Teeklef:

My aunt gave birth to 3 big boys,her husband was never at the naming of the 3 boys. Alaye has been in the UK for over a decade,the guy go just come home,nack my aunty and go back😂😂😂.
But they are all together in the UK right now.

She was patient for a real man 🫡
It happens a lot in fact, too often

JasonScoolari:
From France....

Imagine been absent at your own child's naming ceremony or your daughters traditional marriage while you're alive.

And in life, it has happened before countless times, its an unnecessary comparison

ExudeLoveToAll:


This is small compared to what guys experience, it's really a bad habit. Responsibility is being thrown out of the window.

Wetin guys dey experience?

Even ugly girls dey suffer toasting right from their teenage years till their 50s oh

MSN1:
Just few moments before we mark a new year, it is pertinent for us to eradicate this stupidity from our lives.
When we complain of entitlement mentality, it doesn't mean we are complaining about what is at stake, rather it is a means of restoring sanity and gratitude to humanity.

Giving or doing good is something that is very rare, because it takes a kind heart to release.
I have seen alot of people that has millions but can never give u 1k, even if u are dying, they will say; E NOR DEY. While we have very rare souls that can even borrow or give u their last card.
Its ONLY a fool that thinks kind people are foolish.

☆My encounter with two entitled girls yesterday and just now.

Yesterday, i decided to check on a chick which i have been having interest in for sometime now.
When i got there, what the family were eating was pitifully bad. Soup that looks like water with little or no fish, so i invited her over to my place because i bought rice amd meat for my supper.
When we got home, we ate together, u could see how she was feeling relieved on the sight of something good in her stomach.
After eating, i brought Predator and Gordon Gin + 2 glasses, she refused to take alcohol and i expected her to take predator and i open both drinks and started cooling off, immediately, she collected the predator, saying; She would take it along, i declined and asked her to use the glass because i would need the rest after sipping my gin, instantly, she said; if i refuse her the whole bottle, she won't take.
I simply said; Ok and emptied everything, after sometime, she left angrily, to me, wetin consign me and this mumu.

So today, i was at home all through and i decided to come out to eat, on my way going, i saw a teenage girl, she greeted and requested i buy candle for her. I told her no probs. that she should wait till after i finish eating. After eating, i checked her but she was not around. I proceed to my fav. spot to take a little gin b4 going to church.
After buying my stuff, i bought 2 candles, with the hope to use 1 and give her the other.
As i was chilling, she came in, to get candle o, but she saw me accidentally.
I gave her one candle, could you believe this little teenager told me, the candle is too small, that i must buy the big one before she accepts it. I simply told her; THANK U and that was all , she left when she noticed i wasn't even listening to her noise.

NOW THIS IS THE DEAL;
How can a reasonable person tell or control u on how u should help them, when we have millions of people that would say No, EVEN IN MIDST OF PLENTY?

A lot of entitlement in women are caused by guys.
Most can't approach ladies, so they use money and foolish kindness to get the cookie, little did they know; They are creating a foolish mindset in ladies.

THIS MINDSET SHOULD AND MUST STOP, IF U NOTICE ANY ENTITLEMENT IN ANYONE, SHUN IT, EVEN IF ITS #20 INVOLVED.
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THAT WAY, SANITY AND GRATITUDE WOULD BE RESTORED IN THE SOCIETY.

Thanks.
☆Wish u and your household a blissful, fruitful and Prosperous year ahead, coupled with sound health🙏

There's a lot of entitlement mentality around, in various forms

You're right ✅️

Once one comes off age as a lady or makes a little money, omo! People will be lining up, requesting things from you like mad

Guys will be asking you out like they own your body or something

Tjra:
For me, no more tribal/ethnic bashing on Nairaland.

Come 2024

No more compensating guys for having anything romantic or sexual to do with me

So help me God! 🙏🙏

Please oh
Someone should do another post posting sinking cities that disappeared in the last 30 years

IyaTola:
Social Media has ruined marriages

Ofcourse, social media can play an important factor to ruin a marriage life.

