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cerpvad:
Op does not own the the work. He only did copy and paste so there is no way he can reduce the English

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aty_YjNnb8Q

https://youtu.be/Aty_YjNnb8Qquote author=MJBOLT post=116921054]

not just cartoons or movies/series but also in books,they now teach kids about homosexuality in American schools and even have 'educational' books to illustrate further.

Bro,I can tell you right now,if you think everything happening now is bad,wait and see what happens in ten years.

[/quote]

= post=118867333] wondering why op is browsing about gay dominated states. Like what prompted you to think of such a statistics?! Op op
Wehdone o[/quote]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aty_YjNnb8Q

pedestal82:
From experience nappy rash is mostly due to the type of daiper u using, and secondly how long u leave the daiper on, after a poop or how wet it is.
So first check how long its left on the baby. If that is taken care of, and baby still developes rash. Then try changing the daiper type.
And use skineal cream, it clears the already present rash.
All this from experience.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2rYXvdgWQyU

jeejee:
I need urgent suggestions on how to clear my baby's diaper rash. It's really spreading and making her uncomfortable. I've tried sudocrem but not getting the desired result. Can anyone help me out please.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2rYXvdgWQyU

Hamzashaf99:
are you on BC

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2rYXvdgWQyU

[ author=hannydarl post=11195876]My dear my daughter used to sleep 3hrs and wake uP for food till she was 9 months. she is 11 mOnths old now
MAy God continue to give us strength to take care of them. If I had 6hrs sleep with my DD I would dance calabarv Awilo.[/quote]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2rYXvdgWQyU

[ author=hannydarl post=11195876]My dear my daughter used to sleep 3hrs and wake uP for food till she was 9 months. she is 11 mOnths old now
MAy God continue to give us strength to take care of them. If I had 6hrs sleep with my DD I would dance calabar Awilo.[/quote]

[ author=ciscamustexcel post=58500491]sweetie don't be hard on yourself. Falling Is part of the growing business. Infact it makes them stronger. Just try and put them on a safe place. Like putting pillows on the floor when leaving her on the chair so she can have a safe landing.

As for doing house chores my mother advised me to do my best and leave the rest. When I am tempted to finish everything in a day I just dress the kids and take them for window shopping to keep me away. B4 I breakdown cos my hubby nor dey lift a pin.

For low income until u get something better cut down cost. My ds is having more frequent bowel movements recently they said its teething stool Si I bought washable diapers and also went to read through the creative forum in niaraland so I was able to construct a portable one for him so as he poos I wash immediately.my only use disposable diapers at night, when we are going out and sometimes in The morning cos he sleeps longer in the morning. My job has a policy of paying half salary during maternity leave so I have to be asking for money for everything something I am not used to so I dey sound like a cracked record to am and it's not funny at all.
I had to make my own soy milk and soy beans powder to use alternatively cos I dey breastfeed I need am and my growing daughter needs it too.
I make my own pap cos its neater,fresher and cheaper.
I stopped buying insecticides I make sure doors are closed during the day and use mosquito net.

I stopped buying things that have made name like us huggies and use my calculator very well like Nigeria pampers is 45naira for one while molfix is 38naira for one (though depend on the size) and its still ok.

When diapers is messed up 2-3 hrs to bath time I use my washable diapers rather than use another diaper.

After evening bath at 6-7 I use washable diapers till when I know 1diaper can take us till morning. I keep is butt very clean and we haven't had diaper rash for once. The list is endless. Infact I am so proud of myself instead of breaking down to cry.

