Thumb up for you!

netizenbuzz:


Oga, it is clearly stated in Ephesians 5:21, it is not my opinion. Where did I say a man should stop being the head? Read my article again please. You say love? Love comes with humility as Christ continually showed. Why don't you advocate that instead? Jesus was and is still the most disrespected man that ever liveth, yet he never stopped loving us. Love should cover all things including disrespect but it is the other way round with you. You respect me, I show you love. You say respect isn't reciprocal? Well, we can say the same about love then. By your logic, if I am your wife, I don't have to love you since I'm only asked to respect you right? Does that even make sense to you? At the end of the day, you didn't answer my question, you only came out extremely defensive. I can't say I'm surprised. Before we say ah, you people shout westernization but alas, you are online because of the so called westernization. Why pick only what suits you? How selfish. God also cursed man that he would till the ground to eat but woe betide a woman that wants a man who can provide. Gold digger alert. Stop speaking from the two sides of your mouth uncle. You cannot eat your cake and have it.

nawtibownie:
Letter 'N' is missing from your sentence. It is thereby rendered invalid!

What happened to the 'n' in the word 'brown'?

Pls, end this verbal war now, it wouldn't take you anywhere. What are you gaining from this? Pls, for God sake. Op, concentrate on the positive comments which can bring solutions to the challenge on ground, and discard the negative ones.

Shalom.

KingRaoul:


i go to church for the last 8 years constanly i dont need God i need logical advice

My brother, you need God first, the logical advice you are seeking for can't be effective without the help of God. Pls, you need God through Jesus Christ His son. Pls, give Him a trial ...

It is well with you. Jesus cares.

KingRaoul:
i am 24. i am 6ft. i am goodlooking (people say i look like 2face idibia). i have no job. i have no certificate. i have no skill. i have no talent. i am a sociopath and a narcissist and worse of all a chronic pervert. i constantly dream of sniffing girls pants. everytime i go out people think i am this cool goodlooking guy they dont know my pervert nature is killing me. i have driven 80% of my friends away cuz i am scared they will see my through nature and its too embarassing. i dont believe in God cuz i love science so much and its theories that are so well proven and explained. i have had so many chances to date but cuz of my nature, i just find reasons to push the girl away cuz im scared of her knowing what i truly am. is this how i am going to get married? who will marry me like this and i dont even like the idea of marriage it irks me. is this how i will get a job? when i will spend 90% of time in the office fantasizing about girls panties and other things i cant even say. i have been a pervert since 2005 its been 11 years now that i have been this way. i masturbate everyday i cant help it. i am a fineboy on the outside but a monster inside and it hurts me that people dont know my pain. they think i have an amazing life as they do every goodlooking person. i am lazy too, reason why i couldnt graduate , been to 3 universities always dropping out because i cant stand stress. pls what am i? i wouldnt wish my life on my worse enemy...pls advice me. this is not a joke i need help and guidiance.

You need God to rule over your life brother.
I would advise you see a good and God fearing counsellor.

espn:
Na so e dey start..we no want another fite oo..have wasted 1GB commenting and trying to settle fites!

LOL! . Peace maker.

reminiscing:

Obviously,you're judging me from my previous post.......

I think he's judging the greedy married man who is destroying other men's wives-to-be. Contentment, they say, it's a great gain.

Flee fornication from alduterious married man sister. What goes round comes around.
Shalom!

[b][/b]LOL. He / she should stop spoiling you guys' shows.

joseph1832:
I take God name beg you just keep quiet.

What's the difference between the man who misappropriated money and the home-breaker(law-breaker)? Kettle calling pot black!
She's happy to the detriment of another woman's happiness.
She should be probed. Nonsense!

Osisie:
I am presently in my first year in the university studying Philosophy. I came to Lagos for a holiday job. Now the holiday is over and I'll soon return to school. Though I'm still working.....I'll quit when it's time to go.

But I just met someone who works in a very prominent firm here in Lagos and he offered to help me get employed in the firm next month.

That's where I got confused. The pay is 70k plus many other side benefits. In fact, he said I may not even need to touch my salary at all for a year.

But, my school is in the North Central, very far from Lagos. I want this job seriously. I already have an OND from a Polytechnic which qualifies me for the job.

This could help me start my dream as I intend going into Agriculture.

What should I do?

Don't quit schooling but you can change school and run it on part-time. It's better to work and study rather than after the study, you'll be looking for the job. Pls, take each opportunities as they come.
Best of luck Op.

. Funny you. Husband (not dog)for sale! LOL.

Houseofglam7:
Take him to a strip club and pay to let him have a lap dance!

I swear na car him go nail you!


If that doesn't work, sell him on OLX

modsWassup:

hi please kindly help me with the ielts materials if you still have them....

I have sent a mail to u for request..

thanks in advance..

I'm very sorry, i thought I've replied your mail. I've not got it, I've also sent mails to people whom I think can forward the materials to me. I will forward it to you as soon as I get it.

Ekicedar:



Pls forward the materials to cedar4real@yahoo.com

Thanks

I haven't got the material.

bissiejoe:
Anyone with IELTS practice material to send to bissiejonathan@gmail.com
Thanks in anticipation

Pls, can you forward it to me too? God bless you and thanking you in advance.

