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OP, abeg no dey advice these ladies again. Many il come here now n say it is the words of a broke ass guy. Leave them let them go marry the rich guy na. Time il tell, let us know how many times they il keep divorcing and remarrying rich guys. Body go tell them. After all na baby mama many rich guys dey opt for now lol!

Never tried impressing a woman. I always felt like a fool even when trying. So will stop,and not go through with it. I always like to be myself around a woman.

doitforyou:
lol so why are you so triggered?! If you believe the idea of marriage is to be beaten to a pulp in front of your children on the day most families are celebrating, then I see no reason why you shouldn’t want that for the women in your family. Don’t you want good things for your family?

The best answer for those like you is silence. Which is to leave you to experience. When you r married for at least 10yrs, then we can ve a conversation. Marriage is a journey, those who know, know. Go n ask for the meaning. Bye see u when you are married for 10yrs remember.

doitforyou:
lol if your idea of marriage is to be pummeled on Christmas Day while your child cries for you, then you can save it for the women in your family that will be their portion.

U who knows it all il one day get married and something might happen and u slap ur husband or pour water or tea on him and he decides that he wants a divorce, would you be happy about that? At least from ur own idea he is right to do so. Olodo! Learn from those with experience u so no, that u know more at the end of the day u mess things up with ur I too know. U mentioning my family here shows how inexperienced, myopic and daft that u r. So the olodo clearly defines u. Mumu

Fastestmanalive:
Mr Man who mentioned Messi here

Na me! Wetin wan happen? After all messi's humility trumps Ronaldo's hype, any day any time.

DonFreshmoney:
Ronaldo news on a daily on Nairaland... dwarf fans wont like this at all.. watch as one of the go search for messi news to post here today

I don do am, oya wetin wan happen?

That is y I prefer Messi to Rolando, him own shakara too much Jare!

doitforyou:
You didn’t deserve to get beat up on Christmas Day.

Personally, I believe that anytime violence is introduced in a relationship, the relationship is done. It never happens only once especially when the abuser is not remorseful. It’s even worse that your children are exposed to violence.

If you apologize for being beaten or you entertain his silent treatment you’ve given him a green light for future beatings.

From ur words I know u r not married. So ur advice in this situation il be like a primary school pupil answering a question from a university exam. U go fail woofully so just observe and learn from those with experience.

This one done bleep the Chinese guy die. Feed am better akwa Ibom soup. The Chinese loose concentration.

xendra:
God forbid! I reject men like you in my prayers everyday.

No woman wants to share her man, so it is a common prayer amongst women.

Thank God for u. U r one of the unsung heroes of our time. May God almighty reward u n the Keke man. As long as the family have seen her and she is able to testify to the help u rendered. My bro u r free. Don't be scared God il heal n keep her at least for ur sake. Amen

Hashimyussufamao:
Thank God you have not swore. The school is in Kaduna, right behind my apartment.

Lesson: Never because of stereotype, misjudge people. There are bad eggs everywhere.

Thank you for correcting that stereotyper.

victorian:
God is my witness. I have helped men I have never thought or had interest in dating.
And I gave out money and remove eyes. I didnt pressure any one of them to date, sex or marry me. I did it out of the freewill of my mind and also out of the saying that goes a giver never lacks!

Which is very true.

All my female friends are givers with a heart of gold, likewise me. That's why we feel blessed having each other to count on. And our friendship will grow tight for many many years to come.
God bless all my female friends who have been there for me through thick and thin . God bless you all. Amen.
God bless one male friend I have especially one special one in nairaland , he knows himself, A nairalander too. His name starts with To He has not set his eyes on me before except on video cam and he's a giver. He's based abroad. He's also an angel sent from above. God bless him real good too in Jesus name Amen.

It's good to give and help people. Your good deeds always come back to you in other ways and means.

R u sure?

victorian:
It's true.

I understand where u are coming from.

That's why I'm always reluctant accepting money favours from guys I know I won't date or marry.

If doling out money to me, means u want sex or marriage, and probably I don't find the guy attractive, no chemistry whatsoever. Then it's no use.
Keep your money.

I had an accident with my leg, last year. It was not healing after series of drugs and injections. A guy on my neighbourhood wanted to help me by bringing his own doctor to check my leg and he was ready to pay for everything, with continuous dressing of the wounds but on one condition. He's in love and wants to marry me.

