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The year 2015 attains its peak in this month of December. And that you are reading this article right now shows you are healthy and in good condition. The truth is that so many persons started just like you did in the month of January, but they are no more in the land of the living today.

Gratitude originates from a Latin word called “gratus”, meaning pleasing or thankful. The month of December being the peak of the year is a time of reflection and giving thanks for the good things of life. I am persuaded that when you set out for this year, you have some goals you seek to achieve, and now is the time to sit down and reflect on your goals and all your activities within the year.

It is true that the outcome of your reflection may result in happiness, especially if you were able to achieve so many of your goals, and if otherwise you may start feeling bad and conclude that God has not being good to you all through the year.

If you are reading this post and feel God has not being good to you then you are wrong. An African proverb says “anyone who knows how to think, would know how to give thanks.” Most of the times our inability to be grateful to Life for its goodness is because of our selfishness. We focus too much on the things we want and take for granted so many blessings life has given us.

How many of us created ourselves? Where does the food we eat and the water we drink come from? We cannot live long without oxygen, how many of us are responsible for the oxygen we breath in? Who created the soil and soil nutrients via which we grow the food we eat? Who created the raw material through which the beautiful things of life are manufactured? Some of us believe that our success in life is as a result of our ability to strategize and work hard, but the truth is that hard work and strategies can cannot guarantee success without favourable conditions which life provide to make success possible. Who designed the human brain? Who is the creator of thoughts? Can a mad man think and strategize?

The truth is that if we look deep at life, we would come to a point where we would realize that God, the creator is our sustainer, and we need to be thankful for his gifts everyday of our lives.

Be grateful for entering year 2015 with the right mindset of having goals you seek to achieve and being able to achieve those goals. So many persons desire to achieve some of the things you have achieved this year but they were unable to. So you have so much to thank God for.

Be grateful for the gift of life. That you are alive today is not a function of your ability to manage your health, is a function of God’s will to keep you alive till this today.

Be grateful for your family and friends. You need to be thankful for the wonderful people God has brought into your life and the family through which the creator has brought you into this world.

Be thankful for your failures and defeats. Life is bipolar. Everything that exist has it’s opposite, for example, we have up and down, male and female, good and bad, happiness and sorrow, light and darkness etc. The truth is that failure, and defeats are part of life, and our experience of them is ultimately for our good. The pendulum of life swings from one side to another. No matter how strategic we are, at certain time, evil must take place in our life and at some other time, we would experience the good which brings happiness. Be thankful for the lessons failure and defeat brings and embrace life with a positive attitude.

You may not have much to throw around at this season due to your financial situation. Never allow that to spoil your mood. Be grateful for the good things life has offered you this year which I am persuaded no amount of money can buy.

If you can count your blessings, name them one by one, you will definitely arrive at the conclusion that life has being good to you.

I am using this opportunity to wish a happy New Year in advance. Enjoy the season!

Source:http://taiwoemayosan..com/2015/12/gratitude-do-you-count-your-blessings.html

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Where we THINK the same way we ACT the same way, where we THINK DIFFERENTLY, we ACT DIFFERENTLY.

Beautiful.

This idea may require some level of humility from you, just try to see it as the price you have to pay.
Do you have friends and loved ones? If you do, think of 25 persons that can afford to give you #2000 each as a gift or 50 persons that can give you #1000 each as a gift. If you have rich friends, think of just 5 of them that can afford to give you #10,000 each as a gift. If you are determined you can raise atleast close to 50k with is approach.
That is my #5 piece of advice.

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I am glad you love it.

HONESTY in business will GUIDE you to SUCCESS.

Konji na bastard

You DICTATE in advance how you want people to TREAT you by the way you treat them.

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Happy birthday to you.

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Have you ever wonder why you esteem some persons so high but have no iota of respect for some other category of people? Having respect for people has nothing to do with age, sex, money, power or what have you. People are naturally respected when they live in a certain way.

