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If you were a lady or you were giving advice to your beloved sister what would you tell her and why. Should she get married to a struggling bzns man while she works full time and hopes to study part time or would you advice her to rather study then marry later? what are your reasons?

becareful it don't backfire on u

becare that you do not loose her to someone who wil love her better because if u doubt her and now go one to get another girl who is a so called angerl who might treat u like shit later and this your fiance ends up with a very good guy, you will hate yourself. Karma is a bitch

i would advice you both go for serous pre marital counselling because we do not want issues coming up in the future, if u do not do this now , you wil always have issues. She is now in christ and she knows what she wants and blv me because she has all that experience, even if your dick was as small as my 1st fingure she would stil love u and accept u. once u have tasted them all , all u want is the heart and not the tool

only if those girls knew that the majority of those guys do very funny jobs when they get abroad.

i would be a coctail dress

Okay now my ex sort of hates my current BF and when our relationship started he said the guy would break my heart. 1 year 3 months later my ex sees my guy at the gym ( they go to the same gym). My ex calls me immediately and tells me how my guy is with this hot chic who is apparently more beautiful than i. I ask the ex what they are doing and he says they are working out so that the chic can beat me up. I find what he is saying stupid then i tell him that the chic is no threat to Evey E coz i know my boo then i hang up. 2 days later i bump into the ex and he is reapeting the same story and telling me how my man is cheating on me and he says he has seen them 3 times with the same girl touching. He is kinda laughing and saying he told me so.Somehow i can tell he is trying to make me and my boo to fight but my emotions get the better of me and i confront my boo.My boo is kinda hurt and angry and assures me that is his friends wife.He tries to call her but his phone is flat so it goes off.My boo shouts at me and after all that we declare undying love for each other, kiss and make up, my ex is so keen on findings out what my guy said and i lie to him. I tell him how the guy dumped me and confessed to that chic being his.I tell him that my guy says he did not know how to tell me that its over bla bla bla and my ex makes moves on me which he has been trying to get together for a long time but i have not been keen at all and now he thinks its his chance so i try give him the whole story of how i can't date again coz m hurt bla bla bla. Now the question is , could my boo be really cheating ? if yes, why can't he just be clear and end things with me, what could be a guy's reason for behaving the way he did when confronted?what could my ex's plan be? do ex's do this? yol m lost please help. what m i to do? and y?

i know of tomboy but now tom girl is a new word to me.

yep. understandable. make him understand all this coz these are valid reasons

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hahahaha dude your number 5 kills me > about the witch / demon part in a drama. kwaaaaa mara neh let me tell yu something BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER. So sisters never let anyone tell you how ugly you are if you do not see yourself ugly because no one can ever make you feel inferior without your consent. if a sister feels ugly i always say go shopping , do your hair, do some make up, join gym and visit a health and a beauty spar then after all this spoiling and pampering including the makeover come and tell me you are ugly again

Baby montana: .wow.dats was a good quality.sum ppl find it to hard to ask for forgivenx

yeah sister tell me about it. i really with my guy can change and become like my ex sometimes ( ONLY WHEN IT COMES TO THAT) course GOD knows that ex brother was some kind of messed up person who wanted to ruin anything he touched

tell her point blank that this kind of behaviour is a turn off if u r looking for a serous relationship as it can easly be associated with prostitution and 419

mine used to know how to make peace with me. I would be angry at him and he would not hesitate to swallow his pride and beg me for forgiveness. That is the one thing i wish my current boo could do because for him , humbling himself is a mission

chineloSA: That's future normalcy luv. Hurtful as it is

Yep most sisters dont care about marriage nowadays but hell i dont want to be lonely or be having boyfriend while i take my kids to to the movies and i stay home alone. I WANT TO GET MARRIED AND M GONA

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somehow i am so scared of dating someone with a baby or speaks bad of his ex.

its because ladies are true ppl, even if you may be playing her but making her blv yols are serous she will always commit to you but men on the other hand even if he is married with 20 children will always claim to be single. Men are not truth folks

its unfair of you to want to dump your girl only after getting an alternative > this means you use girls. How could you even say she was your sister to the other girl > that really hurts. If that was me i would never ever ever talk to you ever ever again. you do not deserve a good girl. you deserve someone like you

Chaleeee: Nigerian Jollof Rice Ingredients:
*2 cups (approx. 500 grams)Precooked long grain  rice
*5 Tablespoonful tomato paste(very important)
*4 whole tomatoes
*1 red bell pepper (tatashe)
*2 scotch bonnets/atarodo
*100ml vegetable oil
*About 600ml Meat or Chicken stock
*A small onion (sliced)
*1 tablespoonful ground crayfish(optional)
*½ teaspoon each of  Thyme and curry
*1 teaspoon salt to taste
*1 stock cube
*Water, as needed

Cooking Directions for Nigerian Jollof Rice:

<<Before cooking Nigerian Jollof Rice>>
*Parboil(precook) the Rice and set aside. To parboil rice, add the raw rice to boiling water for 10 mins. After that, remove the boiling water, rinse with a lot of cold water and set aside.


