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SpencerForbes:
Since your mind is already made up, nobody here will try to put "asunder." Go for what you want; after all, that’s what being a man is about. Just be 100% sure she isn't seeing the ex or any "boyfriend" on the side, because that can be dangerous. You’ve been with her for two years—you should have studied her well enough by now. You definitely know the situation better than any of us here.

She isn't I'm sure of that, because she left the guy in Edo when she came to Lagos. The guy is waiting for her because she told me she and her sister are here to work to save money to bury their mum that died since January of 2024 and go back to Edo to meet the guy. She told me to transport their mum sef to her village to bury as at last year they asked the driver that will drive them was about #400k. And they are working for a salary of #50k each. And in between they are still sending money home to their two younger siblings for upkeep, school fees and house rent( she told me they pay house rent every month in the village they live in Edo). And between all these she still gives me her time and attention. The last time she came I was very intimate aside penetrating sex cos she was on period, and she still hasn't asked me for a dime. But with all these I'm not forcing anything because what will be will be. And whatever happens I move on.

I watched a reel today where a guy was like it's a fact that girls are attracted to material things and status, that if they see anyone better than you they will jump ship and the guy was so sure and sincere and said it's a fact that everyone knows.

I now remember all the comments in here on the post I made and understood why you guys commented like that. And I see why, especially where I said she loves me too. Yeah, I said she loves me doesn't mean I am sure she's not going to leave me someday, or can't try to harm or break my heart (though I'm not sure she can, not because she can't but because I'm not going to give room for that). Why I brought this matter here was basically because she slept with the guy before coming to Lagos, and we spoke after that day. I said though I'm not doing all this so she can come back to me but I'm doing this because I still wanted her back, difference there is that if she doesn't want to come back I will still help by informing her if I see a better job for her. She said she knows that she understands, I now told her you know but you still slept with the guy she now said she knows that's where she bleeped up and she's very sorry. My mind wanted to tell me she's only sorry because she got caught but I reasoned it again that she didn't get caught, she told me herself when I asked. So like I said earlier that day, believe me when I say I've analysed over 20 relationship (this number includes my siblings' and relatives') and I'm 80% sure she's least evil I can get not with the hook up culture rampart about now.

gracias124:
majority of redpillers are wankerers and bambiala miscreants

That's what you want to believe just so you can simp in peace, nobody here is asking you not to cause in the grand scheme of things you are just like a speck of dust.

SpencerForbes:
I’m beginning to see the full picture now. If you feel she’s the one for you, then so be it. But as an OG yourself, my only advice is: Be careful.

Usually, people don't like to advise someone who is already 'in love,' but before you take the next step, I have one recommendation for you. Look for Ubunja’s Miseducation: 'Chosen'. It’s a very short read but it will go a long way.

I hope he hasn’t taken the link down yet. Read it, and from there you can truly determine if this lady suits your life or not. If she does, no problem. Just remember that relationship is a gamble; it won’t work all the time. Never try to force it, otherwise, you'll just end up simping.

I will, even this girl I'm always vetting her by allowing her talk while I listen. And sometimes we may be talking about one thing that it will lead to her telling me what she has told me before and it usually checks out. And naturally I'm a calm guy so apart from this girl even my family anything people say to me I'm always analysing in my mind. I love with my head not with my heart and I can cut anybody off at anytime (except my siblings and some of my relatives) so I don't invest too much in a relationship that can lead to sinking cost fallacy.

BTW I still thank everyone because after the comments, I went back to analyse the relationship well and look at where I'm lacking. And to be totally honest thinking about what could be her goal if she's manipulating financially is nil because over the period we were together past and recently that we are in contact again she has never asked me for money. And the only thing she has asked me was the job and I only have her the agent number and she's always be grateful. Infact she is always saying it that if not for me she can't be here though I don't see it as a big deal she still insist that she's always grateful.

