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ItisWell22:
Likeeeeee… 😫

Someone actually looked me in the face and told me I would be cheap maintenance, because I was carrying my natural hair with no makeup at work.

I was actually having a pure gold pin earring on, when he made that statement.
But because I wasn’t looking “flashy” according to their standards (which they still cry fake about), he made that statement.

You wonder why they cry girls are fake everyday, yet their typical girlfriends who they date, are those who do the long nails, lashes, expensive hairs and all they condemn; then they come online to cry all Nigerian girls are fake and ugly!

I don’t fancy makeups and all, that’s why I’m always quick to compliment naturally good looking people with great skins.
I always want to be able to wash my face with water whenever I’m stressed, as such can’t stand having to go a whole day wondering if my brows and lines are still intact. Nah!

I tell any young lady, do what works for you.
If being razz is cool by you, by all means do it!
Don’t do anything to please anyone, including your appearance.

At the end of the day men dey marry girls wey cover everywhere and the ones wey still expose everything! 🥱

You know we are not all the same, sorry for abusive words, but personally I prefer a woman without makeup, or maybe just small

Samantha124:
Whenever they see ladies without makeup, they would troll them and call them broke.

But when they see ladies with makeup, they would still troll them.

I still remember my second nairaland profile picture, I got trolled a lot for not wearing make and showing my afro natural hair.

I was called broke and hungry..😂😂😂

Oh sorry about about dear, but too much makeup isn't good

ItisWell22:
Why do you guys sound like you don’t see ladies without makeup on the street? 🤔

I haven't seen one without makeup

Too much painting of face

I don't know how some ladies will look like without makeup

panafrican:
Do you know what percent of European -Americans are supporting Russia?
Most of the republican party congressmen are supporting Russia.

none, I'm yet to see one

The man should have included their son's name

My name is Funsho. I am 35 years old. My husband and I have been married for six years and we have a son together. Two years ago, my job transferred me to Abuja. Since my husband and son are in Lagos, I come home at the end of every month.

My husband was in total support because the transfer came with a better salary and a senior position. I love and trust my husband so much, however I really don't know what he thinks of me. I was able to save up last year, and since we are still in a rented apartment

I sent him the money to get us a landed property so we can start building our home. Since, I trusted him so much, I didn't even ask him for the evidence of payment, he only sent me the pictures. I recently came home as usual and while I was arranging the house, I stumbled on the documents and deeds of agreement for the land. I got the shock of my life when I discovered that it was only my husband's name that was written.

He didn't deem it fit to include my name or simply buy it in our son’s name, he bought the land in his name with my hard earned money. I couldn't hide my disappointment, so I asked him. In his defence, he said he bought it in his name because he is the man and he didn't think I would read so much meaning to it since we are married. This has given me a lot of sleepless nights and I find it really hard to believe he could do this to me.

Please, is this something I should be worried about or am I just overreacting? Advise me.

Nigerians and south africans are at the forefront of this

Here's my message for them, please don't go to Ukraine and other western countries for your higher education or anything, I believe Russia and China will welcome you with open arms.

I've been thinking about this for awhile, it's just a matter of time, the way and manner some africans are foolishly supporting Putin's barbarism in Ukraine, hailing him on every platform online is outrageous.

We have our brothers and sisters all over Europe and America, some are living on the streets trying to make ends meet, some are there schooling and doing all kinds of businesses as well

Some are married to their women while others are trying to cross the Mediterranean via Libya to Europe


We blame US and Europe on daily basis for the atrocities they committed during the colonial era and around the world, so why supporting Russia's evil in Ukraine, two wrongs don't make a right.

Africans and nigerians in particular should not cry of maltreatment and hatred in the West, because it will happen soon.

South African government is openly taking side with Russia as well, this is one country that suffered oppression during apartheid, sadly they are now supporting such thing.

frozen70:
Honestly women knows, even if they were two men on the same day
She understands her cycle

hmm, thanks for letting me know today

frozen70:
How is she sure the best friend will marry her or keep her as a mistress

Well she should just take the pregnancy to who owns the child

She knows who pregnanted her among the two men

Are you sure she knows who impregnated her?

Kobicove:
Super story

true life story

advanceDNA:
Their husband no get money...spread legs

their husband get money....they will still spread legs....

I dont get why pple marry these days...many women just use marriage to ease their financial stress and continue their single life of jumping from one penís to another ....while men just go into it to put pressure on their life and finance and sometimes raise other men's children...

seriously, I don't think I will marry sef

Cutehector:
True.. The processed foods/ processed spices we are exposed to shorten our lifespan. Let us learn to eat natural foods, too much sedentary lifestyle isn't good, drink lots of water and exercise.


Avoid too much AC for a long time.

but you can't rule out too much pressure, stress and responsibilities often contribute to untimely death of young men

Brownshoe:
that's means the lady's eye is on that guy right from onset

that may be true

Brownshoe:
Fictional

No, this is true life story

Benki003:
Tales by moonlight


It's very easy to know it's made up

it's true life story, I don't post stories

Runnerzz:
That was how like 3days back a friend of mine slapped his babe at my place after inviting her over probably to spend time with him once we're done at my place. He now left angrily and swore not to let her in once she comes knocking. True to his words she came back to my place knocking. Me I dey inside kitchen dey chop chicken from pot cos we were high before she even came. I left the kitchen and opened for her but when I saw her countenance I just knew letting her in would be bad. So I told her to let me meet her outside. Went back in to continue eating from the pot until I slept off. Only for my guy to come to my compound very early around six. I saw him when I went to get water from the kitchen through the window blinds that were slightly apart. Thank God I used my head. Women can be very vulnerable during such times and can easily be taken advantage of. It's why u should try not to push them too far. I think she already knows what to do as it seems she's already thought it out to be a better option to go with the rich friend.