As for waight my sister I advise you do the very little u can to loose it and don't push it too far when the kids are off ur hands you can begin to try something harder. If my hubby say see ur tommy as eh big I tell him I used it to deliver beautiful kids that are answering his name and ask him what he did with his own that is bigger than mine.
And also not that stress makes it almost impossible to loose weight so do your exercise when kids don grow enough to go school and u
Have stopped breastfeeding ur body and baby needs all the nutrients now to keep u strong at old Age

My sister people will talk but do what is safe for you and ur baby right now cos u both are the most important. God bless u and all mother as we sail the Aluta jet.
If you have any handwork put it to practice and earn some more money.[/quote]

[
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2rYXvdgWQyU author=gakpaniko post=72476705]Health and sickness of children

It is widely believed that it is hard for a child to drift away from the way he was brought up. Now, what that means is that whatever actions we take today as grownups are widely influenced by our upbringing. So, if you wake up every morning and things like dressing your bed, brushing your teeth, having your bath come to your mind, it is as a result of how you were directed and instructed much earlier in life. This is one reason why parents should train up their children into perfecting a healthy lifestyle. If you really care for your child's health or you care about the health and sickness of children, then you should keep reading this.
There are three things that help children’s growth, keep them healthy and protect them against many sicknesses. The three things are as follows
1. Nutritious food
2. Cleanliness
3. Vaccination

NUTRITOUS FOOD

Parents are expected to give their children the most nutritious foods they can get, so as to grow well and avoid falling sick at every point in time. From the first to four months of age, a child is required to take only breast milk. From four to one year, you give the child breast milk and other cereals, meat, cooked vegetables, mashed up beans, fruits and eggs. From one year onwards, the child the child can eat the same foods as adults but it should be more often. The child needs cassava, rice, wheat, maize, beans etc. Children should eat at least five times a day.

CLEANLINESS

Children are more likely to be healthy when their homes, environments and their body are kept clean. There are points parents should note in taking care of their children.
1. Bath our children regularly ( at least 3 times a day) and change their clothes often
2. Cut your children’s fingernails and toes very short
3. Teach them to wash their hands before and after eating
4. Treat your children whenever you notice any infection like ringworm, scabies etc
5. Feed your babies with a plate, cup and spoons , not from baby bottles because they can cause illness
6. Maintain clean water, preferably treated or boiled water
7. Do not let a sick child use the same towel or clothe with your child
8. Make sure your children brush their teeth every morning
9. Don’t allow then put dirty things in their mouth
VACCINATIONS
This protects the children against many dangerous diseases of childhood such as measles, tetanus, whooping cough, tuberculosis, etc. It is important to give children vaccinations during their first month. Oral polio should be given to the children not later than two months of age because the risk of developing polio is highest in babies under one year old and for complete protection, the tetanus, whooping cough, tuberculosis and polio vaccines must be given once a month for three months and once again a year later. Tetanus of the new born can also be prevented by vaccinating pregnant mothers
SOME COMMON DISEASES IN CHILDREN
Some common diseases in children are:
 Meningitis
 Cold and flu
 Convulsion
 Skin problems
 Anemia

MENINGITIS

This may come as a complication of measles or other serious illness. Mothers who have tuberculosis, their children may have tuberculosis meningitis. A child that has meningitis will experience head titled way back, the child will be sick and always cry and scream. Also, the child’s neck will be too stiff to bend forward and his body will be making strange movements.

SOURCE: www.stillonhealth.com


COLD AND FLU

The common cold mild fever, running nose, cough and sore throat is a frequent but not a serious problem in children. Treat that child with paracetamol or aspirin and enough liquid. A child that has cold can quickly get well by eating good food and fruits

CONVULSION IN CHILDREN

Some common causes of convulsion in children are epilepsy, high fever, fever, meningitis and malaria

PREVENTION

Get some garlic, ginger and onions and grind them all properly, mix them with palm kernel oil.

SKIN PROBLEMS

The most common skin problems in children include Ringworm, fungus infections, scabies, diaper rash, eczema, etc
To prevent skin problems:
 Bath and delouse your children often
 Do not allow children with ringworm or scabies sleep or play together with other children. Give them adequate treatment and on time too
 Take control measures against lice, scabies and bedbugs

ANEMIA

In children, anemia can come from not eating foods with iron. It can also come from breast or bottle feeding after six months without giving other foods. It can also come from sickle cell disease and any underlying infections like urinary infections

Preventions and Treatments

 Give your child anti-malaria to prevent and cure malaria
 Improve your child’s diet with more foods rich in iron like groundnuts, beans, eggs, green leafy vegetables and lentils.
 Take the child to a health worker to check for sickle cell disease and any underlying infections like urinary infection

