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Godemcee:
is it just me or do outweighs here feel the same that marriage is trash.
when my parent talk nd pray for me they pray dat I marry bone of my bone
flesh of my flesh whatever,nd they talk bout how they wish there children would marry earlier nd am like' wtf u better go nd born another boy in my mind' cause am first born nd only boy.
even if I would marry I would clock at least. 30years
I don't mind a baby mama though Cause to me marriage is overrated nd nowhere in the bible says if u don't marry u would go to hell(Or is there a verse like dat in d bible)
I can't imagine leaving with one woman forever,after giving birth to like two she would get fat nd Amma cheat on her.
or when she start gettin old nd having wrinkles nd big tummy u expect me to be loyal huh.
I prefer we just dating nd having kids(maximum of 2)cause I can't imagine a gal monitoring me nd nagging always like etc

what am trying to say is marriage Is overrated

suzan404:
I'm fine

Toks2008:
Ogbeni sit your ass down and get this straight.

I am a holy spirit filled,heaven bound believer in Christ and I have led many people to Christ not by preaching heresy but the truth from the bible so sit your ass down and learn right now.

Our body is the temple of God so smoking and "drunkenness" is a sin cos they destroy your body.

Nicotine and alcohol are substances that damage your organs.

Self servicing is a different ball game but the mistake you keep making is mixing up addiction with the subject matter.

Is eating food a sin? hell no but gluttony is a sin and its even in the bible.Any act whether good or bad if done in excess can be detrimental to us so stop mixing things up.

People like you make it difficult for people to make heaven by enslaving yourself in man made philosophy'.People like you go about condemning trouser wearing, weaveons and so on making people to see salvation as bondage.

Please read this thread of mine to have your inner mind open.

https://www.nairaland.com/2579060/8-false-teachings-churches-biblical

I have been a believer since 1987 and I know my stands.

Watching porn is fornication,self servicing while watching porn is fornication but when you are so filled with sexual passion and you are not married you are free to ease off with your imagination if you can but if you have the grace to control yourself good for you.

But if your heart condemns you if you do it then stop it..PERIOD

hkidola00:
OK my babe wants to starts working and I am not in support of it because of the fear she might cheat,"but she is a very very very responsible Muslim girl" in fact to cut it short, I deflowered her, although the main reason she wanna start working is cos her dad na did hard man, gives her house chores and so on, so she considered working as an escape route.......I told her I will be giving her d money she's suppose to work for, but she still feel like working



am I wrong for having the fear that she might cheat if she works

Toks2008:
Ifahia led?

led by your own philosophy I guess.

If you read tru you will see where I stated clearly that if your heart condemns you when you do it without porn then stop it..Simple.

But no one should call it a sinful act because we can not start choosing what is sinful by human reasoning.

Call it addictive and I will agree, call it a bad habit and I will say it is for those who see it that way but call it a sin and I will ask you to back it up from the sriptures or keep mum.

I repeat, I'm not promoting the act and I don't even know how to whank as they call it but I'm always out to say things as they arey without hypocrisy.

Toks2008:
Please go back and read everything then come back to comment.

Peacetemi:
What adjustable arrows?? I don't understand you Sir.

Peacetemi:

I just went through a thread created by a broke girl, and damn it was hilarious

Her first point was "you have to take public transport after meeting him cause he has no car". See Pot calling Kettle black. If your broke ass had a car you wouldn't take public transport.

Another annoying thing about broke girls is their ceaseless and abundantly stupiiiid rants, they always complain about their boyfriends not being able to provide for them. Please tell me, is he your father?? If you're not a broke ass bitttch yourself, what the hell do you need his money for?? Now don't get me wrong, It's normal for a guy to provide for his girl, but the girl's life shouldn't depend on him.

