₦airaland Forum

phazotron:
Bros Africa is cursed. No need for argument. Compare black man to white man, compare Africa to the west it's all too obvious. When you see people producing more kids than their pocket can take care of, no be curse?

bro africa is not cursed , GOD Blessed africa with a lot of good things, but our lack of thinking is the problem , let me ask u , for the past 10 years how many earthquakes have u witnessed in africa ? how many hurrican have u witnessed in africa? Africa is the most blessed place to live in , let make africa work again .

Bro when u run away from ur house in the morning because is dirty , don't forget that u will come back in the evening to sleep in that same house , those country u are naming or advicing people to escape to , somebody made it to be good . I think i and u can make the country work to our taste if we can be reseasonable . It pains me when i see our youth praise apc and pdp leaders that used little money out of the whole money meant for the development of the country to buy nonsense chinese train and build substandard roads and bridges . I have made it as a duty to make the country work in the little way i can , i will not run to somebody's duplex where i can transform my tach house into a mansion.

Base on ur statement , u said he complains of been broke , what does he do for a leaving or what is his occupation?

Enemyofdarkness:
To be sincere I do spend on her but I don't lavish

stop spending on her , reduce d amount of attention u give to her . The love she have for u will die down , unless she has made the decision to love only u , that is when she won't stop loving u . The only love that is unconditional is choice and if she has choosen to love u , u can't do anything about it unless u want to die . If u breakup with her she can kill u and kill herself. Bros dis babe don hock u, dis 1 na chop and stain mouth , no b chop and clean mouth again.

Bros no jazz wey go make her hate u , just leave her make she dey come as long as u no dey spend money for her , she go soon dump u if she see another guy wey go give her money. Unless she b person wey no dey follow money , if she no dey follow money na dat 1 dem dey call till death do us part . Just go prepare for ur burier.

Do u take TM Or any sex induced drugs before sex?

I know that u masturbate with picture of a girl in ur phone , and when u are having sex u don't see ur partiner to be the type of girl u view when masturbating , when having see try to see ur partiner to b the girl u view in ur masturbating state , and also put all ur mind in her , i bet u will cum when u try dis.

My brother as a nigeria man that i am , i think traditional marriage is ok , instead of spending too much money for wedding . Don't forget that u will pay house rent after wedding.

kwencypresh:
sorry for the late response why not

is OK , thanks for been my friend

You have phone , google about self defence , watch the videos and practice on ur own . Try to report to ur parent and is parent to save ur life.

Bros play ur game well before u loose ur job.

Before ur wife can be flexible u have to be flexible. Let me ask u , before she get pregnant was she giving u time table for sex? If no , u will know that she need u now stop demanding for sex or money from her , show her love now , make her be the one to demand for sex , and let me tell u , 3 months after her child birth she will be the one to demand for sex and then u will run form sex .

Tapout:
Those addicted to masturbat!on nko?? Alchohol?? Etc. how can be spilling such trash with great audacity??what has the parents got to do with this??

no body get addicted to masturbation, if a guy that masturbate get married he will stop masturbating , the absense of sex lead to masturbation .

Look for native something that will make him see drugs and run . He will hate anything drug related , he will see is friends and also run.

I think u people have to go the traditional way because is not ordinary , some guys in my community get tipsy in acohol whether they drank it or not they misbehave , that is what the enemies used to attack their parent so that they will regret giving birth to them , u people should do something that will make him see any drug and run from it . I know u might call it fetish or native doctor , as long as ur brother is ok and it will make the family happy do it.

johnkey:
I also don't take alcohol but since you can't smoke maybe you should try antidepressants

ok thanks

johnkey:
It helps you calm, I was once like you with massive OCD symptoms, I have literally stayed in a room without stepping out for one week that's how my own reach. I had crazy anxiety problem and hot tempered until my 2nd year when I first took weed since then I'm always calm and haven't had any trouble with anyone though I'm still very introverted

I appreciate , but i took the decision not to take any acohole or smoke any thing , am not a church person ooo.

