Gbam.
Way to go !

FTrebirth:
op, your problem is not medical but psychological.

i saw your old threads; the ones you created when you were still single. you spent all your youthful years as virgin mary. even the relationships you had were devoid of sex. i guess you were too churchy and as well too choosy. you shut men, suitors and erotic thoughts out of your life, that's why you were able to keep your legs close all through the 30+ years you've spent on earth till marriage.

and if you were circumcised while young as hhenryy opined, then it's double wahala: your sex bar will drop far lower than other uncircumcised girls, you will not be aroused like them and will probably not even enjoy having sex.

solution:
open up to your man. let him know he's not doing it well. every woman has a turn on point but if he's too naive to know what to do to spark up your feelings, i recommend you buy one of these sex guide video series and watch it together. www.nairaland.com/attachments/5744797_images77_jpeg0bbfc4bf4025f12e8aa3858b8a2ad88e

i know you're a Christian but don't be shy...God will understand. they're not raw porns but sex guides by professionals with short staged performances specifically for couples. i assure you, that pain you feel will transform into ecstasy.

Can we get the guide online??

FTrebirth:
op, your problem is not medical but psychological.

i saw your old threads; the ones you created when you were still single. you spent all your youthful years as virgin mary. even the relationships you had were devoid of sex. i guess you were too churchy and as well too choosy. you shut men, suitors and erotic thoughts out of your life, that's why you were able to keep your legs close all through the 30+ years you've spent on earth till marriage.

and if you were circumcised while young as hhenryy opined, then it's double wahala: your sex bar will drop far lower than other uncircumcised girls, you will not be aroused like them and will probably not even enjoy having sex.

solution:
open up to your man. let him know he's not doing it well. every woman has a turn on point but if he's too naive to know what to do to spark up your feelings, i recommend you buy one of these sex guide video series and watch it together. www.nairaland.com/attachments/5744797_images77_jpeg0bbfc4bf4025f12e8aa3858b8a2ad88e

i know you're a Christian but don't be shy...God will understand. they're not raw porns but sex guides by professionals with short staged performances specifically for couples. i assure you, that pain you feel will transform into ecstasy.

parents confirmed I wasn't circumcised.

Beverly1:
bros she no get any problem....what she's feeling is normal...talking from
Experience....for now d husby enjoys d penetration until ur body get use to his size then it won't be as tight as it is now and u will then wish it's a bigger bigger....trust me.... follow my previous advice....the only sad thing is we won't hear anything again once u become a pro....

Na people like u dey enjoy am pass when u finally get use to it....am telling ur husby will have to learn to give excuse when u on kill am....
Just don't rush get belle.....enjoy sex for a while..
. because once I give birth, it's no longer d same

Thanks for the advice

Hhenryy:


op, nobody here is telling you the truth.

the truth is that you have been genitally mutilated(circumcised) while young, thus you can never enjoy sex.
the primary aim for Circumcision is to kill the female libido/urge for sex so that she won't be wayward/promiscuous. but unfortunately it also doesn't allow a woman to enjoy sex when she is ready.

did I even say wen she is ready? let me say when the husband is ready, because a genitally mutilated woman will have very little or no urge/appetite for sex.

i know you won't agree with this fact, you may not even know if you have been circumcised or not because it's normally done at a very tender age.

but you are not alone, it's a common practice in Africa, in Nigeria about 70% of the women (20 yrs & above) are circumcised.

little wonder why African men are mostly polygamous. since most of our women here don't enjoy sex, hence constantly denying their husband, then the husband will be under pressure to look elsewhere.

Thanks but I wasn't circumcised. I like the idea of sex n feel the urge but I don't feel the action. Please don't get me wrong I enjoy the fore play but penetration itself hurts a bit and I don't get that special feeling. And at the end I'm like ''is that it''

RedDistrict:
enough pre-intimacy babe, pre-intimacy is key. maybe ur hubby is a holy holy man so he dont knw shii about nakin other than to penetrate, tell him to touch u more, let him blow u sef, na ur husband so wahala nor dy. Basically u guys need to increase the romance more before the main naks.

All those ppl doing english language correction on the op's matter, na the advice wey she dy find be that abi?? why not make ur contribution if u get the point already?? Nigerians sha,
I blame buhari sha and even GEJ join sef

Thanks.

remedick:


Do you get wet, as in really wet, before penetrative sex? Your answer will let me know what to say.

The first time I wasn't wet. But subsequently I get very wet before sex

IamKashyBaby:



There's nothing more fun than open it to ur hubbydoo..

Tell him what u really like to do and do not be afraid to explore new things..sex is boring if u only do same thing again & again..