NOTE: Don’t give iron tablet to a small child or baby. Give iron as liquid or crush the tablet into powder and mix with food.[/quote]

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rbAOBwkGHbw


author=kokaiye post=110652510] Huh!!! Ur
body must b a super body to b able to baby dance, shey u dont feel painful contractn during d dancing ni?! Omo!!! I cnt even touch my nipple without having dis strong painful contraction... My VJay is on fire couple with pressure on d cervix... I dread even tinkin of doing d do ever sinc i got d bfp... I dnt even chng infront of dh mk him no go dey get funny ideas cs i will bite n scratch him ehn...... N moreover, i am alwz thinking of of LO inside me n hving sex wen baby is inside me giv me d yikes!!!! Libido hs being -0.0000 since day 1. I dnt knw how hubby is doin it ooo but e understand d assignment sha or prolly find oda ways (i dnt care thou, mk him sha free me is d koko) .... We r in period of no touching 4 now . Happy new month dearie [/quote]

[
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isF2-8nbeBI author=ScamHunter post=118352133]Atiku Abubakar
Advantages
1. Atiku understands business and the need for prosperity. He would actively seek for FDI for the economy.

2. An intelligent person, so may make some right governance decisions.

3. Atiku is a nationalist and wouldn't limit policy executions to the core north.

Disadvantages
1. Atiku is a weak-willed individual and would be largely influenced by another cabal in power.

2. Atiku as a Fulani would not have the will to reign in his terrorist brothers killing people all over the country. His presidency would be calamitous in terms of bloodshed, especially in Benue, Plateau and Southern Kaduna.

3. Atiku deleting a tweet that condemned the murder of Deborah shows he is a man who won't stick out his neck to do the right thing. The country would be mostly on autopilot with him in charge.

4. Atiku would continue the appeasement of terrorists like ISWAP and BH while they consolidate.

5. Like most Fulani politicians, Atiku likes free money he didn't work for and his government would personify corruption with attendant looting.

6. Atiku, like all Northerners prefer a Nigeria where the south feeds the North so won't move for restructuring. He'll move to consolidate northern grip on power.

7. If Atiku wins, the south may not hold power for a long time to come since the north would had learnt the secret of holding power perpetually. Divide the south and conquer...

Bola Tinubu
Advantages
1. The south would feel a reprieve that power is in the south.

2. Tinubu may move for restructuring the country.

3. You can take a lot from Tinubi but what is not in doubt is the man's boldness. If he is healthy enough, he could be an equalizer to the northern dominance of the south.

Disadvantages
1. Tinubu is old, sick and weak and won't be in charge. The best case scenario is that his wife would run the country behind the scene like Yaradua's wife did. The worst case scenario is that Shettima would take charge of the country.

2. Tinubu would lack the will to tackle the Fulani menace due to his known deference to them. So wanton killings would continue unabated in the country.

3. Boko Haram would consolidate with the presence of a sympathizer like Shettima in power. Borno and Yobe plus Adamawa would be threatened since the terror group may gain more clout and arms using their new found government connection.

4. Tinubu would be a tribal leader who is in government to get Yoruba share. Since he has seen how Buhari got Fulani share, he would make Yoruba interest top priority while agitation in other regions, especially the southeast and south south would heighten.

5. Tinubu is corrupt and the effect would be seen all over the country via excessive looting. The economy may collapse with the USD pushing up towards the #3000 region by the time he's done stealing for his own friends.

6. Tinibu's main baggage is his health. If he's in government, it'll be as if he's not there so others run things.


Peter Obi

Advantages
1. Obi is interested in fixing the country. So expect a revolution and wide sweeping reforms in most sectors.

2. Obi is anti establishment and would drastically cut the cost of governance to put money in the hands of common people.

3. Expect massive shakeups in the civil service, military, paramilitary and public service as he moves to curb corruption and waste.

4. Obi's government would tackle agitations for the breakup of Nigeria and may succeed in minimizing it. They'll actively combat terrorism in his government.

