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Well most car Hire in 9ja comes with driver and u cant have the car to stay at your place,u should try Avis if they do that , or better still buy a mini golf 1 for the run around, save cost.

800k will go for any serious buyer, pending its a 1.6 engine.so Make una rush am!!!

The following are some “gap examples”



Appreciation/Affection Gap

A husband no longer gives his wife attention nor makes her feel special.
She has gained some weight over the years.
She is the maid, the cook, the sex object, mother, and feels taken for granted
Her husband rarely pays her a compliment or makes an effort infuse romance into their relationship by showing her his appreciation with a night out on the town, flowers, cards, or even giving her a hug or kiss out of the blue.

One day she is at work, church, or at the grocery store and a man sincerely compliments her. Overtime a friendship develops and this man begins to fill in the gaps by being attentive to her needs, listening to her, and eventually “one thing leads to another”.

Sexual Gap

A woman is an excellent mother, a wonderful companion, and is loved by everyone who knows her.
However she has a low sex drive, rarely initiates sex, and does not perform MouthAction nor is she open to experimenting with fantasies be it unique locations to make love or wearing sexy underwear.
Her husband meanwhile secretly wishes for a passionate relationship with his wife but past conversations have produced little to no results.
He knows he has good wife and doesn’t want to trade her in for anything however he is dreadfully bored.
One day he is patrolling some internet sites where women are openly stating they are looking for casual sexual encounters, or he is going to happy hours after work, attending a company Christmas party, traveling out of town with a female business associate…etc
Eventually he meets a woman who is nothing like his wife.
In short she is a sexual freak who does it all and wants it all with no strings attached.
The husband now feels he has the best of both worlds.

I personally knew of one man who secretly paid prostitutes for MouthAction on a weekly basis because his wife would not perform it on him.

There are other times when “sexual gaps” have nothing to do with frequency of sex or even the willingness of a partner to participate in various activities.

A woman marries a man who is financially secure; he is intelligent, responsible, handsome, and very generous and sincerely dedicated to making her happy.
However she is rarely able to reach orgasm with him regardless of his efforts.
It may be his penis size, lack of raw passion in his approach, or simply there is no chemistry or sparks.
She often fantasizes about a hot & torrid relationship she had with a man from her past that rocked her world but he lacked every other component to make a lasting loving relationship.

One day she bumps into him at a grocery store or while visiting a mutual friend.
Their eyes connect and it’s apparent for both of them that the sparks are still there.
He walks her to her car and “one thing leads to another”

Another version of this same story is she meets a stranger who turns her on or he is a co-worker that has appeared in her fantasies and an opportunity presents itself.

Lastly there is the “Something New” sexual gap.

Femi and Rolake have been married for five years.
Rolake does everything Femi wants in bed and rarely turns him down.
Outside of the bedroom she has a solid career and is loved and respected by everyone.
Just as in the earlier example she is an excellent homemaker, fantastic cook, in addition she very intelligent, adventurous, and works out to keep her body toned.
And yet Femi has secretly been cheating on Rolake for all five years!
He knows he has a great thing but his urge for “new adventures” motivates his cheating.
In his mind there is no substitute for “something new” or more importantly
“Someone new”.
Femi is not interested in having “an affair” he wants to have his anchor at home while he seduces and sleeps with as many women of various races, ages, sizes, shapes, as often as possible. Femi is essentially a married playboy.
Men like Femi are usually considered handsome, have a magnetic personality, great sense of humor, and flirt constantly.
Both men and women consider him fun to be around.
In fact in most instances Femi doesn’t bother with hiding the fact that he is married.
Women gravitate to him despite knowing he isn’t suitable mate.
As the song goes.

What is cheating?

The best answer I have ever heard to define cheating came from an Older Lady sometimes ago
She said, “If you are saying or doing something with someone that you would not say or do if your spouse or partner were sitting next to you then you are cheating.” People, who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.

In essence cheating is having a secret relationship or participating in secret activities with someone that your partner would not approve of.The key word is “secret”.The cheater doesn’t want his/her mate to know what they are doing.

Filling In The Gaps

One of the most common questions asked of cheaters is why didn’t they just leave their mate before pursuing another relationship?

As you will see the reasons vary from person to person.
One common theme seems to be that cheaters often appreciate many aspects of their present relationship and they are simply looking to “fill in the missing gap”

It seize to amaze me how people crucifix others,Just wait till he is back after 1 month and try talking to Him and Be sure its a heart to heart one.an advice for other ladies,stick to your guns,wenti concern una with intercontinental Ballistic Missles, The Bobo go arrange investment for 9ja period!!!

Just about everyone I know of has cheated or betrayed someone who was under the impression that you would not be intimate with anyone other then them.
I'm doing a little research on this subject and would like to know the circumstances that led you to cheat!

We live in an age where cheating is more prevalent than ever before thanks in part to internet dating sites, working long hours with the opposite sex, a pop culture that down plays the significance of being monogamous and in fact encourages people to cheat by describing the thrill of it all in songs, movies, and magazine articles.
We don’t hold cheating against icons such as John F. Kennedy,
Martin Luther King, Bill Clinton, Michael Jordan, or Brad Pitt.
In fact most of us know someone who is cheating or has cheated on someone and we still remain close trusted friends with him or her. In fact many of us have cheated ourselves.
The only time cheating really upsets us is when we have been cheated on.

Cheating is one of those things that most of us have one definition for when we are engaged in secret activity and another definition for it when it’s our partner that is engaged in the same activity.

