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I’ve seen countless threads about pornography and masturbation. With none offering solutions and i felt bad.

Ofcourse people perish due to lack of information.
I felt bad because I have solved mine and helped some people to solve theres, some getting full recovery and some partial, but none remained the same.

I am not here to argue whether pornography and masturbation is healthy, not healthy, a sin, evil, good or bad. But to render help.
My only question is, will you like your children to indulge in it ? Or if you are to go back in time with the knowledge you have now, will you try pornography again ?
Yall know the answer.

The main enemy in this addiction/ habit is pornography.

Firstly let me list some methods that dose not work ;
1. Praying for it to end.
2. Reading about the harmful effects. And others.

Methods that work
If you want to quit porn, masturbation to orgasm, the first step;
you have to think it through, ask yourself questions whether you enjoy it or not, write down the things you feel you enjoy about it and the things you don’t like about it in a book.
Then make a choice , whether you want to quit or not.
If you still want to continue it, just continue, if you want to reduce it, or If you want to quit totally , then believe it and stay determined.
Choose any method here. I listed them from the least to most efficient method.

I will start from the lowest % of my clients that recovered.
1. No fab : this method involves hating porn and hating yourself when you mistakenly watch porn, masturbate to orgasm (PMO).
This method have worked for some number of persons but it’s not efficient. It’s like carrying a stone up a hill and when you get tired and the stone rolls back to the floor of the hill, you feel terrible, guilt and self hate.
If you want to use this method, you first have to read some harmful effects of PMO (“Your brain on Porn” is a popular read), find a “NOFAB” community online, it’s everywhere , be an active member, develop some habits (like working out and cold showers) to counter the PMO addictions then lastly have a counter or reading app to count the number of days you are free.
Habits that works in Nofab are; Exercise, reading religious books, meditation and regular going out/ being with friends.
With this method, you will feel great and will reduce PMO.


2. Traditional method : This method worked for some people. I call it traditional method because it involves traditional techniques which is getting married or getting a girlfriend that likes sex and staying busy.
Logically when you have a partner with constant sex while busy with work or life, the urge to PMO will reduce.
This method is meant to work efficiently 100% but it does not because the dopamine one gets from sex is different from the one gotten from PMO.
So you can try this method out. It have worked for some I know and coached.
Problem here is that most people that PMO have low confidence, high expectations from partners body attributes (which is caused by masturbating to porn of very beautiful or curvy girls and imagining things unimaginable) making average girls unattractive to you.
For this method, I will advise you to lower your standard on girls and ask multiple girls out both the ones below your league. Remember the aim is to end this havoc called PMO.

3. Books method : This is the last method I’ve used. As a reader, I believe any problem you have now, someone have encountered it before, some won and some lost. A book about your problem is somewhere waiting for you to read.
This method involves reading some recommended books which have worked 80- 90% of time.
They’re numerous books but I can vouch for two. The first book is “EasyPeasy “ method for PMO, it’s written by hack authors. This book is great, difficult to read but once you finish it, you will be free.
The second book is Freedom Model for Addictions by Steven stale and some others. A great book.
I will recommend reading both if you truly want to be free from PMO for life.

The reason why porn and masturbation to orgasm is hard to stop is because it’s like alcohol to alcoholics, An alcoholics will drink when he is happy and crave for alcohol when he is sad or depressed. Just like a woman will crave for sex when she is high in spirit and when she is down and a smoker will smoke when he is sad and thinking about his life and also light a blunt when life is smooth and he is feeling good.
That’s PMO for you.

Any of these 3 methods is highly effective to quitting PMO with some being easier than the other, I won’t say better. Depends on the kind of person you are.
Some of this method can help you to stop some other habits too.


Now you have the knowledge to quit, but It’s not the knowledge that matters , it’s the decision to stop and the application of the knowledge.


Thank me later guys. Stay clean.

Goalty01:
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Moyinoluwa35:
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Good day everyone.

I have observed something in this forum concerning graphic/horror images.
Whenever there is a tragic news in Nigeria, it will be posted here with all the images, dismembered bodies and bloods. Though viewers desecration are warned.
But when it’s a foreign crime news, you hardly see the graphic image or blood, you only see the picture of the scene, the victims picture etc. Hardly will you see pictures of dead people or terrifying images of the victim.

These images can be those of people we know that died unjustly or in bad circumstances like the late Dora Akuyili husband.
Most are not criminals and their images are flying all over causing trauma to the victims family. Let us respect the dead.
Watching horrific images can trigger unwanted thoughts and feelings and increased levels of anxiety or panic.
Horror images can also cause Desensitization. In which one will lose his sense of empathy and other adverse effects.


