ebukahandsome:
All these kids sef

dont understand who are the kids?

Q

Is it the credit you are after or the message passed across? Do u want the world to read and learn or you want the world to give you credit? Am sorry if I didn't give you credit I got this from a watsapp group and I decided to share actually like 3 diff sites has this story already and lots of plp r learning from this. I will give u d credit you deserve

akejujoe:
Are u for real?This is Rachealfst 's story and it's on nairaland literature section. Oga plagiarist wehdone sir.
cc Rachealfst

just read, learn and share i didnt mention i wrote it av seen this particular story on 5 diff websites am helping in spreading th message bcz it inspired me thank you

Credit- rachealfst
My name is Isaac Oluwapamilerin Daniella. Everybody calls me Pamilerin except my Dad, who only calls me Daniella.
The first daughter of a family of three kids(two girls and a boy) My Parents are civil servants.
I'm intelligent, emotional,beautiful, tall, size 8, dark skin. I can classify myself as a good girl because I was raised well by my Parents. I’m not an introvert and I’m not an extrovert either. Let me just say I’m in between.
Tunde and I are level mate, same department. We’ve been very good friends since 100 level. He’s the best student in class with the highest CGPA followed by me, making us the best two student in class. By the time we got to 200l I realized he had feelings for me.
Truth be told I have feelings for him too. The eye contact we exchange in class, especially during practicals when we are grouped together and all that but we shy away from it.
What attracted me to him was the fact that he was brilliant, tall and handsome. I love brilliant guys. And all my male friends back home are brilliant as well.
One fateful day, he told me after class that he’d like to discuss something with me. I was scared because I know what he wanted to say.
He held my hands. “Pamilerin, I like you, I know we are friends and all but I want us to take this friendship to another love”
“Another level! I don’t get you” I pretended as if I don’t understand what he was saying.
“I know you know what I mean, but if you want me to say it out loud I will”
“So say it out loud”
“I want you to be my girl, I really like you”
“I like you too but I don’t like the idea of dating my class mate. We see each other every day” I explained.
“That shouldn’t be a barrier, or what do you think”
“I’ll think about it”
“Please do, I hope I’ll get a positive reply?”
I just smiled at him. Tunde finally let it out, and profess his love for me.
“See you tomorrow Tunde” I said and walked away.
I came back from school and I met commotion at my lodge.
“What’s going on here” I asked one of my lodge mate.
“Its Bolu's parent o they came to pack her things”
“Why is that?”
“You won’t believe it, she has been rusticated since 100l and she never told her parent about it”
“That’s not possible, she do go for classes, in fact I’ve met her in lecture theaters severally and if during exams we go for night classes together”
“She’s just acting o, she no more a student of this school”
“Pamilerin, so you don’t know all this while, I have known since” Another girl in my lodge joined the conversation.
“Really, I never noticed, because most times we even go to school together in the morning”
“Her parents thought she was in final year o, and she’s been collecting school fees from them o.
“Na only school fees pain you, she even collected #200,000 for project.
“Jesus! This is so unfair to her parents nau”
“Thank God for the good Samaritan that revealed the truth to them”
“She even denied it, not until her parent went to her so called department and discovered the whole truth”
“This is so sad, She made a big mistake, she should have open up to them or better still use all the money she’s been collecting to get a Jamb form and try again.
“She wrote Jamb twice after she was rusticated, but she was denied admission”
“It’s not compulsory she stays in this school, she should have opt for another university”
“If she change university the truth go come out na, you know the thing weh pain me pass?”
“What is it?” I asked
“She’s the only child o, and she’s making her parent suffer and waste money like this”
“Eh ya, but its not to late, she can still start all over again, I believe she has learnt her lessons”
“If na my papa o, no school for you again o. He don finish for you be that”
“That won’t help her, I believe she can still start all over again, everyone deserves a second chance” I said
Bolu's parents were through packing her things with the help of some guys. They all entered into the car. Bolu was sitting at the back seat. I walked up to her and held her hand. While her Dad was still doing one or two things in the car. I seize the opportunity to have a word with her.
“Bolu you don’t have to cry, tears won’t repair all the damage. Just make sure you don’t give up on your self”
“Thank you Pamilerin” she sniffed.
“You can start afresh, you can be whatever you want to be. All you need is determination”
“Thank you my daughter” her mummy said to me.
“Its nothing ma, please ma, don’t give up on her. I know how you feel right now, but its not the end of the road for her”
“Thank you dear” she said
“Thank you, thanks for the advice, I’ll try my best” Bolu Dad said
“You are welcome sir, I pray you and mummy will reap the fruit of your labor”
“Amen” they chorused.
I faced Bolu, it’s not a crime to fall, but the most important is too rise again. May God be with you”
“Amen” she nodded, crying out loud.
“I will give you a call” I said
She nodded.
“Safe journey” I said and waved at them as the car took off.
I went straight to my room and crashed on my bed, I was tired and famished at the same time.
I thought about Bolus case again, I really felt sorry for her parent.
episode2
Weeks later, Tunde and I started dating. Trust people, they noticed in no time. We are already tagged couples. Some girls in class who has eyes on him gave me attitudes but I understand.
I know they secretly envied me because I was dating the most intelligent guy not only in the department but even in the faculty.
I know how they flock around him all in the name of tutorials, but he never gave them attention.
With time they realized we are for real and gave up.
Even the guys discovered that they can only get him to tutor them through me, so they have no choice than to be on my good books.
With time the girls started relating well with me and everything was back to normal again.
Tunde and I became so close and inseparable, we spent most of our free time together.
Some months later, he came to my room in the evening to check on me. We chatted for a while and all of a sudden we started this stupid rough play. He kissed me, caressed me. I wanted to stop him but I couldn’t.
I realized things are getting more heated between us, so I gathered all the strength in me and stop him.
I moved away from him.
“Tunde please stop, you are trespassing”
“Trespassing!”
“Tunde what do you want from me?”
“I want you”
“I’m a virgin, I don’t want to loose it, not now”
“You want to keep it for your man, right?”
I nodded
“I want to spend the rest of my life with you, I’m not just dating you for the fun of it, I’m in this for real. I want to marry you”
“You can’t be so sure, we still have a long journey ahead of us”
“I will never disappoint you, I will never hurt you, I promise”
I eventually gave in, he undressed me, I was shy at first, I’ve never been unclad in the presence of a guy before, I grabbed my cover cloth to cover myself. He pulled the cover cloth gently from my body.
“You don’t have to be shy, look at me, I’m unclad too”
I couldn’t bring myself to look at him, I was even scared of seeing him unclothed.
My church mind was saying otherwise, but I gave in after so much persuasion. I lost my virginity that very night.
Before now I promised myself not to loose my virginity until I’m married, but I broke my promise and gave myself to him.
That night he slept in my room for the first time. And ever since that night we started having sex on a regular basis.
Exam came, we read and studied together( exam didn't stop us from having sex)But we don’t sit together in the exam hall. We sit separately. We do submit our answer booklets almost at the same time. So we leave the exam hall together.
Our result came out the next semester and he was still leading the class with the highest CGPA followed by me. I was happy our relationship did not get in the way of our academics.
**
By the time we got to 300l, Tunde and I practically lived together in his self contained apartment in school. It’s not that I don’t have my own room, I do but he wanted me to be a live in girlfriend.
I don’t like the cohabitation idea in the first place but I eventually agreed to it. I only go to my place once in a while to clean up and do one or two things. I only sleep in my room when my relative came visiting especially my mum.
Our love waxed stronger, we do things together and things were going on smoothly between us. Then the worst happened.
TBC....