It depends on how much you both (husband and wife) reveal your information, your relationship status.

Imagine a newly wed couple who got married recently. And after few days that woman is uploading some pics with her friends who are boys. If the husband is an understanding one, he won't doubt but for contradictory if he didn't believe his wife he 'll start asking who's he? Why Ur uploading your pic with him?

Imagine one of these friends was her ex-bf. Then what will happen next? The husband will start investigating about her past… then they 'll fight which might sometimes lead to an extend like divorce.

Nowadays married couples even post their honeymoon pics, and some intimate one. The main thing is they want to show off they got a beautiful girl as wife/ an handsome boy.

Live your life happily and peacefully without posting your personal or unappropriate information once you got hitched.

Live your life in reality then showing off virtually to the world.

Thanks for reading .

You've missed the point completely 😟

Akinfemmy:


Is that what you deduce from what i wrote?

Well, if that's how you see it. I don't force anything. My life is too simple.

Your life is too simple, you give up at every hurdle

It's probably why you don't make money

fineberry:
Do this men know you're into hook-up? Having said that.... you're:

You're a nercisist nd rude.
You lack unforgiving spirit
You feel the world revolve around you.

To say but a few.

You didn't read the post

I said "I tell some, I keep it secret from others"

Do you know the meaning of narcissist?

I don't know why I'm wasting my response on you

flokii:


I insist that hookup or ashaw0 profession.. whichever one you choose to call it is by choice. There are ladies roasting corn, some painting houses, etc. who don't sell their bodies for money.

There is something called KARMA and it is very real.. Most of the hookup girls don't end well, most never even settle down atal cos they have lost every form of decorum and sanity it takes to live responsibly among reasonable human beings.
That OP is just a walking disaster waiting to happen to any unfortunate man that ends up with her.

The ladies that didn't go into hookup and still ended up single, Where's their karma from?

Thonyb:


https://.ng/2023/09/01/i-removed-my-fathers-private-part-for-money-ritual-20-year-old-boy-confesses-in-ogun/

Oh God please 🙏 I can't have stupid children 😭
Please oh

Akinfemmy:


Well, i maintain relationships not control people. If they want to leave they're always free. It's a relationship not slavery.

So aside money problems, you give up easily too

linearity:


Can you please, mention one guy that have knowingly married a hookup lady or ashawo.

Just one, after then we can go and compare their net-worth with that of the average citizen.

Don't be ignorant oh

Akinfemmy:


Money 💰

Then you're not good at maintaining them 😕

linearity:


Lack of money truly reduces people’s choices, options and appetite.

Imagine my G glamouring to date a confirmed and confessed hookup lady, she never even promise say she go change, you wan jump enter!

Poverty is a baster and I pray the good Lord would bless your huzzle so you can think and see clearly in making life altering decisions…🙏

All the guys that have knowingly married hookup ladies and ashawo are all broke in your mind na

Akinfemmy:
I'll date you . I'm quite good at maintaining relationships


But


I don't have money. oo.

You're good at maintaining relationships, why don't you have one you're maintaining at the moment?

NwekeUG:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DS0PrdVIHwg

It Takes Some Level Of Stupidity To Remain Married - Nigerian Man Married For 38 Years (Video)



https://www.instagram.com/reel/CwmrIO_NVfZ/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

What are the things to manage and endure?

And what are the things to say a firm NO to?

Persephone1:
I don't know how a grown up will wake up early in the morning and would pick advising single women as a quest of all problems of the world and Nigeria specifically. Small-mindedness or boredom?

Na ignorance dey do u so

Wodu89:



Tone down on this :


I just don't take nonsense and belittling statements or behaviour from anyone

I'm based in Delta state



Your heightened sense of judgement. Become flexible. Ughelli girl. Reduce expectations in and on people. Accept people's imperfections, reduce reacting in the moment. Sometimes leave some issues to time to resolve and do not act or react with impulsiveness. Work on these things and see how you can make some tweaks and make your life significantly happier

Thank you very much for the advise, but from my own experience, people tend to continue those annoying traits, even when you complain and respectfully ask them to avoid it

Should I just be cool with rudeness in patience?

