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madridguy:Na Senator dey hungry you. See your face ![]() |
boxer022:The thing is that I have not really seen a woman a man can trust. Women have a general weakness and that is giving in to pressure and persuasion. My best bet is that if that guy mount so much pressure on her, she may give in. Let's not forget the nature of work they do, the things they are exposed to, the timing of the work and her own situation. |
vega84:Yea, she's just starting the work but what if she ends up being raped? Do you think she'll tell me? |
@ prixus I reason with you. The problem is that I don't like hurting people. I try to do my best to make sure we stay happy but it pushed to the wall, I'll be left with no choice than to react. Someone without money or a job would always want to take up the parent's responsibility and hence trying to push herself beyond boundaries not minding how she goes about it. |
Optimall:Hmmmm!!! Thanks for your counsel. |
klark3:She's 22. The remuneration is just peanut. She just left for it now |
She bluntly refused to heed my counsels. Briefly, she has stayed for sometime without a job and we have always been together without quarrels but supporting her in ways possible. Recently, a friend linked her up to something: a work with Female Sex Workers (FSW). These guys operate at night and you have to go work/meet with them then. Work starts 9PM and closes 12 Midnight according to instructions from her Supervisor. It’s an NGO work and involves building the FSW's capacity on STIs and HIV/AIDS as well as condom distribution to them. She was chosen to work within her LGA where she stays/comes from but the challenge is that where these guys used to gather is far from where she stays and by the time the work is over at midnight, she can't find her way back home because of bike over long distance and risk involve in such ungodly hour. When we realized this, I said to her that she can't do the work because of this reason that it only fit someone who stays around where those guys ply their trade. I asked her to wait a little more that she'll fine something better to do rather that exposing herself to such risk in the name of work without any security guaranteed to them. She replied me no that she can sleep anywhere. And then she said she'll be sleeping with the colleague they attached to her. This is someone she only met during training they organized for them. This is just how she knows this guy. Yes, a guy! Immediately, she made up her mind that since there's no other person, she'll be going to sleep with this guy till the following morning. I asked her why taking such decision and she said she needs the money. I don't even know this man. And I fully know how a man can behave in such situation. Yes, no born again here. You'll definitely be tempted. And she left for the work on day 1. I couldn't sleep that night because of 'malaria dreams' here and there. I couldn't just sleep. The following morning she came back. I asked her how the work was and she replied, "Fine". "So how did you sleep?" She replied, "I didn't sleep". She then narrated how the guy was disturbing her throughout the night wanting to have sex with her. I felt so infuriated but had to absorb everything in and remained calm. And then she said that she has contacted the uncle who stays not quite around where she work with these guys but then he has promise to be picking her up when they close. She may get to see this here because she's a member of the forum. I won't call her attention to it anyway but if she does, no problem. I came here for your own advice on this issue because I feel like letting go of the relationship eventhough I know that I never wanted this happen to us because I love her but I can't bear watching this happening to me. How do I know that the guy didn't even force himself on her or that the uncle would keep to his words for her? What happens on days that the uncle doesn’t show up? What if she's telling me a lie about the uncle so that I let her be? I'm so disturbed because she is just too desperate to do this work. The most painful part is after I talked to her about men in general because I know how men can behave especially with such opportunity and coupled with the ‘spirit of the night’, she still went ahead and spend the night with that guy then came back to tell me her experience and now remembers she has an uncle who could help. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Advice me please because in this case, I don't know what to do. I usually advice people on range of issues but this one seem to me like a case of a doctor who falls sick and now needs another doctor to treat him. So you advice me please. |
Oduduwaboy: Yes...Africa shall conquer Ebola through ignorance! Applause please!I thought you worship Oduduwa, why not consult him on this? |
I think the Devil is really at work in this Ebola issue. But whatever the case maybe, we shall conquer. Africa would bring Ebola to it's knees. |
Faun: Translation?Seriously u don't understand that? Spaxon pls help him out. |
Spaxon: loolz.. So afo abo ke akpabio eyene inua??Too much o Akpabio edi aban awaha inua ![]() |
oluwasegunfummi: How I wish a governor like akpabio and obiano can emerge in odualand, our people are suffering, we need a saviour...........eko ooni baje oooooO boy, u rest nah You talk too much. |
Faun: It is common knowledge that envy is so rampant among Yorubas, that they try to mask it by crying more than the bereaved.Da afo ameyene inua Just like your governor. |
Search the forum for the thread and ask them to help. |
It depends largely on what the young man is doing today for tomorrow. Is he a graduate or a businessman? What are his skills? What are his investments so far? What are his ambitions? And you, what are you doing now while waiting for service? What are your skills too? Or are you just going to depend on your degree? What are your plans and where do you hope to see yourself few years from now? What are you doing now? Making a relationship work is a collective responsibility. You guys should plan together on where to be few years from now and work towards it. Put away the idea of marriage for now and invest on yourselves. And lastly, 'close' your legs. If you no fit hold body, use condom. This is time to work for the future. Wish you guys goodluck. |
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[quote author=Olucheye]where do you stay? |
It's fine. I'll add that they help their partner use it correctly and consistently for maximum protection. Good that we even have female condom now. |
Ask4bigneyo: A fast growing company that has NO NAME!....U dey mind that jjc. He thinks that it's everybody that is as dumb as he is. |
Nosyke: Mbok, i was going to say that oo, if only it was in Akwa Ibom or cross river, he would not have known what happened to his dog let alone in a pool blood. ![]() |
So they just killed your dog like that and did nothing more. Those people must be foolish. ![]() Sorry for the loss anyway. |
HBD Seun. But see what you have caused ![]()
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What is graduate training? |
fijiano202: I believe this is more attributed to religion than reality cos in nigeria and the world itself culture and religion works hand in glove..Biblically the right hand is regarded as a sign of strength and honor and also sitting at the right hand side of someone means u are highly honoured..like the christains believes that Jesus sits at the right hand of God which makes him next to God,Although the bible never mentioned left handed people as lesser people but people still believe the right hand is more honored..left handed people are not much in the bible,the most popular left-handed person in the bible is Ehud Judges chapter 3 and also Judges 20:16...the bible refers to left hand as an advantage cos people with left hand are mostly warriors....the left means plenty things in diff language - in latin left means sinister which means evil ,in french left is gauche which means awkward...in Local /traditional belief Right hand is called hand of peaceNice piece. But a little correction here: The Bible saying that Jesus sits at the right hand of God doesn't mean He sits at the right hand side of God. There's different between that two. What the Bible says in essence there is that Jesus is sitting in God's position of authority and not necessarily which direction (left, right or centre). For instance, if I say this guy is my right hand man. That means you can deal with him on my behalf. It means I have entrusted my authority on him. He can acts in my place etc. Hope that makes some sense. |
You can still help yourself out with the lady in that mail. She needs a man from NL. Am not interested ![]()
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Djangocode: Power an Application??Yes. But it just give rise to another. Hope u can still help. Pls how can a .WAR file be deployed on it or on a standalone Tomcat? This is actually where I was going to pls. Gurus pls help. |
I want to ask, can this AMPPS be use to power another application on the same system? If yes, how? If no, why? |
It's actually a matter of choice. If the parties feel they can stay and wait for each other no matter how long, fine! If they feel they should have conditions under which they'll have to wait, better!! I see no reason why love should turn to frustration. Again, in this age and time, there's no way one cannot communicate with the other at most a week except the person is death. Atleast you can make a call even if you were in prison and a country's communication's services cannot be down for more than a week. |



