe that their are out there a lot goin unseen that than the seen.

see, out of the prophet of the old and new testament, the experience of Daniel was the most facinitating and the words of Paul is awesome among other senerios in the bible! daniel provides a remarkable insight into the reality and might of the principalities and powers under the rule of Satan, “the prince of the power of the air” (Ephesians 2:2). Although Satan is not omnipresent, he has a highly organized host of evil angels at his command. if you check out daniel 10:13"But the prince of the kingdom of Persia withstood me one and twenty days: but, lo, Michael, one of the chief princes, came to help me; and I remained there with the kings of Persia." Undoubtedly, one who takes into view all the circumstances referred to in this passage would most naturally understand this of an angelic being, having some kind of jurisdiction over the kingdom of Persia then. What was the character of this "prince," however, whether he was a good or bad angel, is not intimated by the language. It is only implied that he had a chieftainship, or some species of guardian care over that kingdom - watching over its interests and directing its affairs. As he offered resistance, however, to this heavenly messenger on his way to Daniel, as it was necessary to counteract his plans, and as the aid of Michael was required to overcome his opposition, the fair construction is, that he belonged to the class of evil angels.
in paul's case he so confirm the meta-physical in the book of ephesian 6:12"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" see,apostle Paul says that our struggle is not against flesh and blood. Our true battle is not against our political opponents or family or co-workers or neighbors or any other human agent. The battle is not against people, but against unseen spiritual powers. In fact, the entire human race is under a vicious assault by certain principalities and powers, world rulers of darkness, wicked spirits in high places.

ofcourse we av alot of scams that unbalance both good and evil but that does not makes the power that be unreal. my people, wisdom is the principal thing and He that has wisdom let him get understanding. peace!

. . .@ Sunkoye, guy na becos of "doubting thomas" wey never test and see u dey write all these epistle

IMO. Op. Hav being listening to too much quantum physics. Nway, seeing is believing

Kobojunkie: [size=13pt]7 REASONS MARRIED WOMEN KEEP THEIR LAST NAMES[/size]

The question to change or not to change a woman’s last name is a humanist issue more than a feminist one.

If you are an American woman who decides to get married, you will likely change your name. In fact, three million American women do so every year, roughly encompassing the 90 percent of women entering matrimonial bliss. This leaves the 10 percent of women who decided to keep their birth surnames, or the men who decide to change their own, navigating an interesting cultural landscape.

Stephanie Coontz is the author of Marriage, A History: How Love Conquered Marriage and as Coontz informs us, people in medieval times took the name of the higher-status spouse when they married. But this trend reversed itself in America when women took over exclusive rights on the name change, which eventually evolved into a legal obligation. The rise of the feminist movement in the 1970s helped to change the laws, which included “states [requiring] married women to take their husbands’ names in order to engage in basic activities such as voting and driving.”

So what urged women in the 1970s to hold onto their maiden names? In “Making a Name: Women’s Surnames at Marriage and Beyond,” Harvard Professor Claudia Goldin and graduate Maria Shim attribute this trend to age and experience. They write, “The legal, social and economic institutions supporting this custom began to shift in the 1970s: the laws that pressured women to take their husband’s names changed; the appellation ‘Ms.’ became acceptable; the age at first marriage rose; and the number of advanced academic degrees received by women increased.”

And yet, the tendency stalled around the 1990s. As Goldin notes , the number of college-educated women in their 30s keeping their name dropped from 23 percent in 1990 to 17 percent in 2000. Rich Lowry , editor of the National Review, believes this is because people are now taking marriage more seriously. He further cites University of Virginia professor Steven Rhoads as declaring “I think it will strengthen marriage. It’s a sign that someone intends it to be a unit, that this is a marriage, and it is for the duration.”

Whether Lowry or Rhoads speak for a woman’s choice certainly depends on the woman making it. Most have a personal anecdote as to why she, and sometimes he, decided to change her or his name. But ask anyone why they didn’t change her name, and you’re likely to invoke a new series of questions, including “What about your children, won’t they be confused?” And many times, “What does your husband think?” And finally, “Do you think women are anti-feminist who keep their name?” For women and men who hyphenate their two names, they might be asked: “What will your children do, hyphenate your already hyphenated names?”

What you will get is a strong opinion. A surname is about identity, and what’s more personal than that? While some might see the act of keeping a maiden name as an indication of a woman’s independence or a play for personal power, the choice is an issue that can cause unwanted criticism for wanting to retain a lifelong identity whether from family, co-workers or the society at large. Plenty of contemporary influential women have changed their name without anyone questioning their feminism. Lady Margaret Thatcher (nee Roberts) is a name changer, as is First Lady Michelle Obama. Hillary Rodham reversed her decision after her husband’s gubernatorial loss in 1980, becoming Hillary Rodham Clinton.

While this decision is personalized on many different levels, there can be some common ground. In the end, what are some of the reasons married women keep their maiden name?