[quote author=deoyel25 post=31984011]Hello all,
I just started following this thread again yesterday. Even though I have done my WES and IELTS since last year, I decided to wait for the EE instead of FSWP. I just created my EE profile yesterday and I started swimming in the pool few minutes afterwards. I have been encouraged by all the contributors to this thread and I also want to render the little help I can. I have a very good IELTS material (which I used myself). Its The Official Cambridge Guide to IE

Thank you sir. Pls, I'm interested. My e-mail add: fibonacciseries3@gmail.com

You are different brother. God bless you.

Enegod:
Cheaters cheat because of their own core values, not because someone didn't pay them attention or didn't treat them right,or any other reason.

They do it because that's who they are. A person who would not cheat can have all the opportunities and all the reasons
in the world to cheat, but they won't..

It's called 'werepe' in my town, it can make one dance 'palongo' nakedly. I fear it o.

Osirimononaye:

hope u've tested it

Osirimononaye:
On seeing this i ran 3km away from my phone b4, i gather courage to come nd comment geez...

I'm grateful sir.

foxxynik:

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That isn't the solution!... I believe you've bore him his first male child... And so...you remain his number one wife...
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I'll say!...you shld not give up!... Celibating won't kill you!... Masturbating isn't a crime though..... If he's starving you...just try and put ur mind away from temptations!
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And please... Considering another marriage will only make u a laughing stock! And it'll mean that u're a loser on this battle..... Consider the vows you made on the altar... I believe u had pre-counselling and post-counselling before and after ur marriage!
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Please, don't dig into his affairs... Deviate ur interest and your love to ur children!... The more u seek to know what he's doing....the painful it'd become for u to bear! Just shut ur mind over his sexual indulgence and move on... If you're working.. Match ur focus on ur job!... And please! Stop relaying ur marriage problems to ppl or in a media like this...
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A lot of people u see smiling everyday, have diffrent problems... But the ability for u to swallow it and put a smile on ur face makes u a superhuman!
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In my university days!... There was a girl who had her womb cut off coz of several abortions!... Then it affected her and she started bleeding for years!... You'll never know she was in pains.. She knows that she'll never put to birth and she will find it hard to sleep with a man coz the blood started getting old and was oozing!!... Nobdy knew what she was passing thro until she fainted in school and we volunteered to take her to the teaching hospital... The doctor seeked for her family person and I agreed to stand for her as her cousin... I was told everythng... We contributed to her bills and after she came out...I took her out and discuss with her...she cried and told me nobdy knew it except me! The bleeding was treated and she was jst left with no womb!... And ever since then! Today is the only day am saying this...
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Another girl was a serious ulcer patient.... She take drugs that cost a thousand to 3thousand naira a day for her not be pass thro pains... She misses lectures most days and yet u can never see her frown or look frustrated!... That we were so much happy with her...and she was fun to be with...
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Am taking my time to tell you this...becoz... You can smile and leave with ur husband even when he's not acting like a husband...yet neighbours will never get to know!
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There is a husband and wife...that I was told.. They've quarelled for years after their marriage... This happened till their old age...and the husband died without reconciling with the wife... They have different pots and diferent bed... They don't discuss as husband n wife... They bareely look at each other or communicate with each other... They fecth water separately!... But when somebdy visits them....they'll sit together...smile and rub themselves as if they're very happy with each other... The moment the person leave...they will immediately return back to their malice. It happened for years! Till the man dies!... You can pretend and be happy!
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You can plan and work things out...and have ur marriage back... This movie... "Mr and Mrs" should tell u how u can gain ur husband back... Whether he has conscience or not!
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I often say that... Anybody who's into TROUBLE knows why and so should also know the solution to it's trouble!
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Am compelled to say that u know the solution..u jst have to plan it well... And divorcing him isn't the solution! Please!

Thank you sir for this beautiful and reasonable advice. Actually, I'm not failing in any of these points you raised. I'm fashion conscious, a good cook, trying my best in bed (I even watch pornographic films occasionally to improve on my sexual life.

The problem started when God began to answer our prayers(when he bought car and we started building). He said sometimes ago that "the people he's controlling in his working place are more than 20, that a small lady like me can never get His attention again no matter what I do"(that was when he was just be promoted, I was beaten to coma when I tried to seek for his attention, some neighbors rushed me to a nearby hospital, when I was revived back to life and regained my health, I was advised not to seek his attention again if I really want to live long) I think he spoke under the influence of alcohol' and influence from some bad friends and family because, practically, his brothers are like that too, his own case is even better than two of his brothers.

He's been manipulated because he subjected himself to it. I've vowed that no other man will sleep with me except my husband, but he's starving me. I've good physique and look very younger than my age. If I want to remarry before this year ends, I can. Which as times goes on, I might put into consideration because this is the time I need companionship. Everybody keeps telling me he will change. When will that be? Is it when he's no more useful? He will be telling me it was the work of Satan and people will now be asking me that "are you not a christian? Yes, I'm a christian and I've been begging him on my knees to forgive me of all what I might have done wrong but instead my plead is aggravating the matter. He's already made up his mind because he thinks he's found the love of his life in someone else and he is even proud of it to tell some people. 'Aye yi KO le rara' let him go ahead and marry whosoever he wants to marry but let him set me free, I deserve to be happy in my life.

