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1.Passive
2.Patient
3. No nonsense

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soulglo:
She's not a man. She's a woman in an abusive relationship

Is that so?

runnazz:
not like that...i felt she was in dire need of my services from the comments i read so...any kind of bug at all no matter how troublesome & everyone is welcome.Hope its clear enough for you.

Please further clarify your idiom.... I no get.

They do it before??

1. Ingrained an art of independence into me.
a) Have a mind of my own, b) decision maker, c) a doer not follower.

2. It's okay to be vulnerable but don't wallow in it for pity. Get up and MOVE ON!

3. Accord Respect to folks 2 years older and up ( that I struggle with)

4. Regardless of achievement, my husband should ALWAYS come first.

Empathic

Saucer

Uganda

LOL hilarious

isreal001:
pls I just joined nairaland, do u talk abt raising babies on this chat room?

I believe so.


Wow this thread still exist?

emusmith:
I laugh.. that was extreme though...

Wow

You have no idea

kene05:
Pee?

Huh Huh ... Hold mi blockos and spray it around the toilet bowl however I like.

Pee

Hmm insightful.. I don't understand the logic behind #1 though.

went to a friend's house and met a male guest (and other guests) there. You wouldn't believe how she scolded her kids right in there in font of the whole crowd , not to sit on this particular guy's lap. I almost turned into a chameleon and disappear coz I was embarrassed for the guy.

I mean . why invite him into your home to start with??

[quote author=Frankiss44 post=29911211][/quote]Damn!! #Goosebumps

I doubt the guy is sane... But what do we know. Everything is a curse in Naija.

My sympathies to the dead and her family. What a lovely looking young lady.

Battered women : Please don't trumphet your exit plans. Keep it to yourselves. It's hard but please try for your own safety.

By the way.. What's so promising in "Malay" that our boys are rushing there?? Lord help our Land oh.

It's all up to you. If you think you aren't ready YET please don't jump into a lifelong situation you won't be able to manage. Don't let anybody blackmail/threaten you because of their 'ticking clock'.

As for her, is she dating other guys ( open relationship) or men just fell head over heels in love and propose to her right away on the go , because she's a virgin

reminds me of KSA & onyeka owenu's duo( if you love me, you go wait for me)

mutter:
Please assure him I am very much a woman, just that I like to be objective.

Well now that the story has unfolded some more it is clear I was not weighing heavily on the mens side.
Look how this woman keeps on and on even when her husband came on here, she goes on.
No shame, no regard for her husband or her kid`s. This is a disgrace.
Even in law there is room for provocation and if you make a man mad enough, he can get away with murder. So let us be kind to tell the woman the truth. She ought to apologize to the man..
I don`t blame the man coming out here to defend himself if he reads the one-sided flow of information here.
By the way OP why could you not hear the door bell at 9 in the night.

Why should anyone advise the man to hold the keys to his home. He can have one , yes. But as long as there are people at home, why should he use the key?
When a husband/ father comes home- the proper thing is for the wife to open the door and welcome him with a smile and a kiss , hug
How could she be sleeping when the man was out.
I always know when my husband is back even if I don`t hear his car. I just have the feeling that he is coming home, that is how it functions in a home.
But maybe she was busy finishing her call with one of her lovers that she did not hear the door.
It is a big question to me why the man would want the little girl to wait up for him? That is child abuse and this was also supported by the woman because it was her failure to do her duty that lead to this suggestion.
What a shame, a marriage with two kid`s and still basics are an issue.

Grandma mutter

I kuku like am

cococandy:
hand washing and sun drying.
I love the sun drying part sha. Not the hand washing part.

LOL.

Damiso, tell me about it. I still call the dude to wash my clothes till date. He's married now. Boy o boy he's good. That's what I call luxury.

Don't use no washing machine. Nah.

IyawoToBe:
It is well with you both and I pray God restores peace into your home.

Most of the problems we face in our homes can be avoided/solved with PATIENCE. Trust me on this, I learnt the hard way. It just takes one of you to give that ultimate sacrifice. Try it.

Awww there there iyawotobe.. Ma sunkun mo. Pele . It is well. Patience is the greatest virtue in any Union I agree. I wish them well too.

smartigo:
Romance section irritates me due to the level of childish talks n love love n love matter(smh); family section is full of squabbles because we have very emotional n egocentric posters. It is disheartening when a thread is turned south.

To be fair, it is not easy loving someone who had been bad to you;the spousal abuse had affected the op who didn't care about her husband staying late. That event is a culmination of series of events which the op didn't divulge.

It is difficult for me to judge in this issue other than for the woman to help herself. If the kitchen is too hot, get out. But avoid calling your husband names on public forum. Shikena !

Nah..

That's what's done best here.. Rash Judgemet , and instead of being diplomatic , the absent party is always sent into his/her early grave.

They both should be reprimanded for using under aged child for a maid.

Meanwhile for those talking about spare keys, I previously wanted to ask wife same q ... then it clicked . the Nigeria I remember always have shutters at the back of the door.

My advice to couple: Get help ASAP.

cococandy:
those people will cut her neck with prices.
After 3months the money they will collect will buy one functional washer.
A washer will be cheaper for her jare

Don't mind me. Just teasing CC ni :

But jokes aside , nothing beats hand washing in Naija.

^^ and what's wrong being Independent and Safe ??

fem29:
I just showed this to my husband and he was flabbergasted, . Mutter the menist

Abeg I no dey oh

Here's another one ..

mutter:
But OP if you love your husband you would be watching out of the window and listening for him to come in, no matter what time.
Imagine criminals had followed him and shot him at the doorstep. You would be the first suspect.

mutter no vex but I just can't help but rotfl reading this.

NL

OP .. Neither.

TheMadame:
Mr dinachi,
Please give this a rest. I beg of you. Every thread/arguement does not have to be US versus THEM. Why not treat each case on its individual merit and give your honest unbiased advise.
Yes,thinking bee was wrong to hire a 12 year old and she has admitted that it was a stop gap measure till her real nanny returns from holidays.
Her description of her husband is that of an angry,violent man. She at least needs a kjnd of temporary seperation from him till he gets his act together.

Madame abeg leave Dinachi alone, his posts need not to be generic like others we see on here.

Besides, why is her own case being taken lightly when a man was brutally mobbed here for similar offence days ago?

How's family?

mutter:
But OP, How could yoube sleeping when your husbandwas out.
Do you know how risky that can be, he might get attacked while bannging to enter the house.

Hehe.. This woman eh

Yester

1. Sky diving

2. Build a soup kitchen with Laundry rooms and shelter in Haiti .

3. Meet the current President of the United states of America OR The Queen.

A portrait of hand shake or a bow will suffice.

Iamsynord:
Some couples believe their is absolutely nothing wrong in going to clubs after marriage be it together or alone while others believe that as Marriage demands a higher level of Responsibility , Going to Club so be a thing of the past ..
What is your own view of this ??

What connotes High level of Respinsibility in Marriage??

Erm.. By the way, I went clubbing with my female friends last night till 2am. I must be very irresponsible