Microwhy:
No doubt you might be an introvert. Beside we are saying same. The OP said he need help over his anger management. He is actually battling between his insecurity and a "supposed to be" extrovert.
I am also an introvert. There is one thing introverts have in common, detail analysis and paying attention. Within split seconds, introvert can analyse and determine the end result of his/her action which makes them more calm and gentle.
Please next time as regards to that culvert in your area, please and please just speak up and defend your claims.

bros i can endure things but not let my self be intimidated , before i react to anything , i will tell anybody around me that am not happy with what dis man is doing , i might tell people around me for weeks or months or years , but when the anger triggers me i can't control it that is why am looking for how to calm my self . Almost all member of my family react in such way , that is why am looking for solution.

SafariBoy:
Bro please try asking God in prayer to help you get rid of that spirit. Anger destroys many things.

thanks bro i appreciate

Microwhy:
@OP stop saying you're introvert because being an introvert comes with humility and calmness. Introverts are always cool, calculative and attentive.
It's not always easy to reach a trigger for a confirmed introvert. Because they observe and always make a good judgement.
You're insecure about something, you're not introvert. Work on your insecurity and become your normal self snd stop attaching yourself with introvert.
I repeat, you're extrovert with insecurity and not introvert.
People often confuse insecurity with being introvert.

why will i be insecured ? I don't have girlfriend, i don't have wife, i stay in my own house , no children , no friends, am always on my own , i don't look for trouble, i don't make noise unless when am with familar people, i don't talk , i don't associate with people easily , so why will i be insecured?

Microwhy:
@OP stop saying you're introvert because being an introvert comes with humility and calmness. Introverts are always cool, calculative and attentive.
It's not always easy to reach a trigger for a confirmed introvert. Because they observe and always make a good judgement.
You're insecure about something, you're not introvert. Work on your insecurity and become your normal self snd stop attaching yourself with introvert.
I repeat, you're extrovert with insecurity and not introvert.
People often confuse insecurity with being introvert.

did i mention anything about insecurity? U make me laugh , i am calm , cool, humble , calculative, attentive . I want to ask u question , if u are an introvert and somebody invaid ur territory will u keep queit ? Will u be calm to watching them kill all ur family members with out acting because u are an introver? Bros please answer my question. I didnt talk about insecurity in my statement .

johnkey:
kush is collective word for all forms of marijuana, you can start with weed then graduate to Skunk then move to Loud, but please don't use anything more than Loud, thank me later

bro i appreciate ur contribution and advice , but how will kush solve my problem?

xrayj:
Are u male or female? Introverts are very slow to anger o They hate trouble & value peace more than anything else

am male

traihit:
The violence aspect of it is what you should watch especially since your anger doesn't last long. No matter how much you examine a situation before reacting, you'd always feel you should have behaved more appropriately when your anger cools.
Seriously, I don't have any advice to give on this cos I'm yet to fully matured on anger management too. But it'd help you a lot if you become more self aware especially in the way you react to things and the consequences that follow.

thanks bro

I suggest u give her little money for up keep she will appreciate u

johnkey:
you need good kush to calm occasionally

bros i didn't understand what u mean by kush

traihit:
It's okay to be introverted and very okay to get angry especially where injustice is concerned. Do you get angry so easily? What is the duration of your anger? You said you're moved to action and not words, does that means violent action or some other actions? If you're introverted, I take it that you spend time examining the consequences of an outburst of anger or do you find yourself getting angry impulsively.

the action i take is violent actions.
PS: you're going to get a lot of advice here and most of them might not work for you. However, youvey taken the most important step which is self awareness. That's your greatest guide.

my anger doesn't last long, and i examine the situation before reacting. It might take days or month be i react.

Spechialone:
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Getting angrily easily, is like letting yourself be a remote/ switch in someone else's fingers. Meaning, anyone can control your switch, don't give people such privilege.
Self control is a virtue...

thanks

[quote author=Donald3d post=89655210]thank u very much

Uyi168:
Op, do u also stammer?

no i don't stammer , i do more of action than talking.

Donald3d:
Awesome response
Op what do you do when angry

Physical violence Verbal violence ?

physical violence

SirMichael1:
Injustice cannot be stopped, many people will be douches and care less about others. Just like every emotion relating with adrenaline, your anger suppreses when you move away from the source. I.e., know how to avoid triggers. There are tons of ways to confront someone who bully others or are unjust to others than reacting in anger. Pray tell, what do you do when you're angry?

i go violence