₦airaland Forum

Within lagos yes. Outside lagos no

Your tribalistic title is a reminder that till the next 1000 years nigeria can never achieve its potential
Because of tribalism.
Everything is about we vs them
Everything

These Muslims not celebrating other religion holiday makes me laugh
1. Point a place in the Quran or Hadith saying this
2. So because one scholar said it, it becomes haram
3. In your own sense, don’t you think that it promotes peace, unity and extends the love of Islam to non Muslim?

I will continue to wish my fellow Christian brothers and sisters merry Xmas

It does not mean I believe in their religion. It’s Islam for me from now till eternity.

It is simply an extension of my good naturedness for them, an extension of my good upbringing, an extension of the love I show other religion taught to me by Islam.

Sad to say, the community drive of Islam in Nigeria and most Asian countries is so poor and not welcoming

Go to the UK and US. You’d know and see people deep in Islam than you but they also know how to wish their Neighbour’s merry Xmas while keeping their own sanity

NovesaTillie:
I am still very young (late twenties) and vibrant and beautiful and juicy downstream but I find myself recently considering marriage into a polygamous home maybe as the 3rd or second wife and I want to know what you think of this.
I find myself to be independent and really like having my space to myself, I also want to keep enjoying my life even in marriage but with less attention from the husband which I won't enjoy should I settle for the regular one man and one woman kind of marriage. In polygamy the man has too much honeypot to go round and lots of children to play with and that takes away much fixation on only one wife.
No everyday by fire and water fvncking, my buubs will not slack, I will travel round the world and still keep my job and my space..

Your reasons for polygamy are valid. do not let anyone confuse you. To each, their own

Some people in momogamy want what you desire, so do not be fooled by the fake happiness some couples display. Inside their heart is a hidden desire.

Question
Would you want to also have a side boyfriend? I mean, is that going to be one of your desires during the marriage? *If yes, consider polyamory/being single then and just having kids

Sure this has been answered but i can not see clear answers around this.

has anyone flew to UK and had a stopover/layover at amsterdam or paris?

did you really need transit visa?

I need one too

illicit:
This is why I have a Gloc...

Your husband will cheat on you for being a poor piss in bed

CharisEleos:
Hm see how devil just used 5mins madness to destroy your peace and career...
Like why can't you people just be like Joseph in terms of self discipline...

Even the girl. Your parents sent you to school and the very first year, you're already sleeping with a man. Without protection for that matter..

If she's someone that has sense, should sex be the first thing she should go and be pursuing immediately she got to school or her career? SMH..

You see, that time you were about to engage in the act was when you should have done what youre doing here now. That is, reason and ask yourself some of the questions you're now posing to us. It is then you should have reasoned you didn't have a job yet and not ready to father a child or get married.

The bible that says flee every appearance of evil is correct after all.

You better go and see the family because the didn't force their daughter on you in the first place. So, now you don buy market, go and carry your goods.

Everytime Sex sex sex.. sex that doesn't give you a happy ending, is that one sex?

When I tell people I've been celibate for many years, they think it's because I'm trying to form super girl. It's because of all these nonsense super story that you men come up with once there's any little mistake plus the fact that my body is the temple of Holy Spirit and not for any coconut head man who's just looking for anywhere to ease himself.
Mtcheeeeewwwwwww.

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Priceless007:
Hello Nairalanders,

It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length.

There's a girl i met at a theological college in where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have any intimate relationship with your course mate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled.

During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements.

I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother.

So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime.

Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child.

The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks.

PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn.

L4stl00k:
If Your Wife Tells You This “I Feel Like Doing Two-Some” Reply As The Husband (Best Reply Need)

With your sister or your best friend?

donbachi:
So,married women don't cheat...abi!

Their cheating na CIA level of secrecy

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Misguided country

olaric:
Come to the west, Lagos does it, in the north too Bornu has done it. The only region that has never done it before and I stand to be corrected is the east.

They will NEVER EVER DO IT, HENCE they remain back in development

Hmmm

This man is spot on.

