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Since somebody has decided to be CIA in digging people's past, well, whatever that comes from specie that bleeds for days without dying, I don't think it worths any stress.

apatheticme:
Who slaughters you based on your own sturbonness??

Or you're the perfect epitome of obedience??

Gender biased responsibility is the problem y'all have. Who calls you to order by beating you when you misbehave?? Or you don't??

Honestly and objectively provide answers to these questions!

I would hv loved to gv answers but since emotional is being attached to it, no need of dishing answers, I hate emotional beings

APC = Osibanjo
PDP =, Obi
Let's see what one of them would do. If u don't support any of these two from South, mak I no talk waiting dey my mind. Bcs I know that afonjas will still betray Osibanjo which they hv already started with their Lagos-ibadan expressway newspaper
Pls if u know where any Tinubu supporters, pls keep an eye on him or her, policemen should do d needful by watching all lagoons in Lagos bcs @Tinubuadvocate and Co are ready to jump in. They hv to pack Tinubu poopoo before jumping in d lagoon

Sureplug123:
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—
30 for we are members of his body.
31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.
33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

You see they are interwoven.
This is the standard.

I know sir TONY is trying to protect d women at d same time telling d dangers of domestic violence but trust naija ladies, since sir Tony has already told them what they wanted to hear, that was when they started coming out to say rubbish without understanding d message.
I left where I was a volunteer bcs of d woman's ways of handling some domestic violence, call a spade a spade, but she was too biased or too emotional in handling domestic violence.
A woman would come and lay a complain of how d husband wanted to slaughter last night and bla bla. When d husband was summoned to hear his own side of story, u would find out that it was d woman's stubbornness that led to d assault and husband never wanted to slaughter her, u see in dealing with women matter, my brother, one has to be very very careful.
This day if I see where man d beat woman, baba I no dey put hand, na sit down dey look I go dey

Sureplug123:
you've made valid points but they only apply in an Ideal situation and the situation is never Ideal. You made mention of my sister and parents, we are related by blood and blood is thicker than water. The wife is the only stranger in the family.

These same women respect their fathers and brothers but will never respect their husbands.

No woman truly loves her husband, when push comes to shove, she'll pick her child over you.

One question everyone is avoiding is why these woke women worship their pastors and not their husbands.

Until we go back to the drawing board, DV will never stop.

Sir Tony would hv asked why is it that when husband's people comes around wife will never be happy until d husband people leaves why when wife's people come around, she feel happy and happier.
Women are dangerous and it requires dangerous man to handle and put them where they belongs to

apatheticme:
Yeah, just like your gender is also wailing

Most misogynists are jobless and broke!! No one in their right senses go about hating on the next gender and supporting evil against the next gender!

Vent your frustrations on the government who refused to create an enabling environment rather than hating on women.

Nobody is hating anybody my dear sister. All we are saying is that women should stop playing d victim card all d time. U guys should stop supporting evil, it doesn't pay rather it fuels and escalate issues.
A woman can't be shouting at a man like me and u expect me to fold my hands or u expect me to clap for her, is not done and won't be possible on my side.
If a woman want care I will gv it to her in abundance, if a woman want love I will shower it to her in abundance but if a woman want wahala I will give her war upon war

apatheticme:
Alright!

We'll see.

Yeah, let's wait and see

Sureplug123:
forming macho in my home? Very funny, no lady born of woman will form woke in my house, if she doesn't leave in peace, she'll leave in pieces. Mind you, the dead can't testify.
Can a woman provide shelter, food etc for a man and still respect him?
Women can't take half of what they dish out.

Women worship their pastors but can't worship their husbands.

They definitely dodge that bolded, watch and see

Sureplug123:
in other words, verbal abuse will pass but physical abuse will not. See, they are interwoven, both parties should keep their weapons aside for peace to reign, else.........
Being jailed is beter than being killed.

If you know you won't respect your partner, don't go into marriage. You can't form woke in my house.

Same women worship the ground their pastors walk upon.

U NOW SEE THE TRUE COLOUR OF WOMEN, ENDURE D EMOTIONAL ABUSE BCS U ARE A MAN WHILE SHE CANT ENDURE HER OWN ABUSE. ABUSE IS ABUSE BE IT VERBAL OR PHYSICAL, NOBODY HAS MONOPOLY TO VIOLENT ANOTHER

Sureplug123:
my sister's can never and will never abuse my DAD.
See, I don't support domestic violence, but can your partner just walk up to you and start hitting you? Women have their mouth as their weapon while men have their fist as their weapon.

Let's assume I attack you with a sword and you have a gun in your hands, won't you shoot at me?

The case of Bianca Ojukwu and the former governor's wife is a good example. Women can't take half of what they dish out.

10men can live in a room but 2 women can't live in a compound without fighting and you think men are the problem?

Gbamsolutely, women believe that their mouth can get them to somewhere, the only thing is that the specie of women we hv right now are nothing to write home about

Prettygirl200:
And that's how ur daughters and sisters will be beaten thoroughly.