SpencerForbes:
You brought this same matter here two years ago. I vividly remember the collective advice was to run, but you chose to stay. I remember one particular moniker even egging you on to keep "chopping" the girl (I’ll dig up that moniker later). You ignored simple counsel and now, 24 months later, you’re back at square one with the same person.

Just because you tasted the honey pot for the first time, you’ve labeled it "love." Common sense should have told you otherwise.

Any man who has even a 10% understanding of Redpill principles knows exactly how your story ends. It’s like a 30-year-old man being asked what 2 + 2 is—you don't need a calculator, you just know. But here you are, still counting your fingers like a primary school pupil.

If you keep going down this road, we’ll probably see your wedding invite next year, only for you to come back a few months later with one long 'my wife is cheating' or 'she doesn't love me' story.

Redpill isn't some rigid law; it’s just a guide. You need to actually sit down, study, and internalize these things. Reading alone won't save you this time—you need a real one-on-one talk with someone who can actually knock some sense into you. If not, you’re just going to fall into the same trap again.

Okay, I'll quote my reply under this post. Why I chose to do that is that, number 1 I can't fully type the context of the situation or relationship between me and this girl for full understanding.
2. I want to correct where you wrote that I brought an issue here about this same girl here 2 years ago. I was wondering what issue since I never had an issue with this girl especially with her(the only issue we had is with third parties because they feel I'm either too old for her or she's too young for me) but I remember now that the issue you were talking about is with another girl I just reverted to just acquittance with.
3. That being that, I'm looking at this issue from a situation where finding a girl with minimal emotional garbage, young, submissive and not entitled is very rare, it's about choosing the lesser evil. I just believe she's the least evil I've encountered when we talk about what I've listed here. Mind you I'm not talking about marriage at least not yet.
4. Though this might seem like the issue is about me getting pussy whipped but it's not, of course for the over 2 years that she was gone, I dated other girls and I observed their behaviors (even my brother's relationship) through the red pill lense and see all the manipulation of this gender and I can rightly conclude she's the least evil I can get now. I still follow the red pill tenet of choosing only the girls who chose me. In fact if you give be green light and even flirt with me and we start talking when I drive towards sex and you start putting up issue about not ready yet or sex isn't love yada yada, I cut the chase immediately. Because in my mind you can't love me without lusting after me, and more importantly I decide who I love, and I love who I feel from my judgement is worth it.
5. And finally for now, as I always say and even tell this particular girl, Que sera sera, what will be will be. Even if she's just playing me or if it's me trying to play her at the end of the day, What will be will be.

Just to add, her best quality for me is her age, she's still very young (not even 20 yet) though matured so I feel she's very malleable(I mean teachable). She just lost her mum last 2024, she and her siblings is all they got and she's the 2nd eldest so she's working over hard with her elder sister (who's 21) to take charge of their younger ones education and housing plus feeding. So that is also an issue too as she's leaning more into her masculinity and going into survival (fight or flight) mentality. I knew about this when she visited and while we were talking I asked her if she got a wish what will she wish for, she said plenty money and food then she added even if she have to work for the money she will as long as there's plenty money at the end.
Sorry for the long post. I'm not trying to excuse the babe, I'm just trying to capture the context as much as I can as as I will always say to her at the end of the day (life) Que sera, sera.

SpencerForbes:
The craziest part is that you’re actually a senior member of this thread. You’re supposed to be the one educating the young ones, yet look at the Bluepill trash you’re typing here. It’s a total disgrace to the brotherhood.

