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JESHAL007:
Sir do women ration sex to their husbands, is it possible as a married man for your wife to be rationing sex to you after paying bride price and assuming responsibilities in the home

Lol...why this question Jeshal?
As if you don't know.

And the annoying thing about all these is that - You don't want to have sex, which is okay by me yet you don't want the person that wants to have sex have it. Now this is a witch.
If you don't want to have sex or constantly not in the mood or it is not food, then you shouldn't worry about your husband getting it from somewhere else, Abi?
Why now constantly monitoring him, always checking his phone when he is sleeping or in th toilet. They will literarily turn the phone upside down snooping around for any lady you are chating with.
Why so worried over what you are not interested in?
These are Highly manipulative people.
They try to starve you of what you need just to control you and it happens in both gender.
And guess what? this same woman will not hesitate to give it anyhow to the manfriend outside because the manfriend has no room for nonsense or playing games and have options of replacing her with another person or go back to his wife.

olioxx:
This is my one and only post here, and you are free to form whatever opinion you have as that would be on you.

You said we have a lot of poor men, let me tell you this truth today as someone who have lived more than 2 decades in three geopolitical zones in this country Nigeria and in one other West African country(short stay).

More women are poorer than men, in other words for every poor man there are 7 to 8 poor women, that means women are mostly poorer than men. Now globally women are notoriously poorer than men, so you see that your gender has more likelihood of being wretched and poor than my gender.

This is not gender war, but data backed by every day happenings.

A man can have 100k in his account and say he is broke, but a woman will have 20k and have a nonsense and misplaced superiority complex.

Most men will comfortably have 50million sitting in their accounts with multiple income sources, yet live a very simple and minimalistic life, yet your gender will flaunt with an iPhone 14 promax that was gifted to her or she stole and have the effrontery to call my gender broke.

Know today that your gender have no right to broke shame men, cause you all are mostly broke and proud of your brokenness.

Well what is good for the goose is also good for the gander, broke women should be placed on permanent birth control measures, so that they don't conceive and give birth to children they also can't train as they have NO ECONOMIC VALUE and are useless. They also don't deserve sex, and the government should take the children away from them if they conceive peradventure.

If you continue having this mentality, I promise you, you will learn at a very old age and it might too late by then.

As I said I have no words for you, but I am writing it here for other women that have this misplaced mindset to change and know this is wrong at core.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

tnerro1:
Dem no go hear word, e don tey this gender dey deal with mumu men, even the one wey sponsor the one e marry uko? Judy Austin’s ex husband still dey cry up and down for any podcast wey invite am to come talk wetin him eyes see

Jayhome24:
No need to tell them let them carry on to be stew-pid.

Give me one reason why I should sponsor a lady education just one reason? Even I dey mad nor to that level. If her family can't send her to school then she should remain in her house or go and learn a work or a trade e nor concern me.

If I don't know what to do wth my money I will go and give beggars or go homeless children home and dump it there than using it to sponsor a lady.

Why always men? Dem dey forbid women to sponsor too?

fasho01:
Except it is his wife, a man should not be sponsoring a woman in school for any reason.

Sadly, they will still not hear

The truth is even wives are very risky.
I know a handful of men who sponsored their wives' higher education and after graduating and getting good jobs, they give more headaches to the men at home.
Some started reducing and rationing the sex while there are rumours of infidelity outside.
Some become less appreciative of the gifts and efforts of the men because their tastes has gone up.
They become more stubborn, hardly take to corrections and hardly say am sorry even when they are at fault.
So many things my brother.
But these things have consequences.
It is not a coincidence that we are experiencing a very very large group of women doing hook-up and prostitutions today compared to our parent's time.
It is because many men are not interested in sponsoring women again because it is a very very risking investment.
People hardly invest anything tangible where their interest is not SECURED

spiceadole:
Be specific.
We know the group of people who do this thing.
They are usually uneducated but want their women to be educated.

And there is nothing wrong in that.
If am not educated, then my wife should be since she will be the one mostly witht he children and she can't give what she doesn't have.
Coming generation of ladies won't enjoy some luxuries most of their mothers enjoyed and it will only get worse.

AbelAbdul:
How far? You don book flight? I am trying to get the cheapest flight to Toronto.

Try to book emirate airline from their site.
I believe they are the cheapest currently.

One way is around $1,200 for August season unless you have US visa, then you can get a slightly cheaper flight that you will connect with in a US city

Drsnives:
The cost of living then was low compared to now.
How much was your school then?
My dad with a salary of 15k then trained about 4 of us..
Today even if you are earning 300k, to train 2 in a private sec school self Na war

Why private school?

Did your dad trained you guys in private school or public?
If you are to send your kids to public school today, don't you think you will have extra to do other things?

Wakanakarue:
The things our parents did and achieved in life as normal people are the things rich people struggle to achieve today.


They got married before 30 in most cases, gave birth to children they fed and trained with some ease, build houses in the village at 40 and some in the city too and they weren't even rich .

