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Is oshomole not a criminal too? They all deserve to be jailed. Heartless Governor

This is looking familiar, every freedom fighter I know had to go to jail at one time. I hope they don't succeed to make him a hero. Let the truth be told

Nigeria don't import 100% of its fertilizer, we have an operational fertilizer plant in Nigeria. Notore.

Carnations:
This virginity thing. It seems a big issue for you. And it’s generating awkward contradictions in you. It’s the hidden reason you’re struggling with your emotions. You’re conflicted inside because you know you have no standing.

Okay, here’s the thing: In life, you must learn to use appropriate yardstick to judge and determine issues. You don’t use a ruler for example to measure the purity of water. That’s an inappropriate instrument though a measurement. Neither do you use a stethoscope to measure the pressure of a tyre. It’s a wrong pressure gauge. In the same manner, you can’t use dutifulness in church as parameter to determine the suitability of a conjugal prospect. It can serve as corroborative factor or even corroborant, but it cannot be the primary basis of consideration. A good church worker is not necessarily going to be a good wife, though the word “good” is common. Two separate issues. I mean, that she can sing down the heavens doesn’t mean she will make you a good wife. Vocal dexterity is not qualification for coupling. Choir is not a marriage context. If you base your marriage decision on her ability to sing, you’re clearly using a wrong means of measurement. A singing voice for example cannot help you determine if she’s clean or a relative of Unhygienix of Asterix fame. That’s how people arrive at wrong marital decisions. They use wrong parameters. And such a mistake can prove very costly to a man in particular.

Now let’s come to your issue. You want to marry a virgin. But there’s an inherent contradiction in your quest. You can’t test her virginity unless you sleep with her, in which case she’ll no longer be and you won’t marry a virgin. The truth is, all you have is her word. It’s what she says she is that she is at this stage of your relationship. You can’t even verify her word without compromising your faith. Now, here’s the irony of your quest for a virgin wife: You’re not a virgin yourself. At some point before you embraced your faith you engaged in sexual congresses. In other words, you have a past. In the same vein, she also has a past. But you’re willing to embrace your past but not hers.


As per your wife you want to be the man who “hit it first”, but tell me, the women you hit first who’ll marry those? In essence you can’t take what you dished out. The idea of someone being there before you consternates you. You can’t handle it, ironically. The reason she’s not giving you the confirmation you want on her virgin status is probably because she’s not. She likes you, wants you, but you’ve put impediment on progress: demanded for something she can’t amend retroactively. And so she can’t lie about her past, and she can’t tell you the truth either. Stalemate. You somehow think that her non-virginal status is indicative of a colourful and flavourful past. Perhaps. Same applies to you I guess. But you’ve not told me who she really is, just her sexual history. You didn’t indicate if she’s a loving and kindhearted woman. Whether or not she’s caring. You’ve not told me whether she’s trustworthy, whether she’s someone you can entrust your life to. And it’s not as if you’re accusing her of promiscuity. So the broken hymen just indicates she’s had sex in the past.

What I’m trying to say is, virginity is really not a test of whether someone will make you a good wife. You’re using a ruler to measure tyre pressure. Now if virginity is a psychological barrier for you, I’d say don’t go into marriage with her. You’ll keep judging her in the present because you can’t deal with her past. I’ll advice you keep your imagination in check. Stop imagining someone in the past on top of her. It’s unhelpful. But you have to reconcile yourself to the possibility you may not marry a virgin. Being real! Learn to be real in life. Your generation is very experimental with sex, and sexual imagery is so pervasive. Your music videos are highly suggestive. Think Anaconda. You’re being conditioned to accept raw sexuality. That conditioning generates results. Makes kids want to experiment with sex.

Be careful that your quest for virginity doesn’t make you miss a very wonderful and loving woman. Perhaps the first thing you ought to consider is what you want in a wife, what should you want in a wife. If this woman meets your criteria of a good wife to you I’d say go for her. You don’t want to regret not marrying her. If you marry an alternate, note that the virginity qualification will end on your wedding night. Then the marriage begins. You don’t want a wife who qualifies for only the wedding night do you? What happens in the days and years ahead? The faith you avow is very much anchored on Paul’s immortal words: If any man (or woman) be in Christ, he or she is a new creature. Old things have passed away. All things have become new. It’s either you’re going to accept God’s word concerning this lady or not. The decision is yours.