click link FOR EPISODE THREE
http://osagiesblogs..com/2017/05/wrong-number-episode-3.html

Yes depends on the place like wuye,kwali,gwagwalada,apo,military cemetery you can survive dia but abj Is hard o u can luk for a roommate so u guys can survive together 40k won't reach anywhere me that receive 160k per month I still know how abj hard and how naira consuming abj is

successmatters:
They are right. Think of these scenarios

1. An American gentleman strolling on the streets of Port Harcourt only to be shot dead by stray bullets from soldiers chasing peaceful Biafran protesters.

2. An American trying to do a little farming around Benue state only to be killed by Fulani herdsmen who wants to forcefully graze their cattle on his crops.

3. An American migrant exploring the beauty of Ondo state and caught by the many ritualists who cut off his head, gorge his eyes and cut his privates thinking that the ritual will make them $$$ since na white man

this is noting compared to what black men face in America so stfu

Lovely write up pls I will like to get to know you pls drop your watsapp number God bless

Tintinnoty:

if I can deduce from what you wrote, it has not always been like that. What went wrong? What have you been doing before that you have suddenly stopped doing? Are you sure she has not suddenly lost interest in being intimate with you? So many questions beginning for answer. Do justice to this questions, then I can be of help

uhm if she has lost interest in me she wont be ejaculating on time when i touch her.

Tintinnoty:
Last longer as how? ayam not getting u.

i last longer than my wife in bed

Good morning nairalanders my name is mr job am a father of 2 and av been married to this beautiful woman for over 6 years. recently my wife doesn't last longer in bed, i can go 1 hr but she? just 2 mins we have gone to places but still no solution pls plp wat can we do to make her last longer thank you and happy sunday.

