I really cannot believe people are asking to see the video.Sharing it or being in possession of it is a crime. J

Jigba:
I hope the monster is arrested.

Child porn is no joke

And please stop circulating the video, those of you asking about the video. What will you do with it?

You are kidding right?Wow why not just say women were born to be slaves.women have been taking care of men since for even,they do everything at home and have never been appreciated because while they take on the jome front they still contribute finacialy.Lord he can cook and take care of himself is he a child.I wonder why anybody on earth would leave such an important thing like knowing how to cook in the hands of another person.When men work do they share their money 50/50 or is it because its the woman's money.Funny how most of our African men have not yet gotten the memo,they are not our children and they should grow up.She sleeps around so what if she does,is that not what he does too. Wow now the African woman has to deal with mens insecurity and ego.Always massaging some men huge ego it gets really tiring.

12inches1:
The TJ guy is certainly an endtime. But Tiwa is also a lot to blame. We all know that 95 percent of Nigerian women cannot handle being richer or more successful than their husband. They all act the same way. Tiwa no dey cook for her husband. She is more interested in shows than family life or taking care of her husband.And her husband is more interested in forming big boy all over Lagos without job.if her husband was rich like dangote's son. Trust me it will be easy for them to be together. What is wrong with her and her husband sharing the proceeds of her talent 50-50. See where she found herself after listening to foolish friends. Where are all the friends now? They are busy laffing at her at her back. Nigerian women are really not ready to be emancipated. We will see more of this if that happen. For a Nigerian woman, your priority is first your husband, family then after your career.Tiwa youre not oyinbo. And I blame u for almost everything. You can't even say confidently you cook for ur husband. Men have to be careful abeg.

[I wonder oh,i donot get it.Must she marry.quote author=IRserveMyComent post=44999898] na wao! I dont know where you guys get the idea that a lady being unmarried is because no has proposed to her or no one wants her[/quote]

Must she marry must she have a child.Are you the one or is it society that would decide what her happiness would entail.She is living her life

chigoizie7:



Lol, u are correct, but jenny don born nah.

In as much as we all musnt marry, which linda is not an exception to that notion.

But, are u comfortable dying without a hubby and a child? Damn, that's one hell of a lonely life, maybe linda is comfortable with the company of her hermes hand bags and her laptop.


I was just being sarcastic

Wow stop hating on Linda.She has taken control of her life and doing what many people cannot do and haters are coming in from everywhere.Linda go ahead the more people hate on u the more God seem to bless you.

I wonder why us Africans always think everybody lie about their age.I believe he is 18

I wonder who cares.Women don't really give a fu....ck.My body i do what ever i want with.All these men always trying to tell girls and women how to behave or what to do have fail to realise that nobody is listen.Are the women sleeping with themselves.Therefore if u do not want women doing the thing zip up your trousers.So if u care so much about the VGG weakening then spare urself the trouble do not marry bc unfortunately for you women are testing the waters and if u cannot deal with it take a jump.

This issue needs a multiple approach.First there is need to deconstruct the male mentality.This would involve leting them understand that the female gender is not there for their pleasure.They should understand that they do not have any right over the female body, so that will mean change the way we bring up female and male children where the male child thinks he can get away with anything.This is more or less a socio-cultural approach

[Really you approached the problem from the root.You should just have said female children and women should relocate to another planet but I wonder if that would work since men still rape boys. quote author=Freemanan post=36499893]
Your choice of wit is poor. Try harder. I approached the problem from its root but seems your knowledge on sociology is too poor so you prefer making sarcasm. I will leave you to those who will give you a surface solution. Thanks.[/quote]

This same Timaya is in the USA.He will be playing today. Here is the program.

Jamean:
If not for any other thing...thanks for the dress part. That's why some ladies can't even dress decently, 'cause they grew up otherwise.

you guys must be kidding right.what has dressing got to do with these issues.what certainly do you think a three year old will wear that will attract a man.Even if she was running around naked that does not give anybody the right to rape her . Sometimes I wonder how people think, I have seen women cover from head to toe still being raped. It is this kind of society that always tries to given nonsensical explanation for the action of perv In the society.

I wounder who developed these thought that women only sit and wait on their men to do everything.If i can remember in my community all women have always done one thing or the other.This construction that women do nothing to me is not real.Even those who are full time house wife don't sit around.Being a house is more that an eight hour job in itself.It never ends.How many women in our society are lucky to just sit around.I would say few.From the villages to the cities women do not sit ,unless you start telling me their own way of contributing to the family is valueless.

