Career › Re: Office Politics - Bookfest On A Bus Ride by EmmyDe25(m): 1:11am On Jul 31, 2016 |
Lero15: Lols.
OK. This is one of the major problems with female bosses. Not abusing or bullying a female gender here.
The best thing you can keep doing is what I call "notice me". Let everyone in your unit and other units, even the management, know that you are working well. Yes, you had someone who disagreed with your boss' appraisal, it might be another person next time. So be heard, speak during meetings, ask intelligent questions, make informed comments, etc.
As for your boss.... Ladies like unofficial stuffs even during official periods. Yes, I know that well! I've worked under them very well. When she is discussing such stuffs, you could make some comments too. Call her especially when she is running late or when she is out of office. If she asks why, say you just wanted to call and find out if everything is alright, etc. Ask about her family-how was your night, how is your baby, you know all those feminine stuffs.
I would have advised you to report to HR, but it's risky. Cheers, Emmy. You've made some valid points. My believe has always being about getting heard and of course making valid contributions during meetings, brainstorm sessions etc. Good thing is, my MD at every given chance do attest to my worth. Meanwhile, i am thinking maybe i could talk to my MD about being redeployed to another unit. On the other hand, i dont exactly subscribe to your point about asking her how her night went and all... not sure she's deserving of that. I think the best way to deal with people like that is to be neutral with them,' not trying to come close |
Autos › Re: 2 weeks Apapa cleared Camry 05 For Sales. Surulere, Lagos by EmmyDe25(m): 10:49am On Jul 30, 2016 |
nenergy: I have been pushing a friend's Camry 05 via word of mouth, I think its time I went online. Cleared from Apapa 2 weeks ago. Milage is 190000. Location: surulere, Lagos. Asking price is 1.5. PM me if interested. Its the engine 2.2? |
Celebrities › Re: Justine Skye: It Is Impossible For Wizkid To Make Bad Songs [PICS] by EmmyDe25(m): 8:31am On Jul 30, 2016 |
buharisbae: I know some people will come for my head but she isn't BEAUTIFUL! No. Justina Skye is actually a beauty. Check out her other pictures. She a beautiful melanin |
Career › Re: Office Politics - Bookfest On A Bus Ride by EmmyDe25(m): 8:06am On Jul 30, 2016 |
amicable09: Oh, tomorrow? That's fine. I'll be more than willing to provide answers the best way I can and if need be, employ the help of some very helpful friends here to provide further answers where clarity is lacking. I had my appraisal a couple weeks back and i knew she would leverage that as a perfect avenue to deal with me. She rated my core skills and efficiency above average. I told her there is no how on this green earth i would agree with anyone my efficiency on the job is above average, so i told her i wasn't going to sign. Thankfully, we were to still review with the Director and here is a man ive worked with on different projects and delivered resutls. When he saw some of the gradings he said he doesnt agree with my line manager that he's worked with me on some huge projects and believe i deserve something better. End of the day, my grading was moved to excellence. When i was fighting this battle, a couple of my colleagues opined i should have let it slide but i told them i can't, because no man can tell me my performance is above average and i'm saying this with all sense of humility. I don't shy away from publicly admitting things i am not good at, why then would i allow any man to destroy my budding career all in the name of hate. What made the whole appraisal look funny is the fact that in my first year i was graded Oustanding by the same person, are you now saying under one year i have regressed so bad such that my performance has fallen below the pecking order,' when i can easily outline areas where i have improved over the past one year. I'm saying this just to make you understand how bad it is. Sadly, there is nothing i can do at the moment. Net, i'd just have to make the move when the time is right. Remaining under a boss like this would mean one will keep doing the same boring thing everyday and ultimately remain stationary in one position. That isn't what i want for my life: i want to break new grounds, make things happen and be seen as a game-changer in whatever field i find myself. |
Career › Re: Office Politics - Bookfest On A Bus Ride by EmmyDe25(m): 7:18am On Jul 30, 2016 |
