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Ive been slapped by a lady, not my gf though... I was just tryna get tru to her not knowing she facing a heart brk... And i was tryna act comedy near her, the slap i get em... I jyst collect am go sleep..... She apologised some other day bt i ran as far as i cud frm here cos she was lonely and single.... I feared shes the violent type.

Lawlahdey:
Lemme start biting my lips

Do it midly

Blessed are big boobz... Its full nature

JesusDWay:
Are you saying you married a virgin or you were a virgin when you married? Also, can you confidently say the man you married is a genuine born-again child of God? Also, you didn't state whether the tests showed the man you married is the one at fault, cuz the fact that you are not the one with the problem doesn't mean there's a problem with him too, it happens at times like that that both parties are fine. Moreover, even if the tests show he is the one with a problem, are you sure he can by any chance know his condition before asking you to marry him, cuz thats the only time we can say he deceived you. Finally till i get your response, it is after 3years of marriage that you can start trying to find out what the exact issue is. I used to think its one year but a friend's wife who is a lab scientist told me its 3years so,there's still hope.

hello sir, can you please guide me , i intend o migrate to canada ...kindly assist as im a newbie

which kind wahala be dis again ...so you aint married yet and you were knacking skin to skin

omojehovah:
Thanks Boss. Yours is coming soon

Congrats boss... Can u be off guide to me

prinx25:
Ielts is simply the best at least for me, There are lots of sites for self studies, youtube videos etc.... I actually wrote mine january 2017 and i got a score inline with my intended program.

Hello, can u assist and guide me with the preparation for the exam.. I wanna take it

SmartMugu:
Only immigrant visas and H1B visas will give you work permits. Of course everyone with the visa lottery from Nigeria back then can work for any employer, but I don't think that still includes Nigeria in its current landscape. Fiance visas (K1 - I think that's what it's called) too with some processing will make you work for any employer in the US. You can be married to an American and that's another type of visa that can make you work with any employer as long as you're qualified for the job. On the other side, H1B visa restricts you to just one employer and to me, that's some type of slavery. H1B visa holders usually get paid less than those with citizenship or work permits.

That's why I recommended you reading through the link I sent earlier. I personally don't need any visas because I'm a US citizen as well as a Nigerian.
I only know about these stuff I shared because I mix with a lot of Africans with their different types of visas and also have worked with non-Africans from various countries lamenting about their restrictions because they are restricted beyond their counterparts with citizenships or greencards.

To be frank, I don't know much about visas because I really never really need one unless I need to come to Nigeria with my US passport, but I have a Nigerian passport for that. I'd suggest you research all the list of all the visas the US has. It's only a handful of them. I guarantee you tourist, student, and visitors visitors visas are intended to make u spend your money here in the US. You can't work with them. If you're smart enough though, you can beat the system and get your US citizenship within 3 to 3 years.
Just my few cents.

Tnks pal... I would get bck to you after reading through your link

SmartMugu:
Student, Visitors, Tourist visas etc do not technically allow you to work in the US unless you want to work illegally. However, you can eventually adjust your status to get a work permit and eventually a green card. However, the process could be somewhat long and frustrating, especially with the recent immigration reforms. You may want to join www.visajourney.com to read more about other people's immigration process as it regards coming to the US. All the best.

Tnks pal... So what visa give u a direct work permit?... I am wrking here in naija but its just work and chop...what step do u advise i take in the coming to usa

SmartMugu:
Hi, how are you doing? Just got your message.

Im fine thanks... I have the intentions of going to the US, im a safety officer at the moment and i intend to countinue in this career path if i arrive the US.... I WANT TO WORK AND EARN.... what visa do you advise... Student or resident... And which has a higher probability for me to get and to work... Mind yu, are there exceptions to tourist visa...?

Beboy23:
Pls can you help me out, the highest fees I saw on USA website is very low compare with all this people calling themselves agent are demanding, imagine charging me for 450k for only visa, this is my contact

Bro can we discuss.. Im trying to apply too

NoobSaibot1:
I need useful tips and advice from experts here on my proposed trip to the US. TWood Jwillng Smartmugu and others, please chip in and assist a brother.

