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Education / Re: Unilag studies thread by farellstone: 11:32am On Aug 14, 2018
Please I need past questions for sociology. Email;ajayibabatunde888@gmail.com

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Education / Re: Unilag studies thread by farellstone: 8:43am On Aug 13, 2018
BlueRayDick:


Am running my masters in the same school and I can tell you I never submitted any transcript whatsoever. Just a copy of my original certificate during the screen process and that was all that was required.

If I may ask what is the transcript required for?
Please did you do your first degree in Unilag?
Education / Re: Unilag studies thread by farellstone: 10:52am On Aug 12, 2018
Please house,i want to know if I will submit my transcript before admission comes out or after?
Travel / Re: How Much Is Benin City From Ado-ekiti? by farellstone: 12:49am On Aug 03, 2018
2000 naira. You can get bus from Akure garage in Ado ekiti.

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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Pacific Schools Fresh Academic Job Recruitment (15 Positions) by farellstone: 10:25am On Jul 24, 2018
Please I will like to know their salary range for a graduate level English teacher. I'm not based in Akure, so I feel I should have an idea of what they pay their graduate level employee. Thanks.
Romance / Re: My Fiancee Sent Her Nude To A Married Father Of 2 In US by farellstone: 5:53am On Jul 13, 2018
Gidilagoon:
Pls house, I don’t know if am being stupid or not man enough but I just have to share this with you guys just for an advice.. it might be long as I really want to express myself pls.
I have been dating this girl going to 2years now and we are planning to settle down probably next year. I have known this girl for a very long time because we have dated before when I just got admitted to university but we ended after short period,so After few years that we’av graduated, we met again and fortunately we were both still single ,so we decided to start dating again and this time we are more serious and planning for future, I realized she must have dated many guys when I left her because it was a long time ago, so I decided to change her phone number just to avoid any connection with any guy from her past since am planning my future with her now, but after awhile I noticed some of these guys still chat her on FB and Instagram and she replies, and one even sent her money and I was totally mad at her but later we resolved it.. so back to the main issue that just came up recently . I don’t know what took me to her Facebook profile and I decided to go through her messages, I noticed one of the guy she claimed to be her uncle was a man friend she has known from the past, this guy Is married with 2kids living in US.I noticed my girl sent her nude to him and they were having sex chat, so I acted like I didn’t see anything and I invited her to my house the next day and tell her what I saw, then she started crying, immediately I gave her 3 hot slap and asked her to leave my apartment but she wouldn’t leave but kept crying on the floor and said she’s ready to swear with death if such ever happened again, that she was just stupid.
Well I dragged her out of my house, and since then all her family from different places have been calling me pleading on her behalf except her Mom and Dad which she can’t tell about it.I noticed she has changed her phone number and delete her Facebook account after what happened , but I told her it’s already late when her aunty called me... honestly I still love her, because she’s the only girl I ever fell for but won’t I look stupid if I accept all the pleading and continue with her? And can such girl make a good wife? She’s too vulnerable,too emotional and she has dated a lot of guys in the past, so it scares the hell out of me to settle down with her, so that man no go die untimely death.. Her aunty said she wants to come and meet me this weekend but I told her I will get back to her. Do you think I should let her come? Pls mature men in the house don’t abuse me, just advice your guy abeg.
You gave her three hot slaps. Is she your sister/object? There are ways to deal with a cheating gf/bf. You don't have the right to hit her.

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TV/Movies / Re: Request For Any Hollywood movie, Tv Series Download Link by farellstone: 12:42pm On Apr 29, 2018
Please share the link to download "close range."
Politics / Re: Senator Ademola Adeleke Dances For Dangote At Fatima & Jamil Abubakar's Wedding by farellstone: 8:39pm On Mar 22, 2018
Eziokwuegbuozoo:
How much did they spray him? Believe me if that man knows the value of the office he occupies, he won't stood so low to entertain business men with dancing skills. Their mindsets are always about the frivolous allowances they corner in the chamber.
hmmmmm, akika. Stood indeed.
Business / Re: Football (+Other Sports) Betting Season 12 by farellstone: 11:58pm On Mar 10, 2018
TellMeNothing:
1XBET is the Best Bookie in the whole wide world..Haters go and chop shyte///// grin

Clear Road.......


