3.4m. Deal?

Angy55:
Not all Edo. Benin men are not nice, but Esan is a go. From Auchi upward is a go too. While Esan women are the opposite, Benin women are the opposite of the men.

Lies kill you there

2.5m

Where d car dey?

2.5?

Can I pay 2.5 instant

Still available?

Untill better hand touch you. Uae is a tourist country. Spend money and leave. Ur certificate will get u nothing epa. U for just patient try europe or Canada. I'm from benin like u and I understand the struggle but i nr wan rush comot. I wan plan and stack before i make my move. Plus I've been to Dubai countless times

Derende:
I have read lot of comments here on this thread and I have some points to make;
I know UAE is not a easy country, but am assured of the fact that I can't suffer in this country irrespective of the challenges I face. I have been around for about four days and am learning the system gradually.
UAE is a system that you follow just the way a child goes through kindergarten and move to the University and graduate. If you follow the system you will enjoy the country, but if you feel there is dirhams on the street of Dubai for you to pick you will go home depressed and dejected.
Am a very focused person with vision and determination and I know what am aiming for.
I came to UAE to follow the system and make a name , it might not be easy now but in a couple of years there will be testimony to make. I will be registering for CNA in a couple of weeks to start the process alongside the job that I will be starting in a week time.

As for those saying I can't make it here in Dubai, let me remind you one thing that you are not my God, only him knows my yesterday, today and tomorrow. What you believe is what happens to you, since I was born I don't believe in the word called failure, my only word is success. No matter how many times you fall be rest assured that you will definitely stand up. Dubai is not my final point , it is just a step to my final destination.

As for the dude saying am a scam and there is no way visa can be processed for 150k, I pity you try and get informed and always research widely. I will advice you to visit travnook.com and see for yourself that a UAE visa is 125k to process. The owner of the site is an Ugandan not a Nigerian. And I can tell you that the problem with Nigeria is not the leaders but Nigerians because we don't trust ourselves again because everybody that post on nairaland is seen as a scam .
If an Ugandan man can process a visa with less that 150k, my friends in Nigeria and Dubai were charging me 250-450 for a visa.

Finally I will be closing the thread because the aim of the thread has been fulfilled. Those that need to learn from my experience at Cotonou should learn from it, that is the reason for the thread. Thanks again, good night and God bless.

I hate my mom. She don’t care about me. She only remembers me when it's time to ask for money

Mompha soft sha

If I fit kill this man I'll kill him.... Fool... People dey die for Nigeria cuz of suffer And u dey travel.. Gosh

Lamanii22:



Are you an only child?

My dad was polygamous. But I'm the first child from my mom. I have 3 younger siblings

mrjojo:
Listen Bro, you need to accept this facts

1. Your mum doesn't LOVE you.
2. She doesn't give a tiny sh.it about you
3. You are just a cash cow to her
4. You will never be able to buy her affection even with 5billion.
5. You are going to hurt even kill yourself trying to please her.
6. You don't owe anybody a dime.
7. If you die, they will move and survive.

Africans and their entitlement mentality, smh. See you are just 21, you should not be responsible for anyone, in fact you should be the one collecting, but as it.
Place your siblings on a strict budget that you can afford, do not deviate from this. Send foodstuff to the house once in 2months.

Stay very far away from "home",cos if you are like me, you might not be able to turn your eyes from some responsibilities.

You need to start saving ASAP,as much as you can, because you have no one, when shit hit the fan, you have no one to call. You are all you got,save, save save.

You need your mental health, stay away from drugs, it doesn't help, it will only make thing worse at the end of the day. If you run mad because you of drug abuse, no one will take care of you.

These are cold facts you have to face bro.

I appreciate a lot. God bless you for this. I'll do everything you've said. I appreciate once more dam

thorpido:
The mum could be having psychiatric issues which could be depression or psychosis.
You don't see it that way.She became a widow and that event could have transformed her psyche.
When people act in a way, don't be quick to judge them.Psychologic and psychiatric issues are real.

