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@snazzy love that was a matured approach, thank God for taking control of the situation.Sometimes try and call your SIL, MY Hubby always say that love from afar is sweeter.I have learnt from your experience, I pray that God will continue to give us wisdom.

@bodashee, I can't stop laughing

You that have read it what advice have you given?

pickabeau1: Did u read the part where she said it was also her own husband's birth date

@Godspearl, now I understand , just try and convince hubby the both of you can breeze in, but if he does not agree please go enjoy the day with your husband.but you can join her in planing even on phone.

So was any of your deliveries by cs are you on watsup.i have had cs once, and i am scared i don't know if to conceive now my baby will be one year by august

smartmom: Yes O I feel ur pain too. I had stitches for all 4 kids and it was worse for me than the labour itself I tell u. But like in the article I mentioned above suggested, lovemaking it not only the actual act, TLC is an integral part needed and if a man can smooch his wife she may oblige him and go d extra mile as in 'outercourse' as mentioned

Just go and assist, after the party everybody go your way, she likes you that is why she is telling you.it is always good to render a helping hand.

Godspearl: Family and inlaw trouble can b so annoying,My hubby's family had a meeting and my hubby's immediate broda talked abt me dt I don't usually participate wheneva they have party dt I jst come like a guest.I wasn't bodad cuz I knew its d wife dt told him all dt jst bcuz wen my brodainlaw was graduating from seminary I dint help her personally wit cookin I sent my maid to help... fast forward yesterday my brodainlaws wife called dt she wants to do a surprise bday party fr her husband.(d husbands bday is july 30 bt she wants to do d party 3rd august) which falls on my hubby's bday. What shld I do as I don't want dere wahala again.

My dear if it were to be me, since you have a maid that has made things easier, let your normal routine continue,even if she does not do anything don't bother yourself send your maid, she cannot eat then tell you to come and take the plate.Relate with her as a sister no too much familiarity, if you have a job it makes things easier.if you don't have a job look far things to keep you busy, be careful don't talj too much with her so that you will not mistakingly say what you are not supposed to say.

snazzylove: Let me start by sharing this experience with you guys.
I have a nicely difficult set of in-laws, always right, quick to condemn or judge my actions inactions, words and even thoughts. Lol.
Sometime ago a sister in-law came to my house to stay and carry out her 6months industrial training. This arrangement was made without consulting me, point number one. Well, she came, her stay was not fun for me one bit. She doesn't respect me as her brothers wife nor as an elder sister. She goes out and come in the way she likes, she does no house chores no matter how small it is. I do the cooking for her while my little help does the house cleaning. At a point I had to complain to my hubby concerning her attitude, but guess what, he saw nothing wrong with it, at a point he told me categorically that I hated the sister and didn't want her in my house. Who knows what he told the little sister, cos that one in turn grew to become very saucy and disrespectful. To save myself the insult and heartache I decided to start minding my business.
Then something happened, on a saturday morning, she met me at the balcony, managed to utter a gudmorning which I equally managed to answer, and told me she wants to go to the church for confession, ok, I nodded. And that was it. She left the house and didn't come back. Everyone was worried including me, until we found out that she travelled to the north to be with her sister.
What happened? Why? Datz d question on everybodys lips. One week later it was revealed that she got pregnant for one irresponsible and jobless boy.
Now the big challenge. The family did not want to give her away in marriage to the boy, neither do they want to abort the pregnancy, and she cannot even stay with the parents and carry her pregnancy cos they are 'stunch catholics' who doesn't want their image tarnished.
The last and only resorts was for her to stay in my house until she puts to bed then the family can now think of what to do with the baby. As usual they discussed and concluded (without consulting me) to bring her down to my house to have her baby after spending some months with the sister in the north. They only called to inform me on the day she will be coming down.
I managed the situation.
But I need your contributions on what you would have done if it were to be you.
I will still share with you all how I resolved it.

It is good to share experince, now i know though it has not happened to me but i have to be careful.i can not stand wahala from inlaws it is better to stay on your own.

hispinkolo: Lol
Let's just say the family was making a decision and the husbands' siblings were being overbearing and lording it over the daughters in-law.Stupidly,I was championing the cause for the daughters in-law because we had a different opinion and felt we should have been consulted as well as members of the 'family'.