Meanwhile shout out to Bigmex ---Predictz.com made the Hit and i did the Remix

cashout in a giffi......
I have tried to open account with them all to no avail. Please did u open with system or on mobile and what browser?
Business / Re: Football (+Other Sports) Betting Season 12 by farellstone: 6:10pm On Feb 18, 2018
Dumb celtic
Travel / Re: General South Africa Visa Enquiries by farellstone: 9:57am On Jan 26, 2018
I logged in to the students portal at the university of Johannesburg to check my status, I saw INTERNATIONAL PG ADMITTED on my first choice status description. Is it that I have been admitted? I'm kind of confused since there is no admission letter as regards to it.
Romance / Re: She Is Pregnant For Me But I Am Not Ready by farellstone: 11:00am On Jan 20, 2018
jamie1994:
I am feeling a bit relieved that people still show care.
Please don't leave me..
Thanks as more helpful comments are made
don't leave you? Did we enjoy the sex with you? Oga you are on your own. All the interests we have end here.

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Religion / Re: Lady Slams Benedicta Elechi, Daddy Freeze's Fiancee For Wearing Seductive Dress by farellstone: 7:23am On Jan 19, 2018
Seun:
In modern society, especially showbiz, cleavage is no longer considered to be a private part. Showing it off is just like showing off your face, you hair, or your hands. Also, there is no bible verse that condemns cleavage. Tastebudz and daddy freeze are not guilty of anything.
To you now the modalities of showbiz supersede biblical precepts.
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Professional CV and Cover Letter Templates For Job Seekers by farellstone: 8:43am On Jan 17, 2018
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Travel / Re: General Guide To Australian Permanent Resident Visa Through Skilled Migration. by farellstone: 7:57am On Jan 14, 2018
jimcollins136:
Hi
I recently received a positive outcome from Vetassess and noticed these statements on the assessment report.

Employment assessed: 1. Customer Service Manager, TINO LTD (01/2012 to 11/2016)

1. From 08/2010 to 11/2016, Customer Service Manager, TINO LTD
Date deemed skilled for Points Test Advice:8/2010
Number of years assessed positively: 6.3.

Please which of the dates should i use in completing EOI as relevant employment date?
please did you upload your transcript yourself to Vetassess or your school sent it. Please I need your response on this.
Romance / Re: 'thinking Of What To Do If You Break My Heart' - Lady With A Knife To Her Mouth by farellstone: 6:45am On Jan 11, 2018
Her statement is ironic. I think it's more about how much she will mess the guy up if he breaks her heart.
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 4 by farellstone: 8:50pm On Jan 06, 2018
comrichard20:


Yes you can. It depends on schools, I also got admitted with 2.2. But I think most schools accept 2.2

Let the pro in the ask help you with cops calculation
thanks. Please, one other thing, can I send my transcript myself during application? My school don't usually send transcript for students.
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 4 by farellstone: 7:56pm On Jan 06, 2018
Jigba:


The third one is so important. Some won't understand till they get here. Also, internship is good, I completely agree with you
please can one with 2.2 cgpa in arts course be admitted for masters in any University in Germany?
Travel / Re: General Guide To Australian Permanent Resident Visa Through Skilled Migration. by farellstone: 8:12am On Jan 06, 2018
bellong:
Lovetrust,

There are some information you can easily get online by just typing it in Google. Will try to answer those I can answer.

1. Subclass 189 gives you freedom to move to any state you desire at anytime while 190 says you have a moral obligation to live in the state of sponsorship for 2years.

2. Irrespective of the visa subclass you choose, you will have to find job yourself. No one or state will do that for you.

3. Border force does not need any financial evidence or statement, they will only advice you to be able to support yourself for at least 6months as it is the window phase of looking for a job.

4. Public schools to secondary level (high school) are more or less free because you only pay fraction of the fee. It is cheap.

5. Children are entitled to subsidized childcare fee based on parents' income, it could be as much as 70%. There is family benefits for low income family.

6. If you really read the opening posts and the links as claimed, you would have read extensively of this from one of the links.

