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hotwax:
meaning? ayam not understanding

I just hope what you just narrated there was just a story and not reality

GboyegaD:
My parents were married for 33 years before my dad's demise. My dad was a regional manager and my mum a banker back in the days. My dad suggested my mom quit banking and focus on us. Unfortunately, shortly after came the Structural Adjustment Program (SAP) and my dad was laid off.

At some point my mom suggested going into food selling business but my dad objected out of pride. She later started small and the business came through for the family since it provided shelter and food for us. At that time, my dad joined in support despite getting a new job and it became our family business.

As for me, I got married at a point I was starting another graduate degree (this time without any funding whatsoever) and the little money I has want going to see us through. My wife supported with the funds she had and stayed through even when it seemed we were so broke. Upon completion of my program, it took about 6 months to get my desired job and in between, we both had to do a minimum paying job and manage our baby in between the job.

She's so much supportive of me and vice versa. We discussed how to navigate any terrain we find ourselves and I think that is what we should encourage people to discuss while dating so that they know what to expect in awkward situations.

God bless your home

bjtinz:
Lol! You funny sha.

But that's the point of this thread: just as you have failed marriages, you also have successful marriage, so it's a matter of ones being true or not, it's about individual experiences, some good, some bad

Yea I understand the essence of this thread and I also know and understand what I said.

Charmingrascal:
I remember when Mum bought Dad a car with her salaries that she saved that year.

The things I read about marriages these days makes me dread marriage. But I know that by 2023 that I will be getting married na perfect woman God go give me.

So shall it be according to your faith. Just note that most of those people having negative comments here on nairaland are from ' troubled' homes with failed marriages. So their experiences doesnt not necessarily have to be the truth

cassidy1996:
Being married is not easy, but patience and endurance is needed

if not for my wife, i for nor do this Christmas . GOD bless my wife

Amen

Bonanza643:
someone told me those people selling grounded pepper in bulk do mix it with other things such as millet.... joro.......ginger......wheat......flour... caprioca.....etc
they add one or more of this so they can get even more profits from their grounded pepper business....
please how true is this?

Very true.. best you buy and grind yourself

seunmsg:
Stop lying to justify your nonsense.
There is an international airport in every region.
There is a seaport in every region with access to international waters.
There is a train station in every region in the country.
There is an equal distribution of FG investment in every region.

So you see, lying to yourself will take you nowhere.

You re the liar

Rollsnjaguar:
I hope so, I won't be surprised if Uche Nwosu's name is mentioned when the Governor list names next Monday.

Thats it. But of course ,that plan has failed

Nonpartisan1:
He will still win the re-election effortlessly. Hope and Umahi know the game very well in the south East. If you una like make una burn down Imo State. He will still be the Governor till 2027.

Abeg keep that nonsense talk to yourself. Naa so unaa talk of edo and Anambra. Yet wetin happen? Hope Uzodinma knows he is going after his first tenure. He is just scare trying so hard to destroy all opposition to his reelection which has already failed. Everyone knows that

helinues:
The Imolites should just allow the politicians to settle their scores within themselves without getting involved.

Focus should be on next Imo Guber election cos na as how we dey manage Buhari to complete his 2nd term, so as Imolites go manage for Hope to complete his first term

Lol.. unaa no go kill person with laugh for this nairaland

helinues:
But truth be told, Imolites should not have allowed that Supreme Court kangaroo judgement to stay.

That's broad day light robbery

Exactly. And that is what is this haunting that state till this day

bigjackass:
Well many girls have slept at my place and nothing happened. The question is, is she going to sleep there out of necessity or what?

Thank you ooh.. No mind one federa9 that concluded saying that ANY girl that sleeps over a guys house must have sex with him.. Very pathetic indeed

federal9:
When the truth is said, the guilty ones voice out.

Settled....
Lol.

Lol. See mentality.. very terrible indeed. Pls speak for yourself cos it's obvious you cant control your sexual urge whenever you re alone with the opposite sex. Okay?


MEN WHO ARE NT SLAVES TO THEIR SEXUAL URGES ARE FOCUSED MEN. FOCUSED MEN ARE POWERFUL MEN

Good day

federal9:
Why did you allow him to fuckkkk you?

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Pls go find a cure for your broken heart cos I ve done for you..