amicable09: Oh, tomorrow? That's fine. I'll be more than willing to provide answers the best way I can and if need be, employ the help of some very helpful friends here to provide further answers where clarity is lacking. After that issue happened i realized its all man to himself and those bosses are only after saving their own a$$es and would willingly sacrifice you to climb the ladder. I had to go apologize to my director and explain things to him. He said he knew i couldnt have done such without her influence that he was only surprised my boss had to involve me in this mess because she was looking for who to take the fall for her. Thankfully, i was able to swim out of the issue but till this day the whole drama still plays in my head and i'm not sure i will ever forgive her for playing a Judas on me. To my question, please how exactly can one deal with a boss who all she does is to make herself look good in the eyes of the client, talk down on her subordinates, wants to oversee even the littlest things on a job you've been doing for over two years. By littlest things i mean things you do month on month, things you share with the client on a daily, even while she was away in the states for four months. How do you cope with a boss who feels all that matters is her opinion and would rather see a subordinate who has an opinion as a sense of pride or thinking you know it all? Again, how do you deal with a boss who feels the only way to get things done is only with her ideas and damn what every other person think. How do you deal with a boss who bottles documents that are essential to people's growth, documents that could help propel people's career but because of the nauseating-likeness you have for yourself and your bid to protect your office against probable onslaught from your junior colleagues you decided not to share. How do you deal with a boss who believes the only way to get things done is the hard way. For instance, things you could spend 30mins to deliver, she will rather have you spend 5 hours on it, all in the name of "adding value". You work on a doc, your boss send the doc to client only blind copying you just to make it look like she was the one who worked on it. |
Career › Re: Office Politics - Bookfest On A Bus Ride by EmmyDe25(m): 6:43am On Jul 30, 2016 |
amicable09: Oh, tomorrow? That's fine. I'll be more than willing to provide answers the best way I can and if need be, employ the help of some very helpful friends here to provide further answers where clarity is lacking. On this issue of office politics. I have a boss who i used to do her biddings, not because of anything but because i felt she was a leader, who is always ready to take the fall for her subordinates. But damn me, i was wrong. This woman denied me blatantly right in front of my GMD when an issue sprang up on something she "ordered" me to do. It was a major let down for me, because that almost blot the good reputation i had before my MD. Mind you, this was just a case of not copying one person in a doc i sent to the client as instructed by my line manager. The day this happened i lost all sense of respect for my boss. As a matter of fact, lots of my colleagues were of the opinion that i should have told the MD who asked me to send the doc without copying the bigger boss, but i decided to bottle it with the believe my MD knows i couldnt have sent such document without an instruction from my manager on who to copy and who not to. |
Career › Re: Office Politics - Bookfest On A Bus Ride by EmmyDe25(m): 8:04am On Jul 29, 2016 |
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Foreign Affairs › Re: Hillary Clinton Is Democratic Presidential Nominee by EmmyDe25(m): 7:54am On Jul 28, 2016 |
legendsilver: Abeg how old is she? Na question I ask o,
69. She will be 70 by Nov
I have heard of Google search, so don't direct me there  |
Education › Re: ABU Zaria: One Of The Finest Universities In Nigeria (pics) by EmmyDe25(m): 11:49am On Jul 24, 2016 |
dadabashua1: believe me Abu Zaria hostels are very good. guess what you saw was the hostels before it was bn renovated.... if you have a friend ask him/her about that. Where is the picture of ICSA, RAMAT and BAKASSI HOSTEL? let me guess, they are no longer part of ABU? |
Politics › Re: Fayose: Advert On Vanguard To Discredit Zenith Bank's Statement by EmmyDe25(m): 8:38pm On Jul 22, 2016 |
agabusta: Never knew Vanguard is as cheap as that. This Day, Sun, Nation and Leadership newspapers are all cheaper. |
Politics › Re: Fayose: Advert On Vanguard To Discredit Zenith Bank's Statement by EmmyDe25(m): 8:35pm On Jul 22, 2016 |
agabusta: Did you say 500K??
Full page coloured advert in Vanguard will definitely be far more than 500k. Full page colour ad is 567,500, sir |
Politics › Re: Fayose: Advert On Vanguard To Discredit Zenith Bank's Statement by EmmyDe25(m): 8:34pm On Jul 22, 2016 |
phemmyutd: Pls Nairalanders,
what is the cost implication of placing a full colour page in Vanguard news paper?
Now let's calculate how many Ekiti workers this can pay their salaries N567,500 |
Travel › Re: 10 Interesting Facts About Kwara State by EmmyDe25(m): 8:03am On Jul 16, 2016 |
BrazenDee: I do know Kwara State government is embarking on Operation No Pothole which would transform the road network in Kwara to the best in Nigeria. At the moment 38 roads projects are being carried out and by next month an Asphalt plant will be commence operations in the state. It is good here and it can only get better Bro, there are alot of bad roads in Kwara. And that's me being extremely polite. |
Travel › Re: Images That Perfectly Describe Living In Abuja!!!! by EmmyDe25(m): 6:38am On Jul 16, 2016 |
I missed staying in Abuja. Talk about serene and conducive environment. Unlike Lagos... Its noise from dusk till dawn. |
Politics › Re: "Buhari Can't Stop Me BSc-ED" Picture Trending On Social Media. Gotten This Bad? by EmmyDe25(m): 5:59am On Jul 16, 2016 |
whizbee: People will start thinking better when the mindset of 'Government has to do everything"leaves their heart, btw, how buhari take affect your certificate?