I have observed that there are two basic ways you can make people to respect you. One is by forcing people to respect you through the use of your power or authority. You can achieve this if you are in a higher position. You try to dominate and exercise your power by forcing people who are less powerful to behave in a certain way. Your subordinates say yes sir/ma and tremble when you are around them because of your choleric nature, and fear of being hurt by you. When you are around, they may behave like you are a hero, but in their true mind, you are a big idiot. You can never buy respect with your position, power, influence or money. True respect must be earned.

The second way of getting people to respect you is through your lifestyle. People respect you because you live in a certain way. This type of respect comes naturally and it is earned true your good works. It is this kind of respect Jesus talked about when he says “let your light be so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your father which is in heaven.” The ways to earn this kind of respect is the object of this article, and I am sure it is going to be of help to you.

Living in a certain way has been shown to be effective when you want to earn people’s respect, and in my observation, by imbibing the following, you will naturally secure the respect of everyone around you, it doesn’t matter whether you are young or old, Poor or rich, handsome or ugly, tall or short. By doing these things, you will begin to command people’s respect. It has worked for thousands of persons, and it will work for you too.

1. SHOW LOVE TO OTHERS: To earn people’s respect, you must show them love. Love is an action word, and the proof of it is in what you give. When you show care for people and do things that reflect you love for them, they become naturally drawn to you. They will love you in return and esteem you high. You show love to people by being of help to them in difficult times. How do you react to people around you when they are hungry, have no cloth to wear, sick or in need of money? Do you just pity them, and tell them God will come to their aid, and move on without taking any practical step that will help to alleviate their condition? If you refuse to help, life goes on of course, but they will always remember your reaction to them in time of need, and that will be the basis of their own reaction to you. In life it is what you sow that you will reap. When you show love to people who are less privileged than you, you have automatically activated their respect for you. They will love you in return, esteem you high and show you great respect.

2. LIVE ACCORDING TO THE GOLDEN RULE: The golden rule says ‘’do unto others as you want others to do to you.’’ As individuals, we naturally desire that people show us love, care, and respect. Whatever you want people to do to you, do it to them. You dictate in advance how you want people to treat you by the way you treat them. If you are rude, impatient, impolite to people, then don’t expect the opposite, because for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Respect begets respect.

3. BE A PERSON OF YOUR WORD: One of the ways of making people to respect you is by being a person of your word. Be predictable. Let people be able to rely on what you say. These can only be achieved by being truthful and fulfilling your promises to people. When you come to that point in life where your yea is yea and nay is nay, then people have no choice but to respect you. In business and leadership, there is no way you can command people’s respect if you fail in this aspect.

4. DO NOT BE A LIABILITY TO PEOPLE: Do you want to earn people’s respect? Then cease being a liability to the people around you. When you are of the habit of seeking favour and help from others every now and then, then you are a liability. Nothing is bad about asking for help, and favour, but when it has degenerated to doing it all the time, and you not willing to take any responsibility for your life, then you are a liability. No one respect a person who disturbs them with their problem every time. For every favour you seek, you have sold some of your right and worth. Nothing is free in life. What you pay for being a liability is losing the respect you deserve from people. Instead of being a liability, choose to be an asset. Add value to yourself, be the one that people are coming to for help. By so doing you will turn the table in you favour.

5. LIVE A HUMBLE LIFE: If you are privileged to be an achiever and you choose to remain humble despite your achievement, people will definitely respect you for that. The norm for you as an achiever is to go about carrying your shoulder and telling the world you have arrived. When you do the opposite, people will be amazed and respect you for that.

6. BE A PERSON OF FEW WORDS: If you are a choleric or a sanguine this might be a little bit difficult for you, but I am sure we all have the capacity to control our tongue if we choose to. In the course of talking too much, you will likely make foolish statements that people would least expect from you, and as a result lose their respect. The book of proverbs says “even a fool is considered wise (respected) when he keeps quiet.”