Here is it.

I once applied to visit the US for a conference about 3 years ago but was denied visa. My application was submitted by my late Dad who indicated I was married in the form. I'm aware all my info is with the US and I have no intention of denying the info. I regret that he did though as I like to be truthful always.

I currently earn about 200k and I plan to attend a bosom friend's wedding scheduled for the ember months. I'm planning my annual leave for then. My friend will be sending me an invitation letter.

My question is, what documents will I require for the application and how do I go about it?

In as much as I used to harbor plans of living in the US, currently realities have made me to shelve the idea. I'm fairly comfortable here and not interested in relocating to the US. Periodic visits will do me. My career is on course in Nigeria so I'm not up for the stress of relocating. In fact, I have no intention of staying beyond a month.

I'm single by the way.

What are my chances?

Bro, pls can we have a conversation

ayodele234:
My brother the Nigerian problem is known to all, I just got tired of people painting America like some paradise. You will visit one day and see for yourself. People struggle real hard here, forget those pictures on social media. Na only here you go see banker close for work and enter second job. Which kind yeye be that na? A single bank job in Nigeria can sustain a family in Nigeria. RN are not even rich like they make it look like, they are just there paying the bills

Wat bnk job u talking abt

hartson:
is it not what they call baseball?

Oh common shes right

Wtf is phcn

Sabrina18:
But a guy getting insecure about his girlfriend's ex thinks the ex is better than him, that's how I see it.

I don't think my partner's ex is better than me and that's why I bother about her, if he likes he can wish her all the birthday message in the world, upload all her pictures, talk about her from morning till night to me, e no concern me, because one getting jealous over his/her partner's ex is childish to me.

Im not jelous of him... I dnt fucking know him, i just know him in pictures cos she once showed me.... This is between me and her... Get ur talk straight

Sabrina18:
Why are you killing yourself over her ex?

But seriously what's wrong with people and getting mad over their partner's ex. I hate it when someone is being unnecessarily insecure.

I couldn't care less about my partner's ex, wetin join me and her? so far they are no longer together, it shouldn't bother you and yes I know some ladies are not over their ex and you won't blame them, their ex might be better than the current one.

Exactly u made a piont... Bt i never stated im bothered abt her ex... I said im bothered abt her, her loyalty, respect towards the relationship and so on... Did u see where i stated i and her ex had any encounter.... NO... Dnt jyst talk out of sentiments.... Would you as a girl tolerate your man.. Uploading his immediate Ex picture everywhere and still claiming shes with you...

Make una dey fear God

MISSCONGENIALITY:
You really need to free your babe. This is what gave me cold frets about my relation of over 4yrs.
He started feeling insecure and suspects me each time he calls and I fail to pick or sends a message and I fail to reply.he even calls to ask me to tell him ignominious cheating on him. I've never cheated on him not because of him though, but because I don't liken it when people humbled from one relationship to another. I have better things to do that think about who to cheat with.
He even gets jealous of my girl friend cos we spend a lot of time together. We don't live in the same city but each time I tell him I'm with my girlfriend hé feels bad about it. Recently I've been thinking of cheating but I told myself no one Wil push me into doing what I don't want to do


What I'm trying to say is that when you display insecurity I a relationship, he kills it because you will start counting things you shuldnt count and cause your partner unjustly. So op, if you love her, give her some breathing space but if you don't love her, end the relationship and and stop pushing her to go and cheat by always monitoring her.

I never stated i monitored her.. Infact i give this gurl space... Like serious space to do what she wants with her frnds... I dnt display insecurities cos im a freestyle peraon.. Same way i dnt play games and i g8ve proper respect to female folks.... But in all dese.. It doesnt close my eyes wen i sense a danger



Now why do u think shes you... As u said.. You were thi king of cheating recently.. Now its a two way tin... You cheat or you dnt...

