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Onegai:
Oya, no vex.

Truth is, the Rule most of the time is what most of us see. It does seem you're the exception.

Congratulations to you and your future wife. I'll go modify my post now

And I'm sure I know why my country is shite, I chose to move back to it in the glorious hopes that things would turn around, but alas...



And let's just stay on topic please. Because whilst you believe his majesty's military was running around the world, fighting for noble causes, I would hate to bring up what British forces did (and probably still do) in Kenya to innocent women.

You guys have quite the reputation there.

liefdesverhaal:
I am a regular user of this forum. For the sake of privacy and objectivity... I have to start a new tread.

I need the opinion of mature and especially married people.

I am a man in my middle thirties, Married with 2 kids(One with another woman). I am in a dilemma. I am married to a Woman that have different view of life. We are from different culture and educational background. We see life differently. I am a quite, conservative, loyal, and kind but very principle Man whereas my wife is very open, extrovert, kind, and care free person but She is very very disrespectful and abusive. She abuses even in public without knowing the implication of her actions.

I believe in Family union and the sanctity of Marriage. I believe that a Man is the head of a family and the provider and protector of the family. My wife believe that a Man should be the provider of the family while she takes control of the family.

Perhaps it is too much to describe but how do i make my wife to see life the way I am seeing it? I want a simple, quite, private life that I will love, cherish my wife above any other thing.

I want to go back to school to obtain a degree perhaps Maters degree but my wife just want me to provide for the family without pursuing my dreams or career. She is not interested in anything I want to do as long as it does not affect the family income.

I have thought of leaving her but the idea that I have a child with before with another woman without marriage, then another child with her(Which I love so much) scare the living daylight out of me.

I have tried talking with her about my fears and worries but that seems not to help. I have contracted other people for advice but nothing is helping.

I am scared of starting a new family after 2 kids with two different women. How do I make this woman to see life from my angle(I am willing for concession)?

When I was a child, I planned for a wife that will love and adore me... Support my dreams and take care of the family... But it seems I am having opposite of this right now.

This is a true life story... Please help a brother...

Man up and do your duty

Simple

tosinhtml:
True, even feminism sef. If a wife is a core feminist & husband is not, that marriage will not last. One of them has not truly care about the subject OR agree fully for their union to last.

tosinhtml:
Freedom of choice means you don't hate the other options, you simply do not care about them, there is a difference.

tosinhtml:
You do not even need to be a fanatic, even as a passive Christian there are types of atheist that you can never co-habit with. They are Fanatic atheist (Agnostics), therefore they hate the sound of anything religious at all. They can kill you for even mentioning Church or Islam.

tosinhtml:
It depends, there are different types of atheist. The nonreligious, the nonbelievers, and the agnostics. Nonreligious means not subscribing to one of the big, traditional religions which is the category that you are, It means while you do not subscribe to it, It might be Okay for others around you to go ahead and believe.

Others such as the nonbelievers, and the agnostics are more Anti-religion, means there is no God & do not preach anything near me. These ones are usually aggressive, they hate religion with all their heart & hate others talking about it.

I hope you understand what I am saying.

Gloriagee:
That works for you cos you are not a fanatic. (Un)fortunately depending on your POV, I'm a fanatic! I only pray in the name of Jesus and compel my household to do so, not sure I can cope with an atheist spouse.

As I said, your tolerance levels is proportional to how core a value is to your personality. Hope this helps!

Gloriagee:
Different Teams with respect to stuff that dont touch your core values, super . Who cares if youre on a different football team, beauty competition or even chess game? I definitely wont choose a partner whose values are not aligned with mine, like you support stuff I feel strongly about like tribalism, corruption etc so I guess that covers politics. IMO, a spouse with a different religion is a recipe for disaster unless at least one party is pretty laid back about his/her religion and even at that the over zealous one may pressure the complacent one into becoming more fiery.

Onegai:
(Ehhh, I'm not a fan of mercenaries, but that's between you and the Lord, I won't judge you).

I'm not saying you don't deserve happiness, everyone does.

I'm saying, of course you make her feel safe, secured and loved. You're hero, the age gap and your money make her feel that way. I was once her age. Older men made me feel that way, especially when they had money. If they don't have money, they look pathetic. If she was older and established, I'd be wishing you all the best. I've got several classmates in interracial marriages and they're going well.

Anyhoo, please ignore me. You're not hurting anyone (well done for taking care of your late wife during her cancer).

Just be careful with this one. I'm glad she's signing a prenuptial. Protect yourself. Make sure she never comes between you and your daughter, no ifs or buts.

Women from 3rd world countries are usually survivors and are tough as nails. Make no mistake about it.

There's a saying in Igbo land: "if you're going to eat a frog, eat one that has eggs so at least there's some benefit when people call you a frog eater".

Congratulations on your marriage, dude.

AngelSlay:

Crest4:
What happened to the other Nigerian lady you've a child with?

Onegai:
You can't convince a middle-aged man with baggage that a 20-something-year old chose being with him because of his sparkling personality.

Abeg free our sis, Naija dey hard. Make she find greener pastures the legal way.

Onegai:
You can't convince a middle-aged man with baggage that a 20-something-year old chose being with him because of his sparkling personality.

Abeg free our sis, Naija dey hard. Make she find greener pastures the legal way.