I think it will be a step in the right direction to the improvement of the Nigeria media by censoring horror and graphic images.

Just like I think CharlyG said.

Some characters in Hollywood horror movies is actually true demons replica.

I can confirm that. The movie “Conjuring 3; Devil made me do it”
The demon that resembled the witch which appeared at the last scene to kill the witch was actually a real Demon.

I once saw her in my dream. Very Lanky, pale with dry chins. I was fighting in the dream with a guy, when I was winning the fight, the guy turned to her.

I was shocked when I saw her in the movie.

CharleyG1 is saying the truth�

If someone can help me.

After my night prayer I slept.
So in my dream, saw my self in a queue and there was a hall, the queue moved and my guy and I entered the hall. The hall look liked a mini church where my guy was saying something in the stage. Something I couldn’t understand no matter how I tried.
So we left the hall and decided to go home. But we decided to buy water, after buying water with my guys like 4 of them. I couldn’t see them again. So I saw my village masquerade and some fetish things, It was like they are in my memory so I was deleting them from my memory because in the dream I was strongly saying that I have nothing to do with them (I really prayed against familiar and territorial spirit before sleeping).
So I saw those my friends drinking and I was like guy why una no call me to drink. It’s not good. They were laughing, they just told me to take one of our female friend and that I should take her jacket (her jacket is very black, in real life I am someone that loves jackets) but she refused to give me the jacket.
In the dream Someone was playing basketball with me, And he wanted to help me (I am an athlete), he should me world champions dancing together and told me that they’re TREVOR SUBSCRIBERS.
Something said I should ask him his name, the man didn’t want to tell his name. He was maneuvering the question. The guy look gentle but he was avoiding the name question.
Next thing I heard in my ear both in real life was THE TIME IS THE REASON WHY x2. Immediately I felt a dark presence in my ear and goosebumps in my body , I shouted BLOOD OF JESUS.....FLEE IN THE NAME OF JESUS and I didn’t hear anything again and I woke up. (I use to see time in my phone like 11:11, 21:21)
I prayed....while praying, one word came to my mind....”Covenant”. So I prayed against any covenant I made with the devil knowingly or unknowingly.
Then I Searched for Trevor in the internet but nothing.
Pls someone should help me and tell me what is going on.

One thing I have to say is that satan is not happy with this thread. Lol
Immediately after dropping my two comments especially the second (I really felt an urge not to post the comment but I said no, I have to share mine).
After the comments I felt very sleepy and the devil came to attack me. But I won in the name of Jesus Christ.
Very ugly and smelly creature.
I don’t even know it was a dream.
I just woke up and was like so this is a dream.
All glory to Jesus Christ Amen.



Please I want to be added to the whatsapp group. Thank you.

I wish to share a very personal dream of mine.
On the first day I decided to start fighting pornography and masturbation.
I wrote the dream on my book. Though I relapsed but I’ve started my streak back. My God grace. I will excel. I declare in the name of Jesus Christ that this year will mark the end of me and sexual immorality Amen.
Another thing I can affirm that CharlyG1 said is that the devil or demon attacks one when the person is weak or low.
Most times when I stop porn, I only see myself back whenever I take alcohol or low. Satan is a coward.

So on 16th of April, I returned to my room tired after a hectic afternoon. So I layed on my bed. I have this strong urge to masturbate but I said no. It was intense but I persisted. So I felled asleep.
I was somehow asleep and awake. I guess a trance.... my door opened and 3 girls entered my room. I knew one very well in the trance. Like she was my girlfriend but I know her in real life.
We were about to have sex and she was seducing me, I was so energy drained, half awake / asleep and everything was so clear to me.
So I know the girl was a demon, (I was saying it in my mind that this is a demon but she wasn’t aware)., as she was seducing me she then turned to look at my eyes, immediately I smiled and told her “I know you .... (i called her her name...I forgot the name immediately I woke up)” .
Immediately there was rage in the room. Her two friends started shouting at her. Actually her two friends were seated all the while looking at her trying to make love to me.
So they started shouting for her telling her why she didn’t possess me well before engaging with me. So they were panicking.
She said Something to me that I can’t remember, I didn’t even write it down. But I was shouting for her too. I told her “you have destroyed my life, everyday my property is spoiling “ she said but “I helped you to buy”.... I said shut up.
Then I felt so energized, it was as if I was a judge. I prayed. I casted them to the abyss in Jesus name. They left my room with mourning. But they took my bags with them.
I got angry and prayed in Jesus name that anyone that take anything that belongs to me will pay in 10folds. Her friends returned my bags except her. She said she has nothing to lose again. I prayed for her hands and body to pain her till she returns my bag. Yet she left. I woke up immediately.
I was happy.
This dream occurred on April.
I have to chip in that on March and February, I was encountering serious challenges that every week, I keep loosing my money and property keeps spoiling. It got to an extend that if another one spoil. I will smile and say “this week own don go, make I wait for next week lol”. Devil is a liar.
To the glory of God the challenges have stopped, I haven’t lost money or any of my property got spoilt again. Thank you