5. Industrial and agricultural revolution is what his government would be known for.

6. Expect a higher GDP for the country with revenues flowing in from untapped resources

Disadvantages

1. Obi would run the most opposed government in the history of the country as cabals would be formed by the political class to oppose his policies and bring him down.

2. Expect real opposition from the National Assembly for the first time as the man plugs the looting avenues they've enjoyed for decades.

3. His mass empowerment policies would lead to lower taxes, tax reliefs and lower IGRs.

4. There'll be massive shake ups, retirements and sacks in the Federal Civil Service, Police and military as the man culls the unqualified quota-based manpower to build stronger institutions.

5. Obi seems to like Nigeria as presently constituted and wouldn't move for restructuring.

Addendum

Kwankwanso
Advantages
1. Kwankwanso is another intelligent man capable of forming a focused government that can make a positive impact on the economy.

2. He'll leverage the Kwankwanaiya policy for infrastructural development in several regions of the country.

3. A man like Kwankwanso can bring a good team aboard based on his extensive experience and connection with both the masses and political class. This could be good news for the economy.

4. He may not have as much sympathy for Boko Haram as we have seen in recent years. Though this is a cold comfort since most muslims have secret love for anything Jihad.

Disadvantages
1. Kwankanso is an ethnic supremacists and would channel most of his projects to favour the north, just like Buhari.

2. He won't care much about the carnage and bloodletting by his Fulani kinsmen. So the tears and blood would continue unabated from the middlebelt to the south.

3. There'll be anti government sentiments from the South since he is a man who is hardly neutral on ethnic issues.

Omoyele Sowore
Advantages
1. Reasonably educated and a militant mindset, Sowore would be anti establishment for some time if he is president. However, not long...

2. Public perception would mean a lot to Sowore, so he'll curry the favor of the press to maintain a good image for himself and the country.

3. Sowore will work to get the best out of the country to make it economically viable. Most of his economic policies would be copied from the the West (North America and EU)

4. Sowore would go all out against Fulani killer herdsmen thereby giving the Middlebelt and south some reprieve.

Disadvantages
1. Sowore is a closet tyrant and would use state apparatuses to harass and intimidated opponents.

2. His fixation on copying Western economies would backfire as resentment would grow due to high taxes as seen with Soludo's government in Anambra.

3. His government would be a caucus of cronies and associates because he's the type that feels that only those he know can be trusted, just like Buhari. The difference is that he'll have a lot of militant minds unwilling to make compromises around him.

4. His intolerance of opposition would ensure that even if the threat of terrorism from Fulani killers is minified, the country would hardly be at peace as various anti-government agitations spring up. Not just because Sowore was anti establishment, but because he wouldn't be able to stomach what he dished out to governments since the time of Abacha.

Cc: FirstSon01[/quote]

https://youtu.be/isF2-8nbeBIquote author=Zelenskyy post=119067740]Because pictures of the slump where he came from in Irigbaji surfaced

How can he build Lagos when Irigbaji is still in ruins.

Only Thïefnubu Ūrchins are stupid enough to believe that their Lord and saviour built Lagos.[/quote]

[
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isF2-8nbeBI author=fuckingAyaya post=119067626]Their doubt have been cleared[/quote]

lhordspy:
If you are antagonising Tinubu. You are fighting 5 wars at Five different front.

You are fighting:
*APC vast political structures. Spearheaded by Political strategist Bola Tinubu

*APC women which involves grassroot politics. Spearheaded by 21different states First Ladies

*APC youth which involves unrelenting couragrous young Nigerians. Spearheaded by Seyi Tinubu.

* Non-political but concern Nigerian like me, who want the betterment of this nation.

* God Almighty.


How can you win?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isF2-8nbeBI

[quote author=lhordspy post=119072944][/quote]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isF2-8nbeBI

[
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aeA_LM8S-Q author=inoki247 post=119076349]Owner of Nigeria that couldn't win ordinary Primary election.....


Owners in ur dream u will soon see owner of Zoo holding on to ur lord lamidi Kanu......

i think the owner will start using our PVC and start thumb printing with our hands by dem sef...


Anytime u want to make ursef happy nd u see someone supporting ur lord u come online to chestbeat once is the other way round u come online to tell us dey av been paid and dey only av one vote....


