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Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 1:39am On Sep 11, 2009
THE AMAKA:

well the majority of them are. i mean probably more than 95% of them are.
Ibo is the name of the people Igbo is the name of the language.
but i dont know if its true, but i think the british gave us the name "Ibo" or maybe not.
but i say Igbo when i talk about the people and the language. its not wrong if you use Igbo both ways, a lot of people do.

IGBO BAYBEEEEEEE!! lol

Very Interesting and coincidental; listen:  In my country there is a tribe called Kpelle (pronounced kpehl-leh).  When the Western missionaries entered that part of the country they could not pronounced the "kp" sound since they did not have it in English, so the "k" was assimilated in their pronounciation.  Kpelle became "Pelle".   No sooner "Pelle" was the word used in the history books etc.  But the people continued to use the word Kpelle.  Westerners have difficuty pronouncing the diagraphs: gb, kp, etc.  No wonder it was easier to pronounce Ibo instead of Igbo.  Hope I did not bore you with my lecture in phonetics lol
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 1:24am On Sep 11, 2009
Yumi:

If you want to get to know her you open up to her be honest and as she begins to trust you she will do the same in return. If shes a professional career woman you can do other things, send a nice dress down for her. Not an expensive one just a nice one or perfume or something. Not something expensive but thoughtful if she likes music find the artist she likes and send her a cd or something. Things that show you listen and pay attention to her detail and are really interested in knowing her.

Openess and honesty you say; then I have nothing to worry about because I am a straight shooter.  Your pieces of advice have got me thinking about some observations I made about her during her visit.   Certainly only a woman knows the heart of a woman.  Gee! you are so very right.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 1:02am On Sep 11, 2009
@Yumi
Thanks for the tip off Yumi, however I am trying to get to know this woman. I hope to find out a little more about her and I will also give her the opportunity to know me too. I'll watch out for that -- by the way she is a professional (career woman) and no longer a student.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 12:55am On Sep 11, 2009
Is it true that almost all Ibos ( by the way what is the difference between Ibo and Igbo?) are Christians ? I hear they are very, very,  religious.  
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 12:47am On Sep 11, 2009
Frank 3.16 there you have it o. by the way THE AMAKA is Imo State an Ibo state? Just wonderin
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 7:42pm On Sep 10, 2009
Do not keep the gentleman waiting THE AMAKA. Answer
Religion / Re: Is There A Need For Pastors To Have A Sound Biblical And Theological Education? by Equipper: 7:39pm On Sep 10, 2009
@abose

I couldn't agree with you more abose shocked Why do you think these ministers do not teach the fundamentals of the Christian faith? There might be several reasons but ignorance of the Scriptures should not be outruled.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 4:36pm On Sep 10, 2009
@UJUJOAN
Maybe it is spiritual, psychical (or I must have been a Nigerian in my past life LOL)
Religion / Re: Is There A Need For Pastors To Have A Sound Biblical And Theological Education? by Equipper: 4:29pm On Sep 10, 2009
Krayola2:

I've read soooo much about Paul, any more and I'll have to change my last name to Paul. I'm not sayin he was a fake. . . .I'm saying he wasn't perfect.

We need to stop deifying human beings. We can revere them without pretending they are without fault. That is one of the problems with the way religions evolve. We start to treat one man`s perspective as the be all and end all of everything, and then there isn`t much room for growth. Just my opinion.

I quite agree with you there; however even the apostle Paul did not consider himself perfect in any sense of the word.  His claims: (see Philippians 3:12,13 as well as Romans 7); he went on to declare that he was what he was by the grace of God.  No one is his/her right frame of mind, or have an read the book of Acts would deify Paul since he even rejected same in the book of Acts (Acts 14:8-15). 

Well said Krayola2.  However the main issue at stake concerns these pastors who have no form of training whatsoever and stand to teach God's people what they have not learned themselves.
Religion / Re: Is There A Need For Pastors To Have A Sound Biblical And Theological Education? by Equipper: 3:21pm On Sep 10, 2009
KunleOshob:

@Krayola2
If you read about Paul's past when he was a jewish persecutor of chrisitans and his travails as an Apostle you would realise that the man could ot have been fake. I studied his writtings critically and i am certain that the man must have been truely called and divinely inspired.

A brother like you who has cultivated the habit of critical study will always pose a threat to these pastors who have nothing to offer God's people beside "God tole me".  I do not see how anyone could possibly question Paul's credentials as a divniely called individual.