Thank you for your concern sir.
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foxxynik:

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I grief over the trauma u're passing!
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Understand that... You don't have to give up on him!
Reasons are that... These could be the reason God gave this man to ur care..knowing very well that you're the only woman that will be able to handle him!
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Sincerely speaking,... I'd like u to look deep on urself... A lot of things turn men off... He's either regretting for marrying you or there is something that he's holding grudges to..and u have to find out what he's angry over.. He might nt say it out but u jst have to think back!
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Look into the mirror...are u really pretty?... How about Body odour?... Do u have sexy shapes? Please am jst being matured about this questions!... Just to look into the exact thing that has deviate his interest on you!.... Are u depending totally on him for ur upkeep?
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Try and get a job if u're not working!... Save money and do matured make-ups... Get nice dresses... Turn urself into a teen-like mother... Mostly, try and look matured on ur dresses!... Look at what most local/foreign celebrities are wearing! Get the ones u can and make ur looks more enticing and appealing...
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Are u a good cook? You have to try and spice up ur recipes...
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Do u maintain jst one position during love making? How about sounds when having intercourse?... This things will move him...
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Just try something! Good luck!

Mr. Basketball, what do you want to gain from this exchange of abusive words?

It is well o. Please, my people stop all these insulting posts, it wouldn't help. God bless you all as you yield to this little advice. Let's embrace peace.

Happy birthday to my daughter from another parents. God bless you, you are a gem.

ibedun:


Your story is very familiar to me. I did all these things to my ex-wife. When I got tired of doing those hurtful things I left her. In my own case my love for her died. And her personality and character did not help plus I hated her mother.

Really? if you could do that one intentionally without spiritual back up, that means my hubby too is doing his for a purpose. It is well. i am even begging him to release me but he doesn't want to. Your own case, you left her so that she can replan her life. I will like to replan my life too. because I'm tired of pretence of being happy when I'm deeply hurt. I've fasted, I've become lean. I've begged him but all to no avail. I don't want to commit adultery.

innervoice:


In front of you?

No! He uses condoms which he piled up the nylons in a toothbrush basket, and for example, I opened his door unexpectedly today to tell him his food is ready. and lo!

We married legally, willingly. There was a time (recently) I reacted to all these ill-treatments from him, he is now using it as the basis for what he has been doing(he rented another apartment with an Igbo lady) without my knowledge, he only told me he has a program me he's running so, he may not be coming home frequently, unknowing to me then that he was lying. I confronted him when I discovered but he used antagonizing method to answer me and I reacted, he's now basing his bad habit on that reaction(that's what he said) and I don't want to commit adultery. I've never turned him down b4, he used to come and sleep with me when there's no other option for him. But now for the past months, he's neglected me. He only comes home to see his kids when he feels like. He's above advice, some of his family members support what he's doing while some God feariing among them have tried to talk sense into his head but he ended up making them his enemies, he walks out on them, so when they could no longer bear the insults, they keep looking.

ibedun:


I am a man and I know what you are going through must be tough. Did he marry you willingly? Or was he entrapped? Did he as a guy married early? Is there something he is resentful about?

I can't really explain. It looks as if he's possesed. I don't think it's ordinary. He masturbates at home when there's no prostitute or any of his strange women available.

innervoice:


What is it that he wants?

Thank you for this question. I've been asking myself this same question and many more. I didn't notice the traits in him. He looks gentle and he can be so loving at times to get what he wants. Nobody gave me an hint until when we got married and I noticed the traits almost a year after, that was when one of his childhood friends who I respected so much told me that he had been like that.

I keep on praying and hoping he would change someday, instead its getting worse as God started to bless him (note: we started from nothing) he has already stopped going to church since three(3) years ago. Thank God he changed recently to drop something for feeding, I only contribute to feeding now and he now pays the children school fees after much persuation from friends and a few relatives.

I'm even tired of fasting and prayers, I'm been trying my best to play it cool but its like I'm getting wrong, I'm getting frustrated. IT ISN'T EASY AT ALL.

innervoice:


Why have you married him?

Thank you for this question. I've been asking myself this same question and many more. I didn't notice the traits in him. He looks gentle and he can be so loving at times to get what he wants. Nobody gave me an hint until when we got married and I noticed the traits almost a year after, that was when one of his childhood friends who I respected so much told me that he had been like that.

I keep on praying and hoping he would change someday, instead its getting worse as God started to bless him (note: we started from nothing) he has already stopped going to church since three(3) years ago. Thank God he changed recently to drop something for feeding, I only contribute to feeding now and he now pays the children school fees after much persuation from friends and a few relatives.

I'm even tired of fasting and prayers, I'm been trying my best to play it cool but its like I'm getting wrong, I'm getting frustrated. IT ISN'T EASY AT ALL.

innervoice:


Why have you married him?

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