In conclusion, always have it in mind that if people must respect you, you must earn it.

Written by Taiwo Emayosanlomo, Success coach and Personal development expert

Original Source: http://taiwoemayosan..com/2015/11/how-to-earn-peoples-respect.html

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One thing that is COMMON among these PEOPLE is that they all STARTED from SOMEWHERE. All you need to be GREAT is one thing: just be excellent and be successful at something WORTHWHILE.
It is not too LATE to BECOME what you might have BEING.

A WORD is enough for the WISE

If you ASK the right question, you will GET the right answer.

He who loves life should not waste time for that is the stuff that life is made of.

Everything exist for the FUTURE.

You are the CAPTAIN of your SOUL and the ARCHITECT of your own FORTUNE.

You can CHOOSE your ACTION but as for the CONSEQUENCE you have no CHOICE.

Strahovski:
So we should not have sex?

Thanks for reading. If you read my point on the transmutation of sexual energy, you will find answer to your question.

baralatie:
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T4taiwo:
Educating

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Having lived in the campus hostel of Uniben for four years, the word “konji” is no more new to me. I have heard young folks particularly the guys used the word times without number in conversation. It is uncommon to hear people on Nairaland.com making such statement as “Konji na bastard” anytime discussion that has to do with sex arises.

I don’t know the origin or the person who coined the word “konji,” but in the context in which it is mostly used, it means sexual urge or libido.

The truth is that sex is one of the most pleasurable experience humans can ever have, but it is important to know that the sweet experience of sex can change to a bitter one.

I dedicate this article to those men and women out there who think they must always have a feel of everything under skirts and trousers as the case maybe. Men and women whose self-esteem is only derived from the number of men and women they have slept with. People who erroneously believe that the size of their penis and breast are factors of production.

It is an indisputable fact that the greatest regret of so many persons in life arises from this 5-10 minutes enjoyment called sex. So many young people, both male and female have had the cause of their destiny altered as a result of not taking charge of their sexual life. I think any action that has the potential of bringing regret to one’s life requires a second thought. In life, you have the capacity to choose your action, but as for the consequence, you have no choice. It is on this note I have decided to write this article with the intention of awakening your consciousness in the area of your sexual behavour. The reasons you should take charge of your sexual life include the following:

1. BEING A VICTIM OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY: One of the main reasons you should take charge of your sexual life is unwanted pregnancy. For married couples who desire the gift of a child, being pregnant can be a huge success, but for individuals who engage in sex for the fun of it and become pregnant, then pregnancy can be their greatest nightmare. Imagine as you are reading this post, your girl friend whom you have had unprotected sex with in the past few weeks gives you a call that she has missed her period and confirmed pregnant. How will you feel? I am sure that such a call will put a lot of question marks on your head. You will likely ask yourself what pushes you into the act in the first place. The thought of how your parents, pastor or Imam and everyone who hold you in high esteem will feel will likely become your dominant thought. I am very sure that at that moment if the sexiest woman on earth should present her nude self to you for sexual escapade, your manhood will likely remain dormant. It will be so not because you have become impotent, but for the news that just hit you and the regret that accompanied your inability to control your sexual urge.