Bro which kind of depression would make her keep acting like that. Deep down I do know she's depressed because sometimes she could stay in one position for a long time thinking.. And the cause of thinking is simply because she's broke sometimes or she don't make much profit from her business. But i have given her a lot. A whole lot. Since 2016 when i was just 17 till this year I could have given her 2-3 m.. This is not an exaggeration. I know the amount is quite much considering my age but I've been a hustler for a long time and I just want to change my mom situation but she seems adamant

Mk I book space

yeyeosoronga:
Avoid her and stop picking her calls
We're going into 2020 already. Avoid negative energy and remove such from your life .
At most, buy foodstuff and send to them at home. All that money you're sending to her, stop it. Use the money to gain travel experience instead. Go to Ghana or Dubai or somewhere relatively cheap for 5 days to 1 week. Rest very well. You'll feel refreshed when you get back and better able to face challenges. Your mental health is important, and holidays do wonders to the brain.
If there are professional courses that might help your future lab science career or even your business, use your money to do them and stop dashing a woman that doesnt give a damn about whether you're dead or alive

I appreciate you alot.. I thought i was going to backlashed because we live in a society where parents are always right... Thanks I'll visit dubia next year just to calm my head

LordKO:
Your mother is a regressive egoist with underlying psychosis. You've to accept this fact and also accept the fact that she'll always need your help materially and otherwise as long as she lives - don't discard her no matter the circumstances. By accepting these facts, you'll begin to see her for whom she's rather than what she ought to be to you and do for you - in order words, squash sane expectations from her and begin to deny her right to influence your thought. But never deny her the privilege of enjoying altruistic and conscientious deeds from you. This approach will prevent you from losing your personal development in particular and sanity in general, while still doing your best for her.

Meanwhile, since she's not business savvy and in best ethical state, instead of giving her seed money again - whenever you may afford to - consider to invest for her through a third party without her knowledge . . . With this approach, you win (saneness), and she and the third-party win too (financially) albeit at a reduced profit on her side.

Wow I appreciate this a lot. God bless you

missjo:
Oh my lord
Please you've got to try getting your happiness from deep within yourself, it won't be easy but please try. Your mental health is your responsibility and no one else's.

Honestly I've been addicted to tramadol for the past one year. It help me just forget about the predicament I'm going through... Now I'm addicted, I can't stop and if I try to stop, she comes with the drama again. My head is so messed up.. I wish I could explain every bit of our I feel in my heart but I just can't express my self

Sonsly041:
From your story I don't think she is your biological mother but if truly she is then she is under a spiritual curse or bondage

Some times I do ask my self these questions. My dad is late and he had 11 children but I'm the first from my mom..... My mom was never like this when my dad was alive. She changed years after my dad died. She never cared about our welfare. It's always market from morning till night, Monday to friday and when she comes back at night. She get dressed and go meet her "boyfriend". I know I shouldn't be saying this but I'm fed up of what is going on

I appreciate the comments above. It really took me a lot of courage to be able to post this. I'm a very secretive person and I keep things to my self even when it affects my well being

missjo:
Oh my lord
Please you've got to try getting your happiness from deep within yourself, it won't be easy but please try. Your mental health is your responsibility and no one else's.

Thanks but these days I think I'm loosing my insanity. My heart tremble each time i think about my family. It's like I'm in a race. Like something is chasing me and I need to keep on making money for my family. I feel i will never be accepted or loved if I eventually go broke... Never thought life would be like this.

Hi all
I've been on nairaland since 2012 and I just felt like sharing this today.