7. You can work in any sector you want as long as the employer is ready and willing to employ you. The occupation you came in with does not limit the type of job you can do, you only need to proof to employers you have the skill needed.
please bellong, the state 'Tasmania ' sponsoring my occupation does not stipulate if applicants are to have access to a large sun of money under the Visa subclass 190. Please is it possible it's not important one has access to huge sum of money?
Travel / Re: General Guide To Australian Permanent Resident Visa Through Skilled Migration. by farellstone: 8:02am On Jan 06, 2018
OmogeNG:


Just follow the guidelines on the website.

Applicants with degrees from Nigerian unis are unable to upload their transcript. The uni has to forward it.

Originals are fine. Bank statements is not a must. They may or may not ask. Payslips alone are just fine, but you can add bank statements if you want.

It is better if your evidence of pay shows your first ever pay, a couple in the middle, and your most recent pay.
please like my school that doesn't send transcript. if one wait for them to send it will just be left in their box. How do i get my transcript uploaded. One other thing, I have always been paid through my account, no pay slip. In this case what do I do?
Travel / Re: General South Africa Visa Enquiries by farellstone: 8:39pm On Jan 05, 2018
imoniyi:




1. U can use form A or agent. Best is agent
2. To get admission into Monash is easy, it's a private university. What course are u doing
3. I don't understand ur question.
I go to Monash tho
please how much is postgraduate tuition fee for social science in monash. And how much can one budget for studying and accommodation?
Travel / Re: General South Africa Visa Enquiries by farellstone: 8:35pm On Jan 05, 2018
moomanpg:
Try Monash university South Africa admission is still on.
please how much is postgraduate tuition fee for social science in monash? I just need your rough estimate.
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by farellstone: 4:56pm On Jan 05, 2018
Rubysims:
Hi Everyone,

As I write this I dont even know where to start. I am Zimbabwean and I have dated a Yoruba man for 10 years now. We have our fair share of problems but he has remained consistant over the years. I met him when I was 19. He courted me for a full year before I accepted him. I went to school for my bachelors and Masters different continents he always made an effort to follow me wherever I went, or be there whenever I needed anything he would make sure he provided where he could and its done.

I eventually moved to the USA and he eventually relocated to be with me. I have a good job and I come for a very well off family. Im not perfect but I constantly strive to grow in my relationship with Christ. I cook most of the nigerian dishes. Take care of him when he needs me and I support him when necessary too. One time this man came to live with me for a very long time. He didnt support me with rent, bills or food. I did it anyway out of love. You guys, I also stayed for years when he didnt meet any of my needs and all he would say is 'God will provide.' All I ever wanted was an equal partner..of course I submit and Im respectful but I would really also want a man who takes care of his home and family as if you dont it causes resentment.

Anyway fast forward ..4 months ago we had a big fight and it was over me encouraging him to get a job and not rely on hustling, buying and selling etc. The fights started about how I have changed, im this and that. I quickly became the enemy. I also warned him about alcohol consumption as a lot of his money atleast $500 a month is spent on booze and when he drinks he becomes very aggressive and angry. He also asked me for a lump sum of money. He wanted me to withdraw it from my savings and give it to him but I could not do so at the time. Finances make relationships akward also. Lastly he was pestering me about having a baby for him. I said I will not, I was raised well and will never have a child out of wedlock. Anyway he then moved out and went back to his old state and got a place.

Whilst there a friend he knew from school contacted him on ig. They started talking again and the girl made trips to his house. He said about 4. He hardly knows the girl and said they just attended the same school in naija.

Fast forward to my birthday he comes to visit and he started crying. I have never seen this man cry EVER.
I asked him what was wrong and he mentioned his mom and a lot was going on in his life..I Knew she wasn't too well before.I started crying too and comforted him..he left and started acting funny the next day.

After a lot of back and forth days later he broke down again and told me he got a girl pregnant and he was crying saying i wish it wasnt happening and it was you. He sent a message to the girl telling her to get rid of it and asked her why she would want to get married for a man she doesnt know after one night stand. "Girls that trap men sha..

It was a mistake he was drunk and just wanted to bust a nut. They used protection by the way and she was acting like she does not know how it happened. I asked him if he disposed of the condom, no she did. I asked him if he was a learner? Women trap men all the time with sperm.