All the Redpills you’ve been swallowing since, it’s like you’ve been flushing them down the toilet. Or are you just cherry-picking the ones that favor your simping tendencies and leaving the rest? You’re moving like a total amateur. 😒

🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️

It's been long I came to take the pills and it's already telling on me. I was thinking about this after the event reason why I came here. I will act accordingly from henceforth. And go back to read the thread again. Thanks to you all

VERTEX01
Mikocake

This girl that I was with when she came to live with our neighbor which I am sure loves me then because she's always proving it. She has gone for years now probably 3 years, now we got in touch last year and begged me to help her with work here in Lagos as where she is only farm work is available, low pay for hard work. I tried and she came over to Lagos but it was straight to her work place. I told her I still want her though she told me she has been with another guy. She cited lost contact as her excuse and also that she wasn't sure I still wanted her. After one month she changed job and said she wanted to come and see me before starting her new work. I wanted to suggest that before but I didn't want to sound desperate or selfish, that I'm helping her because I want her so as she suggested I agreed with shows our minds are working in synch. She came over with her sister though her sister traveled to PH that same day to settle family issue. There mum died last year, I tried seducing her but she was on her period so I let it go only to find out later when she was going back to work the next day that she finished her period the day she came, I was pissed a little for her not to tell me but she said she didn't tell me because she doesn't want sex with me at least not yet. She said because she's with someone now and she's not yet sure I still love her since we weren't together for like 2+ years. When I asked her about sex life, she confessed to me that they had sex once and that was when she was coming to Lagos (she really doesn't fancy sex because she was dis flowered by rape, I didn't believe at first till we had our first sex then. She literally bit me so hard when I entered that the marl was on me for weeks). She told me she had to because the guy told her they should as that's the only way she could prove she loves him. That was how I convinced her then too, but now I don't know if I can still be with her or I should just let her go? I still love her though and I believe she loves me, I feel she needs the assurance before breaking up with the other guy. But I want to know if her having sex with another guy even though we weren't together then (we didn't break up though just distance and lost contact) is reason to remove my mind from her.

TheSourcerer:
Won't even Lie my bro , He's My Dad and he is just as you see . Good Morning my bro 🙏

Is he really your dad, dad? I remember you once said your dad was a police. Second question, are you reporting as an eye witness or as a journalist?

sweerychick:
which bird strike, do you know what a Bird strike is? Bird strike can't cause that damage abi the bird na missle?that's clearly improperly closed engine door or panel, the engine door or panel failed causing it to rip open in midflight, ground crew are the ones responsible for this. They were very lucky that metal fragments didn't tear through the fuselage or wings and causing more damage especially with the hydraulics, that would doom the flight completely.

Yes, it possibly could be a bird strike. At the speed st which the plane was going, the bird is tantamount to a small missile in terms of damage done to the plane.

guobe:
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To avoid breaking the forums rule, do not input account details on the thread.
Input you account details on your signature and you can edit it later.
Signify interested on the thread and I will transfer to 10 of my lucky followers.

If you are still doing the giveaway please I'm interested

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Palmpay
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crixlight2:
Don’t mind that guy that said he bought rice 45k , ask him where he bought it , even in Cotonou rice is 46k there and they will use 10k carry it reach Lagos or Ibadan that is 56k and the seller will add her profit let say the seller sell that rice 65k , that groundnut oil is around 22k , palm oil let’s say 12k that 3 sef don reach 100k , now calculate the rest they add for you , plus their transportation to market… you should thank your office people Dey do well and dem Dey honest

I still bought both oil today. Ground nuts is #11000 for 5 litres, same with the red oil though some sold it for 12k for 5 litres. Rice should be about 65-70k. I don't feel they cheated him though too but I just want to correct some amount. Booku here sell rice for #69000 for 50kg

T0BY:
Shout out to those guys/men that don't sleep with anything on skirt despite the strong and powerful sexual urge.

Having multiple partner isn't an achievement but then everyone is free to make a choice and live their life.

I always tell girls I date that I can't just be with one lady (I say this because I don't know we will date as I didn't think they like me until they make it glaring, and my number 1 mumu button is when a girl likes me) they usually agree and just accept it but immediately we start dating like this I hardly talk to another lady talk more of dating them. I

I have the contact of a foreign real estate agency that deal with investments in mainly in Dubai, but are available in Oman and Turkey. If you are interested I will connect you with my manager, a Russian woman.