Because the standard of living has risen astronomically than your parent's own.

Most of our parents didn't drive cars throughout their service time, No pressure to change phone or wife's own, no pressure to send kids to private schools, many lived in 2 rooms alone and not flats etc.
All these saves money that can be channeled into doing projects like house building.
Many ladies won't even take your marriage proposal serious if you are not staying in a flat today and if possible have a car.
If they try what we are doing now, many of them will die broke long before reaching 50 years.
Our standard of living and taste will not allow us to have disposable income to fund projects.
We can't eat our cakes and have it.

BigYash:
It's funny. These ladies will drink Hollandia and eat good food before sex. Niggas will go taking poison to satisfy someone who has nothing less than 20 body counts..

Worst are those who wants to satisfy brothel oloshos. Some goes as to giving mouth action to oloshos..

Some men are not supposed to be called men at all. These generation z are worst..

You will pay for sex,pay for food,pay for hotel,just to make the lady feel comfortable. You will no go and drink poison to satisfy the same person you are paying for sex..

Isn't that insanity?

Hezmatosky210:
Mine parents was just junior civil servants on a low key. They trained the seven of us through university. But right now bro, I am a big boy of my own, but just to train two children for primary school na hard thing🤣
Dad&Mum, you're the strongest. I bow🧎‍♂️

7 of you guys?
The truth is, we do claim they trained and feed us well but I don't agree to it.
Today's standard of living is quiet higher than theirs.
A man who stays in a 2 room face you and slap me, sends his children to public school, uses Nappy (a cut towel for the baby's diaper), gives the baby only ogi/pap is considered responsible.
But today, such a man is a failure. Is wife will constantly remind him of his poverty and failure, probably cheating sef. The children and family will say he is irresponsible for sending the kids to public pry and sec. Schools.
So will say they are not better than us, they were just lucky to come that time

Shedrack777:
The day my daughter clocked 2 years, that was the day I realised my parents were stronger raising 10 of us

10 of you guys??
Wawuuuuuuu
It is well
I don't even know what to say

FlamingBulb:
Nobody is saying safe the whole world..imagine your blood brother is outder struggling not dat he is irresponsible but just dat life favours us differently and refused to help.
I know twins brothers who refused to help his other and bliv life is sweet.
You have over 20m Ur own na to dey impress girls n buyin iPhone 17 and buying Ur kids latest shoes n jeans but Ur blood brother has graduated and been struggling with jobs yet u cannot help him.
Keep Ur money and enjoy it forever.

You cited 12m and 20m.
How much is 12m? And 20m?
And how much do you think he should give out of this to his brother?
Hopefully, the brother will not come back again with a sobbing story.
Do you actually know someone with 12/20m in Nigeria is poor and struggling?
There is a high possibly that person is still a tenant because if he is to channel that money to house project, na lintel e go reach after buying land.
You see, most of the people you think are rich are not.
And because they are not rich does not mean they should be walking in tarters or loving horrible lives - since you claim they are buying iphones and their kids wearing fine expensive clothes.
Do you actually want them to be miserable?

Dijita:
This is the problem with many of you guys. you want someone to buy you car for uber or few millions to start a business. How many people have such capability?
Is it your brother or your uncle that is abroad?
At minimum you will need about #3million naira to buy uber car. You that is asking #3million doesn't even have #1million in saving. This your brother or uncle is saddle with helping everyone in the family with supplementing school fees, rent, medical emergencies among others.

In the case of your brother, he/she is solely responsible for all your parents expenses even though he is not the only child, you forget that this is also a help to you as you don't have to worry about your parent's expenses.

You alone want him to set you up with a minimum of #3million. How about your siblings, cousins, nephew, uncles, aunties, his friends etc? How rich do you think this person would have to be to be able to do this for you?

My brother God will help you.
I wonder if they think someone is the CEO of a company or chairman or MD to be able to cater for ALL family expenses.
They want to turn you to ATM machine.
I am the first born too and when I started working, I was naive and young.
I thought carrying the family problem is the Noble thing to do but over the years, have seen it is a lie.
The problems will never stop.
The more you solve, the more and bigger they bring thinking you have the capacity to solve it.
They will never stop.
Humans are abusers of Privileges, resources and institutions.
Humans don't have the capacity to take small and say no, it is enough.
Provided they can keep taking, they will keep taking without stoping until that thing crumbles.
It is the main reason when you call 50 people to a party and kill 2 or 3 cows, that meat will not remain if you don't take care. It will finish because provided they know it still remains, they will keep eating, packing, hiding in bags until it finishes.
They won't use their courtesy to just eat a plate and leave.
Many will keep saying they haven't been served despite eating 3 plates, some will claim they only eat once despite 3.
Others will start calling their friends to come there that food Boku make you too come chop.
Humans are very very wicked and Abusers of Opportunities

Gerrard59:
The bold is a good reference point - how many people can one give money to? Because Mr A asked does not mean there aren't others who have asked as well. So, if I give everyone who asked me for financial assistance, how much will be left for me? What if I dey owe banks loans and have to meet up with the interest rate?