2. POSSIBILITY OF CONTRACTING HIV AND OTHER STDs: The rate at which young girls and unmarried women are getting pregnant in Nigeria today reveals one thing, that most people don’t practice safe sex, and this sexual behaviour which is common among the majority will definitely promote the spread of HIV and other STDs. Statistics shows that 3.2 million Nigeria populations were living with HIV in 2013, and I am very sure this number has increased. A very large proportion of this figure consists of young men and women that are your potential sex partner. It has been said that “HIV no dey show for face,” and that is the simple truth. Konji na bastard, so you have to start sleeping with every girl or boy that comes your way. One thing you should know is that, that beautiful gal, or handsome dude maybe an HIV specimen. So failing to take charge of your sexual life is nothing but putting your life at risk. As far as HIV is concern as at the time of writing this article, November 2015 no drug or vaccine has been generally accepted as a cure for HIV neither do we have any drug that can provide absolute immunity for the virus. The only guaranteed drug or vaccine you have right now is your ability to take charge of your sexual life. Imagine that you go for HIV test today and the result turns out to be positive, how will you feel? One emotion I am so sure you will experience is the emotion of regret, but that regret could have been averted if only you had decided to take charge of your sexual life. People who promote the “konji na bastard syndrome” are of the opinion that you should engage in sexual intercourse as soon as you have the opportunity to do so irrespective of who you are doing it with and how you go about it. The truth is that they will not be there to share the consequence of your action with you when it eventually backfires. Anti-retro viral drugs are the only guarantee drugs for the control of HIV today, but imagine the fact that you have to keep taking it for the rest of your life for you to remain healthy. If you are HIV positive already and you are reading this, I am sorry if my expression sounds like a mockery of your predicament, I didn’t mean that. My aim is just to paint a picture of what it means to be HIV positive.

3. WASTAGE OF FINANCIAL RESOURCES: Your desire to have a feel of everything under skirt will do one thing to you; it will make you spend your money on useless things. A lot of persons, by virtue of the financial breakthrough they have had in life should by now be financially free, but for their inability to take charge of their sexual life, they have found themselves in the valley of poverty, and the only friend they have right now is regret. Money that should have been used to create investments and add value to the life of the less-privileged in the society were used to lodge women in hotels, taking them on vacation and buying them expensive gifts, all in the name of sex. If this is not true, then the “Aristos” and “Runs girls” or the “ Oloshos” should have been out of business by now. In as much as you keep living with the konji na bastard mentality, then be ready to lose some of your money. In life, nothing is free, all things are sold.

4. FAILURE IN HARNESSING THE POWER OF TRANSMUTATION OF SEXUAL ENERGY: It is no more news that sex is the most powerful of all human desires. According to Napoleon hill “when driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence and creative ability unknown to them at that time.” Transmutation of sexual energy is the process of turning sexual energy and aggression into productivity. It has been said that transmutation of sexual energy is the most powerful tool when it comes to creation, invention, accomplishment, creativity, advancement and achievement. If you must benefit from the power of transmutation of sexual energy, you must take charge of your sexual life. You must forsake the habit of sleeping about with girls at every slightest opportunity. Instead of making sex and flirting your goal, choose to focus on things you want to achieve in life, and your life will improve dramatically. Transmutation of sexual energy is one of the secrets of most successful persons at every level of human endeavor and failure to harness its power can also be linked to the failure of many. I am not saying you should not have sex if you feel like, but stop making sex your goal. Choose to focus your sexual energy on creating the kind of life you want over dissipating it on indiscriminate sexual activities.

5. UNFULFILLED DESTINY: Uncontrolled sexual desire is one thing that has destroyed the destiny of so many persons. A lot of people with great hope and ambition for the future have had their hope dashed as a result of sexual related predicaments. Unwanted pregnancy for instance can lead to school drop out for both young boys and girls. Uncontrolled lust for sex can keep you in poverty, and place you in a position where you cannot maximize your financial potential. Not being in charge of your sexual life can make you die before your time, thereby preventing you from fulfilling your purpose here on earth. For instance, statistics shows that about 50,000 teenage girls die in Nigeria every year as a result of complications from pregnancy. You definitely have the desire to be married one day and have your own kids but do you know that uncontrolled sexual desire can prevent you from realizing that dream? If you become a victim of unwanted pregnancy, you will likely want to bail yourself out by attempting abortion, which has the potential of exposing you to infection which may result in infertility later in life.

The choice is now in your hand, you may consider these reasons and turn a new leaf or continue with your old way, after all “Konji na bastard.”

Written by Taiwo Emayosanlomo, Success coach and Personal development expert.

Source:http://taiwoemayosan..com/2015/11/konji-na-bastard-5-reasons-you-should.html

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