EiTHER MENOPAUSE DEY WORRY U OR PRICK DUN DEY HUNGRY U

Prettygirl200:
Same with your future daughters, they will remain in your house.

Na who let this one out, pikin better go back to sleep

apatheticme:
That's a fallacy of faulty and hasty generalization right there!!!

We read news of crimes also committed against men all the time, even on this forum.

A quick example
So, should a guy be attacked let's say under bridge at Ojota in Lagos, dispossessed of his phones, probably laptops or any other personal effects or even stabbed. Let's assume his attacker was caught and tried in a Nigerian court, and he was just given maybe 2months with option of fine sef, we could say that " judiciary itself knows that naija men are very thuggish and criminal in nature that's why d system is like that". How does this sound??

So all the injustice in the country, to both male and females, regardless of ethnic group has been because judiciary felt we don't know what we are doing?? Na wa for you oh. No wonder judiciary doesn't bother to prosecute corrupt officials, because they know that Nigerians like suffering and smiling, abi??

Guy, I understand you need to pull down women, but y'all are supposed to be the logical gender now, argue logically abeg, impress us with your logic, not spurious points because of some stupid gender war on Nairaland!

This goes beyond all of us, lives are affected, kids, communities. DV is not something to toy with or make mockery of because it's not my gender, it could be anyone tomorrow!

You might not have a daughter but you could have a granddaughter. Would you talk like this if someone hit/kill her?? Raise your sons not to assault! If they are not cool with anyone they should walk away!!

Men at d upper echelon of judiciary knows that d law won't work

IamAsiri:
And they are telling you that this particular mindset is wrong! There are easygoing virtuous woman that get constantly battered just because they entered into wrong marriages (probably the husband hid his character well or the women were just too naive to see the signs before entering into marriages with their Mr rights who later turned out to be beasts in human form) and any summoning of courage to protest this evil can land them in hospitals or even in their grave.

I'm not disputing that their is no good woman, all I'm saying is that some of them deserves better beating to reset their brain. Some were very stupid while in their father's house and they still carried d stupidity to d husband's house, for how would d husband endure her stupidity.

apatheticme:
True!

But the broke red pillars won't agree!

They'll soon come here to call you names and opine that you're seeking female validation.

Domestic violence is rampant in Nigeria simply because judiciary has failed. If one or two people have been made actual scape goats, not necessarily when murder occurs, but being jailed for assault against the next gender be it male or female, no one would engage in such evil acts. But our courts are simply places where justice can be bought#

Judiciary has failed us!

D judiciary itself knows that naija women are very manipulative and trickish in nature that's why d system is like that.
I spent some time in Ghana, their system made it in a way that if u violet a woman, u are in for it.
Something happened btw a Ghana police officer and his woman friend in d compound we rented.
D woman friend came and started a fight with d officer, she did all she could do in other to use it nail d officer but d officer did not yield to her tricks, at a time we got pissed off but d officer signaled us not to act.
It was after d whole drama and we were able to bring d situation under control and d woman left bcs of us.
The officer started telling us the rules in Ghana against violenting women. U see, u such situation, if it had happened here in naija, believe me d woman for collect better slap to reset her brain.
What I'm trying to say is that d men in charge of d judiciary knows that if they should implement it here, problem go dey bcs our ladies never mature for such law to take its place here rather we should be talking about orientation and awareness against domestic violence but I'm sorry to say that it won't still go far.

iykejohnson:
@Tonye0001, I respect you.
My respect goes to you not actually because of your writeup but the way you have been answering questions and defending your writeup and as well respecting people's opinions without trying to make them adhere to yours.
@Emmanuelbrown26, you earned my respect too, though I don't completely assent to your points. But you stood your ground without using abusive words and dishing out valid notches.

With plenty of things I have read here asin, solid opinions of people, eradicating Domestic Violence in our society won't be achieved easily if the root of it is, not tackled or uprooted.

But I will still maintain what I have been telling people around me if the marriage or the relationship is not working out after you had put in your effort, kindly leave.
Biko disintegrates immediately!!

As simple as that, if d institution is not working, let d woman go back to her father's house, if she is d owner of d house, let her send d man away.

ImaIma1:
Regardless, men do not have the right to hit women.

Did you read the guy's comments and sa how he disregards women? Did you go for him? But instead you came for me. Why?

Some women deserves better beating

YourFavEvangeli:
Summary: Women are dumb right?

I didn't call them dumb but if u say so, no problem

Watch out as this thread go dey dry like dry crayfish. U won't see ladies commenting on this thread, u won't see ladies being objective, if it's not favourable, that means that thing is nonsense and u want me to believe on such specie?

Sureplug123:
try comparing your tone with Tonye's tone, you both are on the same page but compare the tone, you'll know why men hit women.

As simple as ABC,

tiswell:
what is so special about a cadet?
they are just guys like you,except the institution attached.


you are a fricking blawdy coward!

Help me ask that sis aboy.