People should focus on reducing their expenses. A big one is having few children and stop keeping up with the Joneses

Exactly.

Also the statistic the op used is very very skewed.
Osimhen is a very big outlier.
The average/mean or median earners fall with 50k per month and 300k per month.
Median household income within 150 to 500k.
This is where the bulk of Nigerian Helpers are.

Osimhen is in the 4th quatile of the statistics.
Like 0.01% of the Nigerian population.
Extremely skewed.
How much help can a family earning 500k a month, 6m per year actually render you?
Infact, they all need help too

FlamingBulb:
If you have tried to help someone and they are not helping the matter is a different thing.
But if you are capable of helping a brother/friend with let say a car to start Uber, few mil to strt up a business, professional course to hlp dem with better jobs knowing well dey are responsible and capable or jobs opportunity but refused instead dashing 20k helping them add up to complete rent to me is not help.

Easier said than done.

Wait until you are rendering these help before you will realize how lazy the average person is.
How many of them even want to do business?
How many have taken their time to go and learn a trade you can invest in for them? Mechanics/electrician/ barbing etc. most won't
They will tell you they are graduates and looking for work. They will even hate you for recommending such shitty jobs to them.
Start Uber? that they will drive after a month and stop claiming mechanical breakdowns, police estortions etc
Professional courses?

You want to know the BITTER TRUTH?
No one can help you until something forces you to - a break up, mockery of your poverty and lookdown, insults are things that are meant to trigger and challenge you to come out of your comfort zone.
Without it, anyone helping is just risking it.
It is a risky investment.

ireke:
My opinion to things like this is that regret should come if it wants to come. If I have been warning someone with tears since I was barely 20 and they refused to yield to common sense, I can not kill myself over them if they have not made sense of their life after 30 years. I have helped a lot, I may and would still help, but I've really grown beyond people trying to use their poverty to blackmail me. Not even death scares me. All of us have to die at some point.

Gbam!!!

Don't mind them.
Every time Help, Help, Help

Help wey no dey gree finish.
And the Op. of this thread. Why did he use Osimhen as an example? That is a billionaire and can easily help 20 family and friends with 200m over a 5 years period at an average of 40m per year/ 10m per 4 people.
How many of the so called family members we are even going to meet for help are rich enough to cater for their own sef first?
Someone is not staying in a duplex, not using a brand new car, his kids are just going to average schools of 100/150k per term, no be say e dey go vacation steady every year yet you are crying for Help up and down claiming such a person is wicked.

Is that not craziness and entitlement?
You see person wey still be tenant, dey use naija used car or tokunbo. What kind of help do you think such a person can really render kwanu?
And when you imagine such Help cryers are atleast 10 around you as family members and friends.
Where do you actually want to start from sef?

Mariangeles:
If you're a mother, never ever give your child out to anyone, in the name of hardship/poverty.

It is better to be frying akara by the roadside, with your child(ren) helping you, than to give your child out to another person.


Giving your child out is a grave offense against that child. You have no excuse.
You have already betrayed that child by doing that.

Life can happen to anyone.
What if the mother of the kids die, won't the children be raised by another woman?

I think this woman is mentally unstable.
We take mental illness for granted in this part of the world

@ nairalanda1

Our budget this year is: 68 trillion naira

Actual revenue available to fund this budget is : 33 trillion naira
Deficit: 35 trillion naira...and to cover that deficit, that is where the loans come in.
Nigeria has had this deficit problem for decades. Everytime earnings do not meet up with the budget, meaning we have to borrow. This is because of the fact that we rely on resources WHOSE PRICES WE DO NOT SET. We cannot set oil above the international price to fund our budget because our buyers will go and meet the cheaper option
And the 68 trillion naira is not enough for a nation of 230 million people.

With the points you have highlighted, don't you think it is wiser to live within our means? rather than constantly borrowing to keep up the jonnes?
Who spends more than what he earns if not a fuuulish person.

SeaTrade:
Nigeria's large heart is the reason for the rot.
Let me tell you what I'd have done:
1)I'd not subsidise any form of energy,electricity,gas,diesel ,etc from the get go.
You want energy?you pay!

2) There's hardly a country in Africa that has built as much roads as Nigeria,however because everyone was allowed to run amock in the name of hustle,it bastardised all the roads that were built.
I'd introduce a weigh system across all highways and whoever exceeds their given load capacity pays an instant fine to the government.This money will be used for road maintenance.

There's emergency services,however people just can't afford them because they can't even buy proper health insurance for themselves, let alone pay for such services.Same like in the US amongst poor neighborhoods.

There's hardly a country in Africa that has built as much roads as Nigeria

How true is this?

zeusdgrt:
Which team Dem dey play next make I buy their jersey, support SA my foot

Nightowl1171:
They are not going to score even 1 goal throughout the extent the can last at this tournament.

Gerrard59:
That has always been my argument. Someone born and bred in Nigeria should not go to hellfire. It is grossly unfair.