GodofGrace:
.....so what you are saying in essences is that man should quit their job why wife should keep her own in other for balance right. just imagine most ladies nowadays everything's about them speak up arrogance

I think you should just tell women not to go to school,not to own businesses etc in fact let them just go back to be total dependent on men so that people can have the opportunity to bash them ,as it is often done ,because later on in life they would get married and will have to take care of husband and children. I is a pity that the world has change and women have opportunity to do what they think is best for them.If they want to stay at home that should be their decision,after all some women would love to be stay at home but they can not because it will mean disaster.Some women like me love to work,i did not spend 8 years in university just to finish and put the degrees under my pillow.My kid knows mum loves what she does but she also knows she is at the top of mum priority and mum loves her to death.While i try at the same time to take her to all her activities spend time with her my husband should also know he too needs to do same.We have pass the days when men could have the luxury to just be arm chair fathers and husbands,they need to be more proactive in their homes.What is making men to be so scared to be care givers?

Sometimes i wonder what people want women to do.They work you complain ,they stay at home you complain.So what do people expect from women.So after all the years they put in school now they are expected to just let all that go and sit home and take care of kids and husband.Then after that you will come to Nairaland and bash women. The problem in all this is when people get married everybody expect the woman to carry everybody in the family and i don't think it is right,they man is just expect to go to work and more or less that is all his responsibility.Women on the other hand will have to work,take care of children,husband,be the cook ,the cleaner, driver,teacher,sex partner,doctor, nurse (they are the ones who stay up when the kids are sick,where is dad,sleeping )you can name the rest.At the end of all this you have women who are burn out because they carry the load of the entire house.Excuse me for saying this a husband does not have the right to tell the wife leave your job and stay at home.Marriage is a partnership and for it to work everybody in that partnership must learn to be partners ,the husband has to know that it is not only the wife who can helps and take care of the children, doing their home work,she is not the only one who has to go for school appointment,or take the child to hospital.If the wife is not there to cook the husband should.The reality is that woman have always multitask and i do not think they do it because they so love it although most often African women will just go on and on while pretending to be happy hoping that they get the gratification from their kids really when they grow old and have their own life's then what. Family is great but you can never derive all your happiness from children by the way why do we expect that women should get all their happiness from the family while the men have a range of things that makes them happy.People need to get over this. Women should have a life out side their husband and kids and not feel guilty about it or people guilt them about it.

Why do we need to go far.Just look at how our world is manage ,who are does responsible for it.Mostly men .Are they doing a good job?If you think they are doing a good job then that is your answer.Women now are left with trying to manage the little that comes down and if we are still eating inspired the mismanagement from men then tell me they are not doing a good job.Women have stronger ethics and usually think more about the rights of others thus they are more fair.Women some how are very patient they have acquired these skill through their socialization and therefor they have that patience to wait for their fruit to rip and mature.By the way studies are showing that women are better managers than me

Being married is not easy.Anyway who said marriage was easy.When growing up i notice something with most, if not almost every women in my immediate surrounding they gave up everything and accepted any shit that people (meaning husband and inlaws) gave them .They did this without expecting any thank you.I used to wonder if these women were truly happy or they were just existing.Fathers will just do anything have other women by the side,even have kids without anybody holding them accountable for their actions.Can you imagine how it feels knowing that your husband is sleeping with other women and sometimes he will not even provide for his family.So women stayed because if they left people will talk ,her children will suffer ,so they stayed took the shit and sometimes even beating.Then came the 21 century and you tell women to continue leaving in that bubble.like it or not ,call it what ever women don't want to continue in that mess.Do you know how difficult it is to try being a modern woman.Men expect that you work bring in money,take care of children,be the cleaner ,the teacher and then the wife (wow) while the man role has not change,he goes to work and comes back and rest.So the woman will nag who will not and the husband will wonder what a bad woman.So divorce is inevitable .Because you suddenly realize that you don't have any obligation to stay in any marriage that is making you sick (anywhere most marriages will make you sick at one point or the other it all depends on the decision you make).After all you can take care of yourself and the kids even if you are in Nigeria or in any other African county where women are not that protected better if you are in a developed country where the men will be force to contribute financially to his children up bringing.

