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Wow... Beautiful is what comes to mind when staring at her face... Papilo's wife is a true definition of beauty, even without a pointed nose.

Chrisx1x:
can we practice it together.i wouldnt mind if you can teach me

Hehehe... So touching... But am not a teacher... Should I refer you to my man.

DuduParaPara:
The probs is no matter how u pay attention, some girls will pretend. They can pretend for Africa

Pele ti e

anthoniosp:
what did he do before you did it...

Pls tell me...my girl to needs to experience this after all she has done for me..

(Grabs pen and paper)...

Where is that stool self?.

Lolzzzz... He paid attention to my body, simple... Pay attention to your girl's body and ask her what she likes

I hope it helps

DuduParaPara:
Its funny when ppl think everyone has a bae.

If say I get bae around me I for don experience am sinceeeeeeeeeeee

You might have a bae... And not know how to make her squirt... So now that you have been taught... Get a bae

DuduParaPara:
Ehh?? Really?? Abeg I wan experience am

Your bae can, do justice to that

Wow... I have learnt one new thing today... I never knew what squirting, not until now... I have experienced it and but I never knew the meaning


Op, you have to pay attention to your lady to get this result.

Paying your brother school fees is a way of paying your tithe... Your brother is a child of God, so God dwells him... And the bible tells us that God doesn't dwell in building but in the hearts of men... So you are also doing right.


My friend's dad is a christian, but he doesn't pay his tithe in church, because he says he doesn't trust, what pastors would do with it... So each time he wants to pay his tithe, he gives it to the less privilege... And God has not seize to answer his prayer.

Op, God sees your heart

And this same thing was what Toks was saying yesterday... And a lot of people attacked him... He only just used different words... It all boils down to men being weak and any woman who points out this obvious to him through words or action becomes an enemy of his ego and he reacts by beating.

MRBrownJ:
the above in bold is funny, lol, "can afford"... so free date is impossible in your world, or what? thats why i have been saying all along to take women to park and getting to know them, while looking at the beautiful sky. sadly, what you wrote can NEVER work, unless, as we both should suggest places to go, we should both pay. how can a woman suggest to go to a place that she has NO MEANS of paying?! a man doesnt owe NOTHING to a woman at this stage, so why should he foot this stranger's bill?

abeg, forget that Romeo and Juliet dream, and understand that if a man pays for a meal, it should be because he DECIDES to do so, and that decision derives from the "level" of fun he had during that date..... but until that check comes and he decides to do so, this gal better believe that whatever she orders, SHE pays for it . thats the only way women can start having RESPECT for all these men they are gladly taking advantage of.



yes this is a foul word but unfortunately, so many women are quick to use such tactics to force men into becoming ATMs. they use their coochies as a carrot, and have these donkeys doing acrobatics in the aim to have their way with them. this is why the majority, when they finally get these babes in bed, they fukc them out of ANGER, they punish them sexually, and want to make it all worth the money they've spent . its like a bill attached to these women's back, and everytime they demand for recharge cards and what not, these guy mark that bill... until it gets to a point where these guys are saying"fukc it, now i just want to recoup my investment", thus smashing that coochie like she stole something from them.

but hey, how would you call a babe telling guys they MUST pay for the date, if they wanna get to know each other, if not blackmail?!

Mister MBJ, take a chill pill and stop being gender centered, like ladies are cheating the men folks... All this you stated are your opinion, the doesn't stop guy all over the world from footing their bills at date, they want to, its their will.

There lots of cash-free date going on around in different parts of the world, especially in schools (universities)... Its still happens... But if the guy want to go extra mile... Its his will.

If a lady say the guy MUST pay for the bill, which I don't think a lady would say... Let him pay and opt out from further dates... its so simple

MRBrownJ:
BWAAAAAAH!!!!!! hell noooooo! the woman has the RIGHT to demand that she be treated in any way she desires BUT, until that man has confirmed that this lady DESERVES to be treated in such a way, there is NO reason he should treat her the way this lady desires. that would be as crazy as treating a classless lady with respect when she acts as a tramp. women need to act RIGHT if they want to be treated RIGHT, and until then, it should be 50/50 (IMHO)

what you wrote above is the reason why so many women (who are uninterested in a guy) will still go out with him, in order to get free meals, and more, for her and her hungry friends... under the guise of "how men should treat women", BLASPHEMY!



a man should treat a woman the way he (and his own mind) BELIEVES she should be treated. there is no world chart that specifies how to treat women because you are all different, and therefore it should be decided on each case basis.... so if a man believes a woman aint worth a meal "yet", thats his RIGHT... just like it is your right to dismiss a guy who want you to go dutch.
if women want to be treated RIGHT then they must act RIGHT, and sadly, simply accepting to go on a date isnt it!

Lolzzz... mister MBJ... Its a first date... You both decide on where to go, the guy makes suggestions and the lady makes hers, they pick... If for any reason the lady doesn't like where the guy says he can afford... She is free to opt out from such date... Or how do you decide on where you for your dates. And if the guy does not also feel comfortable with the ladies suggestion he is also feel to opt out... What can only be done is cajoling the other party to accept.


What am trying to correct here is your use of the word BLACKMAIL... I believe in freewill, it can never be by force... You don't feel comfortable opt out of it... I can't be pushed beyond my limit... And do you know there are ladies who also fall into such Blackmails with guys too... Don't be too gender centered dear, what happens to guys also happen to ladies too.

Hope am happy for you... But you keep confusing me, are you tasting or teasing, do you like the tease of it or the taste of it... I just need clarification on that.