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. . .bunch of shyte from a myopic cretin

Screwface: [color=#000000]Hundred percent front page worthy.[/color]

. . . Wtf! I wonder how this will reduce the price of Agege bread in Obalande market.

the fact remains that the Yoruba's are not generally ascribed to a particular religion other than their traditional African religion. Agree with me or not, The hausas(core northern axìs are fundamentally grouped as moslems, so are the ibos( core eastern axis). Though hístory takes us to the era wher Bishop Ajayi Crowther translated the bible and the spread of C.M.S through the western parts, the acceptance of christainity in these parts was low as compared to its acceptance in the east and midwest. I could go futher, and some of u may termed my arguements as baseless. But u may also see that even today, when u mention muslim, hausa is staring at u, xtains. Ibos are straigth on the game, and African religion and majority of yoruba come into play. If u want to knw if the yoruba are tolerant enough, go to ile ife, osogbo and speak out against their gods. Na die u dey be dat o. In conclusion, dont joke with a yoruba man's god.

$300, plus the current one soon to become an ex, when 4 get back home.

very very myopic reasoning by the o.p.

. . .like i always say, if ur man doesn' treat u right, QUIT. If ur woman fails to respect u,QUIT too.fishes abound in the river.

pro01: www.news2.onlinenigeria.com/headlines/185648-horror-in-lagos-as-brothers-kill-brother-sell-his-body-parts.html
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Apparently, these IGBO people now hide under the guise of Yoruba names to perpetuate dastardly crimes - thereby giving the very good and blameless Yoruba people a bad name. Sad, isn't it?

. . . Weda u agree or nt, the truth of the mata is that th ibos commit the highest number of within and weneva ther may be found. 4rm robbery to fake drugs to kidnapping to ritual killings to facebook rape, theft, re-rape then murder, and . . .kai, i don tìre.

Nigeria my kountri

Vicjustice: First of all, (apart from what you think you understand RACISM to mean), have you ever checked the definition of RACE in the dictionary?
Maybe you need to do so, or better ask someone who studies SOCIOLOGY or Anthropology for the definition of RACE.
It would be helpful for you to know that Human races are defined beyond skin colours otherwise, the Latvians would not be accusing the Russians of RACISM

. . . DefinitioN of racism by (2) wikipedia : Prejudice or discrimination directed against someone of a different race based on such a belief. So my man what is ur basis of arguing? U dont want to learn or wat? we ain't talking about tribes, ethnic groups or nationalities. If u are wrong agree to that fact ( advice no be curse) no dey form James Bond, So calm down u are the one who needs more research. Peace

1: can neva impregenate a woman am nt married to for love ( if u love me, lemme carry ur baby. If na only dat one bye bye o). 2: can neva shout on my mum. 3: will neva buy something for my woman becos she says she wants it becos her friends have it.

slimyem: mister..no vexing...
i dont have problem with other food items...meat,yam,plaintain,potatoes and blah blah..they don't splatter like fish does whether using a frying pan or a deep-fryer..and i mean deep fryers like the below...
of course,u know there are different kinds/brands of deep-fryers..dont you??
splatters occur with fryers like this..without the lid.

. . . If u want show turn-table c.d. D truth is dat u dunt knw wat a deep fryer is. Ode to infinity.

here comes my answer: female : mother: YES. Sisters :YES. Male: Father: YES. Brothers: YES. Male Friends: some of them. Girlfriend: Never. Wife: if we had at least two children together.

sweetcocoa: OP is your name John?

Kai you effed up big time sha,woman slap you,you come siddon for her front cry small,chei only God knows what that woman did with your balls,maybe she fried and ate them or she carries them about in her purse.

Its a good thing you didn't retaliate cos maybe if you did, you won't be here to tell the story.

Anyways just stay away from her because crying when she beats you will only encourage her to do it more, btw since you don't want to tell us what you did to warrant the slap, I take it to be a well deserved slap. Maybe you didn't wash the plates\cook for her before she came back from the party she went to,take heart dear

. . . Lol! @ Idowuogbo and freecocoa, its fun hearing u gals talk sha. Bt then i knw gals like u are the type that suffer violence in their relationship, u get beaten by ur guys and cry a river and yet go bk 2 beg him. Una go come dey form James Bond for here. If u want call me woman wrapper, i dunt care. Peace

Idowuogbo: u see y woman dey slap u? if u continue to make dumbbbb comments like dis, ur kids will happy slappy u join.
Change ya ways...

. . . Idowuogbo. U i knw u very well as a bitch. So i wunt banter words with u. peace

webdezzi: your woman slapped you and you cried, hope it wasn't in her front sha?

let me tell you something, It takes a lot of guts to slap anyone. while you were spitting those shit, she was probably processing what will happen after she delivers that thunderous slap. her actually executing the task at the end of the day meant the relationship is the other way round. she is the man while you are the crying chick.
the worst am expecting to hear next is that you went down on both knee begging for forgiveness. Guys like you actually make some women out there throw crap at us.

You want a candid advice on what you should have done seconds after the slap was loaded?
Next time, you push/drag her out of your place and end the unhealthy relationship. Dont return the slap.

. . .@ webworeva, dats ur opinion. I hav heard u and continue to hold u in low esteem. Tnx 4 ur input doh.