Sureplug123:
you are a living legend boss. You are wise, you apply Logic rather than emotion. YOU ARE A MAN!

Desis my brother, desis

ImaIma1:
Guy rest.

I'm resting with this, u care for this? Let's drink together

ImaIma1:
Unfortunately, your example does not hold water because as you stated "my head no too correct for woman matter". That means you are biased and prejudiced when it has to do with women. And you don't have the ability to make objective conversation and arguments. That has shown in your comments so far.

Just look at how you described the guy as "cool and gentle" "spoke politely". You can't even hide your bias.

Your head no correct for woman matter and you are here trying to make sense. It's obvious you are a redpiller. People that hate women for a living.

No don't hate women at all. I'm an easy going guy towards women with a clause, a woman should know when not cross boundaries whenever u are with me.
See what u ladies refer to as caring, at times I see it as stupidity.

luminouz:
I think they all see DV from physical assault aspect alone, being the physically weak gender. They don't see mental, emotional and psychological manipulations as DV. That's where women rule. Yet if a man talks, he gets laughed at and scorned because apparently, he is supposed to 'suck it in and take it like a man' but forgetting that man or not, he is human and has limits of tolerance. When he loses his shiit and bursts out, people blame him and castigate him, yet no one wants to understand just how much mental strain he has gone through to suddenly snap like that.

Unless the man is clinically insane or with malignant tumors in his head, it makes no sense to beat a woman you love and who bore you kids.

Exactly what i hv being saying here but trust that gender, they will always attach emotion to it

rickleye:
It is not that DV is rampart in this generation. It’s actually lesser. Back then it started from bf beating up on gf which they carried into their marriage.
The difference is that with social media we are hearing more of it than before - just in the newspaper when it ended in death.

boy friend and girlfriend beeating started more in earlier 2000s, it wasn't like this 1990s

IRALIFE:
You need a whole lot of unlearning and relearning. You're so stuck in your stand without trying to reason out issues reasonably. Try to keep an open heart and reread the article. You'll be better for it.

Which I hv done since yesterday

YourFavEvangeli:
The best question to ask is: if the sales attendant are men, will you lock them inside?
If the sales attendants are men and they say the pharmacist can't go, will he start a fight?

So if you marry a woman who is bad and refuses to change, you will beat her to death and face the firing squad right?

If the woman who has a bad attitude pulls out a loaded gun, will you still beat sense into her or will you get separated for your dear life?

What changed now? You can't beat her up anymore cus she has a gun, you won't beat the attendants or lock them up if they were hefty muscular men but the moment they are pretty women, beating becomes an option.

I won't tell you to stop or continue, we all know how it will end.
Either you beat them until they divorce you and take away almost everything from you, or, you beat them and they "mistakenly" die and you get jailed for life, or you beat them and they stab you in your sleep. Either way, you get to beat sense into them, mission accomplished.

At d bolded, when I was working their, I was at branch A before they transfered me to branch B, branch A had guys while branch B had girls.
Then, I used to relieve guys whenever there was an emergency for them to attend to, I was doing it bcs all d guys had one mind and one spirit.
When I came to branch B, I first told them to always respect themselves that I don't play. I started seen d signs in them before d issue of locking them inside came.
U can't just compare guys and girls,

akinade28:
No sane woman can just wake up and start provoking her husband without a reasonable cause. Husband should also bring peace as well if you want peace.
Bro, two wrongs can never make a right. You don't solve a problem by creating a greater problem.
I understand that some wives can be provocative, verbally abusive or might be violent at times. They can cause or look for trouble. But all these can never justify domestic violence, you can conquer evil with evil. Look for better ways of dealing with this kind of women, instead of beating them. Or better still, separate or walk out of the marriage if it has become unbearable.
Men are always looking for who to blame for their actions since the time of Adam and Eve.
Men should learn to take responsibilities for their actions

If a woman want peace she should create d atmosphere for peace to reign, u can't just be giving me headache and expecting peace to come from my angle.
If a woman is not happy in her matrimonial home, she should go back to her father's house, is that too much to do?

bukatyne:
This is strange.

Not strange, that's just d fact

Daradared2:
9ce one op!

may God give us the wisdom to train our kids the way its should be. Our parents really failed us especially raising a male kids. Am talking from experience. The more we take that both gender has their roles to play, no one is superior than the other, the better for us.

I rest my case!

Either parents failed to train their male children well or male childreb decided to be sgupid by being too weak and simpling about

ImaIma1:
Unfortunately, your example does not hold water because as you stated "my head no too correct for woman matter". That means you are biased and prejudiced when it has to do with women. And you don't have the ability to make objective conversation and arguments. That has shown in your comments so far.

Just look at how you described the guy as "cool and gentle" "spoke politely". You can't even hide your bias.

Your head no correct for woman matter and you are here trying to make sense. It's obvious you are a redpiller. People that hate women for a living.

If after reading through d cited example and u couldn't comprehend how DV is being caused by women, we'll I am not shock at all bcs women are same in different packages