In the interest of dispelling a HUGE dating myth, I’ve decided to whip up a quick guide to dating women while being completely broke.

See, for me, dating used to be a big deal.

It would require massive investments of time, and money, and nerves, and conversation and… Oh God!!

But let’s make this super simple so that you can start having quality dates, even if you’re completely broke.
Dating Myth Busted!

Contrary to popular belief, dating does not require you to spend ridiculous sums of money on flowers, gifts, expensive restaurants and more…

Mostly because a woman doesn’t really care about that stuff.

Now I know you’re thinking “well I took Jenny out last month and did all those things above and she said she had a great time!”

But there’s something you aren’t understanding: Women will meet you wherever you are.

I’m not talking about physically. I mean on a metaphysical level.

If the stage you’re at is ‘I’m not good enough, so I need to buy her nice things and impress her’, she will meet you there and say ‘okay then… Impress me’.

However, when you understand your own self-worth, and know that your presence is enough to provide an unforgettable experience, she will also meet you there.

Is there a minority of women that are superficial? Sure. But they’re a small percentage and frankly, why would you want to impress that kind of person anyway?

Look, when a woman agrees to go on a date with you, it’s because she wants to play around in the social context that is you! She wants to experience YOU.

But what do most guys do? “What would SHE like. How do I impress HER?”

You can see why that doesn’t make for a very sexy date.

How to date while Being Completely Broke
continue.. https://osagiesblogs..com.ng/2017/02/how-to-date-while-being-completely-broke.html

passyhansome:
Is she also a celebrity?

why the hate brov?

chumaZ:

dude this is hw i wan to chill out for crossover lol

Love is the only thing we try to claim is beautiful because it lasts forever.



Before we start today, I’d like you to take a moment to think back to all of your major romantic relationships. How many of these relationships would you consider successes? How many would you consider failures?
If you’re anything like me, it may feel like you have a lot more “failed relationships” than you do “successful” ones — but can you tell me why?
I’ve long considered myself a collector of failed relationships. From the girlfriend I asked out during a bar crawl and dated for eight days to the conservative Christian who thought her love was “saving me from a life of debauchery,” I actually gained a little pride from my list of failed love affairs. However, while these relationships were problematic, what made them “failures?”
In my mind, I always thought of them as failures because none of these people were “the one.” I’m not still with any of them. In fact, most of these relationships completely devolved into petty arguments and mutual disdain for one another.
While this may be normal for most people, I’ve come to realize the danger in allowing the fact that a relationship may end to be the metric by which you measure its success.
Put simply: relationships aren’t only meaningful if they last for the rest of your life, and writing off a relationship as a failure because of how it ended adds to the false notion that love is only valid if it’s endless, while diminishing the value of the lessons these “failed” relationships are capable of teaching us.
I believe our tendency to view every relationship but your last as a “failed relationship” is due to the stigma that surrounds being alone, which stems from a culture that directly and consistently tries to equate your ability to be in a long-lasting romantic relationship with your value as a human being. While I can see that this stigma is slowly being phased out by social development, it still contributes to how we view our relationships and why we stay in toxic relationships for too long while reinforcing the falsehood that any romantic entanglement that doesn’t end in marriage and old age is wasted time.
Even retrospectively, I could look back at my past and see the ways those relationships were moments of growth or learning experiences, instead of writing them off as failures just because they ended.
Honestly, the notion that the only kind of “true love” is one that never ends is a notion I can understand. In theory, the idea of love as an “eternal flame” is beautiful, and telling a child “they lived happily ever after” is a lot more whimsical than “they dated for eight months, had an amicable split, and still occasionally bone down when they run into each other at house parties.” However, this sentiment overlooks the simple truth that, most of the time, your relationships aren’t going to end well.
If you only allow yourself to consider your relationship a success based on its longevity, it’s easy to imagine why so many people are concerned that they’ve thrown away months or years of their lives. My longest relationships lasted upwards of six months, and after each breakup I’d find myself feeling embarrassed and ashamed when telling others about them. Every time, I felt like a fraud for being so openly happy and excited about someone, only to have it all fall apart half a year later. It always felt like my love wasn’t good enough to make the cut, and as such it wasn’t real. cont... https://osagiesblogs..com.ng/2016/11/its-time-to-redefine-what-we-call.html

see them

hmhm

beautiful women

would the african americans really migrate to africa? really am curios was it just me or did anybody hear of that old news that Donald tump said if he wins hes going to send d blacks to africa? was that true?
for me these are the advantages and disadvantages of that decision;