But to me, I see him as a friend, I have no feelings at all for this guy. And I know he's a kind guy but unfortunately I don't see myself waking up everyday seeing his face first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Even when. He wanted to hug me, I felt repulsed. And he notice. Then he said look Vicky, I know I'm not a dashing handsome man and I know I'm not the ugliest man on earth, neither will I be the only man with an ugly face. But please I sincerely love you, lemme help you with this leg.

I was holding back my laugh, as I winced in pains. I sighed and I replied : I cannot marry you. I'm sorry. If you want to help me with this leg, fine but don't expect marriage. He sighed and said he will still help.
His doctor checked my leg and prescribed some expensive drugs to take and dressing thrice a week until it heals. I calculated everything, the money was much. The next day I sent his nurse away And told him not to worry. Cause he's already calling me his wife. Which I don't want to even imagine, how much more to hear it from his lips.

Thank God I have my own money but it wasn't enough at that time , So my dearest Funmi came to my rescue, out of the blues to see me and footed most of the bills, without asking me for sex or marriage or anything. She's a female like me and she's no lesbian. But she paid for everything , even though she's a corper and a nairalander

So that's life. We can't have sex with all our helpers in life!

That is the thing with some guys, If u wan help babe make sure u don't want any reward like sex or friendship. If u know u don't ve the cash to throw away guy stay for ur corner o!

Tribal sentimentalists on Nairaland il not know what to say on this cus no Igbo, Yoruba, Hausa on this issue.

mu2sa2:
If i were a mean person i would have said this guy is igbo, christian and a true son of SE, but i wont say that in order not to sound unfair.

U ve already said it. Y do Nairalanders always go tribalistic when commenting on any issue. And Nairaland is a microcosm of the greater Nigeria. With such sentiments I fear we r not going to move forward in this country. Pls remember Rwanda.

At the end of the day, the parents n her people ve to compromise or else their daughter go old for house. Seh na every woman go marry rich man? OK na make all of them dey wait for rich dude make we see who go laugh last. But this traditional thing depends on village o! Some village in the east with that 200k or even 150k u done marry o! Carry ur wife enter house. Those weh dey wait for white wedding oyinbo still hold them as slaves, cus even when u ve gone to the parents to do what they ask of u traditionally, before God and man u r already married.

Beehshorp:
I rather do 6 yrs change than 8 years of change oo

People who want to give buhari a 3rd term under disguise, spotted!!

That is life! Don't be condescending to anyone no matter their situation or condition cus nobody knows tomorrow.

Nnaabros:
Stop making it seem like Nigerians only indulge in crimes abroad by splashing every negative news on the front page. There are Nigerians engaging in positive activities and exploits around the world.

The impression you're creating in the minds of people at home is that their brethren abroad are all fraudsters.

Focus on the good eggs, not the bad ones.

Help me tell them abeg

Cocao:
My God. How exactly can you justify what you typed up there. There is a place for mind games. This situation is not one of it.

She was slapped so hard that she bled. I mean, what could have possibly been so annoying that the man had to do that?

Stop trying to follow nairaland men to spew trash. Most of them hide under the cloak of anonymity to say what they can't go through with. Stop and think with your brain

U r still single I presume.

gloniks:
Most of these comments are so heartbreaking, seeing also that some of these guys talking are not yet married, I feel so so sorry. Most people think the woman's action of calling her mom and brother was too far, chai, really so she should wait till from a slap it gets to punches and then one day you will beat her blue black till she dies or becomes deformed and then you see her unpresentable as a wife abi.....so her calling her family was too much but your own slap was not too much..... Thank God you said you have a female child imagine her married and her getting a slap from her husband how will you feel

So she was shouting and yelling so that justifies your actions?

you said that was the first time you came back late so I believe she had never seen you coming back that late and you don't think she must have been sick and worried about you with the security issues especially in this festive season?

You were not drunk so where you were with your friends you didn't bother about her maybe to give her a call, you didn't consider her feelings at all?