He went over to her place I was on the other end of the phone listening in. She said she wouldn't do it and was acting possesesd. She said a whole speech about how she can do it alone and his name wont be on birth certificate etc and how she doesn't want a man who does not want her child. She also said 'if your parents did that to you would you be here driving this very expensive car' clap hands for the gold digger everyone. Just as I had suspected.other women see a good thing and want a finished product, they dont know its someone elses work. He told her, he can never ever be with her even if she kept it. He left her house.

30 minutes later his door bell rings and we were still on the phone. She says a whole speech and says she will remove it. When she left we celebrated and we were so happy. God forgive us. I said to myself now I only have to work on trusting him again. Next day she calls and says she changes her mind.. goodness..my boyfriend doesnt want her or her child and she's forcing it on him. Is it by force yoruba gehs sha lol..

I also really need prayers guys I think she does jazz. She told my bf that her pastor in nigeria told her he has someone in his life. What kin pastor b dat.bf is scared to display my pics and I cant see her face because he thinks she might want to harm me. A pastor of God we talked to wanted to talk to her but she says she fears what the girl might do to her.

Omg please pray for me. My boyfriend and i really didnt want a broken home.whats the point of keeping a baby the man doesn't want. I asked him to ask her how much she wants and we will give her the money. She blocked him and got her brother to call him.

He was so desperate he was willing to do anything for her to get rid of it but she wont budge, she has even blocked him.I am praying its not his, she's not pregnant or she just lets us be abeg. Please give me guidance and support. Should i leave this man, will I be able to live with a bastard child and constant reminder of his infidelity? I forgave him eventually after his people begged me and due to our history.

He wants to go see my people so we do the trad, engagement etc so we start on our family..he waited all these years for me to go to school and do what I needed to do and now this. I have to see that mumu woman who ruined my life forever. But believe me you although her child will be catered for she will not get a dime from me or my personal family's inheritance and the wealth acquired from me and my husband. The child will get something but not to the extant she thinks. I will do my homework and file paperwork to protect myself.

Is it common for Yoruba women to trap men. You dont even know this man and one night stand you wont let him be..nawawo.

Do I seem desperate for staying? It has been 10 years and this was not only my man but my friend. I have everything going for me, men approach me always but I turn them down. I have zero baggage.

Please help
you are being scammed by them. Don't worry you will get to know.
Family / Re: She Is Too Shy To Initiate Lovemaking With Her Husband by farellstone: 9:28am On Jan 02, 2018
MhizzAJ:
Instead of the husband to teach her he decided to use that time to tell you about his bedroom activities
Some men sef
***
Why is the husband complaining
Every man wants a virgin wife these days nah
you did not fully comprehend the post. The wife was the one that told him.
Romance / Re: I Need Help With My Relationship by farellstone: 8:35am On Dec 05, 2017
The woman you want to marry? This is hilarious. Well, as you said you need advice. So bros, it's not ideal to have a fiancée who is being pounded by a grandpa, and you are even aware of it. Leave the lady and find your own love. If you insist on continuing the relationship, posterity won't be kind to you.

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Travel / Re: General South Africa Visa Enquiries by farellstone: 8:09am On Dec 02, 2017
House, as a postgraduate student, can I get job to sustain myself in South Africa.
Romance / Re: 'Rape & Beg': UnilagOlodo Who Was Accused Of Rape Takes Legal Action (Photos) by farellstone: 7:36pm On Nov 28, 2017
yeyerolling:
rapist wey dey give head hahahahaha, how is dat rape. so he used kitty cat juice to stain his beards damnn
what a good point.
Family / Re: My Wife Is Adulterous: Advice Needed-long Post by farellstone: 4:09pm On Nov 26, 2017
betafuture:
I am very sorry, it seems like anytime I post on Nairaland is actually the time I have great challenges in my life, however, my posts also reflect the chronicle of my life. You may wish to check out my last posting about how I was sacked in the Bank with a debt that was guaranteed by a junior staff, whose job was threatened by the loan I obtained and she guaranteed for me. please find the link https://www.nairaland.com/2282140/loan-incured-before-termination-appointment Like I mentioned in that post, I got a job as with a Rep member and he appointed me as the Special assistant on a salary of 80k monthly and my boss paid my rent, of which I engage with my lender to take 50k with me monthly and right off the excess interest and stop disturbing the junior colleague, an arrangement they agreed to and everybody was fine, save that I had to struggle to cope with 30k monthly as a family man, working in Abuja. My wife never complained. I just gave her 25k from the salary, once received, to buy food for the family why I tried to manage with the remaining 5k. It was tough! Luckily, a junior lady cousin who works in a bank was posted to Abuja and we had to accommodate her. She was very kind and understood my plight. Sometimes, she drops up to 50k for my wife to augment the house expenses. She would tell me and sometimes, I would take additional 10k to ad to my pocket money.