TIP: Parboiling the rice, helps to start the cooking process and gets rid of the excess starch in the rice, that usually makes the rice grains to clump together (a.k.a Soggy rice).


*Cook and fry/grill your meat ( beef/chicken/turkey )... and set aside the broth or stock

Now to cook the Nigerian Jollof Rice:

*First prepare a small stew or sauce .
Do this by blending the fresh tomatoes and peppers together;then dry out excess liquid by boiling in a pot for few minutes. ..if you already have tomato stew, you can skip this step.
    Then, Place a pot on heat, add some oil, add chopped onions, fry a bit and then add the blended tomatoes & pepper mix, fry for about 10 minutes and then add the tomato puree. 
    Cook until the tomato loses its sour taste and the oil begin to rise to the top.


  Tip: The use of the concentrated tomato paste is IMPORTANT if you want to get that deep reddish-orange color and taste of the party jollof rice.

*Now Scoop out about a quarter of the stew and set it aside for later use.

*Add the meat or chicken stock to the pot and leave to boil on high heat for 5-10 minutes. Then add the thyme, curry, stock cubes,salt to taste... and any other seasoning you like, and boil for 5 minutes


    TIP: This is another important step in cooking Nigerian Jollof Rice. If the stock isn't hot enough before adding the precooked(parboiled) Rice, the rice will soak up the cold water, become soggy and even get burnt before it is done..Eeeww, we don't want that right? 

* Next, add the Rice and mix thoroughly, the liquid in the pot should  be at the same level as the rice in the pot...you  can add more water if the meat or chicken stock isn't enough. Cover the pot and leave the rice to cook on low to medium heat. High heat will burn the rice before it is well cooked.

 *When the liquid in the rice is almost dried, add the remaining stew to the top (don't touch the rice)...cover the pot until there is no more liquid in the Rice...Now mix thoroughly ... and your Nigerian Jollof Rice is Ready.


    TIP: To get that smoky flavor that gives the party rice is distinctive taste,leave the rice to burn  A LITTLE at the bottom(don't worry it doesn't make you a bad cook) ☺
 I actually don't like burning food, but when my friends scream for the ''distinctive smoky Party rice taste''.. that's the way I do it.(Don't make it a habit oo, 'cos it's bad for the lifespan of a pot☺,but a non-stick pot will be perfect) 


   Now, serve and Enjoy...and wash the pot Later ☺

ncoooooh wowww thank you very very very much. I appreciate this from the bottom of my heart

Hi, All may you kindly assist me by giving me the best recipe for jeolof rice and red stew. Please forgive me if i spelt it wrong as i am not Nigerian. Please give a list of ingredients systematically and if possible estimate their prices for someone who is in South Africa johannesburg. Please forgive me for putting this thread under romance as under the food section i wasn't getting any responces

Hi, All may you kindly assist me by giving me the best recipe for jeolof rice and red stew. Please forgive me if i spelt it wrong as i am not Nigerian. Please give a list of ingredients systematically and if possible estimate their prices for someone who is in South Africa johannesburg

oyinbogirl: A serious hit on my self confidence sure , so yes

eish i hear u sister

i used to cheat on this guy quit a lot then i felt guilty and started being faithful but i msut tell the truth everytime he pisses me off i really think of cheating. i have considered cheating a million times but stopped myself. The last time i did not act on my cheating urge because the guy who was making moves on me was married n i hate feeling like a spare wheel , then other one i stopped because he did not meet the requirements i have for a life partner then i decided to wait till someone better than my guy ( who would meet the life partner requirements i need) but i must say though i think i have grown because for me its no longer about cheating with a certain guy like go out , party then Bleep. now i wana cheat with a meaningful relationship that i can dump my guy for but still m scared coz i always ask myself what if that new guy turns out to be an asshole n this my guy who i would have dumped makes some lady happy out there

yep, keeping the HIV status is being selfish

oyinbogirl: Hard to know what to do until it actually happened, and I guess other factors as well eg as why he did it to me, and who with , if he loved her ets etc... but......itd be bad, so bad!! Id feel gutted & want to crawl into a hole. Suppose it would cross my mind to that maybe he never loved me in the first place (if he can do this) I wouldnt commit suicide or anything though

okay, so would it make u feel less of a woman?

Sisters and brothers would a man show loyalty to the woman who has always been there for him when he had nothing or he would take her as a fool was a sucker and marry the one he met yesterday when things were already fine for him?

Now this question does not only imply to married couples only but to also ppl who r dating. how would u feel if your husband , boyfriend, wife or girlfriend was cheating on u? what would u do? plz be real

i used to think a woman should stay and make her marriage work but i have realised that is shit. I would divorce him. Obviously there are some qualities that made him marry her in the first place, he did not marry her just for sex. The day will come when he wil remember those qualities and miss her and i know for sure the house maid only has sex as her qualitty .If she has more , good for her but i know this man will one day remember the reason he married her and he will regret his choice of marrying the housegirl

its bad what the lady did and i can just imagine how the husband feels but now my question is what if it was the other way around and the husband was the one who was caught. how was the wife supposed to react and feel? and how was the husband going to react and feel?

yoh i respect this woman