Myrrhis:
If that is your reality, I want to believe you did your own part, because when it comes to peace and unity, everyone has a part to play.
They don't just happen.
{Although, for some people, It is easier to blame and complain}

Sometimes, even siblings unite themselves more than their parents ever could.

Exactly, like when my younger siblings are quarrelling, I allow them to bear out their grievances and say out their anger before I now pacify them and why I allow them is because I know no matter what they say to each other, it always end there. The don't keep any malicious intent so I allow them so as to diffuse any tension and not carry it in their mind.

pansophist:
That your siblings are NOT real brothers and sisters in essence.

You will realise that parents are the glue that holds sibling's unity, and when parents get older or passes away, then it becomes clear that the so called unity/love was not deep, and sadly, not there.

They say blood is thicker than water, but you will experience love from strangers that makes you conclude that ''love is thicker than blood''.

Anyone that loves you becomes your family, and you can find family from total strangers and even your spouse, after all, the family you create is more important than the family you came out from.

This might not be your reality, and thank God for that, but if you look around, you will see many families that fits this description, and it is a tragedy.

This definitely isn't my reality and I always thank God for that. My even extends to extended family. They always try their best possible to be there for ourselves.

TheCongo2:
Nope. DR Congo (then Zaire) and Haiti were the first Black nations to appear at a World Cup back in 1974. And for clarity, Morocco was the first African nation to qualify, in 1970.

Okay thanks, I know Zaire has played a WC I didn't know they are now DRC.

Burob:
President indeed, President should come & protect u in your house abi?

Nonsense lazy minded children, na President send yerima to go do gateman for private property for Abuja abi.

Defend ourselves and risk being sentenced to death? Tell me the news of the guy sentenced to death for defending himself is a fake news.

TheCongo2:
I am A proud Congolese Igbo 😂

Isn't this Congo first world cup? I'm genuinely asking.

Antwan99:
We'll relate once you've started enough.

It's a pleasure.

Add me to your group. I mean mentally. I know there's no group. I'm just saying I will learn data analysis too.

RollinTNDA:
With Great humility as a bearer and a vessel of the spark of sophia I shave been instructed to stay away from bragging.
Once the ego gets involved things start to get messy.

I am in the upper room the high chambers
What you call A.I has a creator
That creator is man. And only man can defeat A.I because you cannot defeat your creator.
Sophia has instructed me to not brag and I pray I keep to my words.
It Is not easy dwelling on the higher places
The astral realms you see time you do want you wanna do and pray you don't get stuck.

There is no gain I'm trying to prove anything

Bro, please I'm not trolling or mocking you, far be it from me. But with all the things you wrote here, I believe you. Please help me, WhatsApp or telegram or even Facebook I will contact you please. I know I can do this myself but it will take a longer time, which I don't have much of now. Should I drop my number please?

Serendipity2023:
you saw my chat with installer yet you are saying this

I believe you. But the chat with the installer can be staged.

Serendipity2023:
it's fibre bro

not shareable

Something is telling me this a marketing post. I applied as a field marketer which I was interviewed last Thursday but since I haven't been contacted for the second level, seems I didn't meet the criteria.

RollinTNDA:
so basically life is a gamble. Anything you see take it like that.
Life hard normally and you see person wey them born with disfigured hand and leg.
Some born blind, abeg which law dey responsible for that one

Of course, if you no wan take am like that, who you wan report give. Abi how you wan take reject am. Just live till you take your last breath. If you succeed good, if you don't still good cos whichever way you would not be the first or last to experience whatever you experience and life will continue.

Lalami3232:
My worst investment is sport betting. When opay showed me how much I deposit monthly on sport betting, I just shake head. The money pass wetin person dey use marry.
My greatest investment is going into tech and cashing out. My other great investment is my relentless campaign against paternity fraud by non-virgins. So far so good, the enlightenment is coming up gradually.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Which tech did you dabble into sir.
?