The home was running, my son, my wife and my cousin, including myself were very happy. As a banker, I had learned the skill of marketing and networking and negotiation. In the course of my sojourn in the national assembly I met a head of a parastatal wjo needed me to do some strategic alliance between his organization and my boss. We later became great friends, and i realized I could access a scholarship to study in the UK through him. To cut the story short, I pursued this opportunity to the latter and I got a Federal government scholarship to pursue a Masters degree in the UK. I saw this as an opportunity to rewrite the story of my life. Two months in the UK, I began to look for means to bring my wife and son to join me in the UK. While I was in UK, I made it a point of duty to send 150k to my wife in Nigeria on monthly basis (Remember I was on scholarship) and I also do student work in the UK. Because we did not sell our car during the crisis, I also gave the custody of the car to her.

FIRST SUSPICION

When she was about coming to the UK with my 7 years old son, we decided to give out some of our home appliances and sell most of them including the car. Since I was not in Nigeria, she was to manage the transactions. Because I opened her e-mail address, i do see her mails, so i could see the alert on her GTB. The first thing that prompted me was that the amount she received for the sales of our car was 100k higher than what she declared to me. (The fund was meant to buy the flight tickets for her and my son). There were other expense transactions that were over declared, but the actual amount debited to her account were quite low. I did not confront her on these issues until she arrived UK with my son. When I did, I could see the way she manipulatively and professionally lied her way out of the whole issue. I did not pick an offense, hence i made her to understand that I was never convinced. Since then my instinct told me that if she could lie to me so much on finance, maybe there are other things going on in her life that I never known. However, I opened her Facebook account for her years ago in Nigeria, but I never bothered to check it. Out of curiosity, I tried login into her Facebook account and I discovered she has changed the password. My first reaction was to check it, but had I done that, she would have been conscious, then I used my skill as an trained IT security expert to crack her password and then access her Facebook. I ran through all her messenger message and everything was fine. Apart from a certain guy who always beg her for assistance and prayer, there was nothing really suspicious about her messanger and then, we continued with our normal life.

After a week in UK, she started to work as a carer (her visa permitted her to work fully), and she began to make money. I know how much enters her account and we decide how to spend. My son also start schooling and life began to have meaning again. I finished my masters with a distinction and the best graduating student in my department and my University offered me automatic admission for PhD, with part scholarship.l To remain, we needed to source funds to show evidence that my family can stay with me in the UK and show evidence of the balance of school fees. We sourced for money everywhere. She brought all she had and we had to borrow both from UK and Nigeria. My boss was very supportive and I commenced the PhD this September. As a family, we have a problem. My son is now 8 years and we have been trying to make another baby but it does not seem to be forthcoming. We have been to hospitals in the UK, we were both tested and once told my sperm motility was low, treated, but later we were considered both ok.

Since her arrival in the UK, I noticed that my wife suddenly repel sexxx. Sometimes, we had sexxxx just once in a month, she would find a way of brushing away by advances. At a level, i had to ask if there was any problem, but she said it was because of the new environment, her jobs and what have you. This further told me that all was not well in my marriage. She knows I love her and I would do anything for her. While we were yet trying to pay my tuition, her mum got a US visa and all the children were making contributions for her journey, I had to take from my school fees and send to Nigeria and manage my school to give us more time. I tried to ensure that we continually live like one happy family.