If you don’t however, that will be most unfortunate. I’m sure you’ve read about Pharisees. They were fond of using differing standards- one for themselves, another for others. Jesus had a running battle with those guys. You’re not a Pharisee are you? You can’t judge this lady by one set of standards and use another for yourself. It’s pharisaic.

http://manly.ng/nigerian-man-marry-a-virgin/


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Stop looking for excuses to misbehave. If you let yourself get messed up by a man, don't look for ssympathizer. If women learn to say no, men have no choice but wait or seek loose girls, then we will have more virgins. If you you are no more a virgin, still learn to respect your virgina. Being a virgin or a non virgin with control has numerous advantage especially in marriage, and in your personality.
Oya make una start to shout at me.

My brother You have a serious issue, but not an impossible case. First I sense you are a religious guy but not a believer, So you felt marrying a church girl will do. Well I guess you know better. Before I continue, I want to advice all the unmarried men, if you want to marry, go to the maker of women and ask him to help you find one when u do, your hearts will click. Everyone who wants original goes to the manufacturer.
Back to you, first you have to admit you have made a mistake and go to God in prayers, I will suggest you pray and tell God that you can't help yourself that he should help you and turn ur mistake to miracles, cry if you have to.
Secoundly, leave the house and find a place where you can have the peace of mind to pray, I suggest your pastors house, this will help keep you from temptation, and avoid any suspicion. It will also give her the opportunity to think and make a decision that is from within.
Now surrender your life to Jesus and pray, after you feel the peace only Jesus can give, you have to face your wife, talk to her and pray with and for her. ( from your write up I noticed you have not talked to her, you are just always trying to pease her). ge your pastor to pray with you on the matter.
Finally wait, with your new nature love will flow feom.you naturaly and I've will break all barriers. Remember your daughter will want to have a complete home. God will guide you and I see you coming out strong. Remember what ever decision you make, be sure you have done all you can. Goodluck

Hmmmmm what I want is for fuel to return to normal

Are these the sophisticated weapons they carry? These do not look like boko haram members they look like hunters.

This is the case with many Christians who care more about position in church than the development of their children or overprotective parents. This is common in depper life and many holiness churches. But my brother i am a Christian teenagers teacher and I see this often. I will advise you to talk to a Christian counselor, don't take your case to unbelievers, because the will only advise you wrongly. You must also understand that your parents love you and want you to be good, even if they are doing it harshly. You can talk to me if you choose just indicate interest and we will arrange to talk. One more thing the solution is in renewing your mind and seeing things alot more differently, soon your parents will see your side and make corrections.
God bless you

madridguy:
Hypocrisy is when you think Muslim are terrorist and see American as an Angel. As at 2014, 1,147 innocent Muslim killed in US drone strikes –

http://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2014/nov/24/-sp-us-drone-strikes-kill-1147

The public record of violent deaths following the 2003 invasion of Iraq.

Documented Muslim deaths from violence.

147,431 – 167,206

https://www.iraqbodycount.org/

No one is talking about the Innocent Civilians that lost their lives in NATO airstrikes in Libya and how they turned Libya into War zone.

No one is pointing finger at Tony Blair and his partner in Crime, George W. Bush for crime against humanity. Millions of Children are outta school in Iraq, Libya , Syria because of your USELESS FOREIGN POLICY.

MAY THE WRATH OF GOD BE UPON DONALD TRUMP FOR CALLING MUSLIM TERRORIST.


AMERICA WILL NEVER KNOW PEACE UNTIL THEY STOP TERRORIZING THE WHOLE WORLD.

Will you be frank and say the truth? The Muslim killed was it not in the process of trying to protect other Muslims from extremist? Muslim in america should either live in peace or live..... Can you imagine the havoc they are causing?

With our money her father stole

and he cannot pay minimum wage......... oye oshi

I wonder the strategy all this companies employ, you dont cut cost by reducing manpower, you cut cost by plugging every source of waste.

jejemanito:
We southerners should quit this pity party. The ones we've occupied what did we do with it?