So for your small mind, ANY lady that sleeps over at a guy's house be it a close friend or whatever, she must have sex with him? I wonder how you just came to such conclusion?

Well it's obvious you have been so badly battered by an unfaithful ex or a present one

federal9:
Runaway from her!!!!

She has been sleeping around. Any woman that sleeps at a man's place will be fuckkked!!!

Your last sentence is so so wrong..
Okay?

Adakintroy:
Am a good guy. To the pure all things are pure.

Good luck to you too. Compliment of the season.

Lol. Now I know you re such a crazy guy with respect to your paragraph

Wish you all the best


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Adakintroy:
I thank you you made this conclusion by yourself. I respect it a lot. But Like I said you are probable the exception. But the rule is many women will succumb to their first instinct of dependence and that was were I was speaking from the "rule" You seem to agree with me on that I sense.

If you worked yourself into a strong indepence state, a man reads from it easily. And many assertive men won't dare go near a woman who knows her worth in a real sense. I don't mean worth as in parading flash beauty. I mean her worth as she seeing herself clear. Owning her " being" for lack of better term.

Am not a brute anyway like you wrongly judge am not rich either. You got that wrong too. Am just a brute honest person. I like it that way. People don't like honesty. It's too crude for their senses. So yeah if I marry you,you better behave. If you wan cheat feel free. But cheat under your own. Roof. Under mine,am likely the only one allowed to.

Lol. This your last sentence get k leg.. Cheating isnt edifying . Why justify yourself? That's my issue here. However it's all your choice. Good luck

Cyntie55:
Good day nairalanders. Season greetings to y'all. I'm so angry right now. Please I need mature advice.

My father is not a learned person but he make sure all his children are graduates. My younger brother(last born and only son) rounded up his Nysc few months ago, we're just 2 girls. My elder sis and I. My elder sis is a nurse in Austria (3 years now), she's married with a kid in Austria. My big sister send money home once in 3 months, and I have been the one receiving the money. I share the money exactly as instructed by my big sis. I have never cheated anyone, Infact my Dad and Big sis communicate very well. My Dad trust me so much.

My younger brother is always angry, He said he feel cheated all the time. He shouts and talks to me anyhow like I'm his mate.
Honestly speaking, I gave my younger brother more love and respect that he could ever imagine. When he was serving, he would call telling me he need 10k urgently, sometimes 20k, that he will pay back. Immediately I will send it to him and he would never pay back. Same thing he does to my father.
If we ask him what's he using his allawee for?? He would angrily say so is becus we're sending him "chicken change" that's why we're asking jamb questions.

He said we don't regard him, he called my Dad a SIMP, he said my Dad listen more to my big sis and I....but he don't listen to any of his suggestions.

My brother is a 2:1 (second class upper) graduate in economics from UNIBEN. After his Nysc all he does is to sleep and eat. My Dad's good friend told my brother to come to Lagos and resume work with him. He refused. My Dad ask him if he wants to further his education (masters or professional courses)he said no....Okay follow my Dad to his cement shop and help him (my dad even promised to pay him salary) he refused....I overheard him on a call with a friend and i suspect he's now into yahoo yahoo.

Look at what happened. My big sis sent us money yesterday to celebrate this festive period. She said I should give my brother 50k, I should take 80k and give my father the rest (abt 250k). My Dad is always aware of everything.
I even added 20k out of my money and I transferred 70k to my brother, I was left with 60k (becus she also sent me hair and I plan to sell it becus I already had enough). You can imagine this ungrateful idiot started insulting me, that I cheated him. the fool angrily withdrawn the money from his account and SET IT ON FIRE (70k). He called my elder sister and started warning her saying "if he can't receive the money henceforth, she should stop sending him money again that he's the man of the house".
My Dad gave him a resetting, resounding, hot and dirty slaps. He pulled out a knife, deflated my Dad's car tyres and ran away from the house.

Everyone is not happy. I don't want my brother to live a wayward life. He's 24 years old. Please nairalanders Help!

For your own GOOD and SAFETY in that house send him out of that house to go fend for himself. Dont give him any form of assistance. Infact you all should CUT HIM OFF AND LET HIM BE A MAN IN HIS OWN HOUSE

larryking540:
it's been a while where have you been pretty lady

Lol.Crazy you.. long time and fyi, I ve been around

Adakintroy:
The way you all boost yourself women one will think you are capable of doing what you claim..I will give you your credit if you actually what you say you are. Takes lot of Guts. But we are talking about the rules not the exceptions. Even with he exceptions is somehow relative with wealth.