Keep giving ursef orgasmm....

Enjoy ur arse licking las las u go dey alright Feb no far again.....[/quote]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aeA_LM8S-Q

[
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aeA_LM8S-Q
author=FatimaAbbas post=119083212][
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aeA_LM8S-Q author=Raisinggodlysee post=110915050]
When I got the news that I was expecting my first child, I was overwhelmed and made sure I ticked all the boxes right – shopping, antenatal, praying, eating rightly-reading my Bible and other educational materials on pregnancy and babies, listening and adhering to some old wives rules,-ensuring the arrival of my baby was all perfect, filled with fond memories to cherish forever.

My partner and I talked about his arrival; I would reminisce and imagined how sweet and loving I would feel when I hold him in my hands. I have bonded well with my baby while he was in the womb so I expected more bonding when he arrives!

While ticking these boxes, no one told me that I might not love the baby when he arrives. After all, no one expects you not to love your child.
I didn’t bond right away with my child and I was scared of showing it for fear of what people might think of me. And I think that’s a bigger problem that compounded my inner battles.
As with every mother, I wanted to be a perfect and well-deserving mother.
This lingered for a very long time- about three months and, still, I kept this to myself.
I noticed some gradual change in how I began to feel about my baby, taking some steps of my own accord even though I didn’t understand what I was doing was a process for my healing.
I would also come to know that this was a common feeling among women we just don’t talk about it.
Using myself as a measure, I found culpable reasons why mothers might not bond with their newborns right after birth even up to a couple of months.
Possible Causes of not loving your baby Right Away

Being too overwhelmed before the baby comes

It is totally normal to feel so excited when expecting your baby, especially if it is the first.
Humans tend to lose some amount of excitement when we expect something with much enthusiasm.
We expel so much energy in expectation that when the real deal comes, we feel depleted. And search for that level of enthusiasm we use in expecting which we might never get.

Exhaustion
All that you did in preparation for the birth of the baby wears you out – the shopping, hospital visit , keeping up with work or school- not to mention the big labour pains, the waiting, the gnashing, the stretch and the stress on the body leave us weak and tired.

Method of Delivery
Women who were delivered through a c-session are more likely to take longer time bonding with their babies than women who had virginal delivery. This is because a c –session delivery requires a longer time to heal.
Although this is not always the case; a mentally ready woman can go on to bond with her newborn right away irrespective of the method of delivery, likewise a woman who had a ‘normal’ delivery can still have a hard time bonding.

Postpartum depression
This is the number one reason why women do not bond with their newborns right away. Postpartum depression – a feeling of sadness, hopelessness, emptiness, despair or dejection after delivery – could lead to a mother not having affection for the newborn, consequently not bonding with her child.
Some severe cases have been recorded on such women refusing to care, nurture or nourish their newborns. Worse still, some reports mention how a depressed mother killed her newborn.
When this happens to you or someone you know please seek professional help. Keeping quiet prolong the adverse effect both on the mother and the child.

Severed relationship with your spouse

Unsupportive spouse during pregnancy and after childbirth could be a probable cause why a mother finds it hard to bond with her baby. This could be as a result of transferred aggressions or mental unstableness.

Trouble with Finance

The fear of not having enough to carter for the family can make a mother detached from her baby.

Having so many visitors around after childbirth

Africans have an age-long culture of receiving visitors –family and friends after the arrival of a new baby. But these can put a strain on the mother, wearing her out and zapping her energy which is already low.
Lastly, having someone else do all the caring
Except on health grounds, Having another person do the caring- bathing, dressing, changing, feeding putting to bed – for your newborn for so long can deny you the chance of bonding with your child.

Preventive & possible treatments when you don’t bond with your newborn right away

Consider getting enough rest before the arrival of the baby. Resist trying out every advice and suggestions you get except those from your doctor or midwife.

Use simple shopping techniques. I prefer and use making a list, make budget save for it, then I set a day apart to buy all I need and that’s it. No going back and forth to shop for baby and maternity items.