Our problem is the lack of sound Biblical teachings in our churches.  Why is this the case?  The men/women (if the men will give the women chance) in our pulpits do not qualify as teachers-- they are simply ignorant of God's Word.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 3:10pm On Sep 10, 2009
frank3.16:

@poster, re-read the subject of your post and u will understand why u are getting the sort of replies you are getting.

Amaka, please you claim u dont know anything about Nigeria, but instead if keeping quite and let people who know more about the country talk, u are busy forming knowing it all.


@poster enuf of Nigerian chiks, lets talk about Liberian chiks. Tell us more about them, i heard they are pretty, sexy, and they will love you for who u are and not what u've got.

i know most nairaland guys wont mind trade by bater. Give on just one of your sisters and we will deliver you ten better samples of your lagos girlfriend.


There are quite a number of Nigerian men married to (some shackng up wth) Liberian women. I know a chap who was an oficer in the Nigerian military; after his tour of duty, returned to Liberia and married the woman he was courting. He has a thriving business in Monrovia and they are doing very well.

I just have this bias towards Nigerian women. I cannot explain it nor can I excape it.
Religion / Re: Is There A Need For Pastors To Have A Sound Biblical And Theological Education? by Equipper: 2:58pm On Sep 10, 2009
KunleOshob:

But our highly reverred daddy G.O claims he as one on one conversations with God shocked are you saying we should start running from him

That is the essence of being a child of God. It is called "cummuning with your heavenly Father." It is only sad that these "highly reverred daddies" do not teach that this is normal instead they exalt this exercise called prayer and mystify it. That way you get to believe anything they tell you as from the Lord. The same thing happened in the early history of the church when church leaders kept the Bilbe hidden from the public/ congregation; only priests were allowed to read the Bible and tell the people "thus says the Lord". It is called "control".
Religion / Re: Is There A Need For Pastors To Have A Sound Biblical And Theological Education? by Equipper: 2:46pm On Sep 10, 2009
Krayola2:

How/why is Paul's "God told me" different from anybody else's?

Let me be clear about one thing,  there are genuine, and gifted individuals who have been endowed with such gifts of the Spirit.  But isn't it strange that almost every pastor you meet operates as a prophet?  I think it would be completely presumtious of anyone to compare the apostle Paul with some of our pastors around today.  When Paul opened his mouth to speak, or when he wrote a letter, his words and letters became "Holy Writ" period. cry cry cry :'  YOU CANNOT ARGUE WITH THAT, CAN YOU?(
Religion / Re: Is There A Need For Pastors To Have A Sound Biblical And Theological Education? by Equipper: 2:26pm On Sep 10, 2009
abose:

Anytime you hear "God told me" from a preacher/pastor, RUN!

Most of the charismatic/pentecostal preachers/pastors we see today are in it for the money, they are doing this because they couldn't find jobs or cut it in other areas or just because this is more lucrative with no accountability whatsoever. I am skeptical of a whole bunch of them for good reason.

That is soooooo true; this "God told me" syndrone. Every pentecostal pastor has now become a prophet of some kind -- foretelling people this, that or the other. This is a classic example of the pastor who has nothing solid to teach God's people; therefore the "God told me" or the "Holy Spirit revealed to me" cpmpensate for their lack of the knowledge of the Word. It is so sad.
Religion / Re: Is There A Need For Pastors To Have A Sound Biblical And Theological Education? by Equipper: 2:04pm On Sep 10, 2009
KunleOshob:

again motive and understanding matters, in my opinion most pastors don't even understand the true essence of the gospel of Christ as it is hardly ever mentioned or emphasized in churches talkless of practicalizing it. As pastor AIO implied, the gospel cannot be that complicated as the disciples that preserved it and were commissioned to preach it by christ were mostly illirate or with limited educational background with the exception of Paul who was a lawyer.

No wonder the Lord used Paul to write more than half of the New Testament due to his education as a Jewish scholar.  It was this cultivated mind that God used to grant us an understanding of God's purpose for humanity from the foundation of the world. 