I'm sorry to say this but I think I don't like my mom and I feel she don't like me too.
I'm 21 years old and I reside in one of the southern states in Nigeria.
I lost my dad 15 years ago and I was barely 6 years old then... To just go straight to the point I don't think my mom like me. Since I was young she've never liked me or supported me in anyway. She barely attend my end of year parties or any school activities back then. she never bought me cloths or care about my life at all. She never gave me money or support my dreams and whenever I ask her for financial help, she shouts at me and say all manner of evil words towards me. At age 10, I started hustling for my self selling pure water, doing conductor registering sims and pushing wheel barrow just to help my self. Then at 13 I started working as a laborer molding blocks, filling uncomplicated houses, distributing drinks with wheelbarrow just to make ends meet and what ever amount I'm paid monthly or weekly I always make sure I give her a large purportion from it just to support her. I've traveled most states in Nigeria while I was 15 to hustle and whatever profit i make I always give her atleast 70% of it. Fast forward to when I was 18, I was introduced to a new kind of hustle (bitcoin). I started making a good amount of money and I even made my first million then. I gained admission into a federal university over here. I basically paid for my tuition, acceptance fee, books, hostel and all sort of fee and even had to feed my self Single-handedly for the past 3 years with no support or whatever from my family. She never called to ask me how I did it or even prayed for me. The only time she will call me is when she needs money for her self and even whenever I decline giving her the money she will instantly become rude and abruptly hang the phone on my hear.. This is so terrible and so disheartening that sometimes I just feel like drinking sniper and just end it all. I kept on giving her atleast 20k weekly.. This woman never called me one day to check up on me or pray for me. Then it got to a point whereby I told her I don't want her to do her current business again because she always complain about low profit and rheumatism. So I called her and ask her which business she feels like doing and she told me she wants to buy food stuff from the village and sell them over here in the city. I said FINE and I withdrew 300k from my account and I gave her. Note I was still 18 at that time and one of the main reason I gave her that money was so that should could start up a business and get profit to atleast take good care of my younger siblings while I focus on my hustle, school and take care of my self. Then she collected the money, constructed a wooden shade and started the business, bought her self some things( I really don't know what she spent a huge chunk of the money on). It wasn't up to a month when she stopped the new business and then went back to her former business and then she began the habit of asking me money again while I'm in school. I had a hard time concentrating in my studies and my course was brain tasking (medical laboratory science) I still kept on giving her money on a weekly basis . Then again I gave her 250k to start up another business. She squandered the money and she didn't do anything. Asked her what she used the money for and she started laughing a very devilish laugh and said "things for market dey cost anyhow ". She resumed the habit again of asking me money weekly again and I give her all the time and I Got so tired to the point that I was so broke and this woman will never believe me when I say I don't have it. I'm just 18 and my mom is already depending on me like I'm 40 years old. She continued this habit of not checking up on me and asking me for money always till I'm 19,20 and 21 and whenever I don't give her she literally insult me and she don't to me for months . Sometimes I go broke and if she ask me and I don't give her she insults me on the phone and make false accusation that I'm spending all my money on girls. She never ask about my education. She never ask how I manage to survive in school, she never prayed for me or ask me if I'm sick or healthy. All she knows how to do is ask for money and when I don't she insults me and hang up. Damn. From my first year till this very moment, I'm so depressed. I also have other things going on in my life that I always have to take some anti depressants to make me forget my worries and sleep.. I'm just 21 and I'm stressing like I'm above 40. Just yesterday my siblings called me and asked for 2k for church harvest. I gave them and Immidiately, she called me back and requested for some money. I turned her down instantly and she shouted at me and hanged up the phone. This is someone who calls her self my mom and I barely hear from her in months. She never supports me in whatever I do. There was a time in secondary school when someone threw a stone straight to my eyes and it blinded me partially. All I could see was black and white. She never showed no concern or even ginger (atleast the way other mom do na) she never followed me to school. The family of the guy who did it came to my houses and they gave her 1500 naira and that was the end of the case. She bought eye drop of 250 for me and she never bothered asking again. Right till this moment I'm partially blind because I see more clearly and brighter on one eye than my other eye. She has really did me a whole lot and neglected me all my life and did me some things that I can't even remember. I see other people being proud of their mom but deeply in my heart, I know I dislike her and I wish she wasn't my mom. So nairalanders please advise me what to do. I'm so depressed and suicidal all the time. I'm the first son from my mom and I sincerely want the best for my family but my mom is really making life so difficult for me

Elelfa:
Withdrawal Syndrome symptoms no be here shaa...clean, ain't going back to dah shii

Bro even me too. The withdrawal symptoms na die. Even right now, I'm on tramadol because I can't bear the withdrawal symptoms. I don't know how to stop I'm slowly getting addicted to this drug. Although it gives me euphora, i tend to be kind and care for people when I'm high on it, I don't cum quickly, I become bold, Like I can give speech and talk for hours and I can even mend police man or top people but Immiately it wears off, you are back to an even worser mood. You become agitated, restless, muscle pain, drug craving and you don't want to even socialize with anybody. I swear I've tried to stop it but I can't, expecially when it's cheap and I stay close to a dealer

I need someone who can create a very good website for me. I have a business idea and it's going to be online base and kinda like a betting... If u can create a very nice website. Just drop your number... Business partners are also needed

Jackofall:


Very soon the hot slap won't be enough, and you would have to use more aggressive punishment until you finally kill the dog.

Ur papa. Mumu, Goat. People day suffer for ur family u not go help dem. Na dog u day mumu for

Now she's quite fearful and Hardly misbehave

Lhasa too stubborn. I day play my own with hot slap everyday

generationz:


how do you go about the business of buying and selling it.

Still trying to get more details about the business. But it's very lucrative,i must confess and it's not congested like other businessess

Planning on opening a barbing saloon. I'm not going to barb, because i don't know how to. I'm just scouting for two very good barbers to have a conversation with and plan to open a very lucrative barbing saloon in benin city. If you are interested just send me ur whatsapp number

generationz:



what's PVC?

Poly vinyl chloride

Can u work in benin and how much will it cost for a standard parlour, dinning and varander