Do not let me sound like one perfect good guy. I had also lived a rough bad life in the past and she is aware. During my days in the bank, I had been sexually reckless and irresponsible. There was a time I left office to a gal house, fckked her and I never knew that the condom we used was stick to my shoe. I drove with it home, entered home very late at night, my wife was already angrily waiting for me in the house, only to see a used condom with sperm inside attached to the soul of my shoe. It was an issue that we had to battle with for weeks, even though I never confess it was from, I told a story that it must have got gummed to me at the mechanic village where I had gone to pick my car in the evening (She was aware that someone has accused my mechanic of having sexxx in his car, leaving condom at the back seat). after few weeks, we resolved the issue and we continued leaving normal life. However, there was also a time I suspected her activities on Facebook and I realised a guy whom she has known in the past has been pestering her and she seems to be encouraging him (That was during our period of financial crisis). I had confronted her, she had denied they never had anything but the guy was just pestering her. I apologised and went sober. I called the guy (who was also married) and lived in another faraway city. The guy denied having anything to do with her that she just knew her while growing up. The guy originally blasted me, but later called back and apologized and promised never to disturb her again. I was hurting for months, after which I forgave, forgot and moved on. Let me also state that during the period of my financial crisis, I made a covenant with God, after listening to a message, that whatever the case maybe, I will remain faithful to my wife. This I have manage to keep despite advances from both married and single friends and acquaintances.

THE REAL ISSUE

Now, we are living in the UK and very happy, she is working full-time, while I pursue my PhD full-time, work part-time and my son schools full-time and we were all happy, save the issue of delayed pregnancy and (to me, the poor sex life from her). Let me also state that I bought her a Samsung phone (when she arrived last year), which I have full access to because I know her password. Few months ago, she told me she wanted a bigger phone that she would send the one I bought her to my younger brother in Nigeria who had been disturbing her for a phone. Even though, I thought we did not need to spend money on a new phone at that crucial time because of the looming school expenses, I consented just for her to be happy and she got herself a Samsung galaxy s8 plus for 700pounds, which she would repay of 2 years. The first thing that prompted me about the phone was that she changed her password, but I never mind because I thought she was preventing my son, who always loved to play game on her phone from accessing the phone. However, after few weeks, I began to feel very uncomfortable about the whole stuff. My instinct just told me all was not well. Whatever was it, I could not place my finger on it. But after reviewing my work with my supervisor in the University yesterday, I just felt like going home to rest, instead of studying in the school and then, I met wife in the house with my son. She was trying to order some items online for my son for Christmas and on arrival, she gave her phone to select what we should buy for him, and then, the FB message came into her phone and I could read...'it is not what you think, I have been very busy'

I selected the item I thought was ok, gave returned her phone, picked my laptop and logged in to her Facebook. My wife pretended she was enganging me in discussion, but was responding to the message from a guy, who obviously was her lover and she wrote (I was reading from my computer without her knowledge) 'You know I will ALWAYS LOVE YOU'. and the other guy responded 'I love you more baby' (By this time, I was already burning on the seat, but I somehow managed to keep my calm). She wrote 'But you don't call me' ...and she stood up and went to the kitchen (I wanted to gather enough evidence before I reacted), but immediately she got to the kitchen, she deleted the conversation. At this time, I could not take it. My son was in the sitting room, watching cartoon. I went to her in the kitchen and aggressively confronted her. She originally pretended she did not know what I was saying, but when she say the aggression and seriousness in me she started begging and crying. I lost control of my emotion. I was angry and shouting. My son was there. He was too young, but very intelligent. he understood everything and began to blame his mum, at the same time asking me ti give mum a second chance. I was bitterly hurting. I felt like tearing her into pieces, but if I tried that in UK, it will be straight to jail. She could not state the reason behind her action. She was still trying to lie. She said the guy was her ex and they recently became friends on Facebook and the guy is trying to rekindle the old relationship. The guy is based in Nigeria, they do not even see. Everything she said was incoherently sense. All she wanted was that I should forgive her. I should not tell anybody. She cried, wept and what have you. I was hurting. If it were to by Nigeria, she would have left my house yesetrday, but in UK, it is difficult. The love turned to hatred. She managed to convince me to enter room with her, so that she will discuss the issue with me, without getting our son involved. In the room, it was the same crying and plea for forgiveness and a promise it would never happen again. I told her i was ok, but she would not let me out. I had to angrily shove her away from the door and she hit her head against the wardrobe. i was too angry, too sad, and too hateful to care. i called her all manners of unprintable names. I cursed her, I was just too angry. She kept begging. I left for the sitting room and she came back, knelt down before me and kept begging. My son was crying that two of us were making him sad. The young boy even threatened to tell his teacher in the school on monday. I was too angry to listen. I just told her to let me be. She stood up with tears in her eyes to enter the toilet, I checked her Facebook account again and realised that the lover had sent another message thus: "My dear I don't call you always to protect your home, but I always check your pictures every night before I go to bed" As I was reading, she stupidly deleted that again in the toilet. (Please note that my wife always post our family pictures on facebook, stating how I am the best husband in the world).