If you think that training should not be formal you need to rethink your stance.  Consider the the interpretation of Scriptures:  There are principles governing the interpretation of any literary document of historical significance.  These principles have become a literary science called Hermeneutics.  If a man has not studied Hermeneutics, you'll be surprised at how erroneously he would interpret the Bible.  I have heard a pastor teach that the fruit that Eve ate in the Garden of Eden was "sex" grin grin
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 8:13am On Sep 10, 2009
The African culture comprises many diverse strands harmoniously woven together into a beautiful tapestry with its own peculiar features.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 8:03am On Sep 10, 2009
SO TRUE
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 7:52am On Sep 10, 2009
Well, I thought they said "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder?"
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 7:41am On Sep 10, 2009
My father told me many years ago "If the mother of a girl you're in love with doesn't like you, that relationship will be subjected to trauma and will eventually suffer a miscarriage."  I  Guess the pops understood the powerful influence of a mother over her daughter.  lol
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 7:30am On Sep 10, 2009
THE AMAKA:

i guess, whatever you do.
i dont think it works that way where im from.

you go pay =N=750,000 before you even think about stepping into my village to do anything.
grin grin grin

Is it true that in a particular tribe in Nigeria the bride price (dowry) is set propotionately to the educational level of the bride?  This means the more educated the bride the higher the bride price.  Is this true?  A good topic for another thread,
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 7:22am On Sep 10, 2009
C2H5OH:

Buy her recharge cards dude.

If she keeps refusing your advances despite this, find out who her mother is.

Send her mother 10 recharge cards in an envelope. Include your picture % phone number in the envelope, and let her know that you are the man asking for her daughter's hand in marriage. Leave the rest to mama to complete the task. smiley Thank me later.

Marriage!!!  I think you are reading too much too soon into this situation. That was supersonic man!
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 7:09am On Sep 10, 2009
THE AMAKA:

nigeria especially lagos is crazy.
maybe its best that you not take pictures, in public places.

Thanks for the tip off.  When was the last time you visited Lagos?  Just curious oooo
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 6:37am On Sep 10, 2009
honeric01:

Good luck, your heart desires will be met, Once more good luck lover boy. By the way, don't forget to come with your camera so that you can take pictures of how far Lagos has changed from the dirty city people knew Lagos for to a fast rising mega city. Maybe you could sell the pics to the clueless CNN. LOL

I was informed that using a camera in Lagos is an invitation to the bad guys. I was also told that taking pictures of government buildings could get me arrested or detained by the police.  Could you confirm any of this?
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 5:28am On Sep 10, 2009
topup:

Man, I really hope this woman is fantastic. You seem like a smart guy, I hope you have judged well, and I sincerely hope that what drew you to her is still there, that she does not change, and if so, she does for the better.

Hopefully you are genuine, I get the feeling you are, and so I wish you all the best.

Nigeria is a wonderful place if you are equipped with the knowledge to deal with a place like it, wisdom, courage and a sense of humour (and some money), would help you to adjust well.

Please keep us updated, I always like to follow a success story smiley.

Yes ooo. I don't know whether to call you my guy or lady. When I return by the grace of God I will give you guys a gist of "how I pass".
Religion / Is There A Need For Pastors To Have A Sound Biblical And Theological Education? by Equipper: 4:52am On Sep 10, 2009
It is sad but true that when you consider how some ministers of the gospel handle the Holy Scriptures from their pulpits, administer the affairs of their churches, respond to social and other societal problems, it becomes glaringly evident that some of these people need have an educational upgrade in Biblical and Theological disciplines.   This is particularly true amongst charismatic/pentecostal ministers who think that getting theological training is a waste of time since they have the Holy Spirit to teach them.  Consider your various church contexts and tell us: Should pastors get biblical and theological training?  Does such education obviate the ministry of the Holy Spirit in any way?  Have your say  
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 4:46am On Sep 10, 2009
I am not going over there primarily to see that woman; come on. I have decided to spend the holidays in that country because like I said I just love Nigeria. I also intend to visit Benin city and I wouldn't leave Nigeria if I did not visit Abuja too. However if I get to Lagos I intend to find the woman and see what happens. I wear African attires a lot and hope to furnish my wardrobe with the real deal ( kinda expensive over here.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 4:22am On Sep 10, 2009
THE AMAKA:

okay i think what is best for you to do is find out who she is, see her, and really get to know her.
i don't see why people think money is the issue now.
isn't that something to worry about when you are about to SETTLE DOWN?
just take a chance, i mean why not?

I completely agree with you yet I do not want to be dismissive of the views of others who see things from a totally different perspective; after all our experiences usually color the way we perceive things. If a guy has been shot in the heart by a woman because his pocket book wasn't singing, he most certainly would make sure fix that the next time. On the other hand I ask myself if this mindset is culturally induced. I just don't know; but I guess the sisters have to speak truth to the situation.