If she was the one who came back late I am sure that house would have been hot for her, I am sure you would have been soooooo angry infact even if it was just dinner she didn't prepare it wouldn't have been condoned Come to talk more of coming back late I am not judgemental here but I think a slap was too fast


And all majority of the guys here can say is that she shouldn't have yelled or she should have left you in the room or maybe she should have said "bravo my husband for coming back late" and most guys are saying you should leave her alone fine you have done a mistake continue tendering your apologies she will definitely come back that's after you've signed an undertaking never to do such again

but I shake my head for most guys
#egocentric
#violent

soon all of them will say they don't support domestic
violence

Mtcheew

Y r u making a mountain out of a mole hill?the man apologized saying it wasn't intentional. N there is no marriage without it ups n downs, which doesn't translate to domestic violence. OK since the wife is calling her mother n brother now when they ve any slight misunderstanding his wife il call her people, n time il come her mother il tell her when to make love, get pregnant, cook for her home, listen to her husband, or any other thing at least no mother wants to see her daughter suffer. And then I wonder who came to run her mother's home for her when she was younger?

2chukwu:
This reminds me of the day our eldest sister came home in the middle of the night crying that her husband beat the hell out of her...my mum woke me and my younger brother up and was like how could you guys be here and your elder sister will be going through such inhumane treatment.
So my younger brother flared up and I followed suit just to play down the rising tension.
I took the lead and drove straight to the husband house but while In the car I asked my brother
Me: Bros
Him: abeg abeg
Me: what if this marriage scatter now who will marry this our sister with kids and besides we have not heard from the husband. I want you to do me a big favor
Him: what's it
Me: I want you to act on my directives ok pretend from now that nothing happens,let's take this to another level ok.
Him: just make sure you know what you are doing.
Me: sure I got this
So when I got to the house I went in and we both greeted and I told him am not happy with him but we should go out and talk. So we drove to a nearby joint we sat down and talked and he explained everything,the only part I faulted him was raising his arms, which he apologized deeply and promised to make amends which he did.
Today they're with 4th kid
Moral of the story,help your sister in her marriage!!

Guy, if I get the money, I go buy brewery say make them just dey supply u anytime u want. U be man.

LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

Yes he hit her not good, but it wasn't intentional n she caused it. If she had ignored him after showing her annoyance, maybe even had left him in the sitting room, n the next day talked to her husband about him being outside late was not good for his young family, he would have listened to her n said he was sorry. But like most women being extremists, she had to go the whole haul n called her mother n brother. Let her stew in her anger for sometime, u didn't pack her things out by urself, she did it her self. Let her mother n brother marry her for this short time, that her brother is not yet married, I presume so he il not understand. If u keep begging her n she comes back, she il always use her leaving with the baby or calling her mother and brother to threaten u. Just keep quiet since u told her u r sorry. When her papa house done tire her she il be back home.

Demand for a DNA test to know if those kids r urs or not cus in future she can deny that those children are urs.

tyup:
good for her.....she talks to much

besides you don't trust an Ipob lady.....we all know she planned this attack on herself to raise suspicion but we'll just do her the favor of keeping quiet so that those E-warriors would not come and scream hatred

Wetin u smoke?

Kotika:
She cheat on you after all this? No problem. Keep playing the nice and caring guy, tell her how passionate you feel about her, get her into your bed and bang your spending back on her. Keep at it until she starts forming love, then dump the bitch..Thats what girls like this deserve

Guy u get am, he has to get his pay back, cus e no go good make that babe just go like that.

All these ones na olosho na! When the razz guy's money is finished, she is finished with him n it is on to the next razz olodo, weh wan pull big babe. That is how she il keep jumping from one man to another.

simplepee:
Rest in peace girl.

Preek sweet Preek sweet naso this one take go o.Too much of everything is bad.

No be preek kill am na! Na generator fumes abeg. No discourage babes weh wan come collect abeg.

maasoap:
The problem with educated illiterates like you is that you always find it difficult to respect other people's choices and decisions, people who happened to form majority because you always think that your choices and decisions are the best. Go and get a life. How was your life before Buhari became your president? What has changed in your life since Buhari became president? Was it positive or negative change? Just so you know, only you can bring a positive change to your life. Word!

See this one o! Everyone even the rats in the gutters n bush know that Jonathan time was better than this, y do people like u always find a way to speak for a govt everyone knows has failed the people n u come here calling me names to buttress a point u know is lame as at this point in time. People know they fed better in the previous dispensation, even people like Sowore can attest to that dispensation bn better than this. N u come here running u mouth to defend that, that everyone knows has failed. I pity Nigerians like u, with people like u I don't think we il move forward in this country cus u keep defending that which favors you with lies even as millions r suffering.