While expecting your baby, try as much as possible to get your finance right. Spend on budget and save towards the arrival of your child as you need to be fine with your finances to be in the right frame of mind after delivery.


As much as you can, be at peace with yourself and guard your mental health. If you have an unsupportive partner, look for someone else to lean on for emotional support. Trust me you will need it. Never go through pregnancy alone. Your mother, a friend, sister or even that trusted colleague can be handy and that will do a whole lot to your mental healthiness.


Discuss with your doctor or midwife to know the delivery method you are likely to have and plan for an emergency.
I think one of the reasons I didn’t bond with my newborn was, even though I knew I might be having a c-session because my obstetrician had suggested it due to my medical history, I was in denial and didn’t make any preparation. I ended up having an emergency c-session and for grace, I would have lost my baby. All of these already got me perturbed.


After delivery, reduce your visitors only to a few family and friends. You can ask your doctor to help in this stance, not allowing so many visitors into your ward.
When home attends only to few visitors. Tell your partner or whoever is with you to receive and inform the visitors that you appreciate them reaching out, but you would love to rest. People usually understood and rarely take offence. So don’t be worried.
As soon as you are back on your feet, care for your newborn by yourself and ask for help when exhausted.


Stay longer in bed with your baby during the day; it is a relaxing and quick way to bond. You can return the baby to the cot for night bedtime.
Speak up and seek professional help if you are showing signs of postpartum depression.
Talk to your partner about it, a trusted alley or reach out to us at raising godly seeds.
We wish you a happy bonding with your newborn.
Have you experienced that feeling of being distant from your newborn? Please, tell us your story.

https://raisinggodlyseeds.com/?p=62[/quote]

[
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aeA_LM8S-Q author=FatimaAbbas post=119083212][
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aeA_LM8S-Q author=Raisinggodlysee post=110915050]
When I got the news that I was expecting my first child, I was overwhelmed and made sure I ticked all the boxes right – shopping, antenatal, praying, eating rightly-reading my Bible and other educational materials on pregnancy and babies, listening and adhering to some old wives rules,-ensuring the arrival of my baby was all perfect, filled with fond memories to cherish forever.

My partner and I talked about his arrival; I would reminisce and imagined how sweet and loving I would feel when I hold him in my hands. I have bonded well with my baby while he was in the womb so I expected more bonding when he arrives!

While ticking these boxes, no one told me that I might not love the baby when he arrives. After all, no one expects you not to love your child.
I didn’t bond right away with my child and I was scared of showing it for fear of what people might think of me. And I think that’s a bigger problem that compounded my inner battles.
As with every mother, I wanted to be a perfect and well-deserving mother.
This lingered for a very long time- about three months and, still, I kept this to myself.
I noticed some gradual change in how I began to feel about my baby, taking some steps of my own accord even though I didn’t understand what I was doing was a process for my healing.
I would also come to know that this was a common feeling among women we just don’t talk about it.
Using myself as a measure, I found culpable reasons why mothers might not bond with their newborns right after birth even up to a couple of months.
Possible Causes of not loving your baby Right Away

Being too overwhelmed before the baby comes

It is totally normal to feel so excited when expecting your baby, especially if it is the first.
Humans tend to lose some amount of excitement when we expect something with much enthusiasm.
We expel so much energy in expectation that when the real deal comes, we feel depleted. And search for that level of enthusiasm we use in expecting which we might never get.

Exhaustion
All that you did in preparation for the birth of the baby wears you out – the shopping, hospital visit , keeping up with work or school- not to mention the big labour pains, the waiting, the gnashing, the stretch and the stress on the body leave us weak and tired.

Method of Delivery
Women who were delivered through a c-session are more likely to take longer time bonding with their babies than women who had virginal delivery. This is because a c –session delivery requires a longer time to heal.
Although this is not always the case; a mentally ready woman can go on to bond with her newborn right away irrespective of the method of delivery, likewise a woman who had a ‘normal’ delivery can still have a hard time bonding.