Did you see the way reginal Daniels easily went with that' dude, You could do even more so with a say dongote. You just have not met powerfully men. Notice she was educated and relatively stable financially already. Yet...that's the position of many women. That's why many did not voice out against it. Cus they will do exactly in a heartbeat.
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Am a direct honest person. Ned nwoko is a stupidiusely rich man. Those gwomen went in head on
Do you think they will be able to cheat under his ruff? Honestly do you? Even when he himself keeps multiple concubines do you think they will dare cheat openly?.


If you what you say you are you can hit me on the low. Am good.
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My dad ll always say ' a beautiful girl that doesnt know her worth is like a gold ring in the nose of a swine'

Lol... As per Regina Daniels and her likes who I term Ned's objects or trophies made their choices and of course must be counted the cost of their decisions',Being educated and financially stable does nt imbibe certain qualities in one.. However it's her choice and I wont criticize her for. But for me? what wld i be doing with such an old and sorry ooh 'ugly' man? How can ii even allow that man touch my body? I dey craze?pls refer to what I said I was told ,taught,made and learnt to practice since I was a kid. The truth is this, there re certain things I make bold to say I cannot do even if it seems that i want or need to do.. I just CAN'T do it because i cant do it. Infact some things are on the class of 'no think am at all'. Yes some 'opportunities' re lost especially with some ruthless men but we wins some and lose some ..

However it is every man his own choice. You can do and follow whatever works for you but be ready to bear the 'consequences ' or 'fruits" of your actions and decisions.. That has always being my take in life. All I m saying , why treat these ladies as worthless beings even if they have made themselves seem worthless in your sight? Is it necessary?

Adakintroy:
There nothing wrong with the mentality. If your u want to cheat feel free. But be responsible for your sef. If you cheat finish feed and house yourself. No leash under me. You want freedom there it is complete one.

Our parents were polygamouse because there needed to assist many women. Women don't like broke guys they congregate around rich ones. It was a bitter sweet exchange. The sweet is the pleasure of having multiple women and it was sweet. The bitterness was the responsible of attending to multiple women. It was demanding. Those who think of cheating and think of pleasure alone, are boyz or women. Women only think of the pleasure. Cus in their exchange, they present nothing.jus themselves. So cheating seem easy. For men it's pleasure pain. Show me your pain aspect. This may come as a shock to you most men actually pay rents,, medicals clothes, food and even sponsor medical of mothes of their concubines. The same sad stories you tell us, is thesame sad stories the other lady tells. So why should yours be more belived? But perhaps because of the selfisness of many womens as long as it's not them, it's meaningless. You want loyalty when money is there so you don't have competition. You are not the lovers. Men are.

Oga the women you described her are obviously the ones that re or have been in your life. It's all well and good for all of you involved cos it seems you are suit and fit yourselves.. Have a blast with them . But sorry to say ,all you said is just full time BS... God forbid .. naa woman wey no know her worth go follow you with this kind terrible mentality... I so thank God for my dad for the things he told me while I was a kid. Infact he kept repeating it till it became my anthem. '1.NEVER YOU COLLECT ANYTHING ESPECIALLY MONEY FROM ANY MAN ASIDES ME ,YOUR FATHER. NOT EVEN FROM YOUR UNCLE OR NEPHEW. 2.. ANYTHING YOU CANT WORK FOR OR SAVE TO OWN ,ISNT YET TIME FOR YOU TO HAVE. SO LET IT BE TILL YOU ARE READY TO WORK OR SAVE FOR IT'. While in primary school, my dad thought me how never to allow any man control me using money and I m extremely grateful to him..

So the women around or in your life are just object? Hmmmm...Well naa poverty dey make unaa dey talk to ladies like this.. ... I meet your type, I ll so rubbish you with your money. Infact we no fit meet sef... However, it is well with you and those ladies you re 'helping'

Good day

larryking540:
but see the good quality you just listed about her hardworking, creative etc ,how many of our modern beautiful ladies have these quality realistic from 1 to 10 percentage rating ?

You re right shaa.. well every man knows himself.

EdCure:
Kaita.
I served in that town during my NYSC in 2009. It's less than 12 minutes drive from Katsina town, the state capital.