Broke girls are the ones who always want to date rich guys, but why?? Because they're fucking broke and lazy, they just want someone who will bear their burden while they cruise around in their ocean of laziness.
If your entire life depends on your boyfriend, please tell me, what exactly does he gain from you?? What do you add to his life??
And the broke girls are always the ones to call broke guys "broke". Girls like you work as Doctors, Lawyers, and even Entrepreneurs, but instead of working and staying independent you chose to be lazy, broke, and dependent.
Go work your ass off and make your own money biatch
Guys pls stop dating broke girls
Waiting for broke girls to attack

#TeamIndependentGirls

DaveHert:
Op If a lady looking that way Is worth 50 million euros will u marry her?

Estharfabian:


lol.
Nigerians! Always Finding unethical meanings from the most innocent gestures...simply because they weren't close to their moms.



they should just mind their business jaweh! Aba!

suzan404:

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Maxiii:
bro not all

I have loyal friends... I'm very proud of my niggas

even my sis are safe around them

Toks2008:
I have seen many threads on nairaland concerning self servicing and each time i read these threads i just shake my head in disbelief and i just marvel at the level of hypocrisy many people bring into the subject matter but today i want to present my candid take on self servicing using the very words of GOD as guide.

1.Is self servicing a sin?: I have hoped that one day, someone will really quote a bible passage that condemns self servicing but so far what we have seen are human philosophies and personal conviction about the matter.I don't know what the Quran says about it but The truth is that the Bible is totally silent about this matter.Many scholars have sited the story of onan(Genesis 38) who spilled his fluid on the ground but a deep understanding of that story shows that GOD punished him for disobedience rather than the act.

Until we find a good scripture to point to self servicing as a sin i will urge people to stop using human ideology to deceive people about the subject matter."Don't let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ."Colossians 2:8

2.When does self servicing becomes a sin:I always asked; when you masturbate how do you do it?what goes through your mind? I really don’t think a single man or woman will be thinking about a football game or a tractor when self servicing but probably about sex and i don't understand why it becomes a sin for a human who GOD created with sexual urge to think about sex.

But when you indulge in pornographic induced self servicing then you have actually committed fornication and i will back this up with the scriptures..."But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart"Matthew 5:28
This means when you self service while looking at pornographic materials,it is only natural to lust after the men or women in the film or magazines and that makes it outright Adultery/fornication making it 100% sin and in-fact looking at the opposite sex lustfully even without masturbating is a sin.

3.When does self servicing becomes sinless?:Now understand this fact,Sexual urge is natural,healthy and God created it in us. You can not pray and fast about not having a sexual urge because its as natural as wanting to defecate or urinate.

[b]GOD never intended for a full grown man or woman to be single but today, many factors are responsible for many unmarried adults which brings on them the pressure of sexual urge. If you are sexually active and you have the self control to stay without fornicating,watching pornography or self servicing i say GOD bless you but if you have a very strong libido i will advice you find a way to ease off without fornicating or watching pornography. As i wrote, it is perfectly normal to have sexual urge and it makes sense to ease off rather than burn with passion.

Conclusively,i would say self servicing should be stopped by those who see it as a sin regardless and just like every other habit that can become very addictive,people who indulge in it should know the limits.

However, the first step to stopping self servicing is to get married and if you still find yourself indulging in it with your wife or husband around then it becomes a matter of interest for you to address if it affects your sexual relationship with your wife.[/b]

"But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion"1 Corinthians 7:9

Even when we know that masturbation may not be a sure way of avoiding fornication, many people have successfully wade off fornication with the act but the simple fact is that as long as you are a sexually healthy man or woman,you are left with three options...To self service,to fornicate or to burn with passion.

So I ask anyone reading this to sincerely tell us the option he or she would settle for

lafex:
I have two girlfriends and I decided to chose a better one as my future wife bydoing the following test for them.
1. I decided to ask my sister to squat with the one that's in the same school with her for the mean time while I assisted in posting the other who's a corper to my brother's office without letting any of my girlfriends and siblings know the reason for my decisions.
My reason for my decisions is to here about their conducts in their respective environments because I believe that they may pretend to me but cannever pretend to their respective society.
Am I beibg realistic on this decision?
All sort of comments are allowed.

Maxiii:
I'm worried already


discard every negativity around you... that's me for you


that's who I'm

suzan404:
I won't close it