Postpartum depression
This is the number one reason why women do not bond with their newborns right away. Postpartum depression – a feeling of sadness, hopelessness, emptiness, despair or dejection after delivery – could lead to a mother not having affection for the newborn, consequently not bonding with her child.
Some severe cases have been recorded on such women refusing to care, nurture or nourish their newborns. Worse still, some reports mention how a depressed mother killed her newborn.
When this happens to you or someone you know please seek professional help. Keeping quiet prolong the adverse effect both on the mother and the child.

Severed relationship with your spouse

Unsupportive spouse during pregnancy and after childbirth could be a probable cause why a mother finds it hard to bond with her baby. This could be as a result of transferred aggressions or mental unstableness.

Trouble with Finance

The fear of not having enough to carter for the family can make a mother detached from her baby.

Having so many visitors around after childbirth

Africans have an age-long culture of receiving visitors –family and friends after the arrival of a new baby. But these can put a strain on the mother, wearing her out and zapping her energy which is already low.
Lastly, having someone else do all the caring
Except on health grounds, Having another person do the caring- bathing, dressing, changing, feeding putting to bed – for your newborn for so long can deny you the chance of bonding with your child.

Preventive & possible treatments when you don’t bond with your newborn right away

Consider getting enough rest before the arrival of the baby. Resist trying out every advice and suggestions you get except those from your doctor or midwife.

Use simple shopping techniques. I prefer and use making a list, make budget save for it, then I set a day apart to buy all I need and that’s it. No going back and forth to shop for baby and maternity items.

While expecting your baby, try as much as possible to get your finance right. Spend on budget and save towards the arrival of your child as you need to be fine with your finances to be in the right frame of mind after delivery.


As much as you can, be at peace with yourself and guard your mental health. If you have an unsupportive partner, look for someone else to lean on for emotional support. Trust me you will need it. Never go through pregnancy alone. Your mother, a friend, sister or even that trusted colleague can be handy and that will do a whole lot to your mental healthiness.


Discuss with your doctor or midwife to know the delivery method you are likely to have and plan for an emergency.
I think one of the reasons I didn’t bond with my newborn was, even though I knew I might be having a c-session because my obstetrician had suggested it due to my medical history, I was in denial and didn’t make any preparation. I ended up having an emergency c-session and for grace, I would have lost my baby. All of these already got me perturbed.


After delivery, reduce your visitors only to a few family and friends. You can ask your doctor to help in this stance, not allowing so many visitors into your ward.
When home attends only to few visitors. Tell your partner or whoever is with you to receive and inform the visitors that you appreciate them reaching out, but you would love to rest. People usually understood and rarely take offence. So don’t be worried.
As soon as you are back on your feet, care for your newborn by yourself and ask for help when exhausted.


Stay longer in bed with your baby during the day; it is a relaxing and quick way to bond. You can return the baby to the cot for night bedtime.
Speak up and seek professional help if you are showing signs of postpartum depression.
Talk to your partner about it, a trusted alley or reach out to us at raising godly seeds.
We wish you a happy bonding with your newborn.
Have you experienced that feeling of being distant from your newborn? Please, tell us your story.

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When I got the news that I was expecting my first child, I was overwhelmed and made sure I ticked all the boxes right – shopping, antenatal, praying, eating rightly-reading my Bible and other educational materials on pregnancy and babies, listening and adhering to some old wives rules,-ensuring the arrival of my baby was all perfect, filled with fond memories to cherish forever.

My partner and I talked about his arrival; I would reminisce and imagined how sweet and loving I would feel when I hold him in my hands. I have bonded well with my baby while he was in the womb so I expected more bonding when he arrives!

While ticking these boxes, no one told me that I might not love the baby when he arrives. After all, no one expects you not to love your child.
I didn’t bond right away with my child and I was scared of showing it for fear of what people might think of me. And I think that’s a bigger problem that compounded my inner battles.
As with every mother, I wanted to be a perfect and well-deserving mother.
This lingered for a very long time- about three months and, still, I kept this to myself.
I noticed some gradual change in how I began to feel about my baby, taking some steps of my own accord even though I didn’t understand what I was doing was a process for my healing.
I would also come to know that this was a common feeling among women we just don’t talk about it.
Using myself as a measure, I found culpable reasons why mothers might not bond with their newborns right after birth even up to a couple of months.
Possible Causes of not loving your baby Right Away

Being too overwhelmed before the baby comes

It is totally normal to feel so excited when expecting your baby, especially if it is the first.
Humans tend to lose some amount of excitement when we expect something with much enthusiasm.
We expel so much energy in expectation that when the real deal comes, we feel depleted. And search for that level of enthusiasm we use in expecting which we might never get.