Ok thanks. But I don't get that special feeling. I expected more than I feel.

Beverly1:
Op ur man needs to service u regularly.....d more u do it the less painful it becomes till d pain finally go away..
With constant service...1.5 months maximum

The pleasure is worth d pain u are going thru....as that will sooth ur pain in future..
Especially when u are tired and need to relax ur body from head to toe..

Or as future sleeping tablet.....ur man should try some lubricant for now..... enjoy

1.5months time..... ok thanks

Larryfest:
First of all it's deflowered and not disvirgined,secondly it shouldn't be more than twice before you start enjoying it except maybe there is a problem thou....

We have tried more than twice. Same same

Please give a sister some real advice.
Thanks

Hello,

After I got married and disvirgined, I thought Sex will be fun after waiting all these years. But I feel only pain and no fun. Is it normal. When does it start to feel good please. Does sex feel good? How long will it take. Although the pain has reduced after the first few times.

Favoredchic:
Hello house. Your sincere advice is needed please. What is a lady to do when mr. Right hasn't showed up. How does she hold on. Realistic advice would be appreciated. What should she do till he shows up.

The guys around are not showing signs of seriousness. More like time wasters.

Hello house. Your sincere advice is needed please. What is a lady to do when mr. Right hasn't showed up. How does she hold on. Realistic advice would be appreciated. What should she do till he shows up.

timpaker:

#teamVirgin
Reason: saving it for the right person (what other reason do I have. Scarcity of girls? ?)

# team virgin

flintrony:
I work in one of the federal government facility, we were all expecting some arrears payment for some time, it finally came, we were all happy.
Something happened I got another alert, the amount is close to what we were paid but not the same.
I was not called upon and nobody else got that second alert.
Plz nairalanders should I return or notify the system I got such such alert?
The arrears is close to #120k
The second alert is little less than 100k
Plz advise a member

Confirm the extra pay from your finance or human resource department and if it was payed in error, it's advisable that you return it.

chowlade:
1. They wants their Woman to give them a BJ, Dick sucking, Ass licking e.t.c. Listen up guys all the Mamas of Africa of the ancient including your Mothers and grand Mothers did not suck Dicks. Cause we are not in America, but we are in Nigeria. so this annoying traits you watched on films from the Western countries(are from Sodom & Gomoras) are not in a typical african Woman spiritual being beside God is not in support of it.

2.They think relationship is all about sex. My friend if you are one, expect ur heart to be broken multiple times before you change the notion

3.Smoking/Drinking When you know youself as a periodic smokers/drinker, you should date/court a woman of your type. some hides it and impregnate a woman before they come out of their shell as a pot head husband, leaving the innocent woman in her nightmare.

4.They kick there woman out of her matrimonial homes whenever there is dispute in their relationships knowing fully she has no place to go.

5.They takes unclad pictures of their woman and leaks it on social media. in America is a felony.

6.Cheating on their woman while trying to prevent their woman from doing the same.

7. Intentionally Hurting the woman and they will start to watch her reactions

8. Tellling all sort of lies to get a woman. Don't they know that what's hidden today will be disclosed tomorrow?

9. Most Nigerian man don't cook or assist their woman in the kitchen hmm.u leave d house duties to your woman and you think you are the man(serious concern) why

10. Lastly, Disobedience. They don't take corrections from a woman.
Pls add yours

True talk at points 7 and 8

What is the best advise for a lady in her 30s to socialize decently. Like to meet new people especially eligible bachelors. A lady ready to settle down not to play around please. To add to it. A lady that has kept herself till date

Rxpetite:
op
what type of work does she do?
is she an introvert?
if so she should try to go out with friends sometimes or just visit new places by herself


she should also know that geting married does not guarantee happiness.

Visit new places herself. Would she feel lonely or loom like a desperado. What kind of new places do u advise. It also matters too. I might be wrong but it might feel better to go with a girlfriend.

lifeisabitch:
Toasters every where, some are talking marriage just that they are way beneath my level. I have my own target

Why do people still say husbands are scarce?

So how u dey so am?
N where do u meet them?
Share pls


Just to add it's one thing to admire and another to seal it up in marriage. Some guys do not pull through

Well it's unfortunate because she loved Him already. and never liked his friend it never worked out sef and just a few weeks.

tope24:
Forget about he guy and move on. What ladies don't know is that the guy is operating on BRO CODE. she has dated his friend and it's not morally right to date the him according to the laws of BRO CODE

There was no intimacy. It was long distance sef.

she dated his friend unknown to her. short relationship no intimacy was involved. Now she met him and he liked her. Some time later he left her because of his friend told him about her. Please advise what should she do. There was no intimacy involved.