I think most often we see the signs and yet pretend we don't see it or assume it is going to change.You have not been collecting anything from this guy and that shows that you are independent.I wonder if you are planning to have a future with this guy ,if you are then you need to either accept the fact that even in your home that is the same attitude he will have.If he is crafty now,then expect that same behavior when you get married.In marriage you will quickly realize that while you will be spending on the family ,getting him to contribute will be hell.

Lord have mercy.So tell me should i take my daughter everywhere i go? If i cannot trust her own father then whom am i going to trust.

Men and sex.Why am i having a feeling that there is no man that you can actually trust when it comes to sex.What is it with people, that they can not keep their their stuff in their trouser.Some how people will figure out a way to blame the women.

Wonders the problem now has become the woman's problem.Women don suffer for this ground.

We are fun of saying is an African culture.So do you think people in Europe will teach children to call them by their names.Or is respect only is an African thing.Respect is something that is universal.No parent whether black white or what ever color will want their child or nobody at that to disrespect them.The problem is the approach.Most Africans approach it as if it is a dictatorship or should i say authoritarian mind set.I am wondering why we call God by his name,each and every religion has their own name they use to call The almighty yet he is not sending us all on time out for calling him by his name.I certainly am thinking he is thinking of the context and not the content.

I get what the op is going through.I don't think not wanting to be intimate with your husband means you want to go out and start having sex with another man or that you don't love him.Women occupy a lot of roles and all these roles are very demanding.Take for example in this modern society ,a woman is expected to be a mother ,and we all know what this role entail,take care of the kids,clean,cook and be a teacher to the kids when they come back from school you need to make sure you go through their school work,help them in their studies,while doing all this you are also expect to work and bring in money for the family in addition to that be a wife and satisfy your husband sexually.

Being a super woman is not easy and at the end of the day something has to give ,and most often the sex is the victim .At the end of the day you are too tired and just want to sleep because the next day you have to go through all that.Men because of the way they are socialize forget that if they assist more ,take part in child care and participate more with the work load at home rather than just sit on the chair and pass out orders they will be having more sex and often.The work load prevent women from having the energy for sex.

Anyway i will wish op to tell us when she started not wanting to have sex with husband.

I would say personally men do not have a problem with a woman success in so far as she keeps cleaning,taking care of the children,bringing money and handing it over to him let him have sex when ever they want. Immediately they think that she may not do all this they keep away.

What is wrong with your child calling you by name.We have had cases where children got missing and fortunately were taken to the police and it was next to impossible to get their parents name ,you ask them what is your father's name ,my father's name is daddy(papa etc) mother's name mama(mum,mummy). Are you kidding me.Is it because we are so scared that if we teach our children our names they may use it to call us. I think the most important think is respect.The first day my daughter heard my mother call me by name she was just turning three she was existed and went ahead to call me by my name and i smile I thought now is the time for me to let her know our names so i started teaching her the father's and i names. Occasionally she will call me by my name because she is existed to find out that we all have got names not just mama and papa.She is loving and respectful and that is all that matters.On the other hand my brother was so infuriated that my mother was calling him by his name and his son will want to do same.I was like what do you expect your mother to call you now,he said she should call him 'pa nevile"I was shock and asked him so is that your name,when you were born they was no pa ,or daddy or what ever attached to your names.I think the problem we have is we are so consume with this authority thing that we loss focus of the essential thing.No number of papa,dad,daddy or mama will make you feel better if the child is unbelievable disrespectful.You will pray to God they even call you by your name and be respectful.Just thinking

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You now how people always say you forget about the pain after you have given birth.Well that is not the case with me,because anytime i think about it scares the hell out of me.From the day i took in it was hell,some women fine it easy ,but for me it was nine months of hell.Anywhere came the day of Labor ,as planned it should have been natural birth,but it became a prolong labor which took two days,believe me it was like i was stock between heaven and hell.Anyway i was lucky that i happened to have had a qualified team of doctors around.After a long and prolong labor which seen like it was never going to end my daughter became distressed and started drinking the amniotic fluid.It was then i was rush for a cs.My husband was there and was even in the operation room.My daughter is the best thing that has happened to me but it is also the hardest thing i have done in my life.Some women go through pregnancy as if it was a walk in the park,and others fine it really had.

You will need to run as far as you can before you get too involve.