Seun: Kick her to the curb. Hitting her is not the answer, but instead of crying you should leave her for a few weeks, at least!

. . . Yea Seun, true.i cant take back the tears.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]She lost whatever respect she had for you the moment you cried. Your crying affirms that you deserved that slap for doing whatever it is you did to her. She needs someone to correct her, and not a cry baby. Crying in her presence also confirms your emotionally weak state.
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. . . Sexkillz, all join. Nway its me, myself and i who truely knows if iyam emotionally weak.

Febian60: @elari... Mahn I criously wish more guys can be lyk u. My master,the man who thought me art,and mentor had dis kinda situation when he was young. He nd his gf were arguing nd he did juz wat u did. The nxt tin was a slap from his girl,he then warned her nt 2 do dat again. Up nxt was anoda slap from her. Mahn he gave her d beatin.g of her lyf. Wen she found out he wasn't stoppi.ng pretended 2 faint. He den woke her up nd apologised. She left nd didn't cum 4 weeks. He had 2 beg her 2 cum bk nd she as well apologise. Afta 18 yrs datin.g they r nw married. Elari call her bk nd talk 2 her,u are a good mahn nd a model 4 guys. Ur reason 4 nt hittin.g her is tangible. I applaud u. Dnt mind d rest who wuld turn 2 violence. I'll ask u 4 advice on relationships my broda. Kuddos.

. . . @ febian, its a funny story. I see majority are agreeing to the fact that it was a good thing i did not slap her back. Bt everyone seems to be pissed at met for crying. Menh! Is crying in front of a woman that bad?

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]@Elari,
wen it concerns rlshps, am sure gettin to know ur partner so well is a major factor. U termed her ur galfrnd, dt means u alridi know some things abt her, most especially her behaviour (dat i beleive). And for her to react dat way, can b explained in two ways. Either she's d type dat doesnt accept corrections or the manner at which u corrected her pushed her to do dat. U alone knows d answer to dat. Lets nt b in a haste to judge d gal.....who knows, u both might just b guilty. Concludin dat u tru wif d rlshp isnt d best solution except u d type dat luvs ending ur rlshp on such note, which to me is a cowardly act. So, honey, i tink u guys shuld give urselves tym or space to cool off. In d process of doin dat, try to review wot happend dat led to her reacting dat way....u might just remedy ur case. Ur nt slappin back is a gud thing, mayb if u had, sometin mur drastic wuld v happend cus as it was at dat moment, ur gf was ridy for anythin, even breakin bottles on ur head....[/quote]. . @ Maria, my reason of nt slappin her bk or retaliating was based on the fact that so much anger was built up in me and as such, i was not sure if her body could carry the pain my payback would cause on her (as in severe physical injury). I cried becos i cud nt hit her bk. Peace

shaybe baby: @Elari, you did the rght thing in not hitting her back. You have the moral high ground now regardless of what was said in your tiff. Don't let the naysayers make you feel less of man because you cried. Sometimes anger is displayed by tears and you are human like the rest of us. The human eyes have tear ducts so we cry. Perfectly normal. Who is to when it is appropriate to cry and when it isn't? No one. Hopefully in future, you'll find someone more deserving of your restraint. Violence is unacceptable in any relationship.

. . . I must say ur write up is classic. I dunt knw if many people fail to understand y i cried or y i did nt return d slap. But its all good things neva moved to more terrible state. Though she immediately tendered an apology on her kneels after d slap. I still find it hard to accept its will nt become a common behaviour, since i did nt do what she thought 90% of other men would have done. Tnx alka d same for your input.

admitme: I could picture in my imagination how a grown up man like you would be crying for a woman. So pathetic

. . .yea! Dats if u have a photographic memory

cindyrella: Hehehehehehe! I see why she slapped the fcckk outta you.
run along boy, come and take yot ur share from me go chop more ass.

Ewu!

. . . Bitch, are u addicted to me or glued to my thread? No mata wat, i would not do u. Peace

honeycandy: @OP, you're a true gentleman. Now don't allow peeps here make you regret not hitting her. Believe me, these people would be the first to condemn you if you had slapped her back. Now we'd like to know the "truthful, hurtful words" you said to her. But I can't imagine slapping my boyfriend for any reason sha. Cos the guy na giant. Is your girlfriend bigger than you

. . . Nay, am by far bigger.

fluid26, guy it a long tori. Even volume of unedited scripts no go fit contain am. @Cindyrella, i repeat that apart 4rm bin myopic and sensenless, u remain a bitch. Peace

cindyrella: She slaped you and you cried. So what?

. . So know bitch

nikkyshyne: ^^ Elari

Nikky and Amya. Am nt ashamed that i cried. It wastnt d pains of the slap that made me cry but the fact that i did nt slap her back, becos the rage in me and my reaction would have made people like u nutty gals scream murder. So nw u knw my reason of crying : becos i didn't want to kill someone. So let the mock song flow. Peace

Amya: I like your girlfriend. She should have added more resounding slaps. You're obviously such a big mumu.

. . .Amya, any reason for ur outburst? Am a gentle man. Give me reasons 4 ur insults or forever remain dumb.