That's exactly my point.. Kaita is too too close to katsina town.. That means these terrorists have moved down from Jibia and now very close to katsina town. I ll call my fulani friends in katsina town to find out.. I so so missed katsina

Kaita lga ? The other day was Batsari,Jibia and co.. Chaiii!! My lovely KT( katsina ) .. my prayers and thoughts are with you all. Miss you guys ,kbk and co...Maidabino
your gut, still and always the best


I have called and they are seriously regretting voting in Buhari after all their merriment when buhari 'won'

ityP:
Men marry women; and not the other way round. That explains why the man is very angry when the wife he used his hard earned money to make a wife is cheating on him. I suggest women demand to take 50% of wedding expenses and 50% of the financial load in marriage. The chores at home could then be shared 50-50 and both parties could rightly then, be held to the same standards of morality

Lol.. License to cheat .what a mentality

Adakintroy:
Some Women can de act like mumu.

You don't know cheating na part time responsibility. You think we cheat for free.? You don't know it's a trade off. If you want to cheat feel free. But go there and provide for the man and the husband. Cus that's what men do. if you want to cheat and still remain under my roof then out you go!.

Na mumu pikin wan grow up to belike him papa because him see him papa de eat four meat.

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Wow!!! Such a mentality

larryking540:
the body count of a man doesn't drive back home ,me for example I got a girl and there are lots of opportunities for me to cheat and flirt dirty but down my spine I know I have a woman who I wouldn't trade my love for her for nothing ,
but let reverse be the case ,the woman is a good bye to that house and the man ,

ordinary yahoo way they teach some ladies they go day fall in love with the client ...

so what I am trying to say ,we always use our head as a man when we have one or 2 lady's outside we love with our head , except for a few men ...

and to the lady's don't just bring love to your guy alone or your man alone ,it gets boring with time bring business ideas discuss investment ,when a man sees a lady who engages him in discussion like this trust me he spends more time with the creative woman ,that's another reason why relationship today fails quickly ,today ladies can't hold conversation at all ,only 1 out of 10 ladies can do so,

Abeg forget that talk about discussing business ideas with a guy you re in love with or dating. Business koo creative nii... .. Who go continue relationship go continue. Who lazy lazy and who dey hardworking and creative same, all those one naa for him or her head.... who like or love am go do that the way she be..

Iretii0511:
I read this again and again. I would say you’ve never been in love. You are not lucky to ever be. You are being too calculative in your relationship that you aren’t giving love a chance.

One day, for real, try to love without boundaries. Without ego. Without thinking about consequences. Just love without a reason. Love without thinking of how much the worth of your commitment is. Leaving one dude for another because you feel you’ve invested time is not worth it.

Lol... I know of something called opportunity cost and I know what that relationship cost me.. abeg no make me remember all my mumu back then at that old age because I was naive.. if you like term it overthinking, calculative etc, I care not cos I ve seen the other side and I ve learnt to make use of this my head/ brains too..

Sorry ooh, I ll continue being calculative till I meet someone that believes , PRACTICES love and knows that life and relationship is all about give and take,no need for malice, grudges,selfishness and unnecessary arguement ,competition ,wrong attitude to responsibilities etc.. Yes there can be misunderstandings but they shld NEVER see the next day unresolved . Mind you that relationship made me keep off dating for 7years to recover .. lol.. Thank God I can even laugh now when talking about it.. Well I m laughing at my 'foolishness ' back then... very funny indeed

Life is good (LG)and I m not ready to waste my love on someone that cannot even recognize love but misinterpretes and abuse it.

Ekundayo7574:
Yes they are the same especially that shameless pigs of 5% vote

Lol... keep hopingr for the best with this your mind full of bile. HOPELESS HOPE FILLED WITH FRUSTRATION ALREADY UPON YOU

Joeyfizzo:
I feel people that are into buying n selling of cryptocurrencies are lazy ppl ....Donno y tho

Hmmm.. you re so wrong. Crypto trading isnt as easy as you think.. A lazy person cant even do it sef

iLegendd:
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I really do appreciate you for your time. I have been into crypto but had to take a break cos of some other trainings. I am interested in joining the thread to learn more .. thanks

Donpenny:
Sharp guy miss rpg . I bought only pampers today for 10k i won cry

Lol. God have mercy upon you