Wodu89:



This statement means you haven't dug dig to understand your situation. You never meet who fit hold you for hand show you your condition spiritually and exponentially so you dig way dig beneath the surface. Ah. My dear you better start the Waka now

What does show you your condition "exponentially" even mean?

Empty threats!

Vijuchoco:

Yeah, it happens..
Don't worry, a lasting one will come.
For the hook up, just stop it already, it could be the source of badluck.

I'm going to quit soon

Thanks sis

Sonnobax15:

This one never ready to surrender at alllllllll.....


One thing every soul must learn before going into any relationship is that understanding is the key......

Once understanding don dey inside relationship, you'd be surprised that such relationship will definitely be surviving different kind of bombs that'd likely end every other relationship...

And it seems this op doesn't only lack understanding but once patience and the tendency to see beyond hook-up-ism..

You're chatting about something trivial with someone, then they start hauling insults at you over something you said

You took the reigns and made a call immediately to find out if it was some kind of joke, and hear "what do you want?"

As a non hookuper, what will be your response?

StPete:
You have to manage your anger issues. If you’re looking to get married, a great deal depends on your attitude. Never be too quick to write off an individual as no one is perfect. BTW, what state are you in?

How exactly do "anger issues" show?
Because, I honestly feel I don't have anger issues
I just don't take nonsense and belittling statements or behaviour from anyone

I'm based in Delta state

Postinor:
Ashawo,u are not worth the time and attention,ur only worth is to be bleeped and dumped away

Some ashawo are doing better than you oh

Even non-ashawo ladies get dumped

flokii:
You do hookups for money despite having a shop.. you're not a responsible person and no serious man will want anything doing with a hookup lady.

The hookup opened the shop for me, so no regrets there

Even the guys that weren't aware, we still broke up very quickly

I'm almost 30
From time to time, I engage in hookups for money
I also have a small shop
I'm a graduate, and I look decent

I'd love to raise a mixed race family

Now, I get into relationships with Nigerian guys every now and then, sometimes I keep what I do for money a secret from them, sometimes I open up to the ones I feel are more mature and understanding

But I've noticed that none of these relationships ever last beyond 8 months, never!
I can get offended and just turn my back on any guy

Most recently, I was chatting with a new lover, after less than 2 months of meeting, discussing something very trivial, I was trying to make a point and hit a nerve for him, he started cussing, I called him immediately to be sure he was joking, his first statement was "what do you want?"

In less than 60 seconds, i ended the call, blocked all his lines and
blocked him on all social media platforms.

New relationship gone!

Sometimes, I console myself that they weren't high quality individuals, sometimes I chastise myself for giving up too early on them.

Is it because I don't see a solid future with these guys bearing in mind I want to have a mixed family?

Or am I supposed to get that feeling that I'm going to have a future with a guy during the relationship

I'm confused honestly

bdsm:
Oga in what way am I derailing? U derailed by throwing insult. If u don't know the meaning of Bdsm u should ask politely.

🙄🙄

bdsm:
Your insult shows u are a kid. Hmm. So u can't chat without throwing insults?

stop derailing, show me where the insult is

Google bdsm in your spare time
Don't embarrass yourself publicly

TERMlNATOR:
Op goan make money.
Na poverty dey give u this kind fantassy.

I don't think you have more money than me oh

Na poor person hunger dey off e fantasy
Poor person know "bdsm"?
Who e wan bondage? 😆 oga relax

TimT:
lol

Dey there dey lol 😆
Potential bisexual, come and join our bisexual whatsapp group ☺️

bdsm:
All these things u listed are under Bdsm. Your monicker gave u away. Pls help me hustle Bdsm girls in Ughelli before I arrive in December.

You know the meaning of bdsm?
Learn to read and write before the end of 2025 oh 🙏

TimT:
1,6, 7,10.... that number 8, my eye no clear when e happen... Highness...

But u like am small 😆