By the way let me ask you this: How much will it cost to live in Lagos for three weeks to a month ( hotel, feeding, transport, the whole nine yards)?
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 12:41am On Sep 10, 2009
I suggest that the need for security is a fundamental need in the woman.  Certainly, countless women have given their hands in marriage to men because they could fulfill their security needs (after all she wants to be secure).   But after a while in such relationships she finds true love outside of her matrimonial home (where she has everything money can buy).  Our societies are replete with such stories.  Your money can fulfill her every material need without touching her at the core of her being.  That inner sanctuary of a woman is the spiritual citadel where her love abides.  A woman can give you her body without surrendering her heart to you; your money notwithstanding.  

I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE OGA.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 12:13am On Sep 10, 2009
Magz:

I also have to reject the notion that love has nothing to do with it. Our number one primary biological function as human beings is to survive long enough to reproduce and continue the species. Because of this, it is only human nature for a woman to desire a man who is the most equipped as a provider. The degree of a man's capability to provide for and take care of a woman will always weigh in. It definitely matters. I'm not saying that a poor man cannot win any woman's heart. I'm just saying that a wealthy man is able to allocate more resources that will aid him, and therefore he has one certain advantage, ,

It is evident that we are on the same page but on different paragraphs of that page.  Speaking about a "man's capability to provide for and take care of a woman"( his wife) is the true essence of the nature of the man's rresponsibility-- that is the essence of true manhood.  But that is not to say that this is the basis for love.  Such a conclusion reveals a fundamental misunderstanding love.  Having money gives you the power to exert power and influence over all kinds of women, but such is not the  context or fertile soil  in which true love is nurtured.  There is a fear that the wealthy have: they are very conscious that their partners (or future partners)would love them for 'who they are and not for what they have'.  The reason for this is clear; they know the incredible influence money weilds. Meet a lady and start your spending spree and watch how many times a day she will call you.  Do you think she is doing that because she really cares about or truly loves you?  Be true to yourself.  
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 8:49pm On Sep 09, 2009
@Frank 3.16      I perceive that your realism has been colored by either your personal experience or your preception of the society in which you live.  In any event I respect your analysis of the male-female social interactions in your society.  However, there is an underlying misunderstanding of my position.  When I say that "money is not synonymous with love" I simply mean that you can use money to get a woman to do anything you want her to do, yet she may not do so because she loves you but because you fulfill her fancies.Haven't we seen the wives or girlfriends of very rich men who have their secret and true love?  So while money can be used to in your words "paint the relationship" it does not and has never in all of human history produced true love.  True love is spiritual and is a matter of the heart.  It is true love that will force an heir apparent to reject the throne with its glory to be with the woman he loves.  I am sure you will agree with me that we can spend money to have fun with any woman you desire; but mark my words your marriage will cause you great pain and bitter regrets if you woo your wife on the basis of your pocket book. Why?? Because it is the "love of money" and not the love of the man with the money that is the foundation of the marriage.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 7:47pm On Sep 09, 2009
My man the issue of wealth is not a factor in the equation of love.  I'm just a level headed guy who tries by God's grace to hold on to the values that were passed on to me by my forbears, as well as those that I gleaned along the pathways of life.  THE AMAKA is a perceptive and smart individual.
Romance / Re: What Must I, A Non Nigerian Do To Woo A Lagos Lady. by Equipper: 5:28pm On Sep 09, 2009
Hi Equipper,

I must say that you sound like such a sweet guy. I wish 'my' guy was on a forum this very same moment asking for advice to win me over.

Firstly, it helps to be successful in what you do and good looking. However, contrary to what some people might say on this forum, Nigerian girls are smarter than that, a lot of us know that a true catch doesn't always look like the typical candidate.

For your sake I hope she really likes you too and has no problem with really being serious with a non-Nigerian man.

To win her affection, I think you should stay true to yourself, what drew her to you, if it was her great personality then you must be more conscious about also being a great person to be around.

Of course you can serenade her with gifts, but you don't want her to get into the habit of thinking that because you're out of sight the only way she'll remember you is through your gifts. Have faith in yourself.

I wonder wherher you are travelling to Lagos just to see her, if you are, it is very important not to raise your expectations too much, life is never the fairytale you expect it to be. See this as an opportunity to experience her true self, herself at home.

Don't spend too much on wooing her, because associating your love with your money can lead the romance down the wrong route.

I really hope that she is at least a sincere girl and that she is worth all this wohala (trouble).

All the best and keep us updated .



The Book says: "Wisdon is justified in her children" -- I mean you speak like an elder.  Really appreciate your wisdom.  Your guy is blessed to have someone with such depth of insight.  God bless you

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