My anger erupted again and I rushed to meet her in the bathroom and asked her why she deleted the last message of the guy and she tearfully answered that she did not want me to see anything that could aggravate my anger the more. I angrily snatched the phone from her and smashed it on the floor. She knelt down at my feet and continued to cry and beg for forgiveness, but I was hurting so badly. I left for sitting room again and my son was confusedly crying. She came back and knelt before me and continued begging and weeping and begged we should go back to the room to discuss, at least to protect our son. After a while, i followed her. There was nothing to say; the same weeping, crying and promises to not do it again and swearing that they never had anything together. I told her I needed to talk to the guy and she pleaded I should not. I told her she is giving me an impression that she is protecting the guy so that she could continue her illicit affairs with him and told her it would not work. The can change tactics, but its is only a matter of time. I told her, I would forgive her, but I cannot trust her again and when there is no trust in marriage, the marriage is gone. I also told her I must engage that guy that she should give me his number, but she said her phone is no longer working. I made her feel comfortable that I have forgiven her, but honestly I am hurting. I went back to my laptop, continued chat with the guy on her messenger, but he was now online. We both slept on the same bed, i realised she could not sleep. In the middle of the night she woke me up to beg again, she was offering a make-up sexxx, but I was not interested. I told her i had forgiven her, but I am still hurting and there is no way i could have erection with her. In the morning, I checked her messanger, i discovered the iddiot has responded, still claiming to love her. I checked his profile, I realised he is a muslim, who has a wife with two kids. His location was not shown, but most of his pics her in Nigeria apart from two which have foreign background. I also realize he has limited posts on FB, but the phone number on his FB page is US phone number.

From my wife's FB account, I sent a message thus:

Hi, Mr Farouq, my name is Adams, I am Grace husband
I just wish to inform you that all the rubbish you have been doing with my wife are now exposed to me
I advise you in the name of whatever thing you believe, STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

I also realize you are a married man. If you have any moral integrity and respect for family values, you will know that
responsible men do not run after married women or break homes.

I do not care whatever you claim you think of her, just heed this warning STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

He read it an never respond. I went to her facebook setting and unfriended him.

I left home in the morning to go study in the library, but honestly, I could not assimilate anything. I am so emotionally broken down, so psychologically disturbed. The whole event kept playing in my head. I found it difficult to rationalise it. I continued to find fault in my being and my personality. I know I am very attractive handsome young man. Despite showing I am married, ladies still flock around me. I am also a passionate lovemaker. I dress well and look neat. I don't seem to understand where I have failed. Sometimes I just close my eyes and i feel tears dripping, but I have got to be strong. As for her, she has remained in the room since morning, hiding her head in shame and crying profusely. I have cut off communication with her since I came back from school and I have enganged myself in drinking spirit maybe my spirit will be strenghtened.

This is my story, this is my ordeal. Please I need advice.

Thanks.






I would have suggested prayer. What am I even saying, that's (prayer) what your home needs now. Your marriage is marred (this is not a prophetic saying). Traditionally, in the African setting, when the husband cheats it can be easily forgiven (kudos to African women with default forgiven hearts), but when the wife cheats, the agony is always monumental. (LOL African men are jealous hypocritical beings). Monumental in the sense that, it's always profound and never goes away. After forgiven her, the whole video of their love making (though denied now,you will still know that the man banged your wife, and perhaps better at IT than you) will constantly replay in your brain. So, my brother, forgive her, love her, pray for your home. You have to be able to bring things into perspectives. Figure out the heart of the matter, what made her cheat. Because the reason she cheated is important. Feel this pain now dude, let it build you from within. The strength to forgive your wife genuinely and speedily will make you a better man for life.

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Travel / Re: North Cyprus by farellstone: 8:08pm On Nov 22, 2017
wip7:


Undergraduate: Olevel result, photo passport and international passport page.

Master: include bachelor certificate and transcript to above.
bro what's the chance of someone with 2.80 cgpa getting admitted for masters in North Cyprus universities?

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