An immediate ex spells a sure danger... Dnt ignore

rasojie:
OP take this advice. sit her down and define the relationship. my gf was like that too. at first she did not want to do the total breakup thing cos the ex was in another state. I didn't want to rush her , I wanted her to do it on her own accord since we are already having a good time. until I notice that she had the boldness to just pick the guys calls in my presence and talk for like 10 mins. then I sat her down and she finally broke up with the guy. fast forward 3 months, I noticed the guy still calls her well I don't have a problem with that.. but I noticed they still talk for long.. Na there I cut chain oooo. I am a guy and if an ex is still giving me this kinda audience I know she isn't really over me and I can have her sometime. well she realy cut off the guy finally. but now I told her I don't give a fvck if she does anything with anybody again.. I think she has defined the relationship now for herself and she knows the boundaries.
I take it that you really like the babe that's why e dey pain you. yes it is normal to feel that way. sit her down and let her know you won't tolerate it any more

Sometimes... I smell pretence in her... Shes quick to cry wen corrected or scolded... But i hv lost feelings for that... I dnt bend no more... I really dont wanna seat... Cos i already list trust i was really trying to build....

She jeeps asking ne.. Do u trust me... I dnt reply.. Cos i was waiting for an event to trust... But dis.. Cbt trust nomore... I got to move on

Ayoolajumoke:
Op, I know you won't take this advice because it seems you love the lady than she seem to love you.

I will say, don't go back to the relationship because she has placed more value on her ex than you, which is totally a bad signal. An ex is supposed to be an ex.

Thnks dear.... I really have taken a decision to quit.... Tnks for been concerned

tosyne2much:
Lemme think from another direction


I think the lady in question doesn't have any regard for you. I mean, a little thing like this has ruined many relationships and it will continue to ruin it.

How would a lady upload the pictures of her Ex and will keep tagging her village people for whatever reason without prior informing her current boyfriend about it l? I think it's all shades of wrong and the fact that you can tolerate such a thing doesn't mean every other guy will tolerate it.

OP, I don't think you're overreacting because it's perfectly normal to feel insecure towards such a thing, and I know that all the people castigating you are only being hypocritical

To each his own opinion

Thanks pal... I believe im not over reacting... Infact im on a right course.... I dunt wanna start saying some tins here anyways... But for this... Im hurt abt it... Cos if i show my displeasure on sometine and its repeated... It goes beyond just mere friendship.... Its disrespect... And that no man tolerates from a woman

ruggedtimi:
bro follow ur heart...will advise you to breakup if you feel pains and not okay with she posting her ex pics, if she doesnt show any sign of respect. Trust me this things doesnt end up well if you dig up you will find out they are still meeting obviously. I am talking from experience be wise bro

Thanks bro... Im a kinda guy who doesnt really have time for dig ups.. Cos imma a busy guy... You show me signs i move afar

Chuksemi:
I have a feeling you haven't even been a relationship before. I have this feeling because you are saying things like a child. A married woman using her Ex's picture as her DP? and you speak to her Husband on Phone? What exactly do you guys discuss? How you used to bonk his wife? Or how he does it now and if he does it properly? Or How she used to moan your name while you bonked her well?

Then, why would you even go as far as knowing your EX's husband to that extent? Isn't that creepy? Oh, and so you know, if ever you love someone, you won't want to loose them, and that's where insecurity creeps in. Sometimes this insecurities may become extreme. But it is normal to have them. Your partner should try to allay your fears when possible, not to their own detriment anyway. I don't expect you to understand this anyway.

Thankss man... Make him see de light

fox26:
She is banging the ex and still loves her , the ex can get a bang anytime he wants it. Your gf is likely to be someone who likes things and a gold digger, get a good girlfriend, if she compares you and the ex , it seems that you are on the lower level of satisfaction scale bro . Get someone better. Take my point.

I get u bro

latexxbro:
Why don't you teach us how to make her more invested when the relationship is still new?? will go a long way

True... Teach us