Wait oo she's even a married woman not just a girlfriend 🙆🏽‍♂️

I really salute your wisdom and self-control

Sonnobax15:

Something led to another and it all ended up in sexxx? . I pray your husband shouldn't have the balls to accept you back knowingly or unknowingly of what transpired between you and his best frienemy

will the husband even know anything, he will just believe the pregnancy is his own

cocolacec:
There was no mistake here.The friend took advantage of her vulnerable state to have sex with her.

Too bad

SAMUEL1947:
Women......fear that gender. A prostitute, I wish am not married. They are all same especially those kogi woman, am regretting mine

hmm, please do you mind sharing a bit

dawnomike:
In Ibadan, this is what they call Ogbenutan...

Lol

She made a serious mistake by getting pregnant for another man

What do you think about this situation that she has found herself in? What would you advice?

Hello Omajuwa. I am a 28-year-old orphan who got married about a year ago. I had to resign my job so as to relocate to Ibadan after our wedding. 5months into our marriage, my husband was laid off his job. His family has since been there for us. Even his best-friend who was not in support of our union before we got married has been helpful.

Since my husband lost his job, he gets angry at the slightest provocation and we fight almost everyday of the week. The fight we had few weeks ago was the most heated we have ever had. He slapped me and said a lot of hurtful things such as calling me bad luck, then locked me outside. I had nowhere to go.

So I called his best-friend to plead with him. It was futile. His friend who is single took me to his home. My tears were uncontrollable. While trying to be supportive, one thing led to another, and we had sex. Since then, we have all been living like that night never happened. My husband never apologized and things are still the same.


However, a few days ago, I found out that I am pregnant. How do I tell my husband who does not have a job that we are about to have a child in our condition? How do I know who the child belongs to between them? Do I get rid of it? Could the pregnancy be a chance at a better life with his friend who is financially bouyant? Is this marriage still worth saving? What do I do? Please help me.

xavuv:
We should just learn to live a day at time. Eat well, sleep well. Wealth and other earthly material things are temporal.

you are right

Please men should take good care of themselves, don't allow pressure from family and girlfriends to kill you

From the punch newspaper

When a neighbour was telling me about a young man that had just died in the neighbourhood, it was with the assumption that I knew who he was.

Unfortunately, I didn’t know him.



But what also left my mind worried were the details about his demise.

According to her, he suffered a running stomach for two days and was dead by the time it dawned on his family that it wasn’t a mere situation.

Following the claim that ‘he was poisoned to death’, his wife promptly moved their young family to a house he was said to have just finished building and planned to move into later in the year.

It was also claimed that as the woman left, she refused to disclose her new address to neighbours and actually severed communication completely, ending years of friendship and neighbourliness because the claim of poison came into the picture!

The deceased young man was said to be in his 40s.


In the past three weeks, I must have come across similar stories (demise of young men) about five times!

All were men from ages 40 to 55.

The most recent was a young lady that I ran into at a market. We bought provisions from the same shop and when she left, the shopkeeper hinted that she’s just lost her husband.

Further details revealed the man was 50 years old and he died from kidney problems.

Another was a neighbour that died a few weeks back.

If his obituary didn’t read 46 years, I wouldn’t have believed he was that young. Because he had a big body frame.

Then came the demise of a friend’s husband.


According to her, he left home that morning to oversee a building project in his village but by mid-day, she received a call that he slumped and was rushed to a hospital.

Only that when she got there, she realised that he had even died by the time that call was placed to her.



The news that I received from the village some days back also had to do with a neighbour back then in the village.

A charming young man that we all looked up to because of his smartness.

His nickname was Aboy.

Aboy just seemed to know how to fix everything and our innocent minds marveled at his skills. He was an only son, aged 56.


I am not counting the numerous posters of “A painful exit/Gone too soon” that seem to litter the streets to buttress my view that young men are dropping dead at an alarming rate.

Not every cause of death is ‘poison from enemies’!

Most Nigerian men don’t check their blood pressure or go for regular medicals.

How is it that our men have time and money to build houses and buy cars but not to go for regular medical check-ups?

Another thing that seems to be plaguing young people in these times is failed marriages. And a huge percentage of that can be traced to the financial incapacitation of the man.

Sometimes, the category of men that are difficult to live with are those going through a financial meltdown or grappling with sexual problems.

However, what has also dawned on most of us is that ‘for better or worse’ is only on the lips (and not from the hearts) of a lot of women…when a man’s health fails or the money is not coming in.

So many marriages have packed up because ‘he does not have money again’.

I admonish every man to begin right now to make self-care a priority!

Please, eat well. Take care of both your mental and physical health.

Of course, working hard is non-negotiable, as your marital bliss will depend hugely on what you bring to the table as a man.

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IyaebeTheGreat:
Please I'm getting old and desperately looking for husband, stop dragging me unnecessarily. Allow me drink water and drop cup. Abegi

Wishing you all the best

siofra:
You don see am finish, my dear

Siofra, I hope you will become a good girl after reading this post

Sixfeetbelle:
How is this their fault though? Why send DMs to someone you just bashed minutes ago?

It's like the only way nairaland males know how to toast a lady is to insult her and her family first, and then ask her out? 🤔🤔

that's why I mentioned it