In retrospect, this is the major problem we have in Africa, must someone be held accountable for our woes, people don't want to forge forward above their conditions, they'll rather choose to blame the person that's indirectly oblivious of their existence.
Before you quote me, I'm not anti nor pro buhari, I'm just a rationalist, if the country is not conducive for you, take the next available flight like BREXIT
Smh And what exactly has the government provided for its citizenry  ? Light we provide for ourselves, water we provide, security we provide for ourselves, same goes for other social and economic infrastructures. Yet we pay taxes to government for doing NOTHING, absolutely nothing! But you are here talking about dependence on government. Your comment has zero meaning to me. |
Education › Re: Difference Between State University And Federal University by EmmyDe25(m): 1:22pm On Jul 08, 2016 |
emmasege: Federal unis, particularly the first and second generation universities. They have the best of academics in the country and attract the best of students. Secondly, there's diversity of culture & religion in federal unis which prepare you for the ideal life. Every federal university is expected to promote federal character in terms of admission & appointments, which is rarely observed in state universities. In a typical federal university, you'll find students & staff from regions other than where the university is located. I can't agree more. Attending a federal university outside my region has really broaden my horizon and given me - tad knowledge about other tribes. I can at least say a thing or two about other tribes in Nigeria. |
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Education › Re: 5 Benefits Of Online Courses by EmmyDe25(m): 9:14am On Jun 28, 2016 |
bigtt76: Ok. The program is meant for working class students basically that do not want to travel out and study so they can continue working.
The qualifications required are that you must have a first degree or in addition having worked professionally for a number of years.
The lectures are delivered online. Students submit two term papers weekly to the discussion boards where the students read each and questions the writer. At the end of the week, each student submits a hand in assignment which is graded.
This continues until after all the requisite and elective courses have been covered. You submit a thesis to be graded at the end of the program.
You are eligible to graduate after passing all your modules. You also attend convocation on campus in UK.
Payment is spread across the period of study (monthly payments). Let me know what you decide I can negotiate a discount for you. can you give me an idea of how much i'd be spending on this? You know this would ultimately inform my decision. |
Celebrities › Re: Falz Wins BET Best International Act Award by EmmyDe25(m): 6:46am On Jun 26, 2016 |
Dayoto: Oh ma Gaaad! Falz ThaBadGuy!... My crush finally won! Wow! #Bet Nawa o. Falz now everybody's crush. You ladies tho. Where were you guys in 2011. |
Education › Re: 5 Benefits Of Online Courses by EmmyDe25(m): 6:30am On Jun 26, 2016 |
bigtt76: Very good but you have to be very hard working and willing to sacrifice to make it to the end. Please i need a bit of info and guidelines about the University of Liverpool online masters programme. |
Celebrities › Re: Why Olamide Might Remain A Local Artiste For Long !! by EmmyDe25(m): 8:41am On Jun 25, 2016 |
Dahveydson: If you don't understand music, Keep shut!!
Who International recognition epp?
D'banj went international, where is the koko master today?
And some of the points are outrightly ridiculous and stupid, because he doesn't dress corporate? Really? Did Fela dress corporate?
These jokers with nothing to write about should go and work on being known in their Local govt first before attempting to throw stone at someone for not being international.
Op who you epp? You don bath? Smellos! The guy lost it when i saw "He doesnt dress corporate" how can you be that stupid? such that you are attributing International recognition to dressing in a certain way. Please tell me if Diamond sings in English. Ojuelegba and Gongo Aso are songs that were widely accepted across continents. Were they composed in English ? We just have bunch of muppets on here. This explains why i only come here once a week these days. |
Romance › Re: Wooing(toasting) Gone Bad -if Only Money Could Buy by EmmyDe25(m): 11:48am On Jun 18, 2016 |
People will take their time to read this but not a minute to read a bible verse. |
Nairaland General › Re: Graphic Accident On 3rd Mainland Bridge Yesterday (Graphic) by EmmyDe25(m): 4:04am On Jun 04, 2016 |
saints2: I tried uploading the video but video can't be embedded on Nairaland... Take your time to watch the video if you can...
If you go to work and come back in peace, go on your knees and thank God for journey mercies.