Well,I confided in my MIL,told her my thoughts and my reasons also intimating her that the others were also against the idea.I didn't know my co wives were telling me one thing and doing another..I was a bloody fool

MIL as usual started championing her shidrens case and I strongly opposed,in the end I told her I would go along with the idea but I'm not happy about it.Mennn from there drama started,woman cussed me out,asking me who do I think I am that I won't fall in line,I'm feeling big,that why should we be consulted?that she's pitying her son,that I'm alienating him from his siblings etc and all sorts of things.I was shocked cos it was totally not called for.Me that normally encourages hubby to do things for them,monetary,material etc She has apologised but things can NEVER be the same again.

I blame myself,simple.My parents blamed me too.Omo! I just fell in line o.Im now an O YES member.Even if dem wan enter ditch,I will say okayy.

@skimpychick, congratulations, so happy for you

Yes you are, how is the family

bestie101: hello everyone...
I'm I welcome?

@rechybaby, thank God for you and your family

Just try and see a doctor, i did not experience that so i can't really say anything, but i know it will go it may just be part of your pregnancy experience, sorry dear it will get better.
@moonberry, please it is good to take the doctors advice to avoid stories that touch, another serminar will come

beedam: Mamas in the house, no one has responded concerning the pain I feel in my left arm.its as if the bone is broken inside. The pain keeps moving from upper arm to lower arm. Despite rubbing with different ointments,it still refuse to go. Has anyone experience this before? Thanks to you all.

I hail all A-z mamas, @zemaye, you are welcome

I support your point Maturity of a child matters alot and not age, To the glory of God i got married at 21 after immediately after graduation everyday my Dh still tells me "you are more matured than your age".
About the sex issue, as earlier mentioned we should try as much as we can to be our children's friends not just parents in the way we can help and guild them and with God helping us.
@skimpychick, just relax God is with you at the appointed time, you will smile and laugh with your Lo.Amen

mummyf: Imurboss, lwkmd!!!

Like atonementchild said, age does not determine maturity.
My child will communicate the wisdom she has acquired over the years b4 I decide if she is of marriagiable age or not.

I will encourage her to strive to be the best she can be.
When I got admitted into 5 uni, my mother told me in clear terms that if I got pregnant, she will withdraw me from school immediately and would not support me in any way.
My dad just called me and told me, I know u are a good girl and I trust u. It was my dad's comment that held me or else, I was planning to be promiscous so I can give my mum high BP.

How we communicate with our kids from the begining is very important.

@Donatee, thanks I will do it,

ok I have stop breast feeding during the day but the breast milk production is still high please help me, these days I noticed she likes sucking even more now.from experience what did you do.thanks dear All mamas I hail oh

MumZ: dis style is cald goin 'cold turkey' n its can b very painful. i used it wen i wantd 2 wean my boy, i hd 2 mke sure i wasnt d 1 caring him wen he was cryn. i wasnt my self 4 almost a wk. i sugest u reduce d no of feeds u usually gve like sme1 suggestd, dis sends a signal 2 ur body n d milk productn starts 2 reduce. b4 u knw it d milk as dried up. its beta dan jst stopn 1ce o. dat 1 na punishmt 4 mother n child.

thank you very much

Chestnut: jst pick a day u will like to stop,den Dnt give her trough out d day and d night,jst giv her tea or anything she likes wen she cries at nyt,den as for u,u will wear ur bra day and nyt take it off only wen u want to take ur bath,ur bre.st will be swollen and painful jst endure and take paracetamol to ease d pain,jst make sure u dont press or pump d milk if u do,it will be like u are still feeding ur baby.do it for like 3 to 4 days or until d milk dries off Dats all.
Happy Sunday wonderful mamas

I am present oh @ all teachers doing roll call

Thanks dear i have done that, i don't breastfeed much during the day but i want to stop finally and it is giving me tough time my Lo even want all the time, how do i stop production of breastmilk

Quote author=simababe]@Fina, u just av to stop breastfeeding her, u can reduce it gradually by minimizingd number of times you breastfeed. If u breastfeef ur lo 6times a day den u can reduce it to 3times daily, den after 3Days u can minimize to once daily, dat way till u stop entirely.

Hello mama's, it's good to be back, please experience mamas, how do I wean my Lo naturally, I have tried stopping her doing the day, but I noticed towards evening my blossom will be very heavy so I will just her, please how do I stop the Breast milk......

@op did you pay online? because I live in PH and the times I bought things I paid on delivery, one time I ordered for goods and they were telling me stories I told them not to bring it again, Simple.I Think the best way to buy things online is to pay on delivery, if you have paid please collect your money....