I CAN BET MY LAST KOBO ON THE FACT THAT 98% OF NAIRALANDERS HAVE NO IDEA THAT SINCE 1960 NORTHERNERS HAVE PRODUCED INEC CHAIRMAN JUST TWICE. Jega and the latest man Yakubu. Southerners have held that for nothing less than 10 times Of course you won't know cause you are too blinded by ethnic sentiments

I don't understand why we always ignore the woeful performance of our state governments upon all monthly allocations they collect. If we attack them the way we attack FG we would been in paradise by now

Na wa for you, How many elections have you had? see the hand writing before it is too late, it is a Power shift.

It is not a Hyena. its a wild cat

MadCow1:
I need to give my Life to Christ.. But sinning is just too sweet.







Is there a way to be born-again and still enjoy life?

Who says you will not enjoy your life when you give it to Christ? sin is no enjoyment, but slavery.... Listen the only thin you lose by giving your life to Christ, is your sins. you have a lot to gain.

If you need peoples approval to know if you are ugly or not, then you will remain miserable. hey babe you are soooo pretty, i saw you pics and was like wow. but that wont mean anything if you don't accept yourself as pretty.
remember you were made by a great God who took His time, and He called you beautiful.

Hausa the largest Ethnic group? is it by land mass or population? because i think the Igbos are considering their population in and out of Nigeria.

mazeltov:
No offence, Mr Bruce Lee- I don't know where you belong but analysing the way you do come on social media and wail, I need no prophet to tell me that you are from Pdp. I don't know whether a curse has been laid on that party. It's easier to destroy something than to repair it. It only takes less than 15 minutes for an explosion of atomic bomb to completely destroy a place and it will take more than 5 years to develop the place again. Pdp is the main reason behind the woes of this country. Had it been that Pdp led administration effectively manage the affairs of this nation- sail the ship of our nation to a promising shore, there wouldn't have been any reason to mount pressure on Apc government to act fast. This country was handed over to Apc in a complete broken state, they masturbated with the glory of this country and wine-and-dine with the fate of many youths for a good 16 years yet, they are expecting Apc lead government to clean up the mess within four years. see, we don't want magic in fact there is no magic wand to wave, we just want a new and solid foundation for the future of this country. But Mr Bruce lee is doing his own opposition on twitter, what a shame.!!

and you think you have made sense? keep giving excuses for the president

Admin move this to front page,
Yesterday custom confiscated three container load of chicken and disposed it in the a dump site along eleme - onne road in Port Harcourt Rivers state, since then large number of people have been going there to recover the chicken for reasons we cant tell the chicken is so much that since yesterday they have not finished it. Guys from what i see the chicken is jumbo size. I am unable to get pictures from the staff bus last night and this morning, but i am sure soon the picture and videos will flood the internet. I saw a woman pricing a boy with a bag full of chicken, I also custom officers there this morning, obviously trying to disperse the crowd, for where? see as people they hustle. So be careful of the chicken you eat.
for me, live chicken or nothing for now.
Have a great day

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histemple:
Please can you read this to yourself? Please try to correct yourself so that you won't be helping FGN to justify the discrimination.

Why dont you correct me since you know it all? did you also read what you wrote?

What make you feel I went to a polytechnic?

As far as i am concerned, the school you went to, will not guarantee you a future

TINUBU AT WORK........................... APC changi

This one follow for Appointment? hahaha

these are another BH

MTN will have to do better than that for me to go back to them. they hit me hard this time. rubish

OVI75:
DESPITE HAVING AN OND,MOST POLYTECHNICS ARE NOT FIT TO RUN SOME OF THE PROGRAMMES TALK MORE OF AWARDING DEGREES PERIOD.

Most you said. and that is the truth, but there many that are better than some Universities.

Sell the ideas to her before implementing them. it will make her feel important, while you wait for your chance.

When a person's name is Lai, what do you expect from him but lies?

PassingShot:
China, USA and other major powers are experiencing this same issue.

This is partly what GEJ bestowed on us. It will get better by the passage of time.

If GEJ Bestowed it on you, why is USA and CHINA suffering the same thing? GEJ caused it too? una know the reason?

You will realize in future that you did the right thing. kudos

LOCATION PLEASE, I LOVE IT

You made no mistake, you are in a period where instead of complaining, you should discover yourself........ be patient.