The Igbos have not learnt anything.

There is no denying the Igbos have one of the greatest business acumen in Nigeria.

All that without a political advantage is rubbish. It's just like Nigeria, taking 2 steps forward, 10 steps backward.

They refuse to open the east to other tribes, instead going to other tribes places to bring business to that place, giving that place political might.

They refuse to play along with Nigerian politics so as to find their way as a majority player and seize power to do as they wish at a later time.

They will keep shouting we want out while others keep being president..

Op, most of the ladies advising you on this thread are sex prude ladies. They do not see sex as pleasure and life reliever. They only see it as biological process for birth. Do not follow them. I repeat, do not follow them.

Lack of sex can make a marriage break.
Lack of sex can make stress increase.
Lack of good sex makes marriages break.
Lack of good sex increases stress level.

First, communication.
Remind your wife the benefits of sex to a man. To her.
Re arrange your alone time with her to be when the 8 year old isn't home, if possible.
When both of the kids are sleeping and you get Hot, drag your wife to another room and knack.
Do not listen to women advising you not to bother about sex. I repeat. Do not. That's how their husband will complain to other friends that they are starving them of sex, one day.

We await the details

Don't mind people telling you all hope is lost.
Hian!!!
Go to the nearest Baba, he should induce deep mentally disturbing nightmare in your cousin of the repercussions of not paying .
Also on his wife.
After this expect your money promptly.
Other then that, sorry.
Even soldier's beating can't help

vannessa7:
So because of the idea and sentiment of a single individual, the Igbo's are here raining curses and casting aspersions on over 50million people who have never heard or share the same sentiments, hmmm, its shows how gullible some people can be, Biafra is a tribal wish of almost the entire Igbo which they expressed albeit wrongly but this Bayo write up here is an individual desire not shared by the Yoruba populace so Igbo dance over this is a dance of shame, and I think they should be worried instead of happy because the day Yoruba's secedes they stand to lose more because we will not take them along, just saying.

You're 100% spot on.
Let me re phrase it wella for them.
The day the yorubas decide to split in an intelligent and effective strategy instead of the tribalistic one adopted by someone, we will never take the Igbos along.
No one wants to take them, that's the sad truth.
Just read the rubbish spewed from the first page of this thread by the Igbos.
Sickening tribal minds.
However, like all things in life, I won't generalise as my best friend is Igbo. And his crop of Igbos with 3cposure are very sound

Well, this black box issue isn't an act of war in itself. Only if it was determined that the plane was shot down

I do not agree with these jurist. Mobile phones were not around at that time. Ringtones etc were not. The proclamation was made against what existed as at that time.

There is nothing wrong reciting a surah and stopping mid way, if you have a reason to. You might be excited about something and then you begin the recitation. You might begin the recitation at a section alone. You might just want to recite some words in the surah alone.

Please let's stop taking things out of context

iamsuskay:
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Ajanacool:
I tell u. this generation has witnessed a lot of unimaginable tech advancements. And even more to come. We should be ashamed of always being the consumer

broooooo. ..best thing said..WE SHOULD BE ASHAMED FOR ALWAYS BEING THE CONSUMER

elantraceey:
Happy Sunday Y'all.



We all know the stance of the scripture on premarital sex, for those of us that have doubts or have forgotten, let me refresh your minds.


Ephesians 5:3 (KJV) But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

Hebrews 13:4 (ESV) Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

1 Corinthians 6:18 (ESV) Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;


Just to mention a few.


That said and done, Inasmuchas as marriage is not all about sex but sex do form an integral part of marital union and it's benefits cannot be overemphasized. God created sex for our pleasure and enjoyment but when there happens to dissatisfaction from one party then problems are bound to occur.


So practical Christians that strictly practice and are practicing no sex before marriage how can sexual compatibility be discussed without 'polluting' the spirit?

sexual compatibility or not doesn't remove the unavoidable point where and when you get tired of one partner and want another. ..whether you physically address this tiredness is another point entirely