I want to thank Everyone that have kept the thread alive.
I’ve been reading since page 1, though I skipped some pages from 200 to 300.
This thread has been a Blessing to me.

Firstly I’ve been a blessed child. I don’t know how but I believe. I believe that everything that happens in my life, happened for a reason. From my birth down to now.
I do dream and it usually come to pass.
I remember seeing my sister having a dead child in the dream, I called my sister, lo and behold she told me that she was 3-4 month pregnant and she had a miscarriage that day. No one knew that she’s pregnant. No one except she and her husband. So I telling her about pregnancy was a shocker to her.
I do dream a lot but I sometimes forgot.

When I encountered this thread, it has been a blessing to me. I started developing habit of reading the Bible. Switching from secular songs to gospel. (It is not easy) I started developing habit of praying.
Using blood of Jesus Christ, the name of Jesus Christ and Holy Spirit.
I wish to be better.

I have my shortfalls. I’ve been addicted to pornography and masturbation. Like 2-3 times a week.
With this thread, I deleted all the immoral images and stuff in my phone, downloaded some books on quitting pornography and ran on 3weeks streak and I relapsed.
Actually I relapsed when I started telling myself that I’m a disciplined man, I believe that My ability to quit porn and masturbation was as a result of my power and might. Lol. That day I had a wet dream. The urge to masturbate was so intense, I struggled pass that day, the next day, I fell short.
Trying to get my feet again.
By the power of God. I will continue to fight. I’m on another streak.

On the power and authorities that @CharlyG1 use to teach us here. Ah swear it’s 100% true.
I remember one morning, I woke up. I said a small prayer and then I heard the sound of an evil bird not far from my house, I just took charge immediately and said “You Demon flee in the name of Jesus”
Immediately the sound ceased, everywhere was so calm. I haven’t heard the evil bird again. To the Glory of God.

While going through this thread, in the beginning you will tend to be afraid, but remain strong. I always recite psalm 23 even when I walk through........I fear no evil for though are with me.
So believe God. Fear no evil. For those going through one affliction or another, addictions etc. try your best.
Keep fighting. The Lord is your strength. Las Las we go win. Thank you.
I wish to be added to the group.

Oga please update your price list biko

Oga the price don reduce?

Swtcherries:
You mean pharmacy don't have first class, second class and third class grading?

Yeah. same with medicine.

clive2u:
i regret picking C instead of D in question number 6

this one got me cracking real hard

Sometimes we all wish we could go back in time to correct some certain things in our lives.

If you have the ability to go back to your undergraduate years, what could you have done to make your future brighter.

Be it advice, quit some habits, start up something then or even drop out.... who knows.
Just lets see it like You are advising yourself back then in school.

You are helping one or two undergraduate students reading this.
Experience is the best teacher.

Am still an Undergraduate though.

That was how my guy visited me.
Evening time, visibility wasn't that great..... When my guy knocked, my younger brother opened the door for him and he asked my younger brother wether am around and he said yes... Actually I was inside the room.

Na so my guy started bouncing into my house,making noise, shouting why I didn't pick my call... jokingly o.

Omo as my guy enter house , my dad was backing him, thinking it was I , na so my guy landed slap on my dad's head kpaaaa...he shouted too 'so you dey here and am knocking since'.... Omo as my papa rotate,,,,, Nigga shouted Jesus come run away.... my papa just start dey laugh am.... the race no be here o.

Later .. the guy muster courage come dey beg, plead, sorry sorry full everywhere.... the whole incident was so funny Sha.

These People are very innocent.

That gun and axe is owned by the same Police.
Nigerian Police Force Na scam!!!!
but I still believe that there are still some good people but the wicked people are just too much.

damiloladuke:
Two female robbers in Anambra State have been arrested by the Police after they engaged them in a gun battle in a hotel in Ogidi, Idemili North Local Government Area of the state.