Exhaustion
All that you did in preparation for the birth of the baby wears you out – the shopping, hospital visit , keeping up with work or school- not to mention the big labour pains, the waiting, the gnashing, the stretch and the stress on the body leave us weak and tired.

Method of Delivery
Women who were delivered through a c-session are more likely to take longer time bonding with their babies than women who had virginal delivery. This is because a c –session delivery requires a longer time to heal.
Although this is not always the case; a mentally ready woman can go on to bond with her newborn right away irrespective of the method of delivery, likewise a woman who had a ‘normal’ delivery can still have a hard time bonding.

Postpartum depression
This is the number one reason why women do not bond with their newborns right away. Postpartum depression – a feeling of sadness, hopelessness, emptiness, despair or dejection after delivery – could lead to a mother not having affection for the newborn, consequently not bonding with her child.
Some severe cases have been recorded on such women refusing to care, nurture or nourish their newborns. Worse still, some reports mention how a depressed mother killed her newborn.
When this happens to you or someone you know please seek professional help. Keeping quiet prolong the adverse effect both on the mother and the child.

Severed relationship with your spouse

Unsupportive spouse during pregnancy and after childbirth could be a probable cause why a mother finds it hard to bond with her baby. This could be as a result of transferred aggressions or mental unstableness.

Trouble with Finance

The fear of not having enough to carter for the family can make a mother detached from her baby.

Having so many visitors around after childbirth

Africans have an age-long culture of receiving visitors –family and friends after the arrival of a new baby. But these can put a strain on the mother, wearing her out and zapping her energy which is already low.
Lastly, having someone else do all the caring
Except on health grounds, Having another person do the caring- bathing, dressing, changing, feeding putting to bed – for your newborn for so long can deny you the chance of bonding with your child.

Preventive & possible treatments when you don’t bond with your newborn right away

Consider getting enough rest before the arrival of the baby. Resist trying out every advice and suggestions you get except those from your doctor or midwife.

Use simple shopping techniques. I prefer and use making a list, make budget save for it, then I set a day apart to buy all I need and that’s it. No going back and forth to shop for baby and maternity items.

While expecting your baby, try as much as possible to get your finance right. Spend on budget and save towards the arrival of your child as you need to be fine with your finances to be in the right frame of mind after delivery.


As much as you can, be at peace with yourself and guard your mental health. If you have an unsupportive partner, look for someone else to lean on for emotional support. Trust me you will need it. Never go through pregnancy alone. Your mother, a friend, sister or even that trusted colleague can be handy and that will do a whole lot to your mental healthiness.


Discuss with your doctor or midwife to know the delivery method you are likely to have and plan for an emergency.
I think one of the reasons I didn’t bond with my newborn was, even though I knew I might be having a c-session because my obstetrician had suggested it due to my medical history, I was in denial and didn’t make any preparation. I ended up having an emergency c-session and for grace, I would have lost my baby. All of these already got me perturbed.


After delivery, reduce your visitors only to a few family and friends. You can ask your doctor to help in this stance, not allowing so many visitors into your ward.
When home attends only to few visitors. Tell your partner or whoever is with you to receive and inform the visitors that you appreciate them reaching out, but you would love to rest. People usually understood and rarely take offence. So don’t be worried.
As soon as you are back on your feet, care for your newborn by yourself and ask for help when exhausted.


Stay longer in bed with your baby during the day; it is a relaxing and quick way to bond. You can return the baby to the cot for night bedtime.
Speak up and seek professional help if you are showing signs of postpartum depression.
Talk to your partner about it, a trusted alley or reach out to us at raising godly seeds.
We wish you a happy bonding with your newborn.
Have you experienced that feeling of being distant from your newborn? Please, tell us your story.

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