I'm not out to judge anyone after all I too have cheated.
I just want to get as many reasons why other people have done it.
Besides answering the big WHY question I would be curious to know if you got caught and if so did your primary relationship end.

older women seem to have been more nurturing as a whole. they have a certain sexual wisdom that tends to my needs as a whole. mothers have this trait too. younger girls, are mostly overgrown teenie boppers and wanna be(and real) party animals and for me thats not hot anymore. older women also seem to cut to the chase or act like they know what they want and it is just easier to deal with them. the bad thing is that as younger men they view us as what we are, Hot young men, but most dont accept the fact that we appreciate the qualities that make them so attractive, or that they should get with us because their men are old dogs and the new dogs are moving in!!!!

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adconline ,well said.

I always used to have older girlfriends , so I'd like to give you my opinions

1-Sometimes younger girls are less deep-thinkin than older women, in an older woman you can always find a true confident,
2-Older women know better how the male race thinks! they are hotter(they know a lot about sex, they are more perverted in comparason with the younger counterpart) and they never feel that sex is a sort of "abusing act" of the males, simply older women understand better our needs,
3-They got a story to tell, experiences to narrate, sometimes we have ravenous appetite for life!
4-They are sometimes more sexy, better dressed, they got gentle and inspiring curves,
5- Simply it depends on tastes, but it's pretty common that a young boy starts a flirt with an older, and that a older man is focusing his preferences on a young maiden,

wrong tunes, what makes u think the next person wont be the real Devil,u people dont get it,its the 20 08 folks no guy wants to be tied down when there isnt anything feasible at the end of the tunnel.Girl friend try and be enterprenur and keep your guy,he will want u at all cost when u better yourself,its not abt finding the right person,its abt being the right person, nothing bad if girl bring roller coaster also.plsssssssssssssssssssss

please let us be  pratical and very realistic when we give people advice on here,there is nothiing wrong with the guy,see my dear, relationship is about giving and taken,ask yourself what have i really given into this relationship? Most girls think they give more in a relationship just cause they sleeping with you   but to me  one of the biggest problem with our women is financial weakness,always wanting to relax and allow the bobo do the killings and feeding, come on, this 20 08.i will be turned off by a girl who talk to me abt marriage when there are a lot of $$$ to share and make together,believe me strengthen your relationship and inspire him and marriage will come freely.my own 50 cent!!!

please let us be pratical and very realistic when we give people advice on here,there is nothiing wrong with the guy,see my dear, relationship is about giving and taken,ask yourself what have i really given into this relationship? Most girls think they give more in a relationship just cause they sleeping with you but to me one of the biggest problem with our women is financial weakness,always wanting to relax and allow the bobo do the killings and feeding, come on, this 20 08.i will be turned off by a girl who talk to me abt marriage when there are a lot of $$$ to share and make together,believe me strengthen your relationship and inspire him and marriage will come freely.my own 50 cent!!!

Florency

this is just a thread to share ideas,experience and not raise questions on other people believe and ways.there is freedom to associate with who ever you want.some of us just like them older.

Older women are less timid about sex and intimicy. They know what they want and seem more open to trying new thing which keeps it more interesting longer. There not into playing games like many younger women are. The come here, come here , oh get away, oh get away game get old very soon. Older women have been there and done that and are more relaxed about it which helps a great deal to reduce the stress level.
Older ladies are more caring and understand, they know the importance of pleasing there partners better. They are willing to go the extra effort to make sex as good as they can. Satifaction is a two way street. They uderstand that not every time is going to be earth shattering, it's alrihgt if it turns out just ok. It's the though and the effort that make it special. They are also more appreciative of the guys efforts to please her making for more rewarding and gratifing sex. They know the importance of good communication in achieving a more gratifing experience and often work better with there partener to increase the level of pleasure for both of them. It's not just about more experience but about being able to translate it into a higher level of sexual satifaction that make the difference. There is no subtitute for that when it come to great sex. What you have been endowed with is only half the equation, the important half is how you use it. Attitude is everything here. Combine that with a higher sex drive and you get great sex. They are better at and less timid about letting the other one know that they want them and when so there is less guessing on the guys part as to when is the right time, a much welcomed relief.

thanks Iice.

Women to me are like fine wines, ther deffinitely get better with age. Older women seem more in tune with thier spirituality and bodies. Not that I'm nocking younger women at at all, I just seem to have developed a preference to older women at a young age.

Most older women are finished with their adolescent crap.

As a younger guy I find a sexy mature woman more attractive than a sexy younger woman. I do like people who know what they want, and its true that younger girls tend to play games, but to tell you the truth that's not what's at the root of the attraction for me. I just like the way a mature woman, who has taken care of her body, looks. A friend of mine who shares my opinion said to me one time "a woman reaches her prime in her early thirties". The youthful body is sexy, but its overrated. Our preoccupation with youth in the first place is missing something.

Well i still believe we should believe in our own country and leave lasting impression for ourselves, I have traveled and arrived dead late and never had problem with checkinto an hotel around ikeja b4 i finally go home, come on Lagos is no Hell!

Please can be stick to the original content, Not everyone who wants to date an older woman for money.Just share your experience,not interested in the Money and egoist ideas.thanks

It's very simple and has been said before. Older women know what they're doing and know what they want. And that's that's the way I like it.

dont get me wrong Welli, Age is just a number. Its the persons heart and how they were raised and how they have been treated in there life as to how they will be with a man.

Also generally older women have "been there done that" and as some have said before they aren't usually into playing headgames which most younger women are notorious for. Also being with an older woman if some new guy pops up and starts acting like he is God's gift to women they are less likely to fall for it and stick by their man where as a younger woman will fall for that bullshit and leave you sitting and come back when the other guy dumps her and promises you it will never happen again, Cheers to older women!

there is just something about an older woman that really catches my attention, older women they are just more caring and have a higher sex drive. They have more experience in both love making and in life. They are also easier to talk to about just simple things unlike many of the girls my age.