MRBrownJ:
yes, you are absolutely RIGHT, but the important point here is that these guys decide "on their own" to do such act, it comes from their own free will due to the mood they are trying to set, because the BELIEVE that it is the right thing to do, and NOT because some woman blackmailed them into doing so.

that is the whole difference in this discussion, the majority of women here believe they deserve to be wine and dined just because they accepted to go on a date (which is beneficial to BOTH of them) and, as many have said here already, they will dismiss the guy if he remotely ask them to contribute to the date (which is beneficial to BOTH of them).

remember, i just gave you many instance where you can give TIME and ATTENTION to women for free, and that doesnt mean that this is what a man has to do for the rest of that r/ship. as i always said, a woman can get a gift/helping hand etc, so long as a man believes she DESERVES one, and not as a down payment/rent for her to stay in that said r/ship (aka blackmail).

You are also, mister MBJ... I also like to state at this point, that there is a difference between RIGHTS and DESERVES... The man has the right not to or to pay but the woman deserves the man to pay for her, just courtesy... Everyone know how they want to be treated, and they deserve to be treated so and they feel less, when someone treats them below their standard... And they have no choice than to opt out.. So you don't blame ladies that tell you they would never see such guy again, after treating them below their standard. Its just what they have set for themselves.

MRBrownJ:
spending TIME with someone is easy, you just have to show up, but the ATTENTION is all the content (aka important valuable things that you do during this time), so i could:
[b]- go out of my way to meet and spend time with you
- walking hand in hand showing the world that you are my woman
- putting my hands around you, hug and making you feel secure while watching a movie (yeah bring your lappy to the park)
- making you laugh to break the "possible" ice between us, and help you relax around me
- open up to you and being honest about who i am, in order for you to have a full picture of me, and hopefully helping you opening up to me too
- compliment you by telling you how beautiful you are, how great i feel around you, how lucky i feel around you, even how sexy you are etc so that you may feel comfortable around me
- listening to what you like, hobbies etc so that we may do something related to it during our future dates
- listen to any worries you may have and helping you the best i can to ADVISE you right
- if you have money issues, advise you on how to get a job or how to manage your finances better
- be a gentleman by opening door etc
- give you a shoulder massage if you say you are tired after work
- engage in conversations when away from you, via text/phone calls etc, enquiring about you, your day, your friends, your plans for the week etc
- cook you one of my favourite meal, and having you around me as i prepare the dish (everyone's gotta eat, right?)[/b]

and the beautiful thing about all the above is that no "extra" money is needed, and it can all be done FOR FREE (yeah cooking that meal too)

@rman @SlickM @sauceEEP @Tallesty1
thanks but sadly, one of the problem with some of these women failed state of mind is that many of us guys are gladly accepting their blackmail as the way of dating today, while it aint.

Well stated MBJ... Now have ever thought off this, not all guys have the ability to "pay attention" and in order not to loss their lady, they go the extra mile... You stated about making her laugh, how many guys have this ability to make a lady laugh, so therefore they take them to comedy shows, so as to see their lady laugh... You stated watching movies on a laptop, cool idea, but you know many guys fall asleep while doing this, and I tell, it an insult to your partner to fall asleep while doing such, because you are meant to be paying attention, so some men would rather take their lady to the cinema... You also stated cooking for her, what happens to those men, that can't cook, taking her to a restaurant(affordable) would not be a bad idea... You stated hobbies... Let say one of her hobbies is reading novel, would it not be nice when you buy one or two books for once in a while.

There are some thing that require little spending, which won't hurt his pocket... Not because its her right, but because you want to pay proper attention to her.

So mister MBJ, define attention... What comes along with attention... What do you mean by attention

Jamean:
Vex money
cc therealadonye

Vex money, how ?... you have lost me here ooo... And who is therealadonye

Its not a good idea at all for couples to sleep in different room... Couples who sleep in different rooms, tend to keep secret from one another... If they have a misunderstanding, it tends to last longer, than when they share the same room... When couples share the same room, they tend to discuss matters bothering them to each other... Couples that share same room have long lasting marriages... You get so used to your partner, that his/her absence on bed, would draw you more closer to him/her, even if your guys are not in good times... You guys would be able to pray together, even after a stressful day.

I have a strong feeling, that these guys who claim to be gay or who are gay, are being sponsored... There has to be some kind of benefit for this things... Its not normal

When did taking picture of my food become a crime or a village act... Its my food, so long I don't go to take pictures of other people's food on their tables... I could even ask for the chef to ask him how the food was prepared... Its my choice.


Your way, no be my way o

My opinion is everyone has fantasies, everyone has this particular thing they crave for... So when they have the money, they go chasing those things...it doesn't term them broke, my dear.


My aunt who is a military personnel( well paid), has 3 major cravings hanging out with friends, phones, and her hand bags, she is willing to spend lots of money on these three things... So does that term her broke... No, its her choice as along as she can pay for them... You can sell a fake shoes to my aunt and won't notice, but I tell you, you can not sell a fake handbag to her, she would surely know.


You can't judge all folk, with the same measure.

So we go on a date and its time to pay and he looks at me and says can you foot the bill... He know my capacity financially, he knows I can afford it, that why he can say so, so I pay... But when he know I can't afford it and he says such, I would simply tell him what I have then he would balance it up.

My girlfriends and I, have a rule, you don't go out on a date, with out having nothing less than 2k, in hand... So when some guy, wants to fall your hand... You can still lift your head high.

It all boils down to culture and loyalty... Which defines us as an African.

RIP... So young with a lot still ahead of him but all that has being cut short...hmmm... my prayer for we youth is, our journey in this life shall not be cut short... My heart is broken

I would keep preaching this whenever I see such list as this... That the ladies who make such demands from guys don't have relationship plans with such guys... They do this, things to stop the guys from disturbing them... A girl that's wants a relationship with a guy would do everything to keep the guy... I believe any girl who does the above to a gUy only wants to make such guy a maga. simple