According to Southern City News, the robbers locked out the police and engaged them in a gun duel for about half an hour.

The suspects were said to be operating in the hotel when the police arrived at the scene following a tip-off.

A source in the hotel said,

“On sighting the police, the robbers locked the entrance of the hotel and engaged the police in a fierce gun duel, which lasted for more than 30 minutes.

“One of the suspects later sustained gunshot injury on the buttocks, while attempting to disarm a policeman. The lady is currently receiving treatment in a hospital.”

The state Police Public Relations Officer, Haruna Mohammed, who confirmed the story, said the suspects were arrested while their accomplices escaped.

Mohammed said one fabricated pistol, three live cartridges, one axe, two empty shells, some quantities of dry leaves suspected to be Indian hemp and Tramadol were recovered from them.

He said,

“At about 4pm on Saturday, we received an intelligence report at the Ogidi Police Division that some suspected armed robbers/cultists were cited at the Paradise Hotel, Ogidi, brandishing dangerous weapons.

“Following the report, police detectives attached to the Ogidi Division rushed to the scene and cordoned off the area.

“The gang, on sighting the police, locked the entrance to the hotel and engaged the police in a fierce gun duel, which lasted for more than 30 minutes. The police responded, but with high restraint in order to avert innocent civilian casualties.

“As a result, one of the suspects, Ugochukwu Okafor, sustained gunshot injuries on the buttocks, while trying to disarm a police officer.”

Mohammed said the injured suspect was taken to the hospital for treatment, adding,

“The case is under investigation after which the suspects will be charged to court.”

https://lailasnews.com/female-robbers-in-anambra-engage-police-in-gun-battle

This is a very big lie.
Police has framed this girls.... daris God sha
people that went for swimming in the said hotel. An officer shot one of them, they took him to the cell, when they found out that what they did was wrong they inserted a gun and an axe in their bag and took a picture.

I wonder when this country will be better.
Imagine this level of ill act.
Police is never your friend. I didn't know that this story will enter Nairaland.

I can bet, this happened at Awka, Anambra State.
It is forbidden to kill a Monkey so they live their lives in full there. They do interupt football matches in local public schools. I just remembered, they can fight dirty with you too, and throw you sticks and stones.

They will donate one Bag of rice, and take 100 pics. Lets learn from the story of that Gala seller. He didnt give because of publicity or sh!t and later everything came following.
Enough of all this camera charity things biko

The system is just bad from the top down. And most times the problem is from the Students.
The cleaners are working very hard cleaning the hostels but the boys occupying the hostels are very recalcitrant.
They break the rules all the time and they lack maintainance skills, most of them are squatting thereby using every hostel facility very badly.
Well, measures are being put in place and in a matter of time, The two twin hostels will be restored to their Glory.
Mr Poster pls stop washing you Linen in public.
Eni-njoku welfare officer.

Olalan:
It's two ways, it's either she's giving an excuse to bolt away or truly her family is against the union, which ever one it is the writing on the wall is to leave her alone and find love elsewhere

I believe she is not seeing anyone and she loves me, its just this family ish. I think I will just move on. Thanks

Thank you all.
I think I will end the relationship, but thinking about ending the relationship keeps hurting me. From the advice so far, its like there is no light at the end of the tunnel.

Hey

BadBlaize:
E pain am, Bros if u know it's a borrowed language why didn't u use IBO for d write up or use pidgin dat was originated in Nigeria, u tried to use a borrowed language and made a fool outta ursef u are here quoting me..

mind u it's 21st nt 21th..

useless foolish local slowpoke

Your generation are useless foolish local slowpokes.

BadBlaize:
are you sure ur English is not what killed him

Anu ofia. mumu.
Someone is killed prematurely and You're here talking about English, a borrowed language.
Slaved 21th century man.

GavelSlam:
That's the whole reason for this thread.
Tell me, what is disturbing about the photos?
No blood, no attention to supposed victim.
Just a man lying on the ground and later the roof of a car.

Blood is still on the road were he was shut. Bring a cup So that you can fetch a cup full So as to satisfy yourself.

GavelSlam:
That's the whole reason for this thread.
Tell me, what is disturbing about the photos?
No blood, no attention to supposed victim.
Just a man lying on the ground and later the roof of a car.

Blood is still on the road were he was shut. Bring a cup So that you can fetch a cup full So as to satisfy yourself.