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lalasticlala: In today’s world of soaring divorce rates, most couples are hesitant to commit themselves to marriage for fear of finding out that they are not really suited to be long-term partners. And yet, it is only natural that two people in a serious relationship would want to share a life together. In such a situation cohabitation or living together without being formally married may offer a middle path.

But really how good is this idea for the health of a relationship?

The biggest advantage of cohabitation before marriage is that it gives both partners a fair idea of how it would feel to be married to the person. When dating, people naturally put their best foot forward but sharing a life with the same person can turn out to be a different ballgame altogether. Living together can be a good way of getting to know about the other aspects of your partner and get a feel of the commitment and practical responsibilities that sharing a life and home demands. Cohabitation lets you know how being married is different from merely dating your partner.

Living together also provides a way of getting to know aspects of your partner which might disappoint you later. If you discover that the person you are living with is extremely irresponsible with money or that he/she has a tendency to get physically violent when upset, it is easier to exit the relationship while still cohabiting. This is because, if you are already married, there will be legal issues to sort out and in the worst case scenario, kids from the marriage to take care of, in case your partner is emotionally or physically abusive.

Nevertheless, many are of the opinion that living together before marriage does not guarantee marital happiness.
In fact, christians, especially born again ones, frown at living together before marriage.

Those that live together before marriage are called live-in-lovers.

Guys/babes, are you for or against living together before marriage?

As for me it's a Good ideal and it's not it depend on your choice, it also depend on what you believe, have seen a couple that court for Good 10yrs and they married each other and the marriage last with real love, secondly we have to hand over the relationship to God, if you're In a relationship and you both have sex if both of you have no future for each other depart, if you don't trust each other fuckoff, the most important thing is move closer to God both partners

sexyseun: The truth is even though majority of us here criticize it, over half of unmarried couple cohabitate. I remember when i was in school i was living with my BF, staying with him gave me a sense of direction as he was a serious and focused guy, Damn!!! that guy get principle sha.. we would wake together, pray together, go to the library together, he fixes my assignments, he advices me, he was like my elder brother,i couldnt even think of cheating on him because i had it going well, as soon as he graduated things changed and then i became SEXYSEUN.
My point is, it all boils down to the individual you are cohabitating with, marriage doesnt change anybody its just a way of telling people officially that we are cohabitating for life. I have got many couple who initially lived together and ended up as lovely husband and wife and same i had couple who went straight into marriage(after normal dating iissh) and now headed for divorce....













It all boils down to what you both decide and not Nairalander's comments

Nice comments

SELENAqueensy: As for me, having a b.f or g.f does not necessarily means sex should be involved

Do you also know a relationship without sex last shortly because the love and trust will not be there unless we deciving our self

chimerase2: My ex gal friend did it to me yet I still luv and care for her
I own de baby cus she is ma gal friend

You also slept with her when again get another belly for another Man? If Yes believe me you Are finusher I still don't believe some men Are still mugun

Fake story, I don't believe it at all

Spotless180: I am running 29 now and i have not had sex with any lady till now.
I have kissed a girl before but it did not result to sex eventually.

My reason is that:
1. I don't see sex as the most important thing in life than pursuing ur goals in life.

2. People behave as if sex is food that you cannot live without. And it pisses me off. Sex is not everything.

3. Am so so scared of the dreaded hiv/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. I dont want to be a victim.

4. I dont believe in the use of condom. As there are people saying is not hundred percent safe for use. And i cant spend my money on that.

5. They also preach it in church that pre-marital sex is a sin.

6. I don't want to father any child now as i am not ready for it now. So i had to stay away from sex.
If u are not ready to be a father, why impregnate a girl and later ask her to commit abortion.

These are some reason i have not engaged in sexual activities for now.

Do you think it will affect my married life later?

MR Man why you details bobo us for Here? I don't believe none of your words , 99% fake story copy and paste, I don't believe it that all

HogWash: "They also preach it in church that pre-marital sex is a sin."

Oh! Boy! Most of them are very adulterous! They preach water and drink wine.

100% correct I tire for them o

Me self I dey wonder, why them cheat? Co's if you hear them say God forbid the next thing is God why, ladies talk why?

I will like to know is sex before marriage a sin? is also Masturbation a sin? and if the both is a sin tell what if you wanna discharge how you gonna do that?

favourmic: [color=#990000]Rubbish No point right from the beginning, what you mean by dating a lady with out no sex? they why would a lady be in a relationship when she dont want sex? more also do you know ladies are very crazy? even if you said sex no what if some else if having sex with her while you kept doing like holy angel. you too be wise...

if you think no point that is what you think, i don't blame you for that but i ask what is going on mostly with Nigerian Ladies

Hello every body, I wanna know why ladies like acting funny some times, If you enter relationship with one of them after few months or a year the next thing we go be say honey please can we stay out of sex till married? I feel like we are committing a sin. Let wait for few days or few weeks the next thing we go hear be say Honey I miss you like hell I can't wait to have you right now? Please why you girls are like this? less i forget remember no be you dis-flower her o, please can you enlighten me more? Because as my own understanding i use to ask my self when they know sex before married is a sin? why having boyfriends and girl friends in the first place?