Watch the video here:
http://www.ajayiwrites.com/2016/05/graphic-accident-on-3rd-mainland-bridge.html
cc: lalasticlala Thiis line resonates when i had an accident on my way home from the office two weeks ago. One needs to constantly thank God for journey mercies regardless of how close the destination is. I almost lost a leg. But i thank God for life. |
Celebrities › Re: Hilarious Comments About Toolz Wedding In Dubai (Pictures) by EmmyDe25(m): 5:55pm On May 28, 2016 |
Vickyydera: Just look at how ugly their Dubai venue is, Nigeria venue can provide better appearance and style. they flied to Dubai to do their wedding in thay shabby venue ,Tools father don't look happy ,i guess the old man would have wanted toolz to do her wedding in Nigeria so that his average friends and average family members can attend it. but toolz loving competition didnt want to wed in Nigeria. Nigerian celebrities are just good at showing off. FlIED Ke? Easy tiger |
Politics › Re: PDP Mocks Buhari's One-Year In Office With Cartoon Images by EmmyDe25(m): 5:07pm On May 28, 2016 |
I am well disappointed in this government. And thats me being extremely complimentary. Its been a total show of shame in the last one year. |
Career › Re: Women Bosses And Their Women Problem by EmmyDe25(m): 9:47am On May 27, 2016*. Modified: 9:18am On Jun 28, 2016 |
[quote author=seylex post=45895242]this happen to be my first female boss, and just 2 months of working together she is so typical of those ive read about. these are a few of their realities. disclaimer - this is not representative of all women just the type of my boss.
a little background.
All my requests and moves were rebuffed, all support was literally non existent. well marketing happens to be a cost centre in itself, sales brings in the money. many dont know the difference though including my boss. i managed the two role independently despite all the challenges, but we are yet to make sales.
she pretends as if she doesnt know why we are not making sales. and shes using that as a pedestal to victimize me. she copies the HR on unnecessary issues and quite frankly its frustrating.
well after all these i had to understand her and why we may never gel -
1. women bosses are arrogant 2. they always want to be in control 3. they are mostly lazy themselves 4. they are mostly insecure
at least my boss is all the above and more.
well, she wants me to lick her a**, but Im never doing all of that. I know over time we may blend but for now its so annoying. i feel like leaving already. Guys with experience should please give honest advise to a distressed worker. |
Politics › Re: Fg Appoints Heads Of Nta, Nbc, Frcn,von, Noa by EmmyDe25(m): 8:02am On May 27, 2016 |
AntidaftMOD: [s][/s]
I dunno why most of you have chosen to be so senseless. Six people were appointed and two are from the South while 4 come from the North. How many regions are in the North? There are three regions in the North just like the South. As far as I'm concerned, the region that ain't represented here now is the South South. An Igbo man (SE) was appointed, a Yoruba man (SW) was appointed and I'm very sure the remaining 4 would be shared among the 3 Northern regions. I,e, 2 Northwest, 1 Northeast and 1 from North-Central. Oga, stop displaying your ignorance here. You have 6 geo-political zones... 4 appointees came from 3 zones. The other 3 zones had to battle for the two other slots... what does that say to you. Fairness or lack of it? I clicked on the story just to confirm what i already know. Buhari shouldnt have happened. However, I blame Jonathan for all of these... he didnt cover himself in glory. |
Politics › Re: "It Is NOT True That Nigerians Are Suffering" - Buhari's Spokesperson. by EmmyDe25(m): 7:08am On May 27, 2016 |
Van Gaal lost me in December '15. Buhari lost me May '16. Lets see how this ends. 1kg of turkey that i used to buy at 650 is now 950. How much worse can it get? |
Crime › Re: Wale Fakile Responds To Girlfriend's Battery Allegations (Photo) by EmmyDe25(m): 9:07am On May 21, 2016 |
@Op, His name is Wale Fakinyo, not Fakile. Thanks |
Politics › Re: 4 Modular Refineries Will Soon Take Off — FG by EmmyDe25(m): 10:12am On May 17, 2016 |
Story!!! |
Phones › Re: Etisalat Follows Suit ; 1.5GB Data Now Cost N1000 by EmmyDe25(m): 6:34am On May 15, 2016 |
solace89: Abeg of all dz networks, I no say Glo no dey roll over...which network dey do rollover....dats d koko.. cus me I'm not really a heavy data user like that. Glo does. |
Career › Re: 20 Ways To Be Indispensable At Work by EmmyDe25(m): 9:58am On May 07, 2016 |
nmreports: Lol. Good tips. Don't be deceived though. You can be very valuable but of course when push comes to shove, you are not indispensable.
21) Understand the importance of office politics.
spot on |