disadvantages
1-africa will harbor criminals: when i mean criminals those who rubs a whole bank with just a computer lots of dem
2- dia might be natural disaster: yes disasters we Africans believe in nature but those plp will bring dia experiments nd deep mindset b4
u know it all this tinx will start happening
3- gay community: oh yes if africa doesn't excepts gay legalization dey will form dia community and bisi dat gay guy will be happy and odas
4- dey will mess up our children with useless life style we respects our parents like God but when this plp comes am sorry get ready for kids to
start acting up
5- incest will be rampant: yes America has d largest incest families so pray ur kid don't start touching wen dey come
6- shemales aka transsexuals: dey are now coming too so very soon hospitals will tag "let your kid choose" post sign in labor wards
7- our naija babes will start behaving well when dia men start living dem for the fresh foreigners
free to add yours

advantages
1- education will be outstanding in africa
2- our cities will be more beautiful
3- our English will change for better
4- our politicians will be more of people who has knowledge, skills and energy not these knuckle dry skulls we have as leaders
5- our economy will be normal
6- we will have a developed country
7- beautiful women everywhere naija babes take note
add yours

over to #teamforeignbabes

hmhm

beautiful women

would the african americans really migrate to africa? really am curios was it just me or did anybody hear of that old news that Donald tump said if he wins hes going to send d blacks to africa? was that true?
for me these are the advantages and disadvantages of that decision;

disadvantages
1-africa will harbor criminals: when i mean criminals those who rubs a whole bank with just a computer lots of dem
2- dia might be natural disaster: yes disasters we Africans believe in nature but those plp will bring dia experiments nd deep mindset b4
u know it all this tinx will start happening
3- gay community: oh yes if africa doesn't excepts gay legalization dey will form dia community and bisi dat gay guy will be happy and odas
4- dey will mess up our children with useless life style we respects our parents like God but when this plp comes am sorry get ready for kids to
start acting up
5- incest will be rampant: yes America has d largest incest families so pray ur kid don't start touching wen dey come
6- shemales aka transsexuals: dey are now coming too so very soon hospitals will tag "let your kid choose" post sign in labor wards
7- our naija babes will start behaving well when dia men start living dem for the fresh foreigners
free to add yours

advantages
1- education will be outstanding in africa
2- our cities will be more beautiful
3- our English will change for better
4- our politicians will be more of people who has knowledge, skills and energy not these knuckle dry skulls we have as leaders
5- our economy will be normal
6- we will have a developed country
7- beautiful women everywhere naija babes take note
add yours

over to #teamforeignbabes

The most important part of giving up being being just a nice guy is to hold tight to your authentic self. Not the limited version of who you think you are, but the person you are at your core.

Are you a nice guy? This may be part of what holds you back in dating. See, there’s a problem inherent with being nice (as opposed to being a Nice Guy): it’s unsexy.The “nice guy” is pleasant and safe… and bland.
Whenever someone is describing their partner and comes out with “he’s a nice guy and…” then the countdown clock to their break-up has started. When somebody describes their partner as “nice”, it’s a tacit admission that they’re with them because they think they should want them.
But they don’t. He doesn’t actually excite them. What they’ve chosen is someone “appropriate”. What they want is someone who’s sex on toast.
But being “nice” doesn’t mean that you have to kiss attraction good bye. It doesn’t mean you have to turn yourself into an asshole instead. Here’s the secret to overcoming being the “nice guy” and becoming the “hot guy”.

“You’re Not Good, You’re Not Bad, You’re Just Nice”
Being nice – as opposed to being Nice – is the kiss of death when it comes to attraction and dating. It’s also one of the most misunderstood – in no small part because the conflict between “nice” and “bad” is sitting on top of a pile of PUA bullshit. According to frustrated single dudes, “assholes” get all the women because women don’t actually want a nice guy. According to PUA/RedPill dogma, “nice” guys are betas who “put the pussy on a pedestal” and suck up to women in hopes of getting a whiff of sex. And of course, women will tell you that they like nice men, right before making out with the scoundrel.Well… no. Not even close. See the problem isn’t whether someone is a decent guy or not. It’s not that women are looking for somebody to treat them like shit or to gaslight them and leave them worried that their boyfriend or husband could dump them at any minute. It’s that they want someone who excites them… and guys who are mostly “nice” don’t. Many times, people will date someone who’s nice because they want security and stability. The mistake they make is that there’s an inherent assumption that security or stability – or even just not being a raging dumpster fire – comes at the expense of passion.
And that’s where the problem with being nice comes in. The issue isn’t that being nice is a bad thing. The issue is that when someone’s primary description is that they’re “nice”, that’s usually all there is to them. They reach the heady heights of being as blandly inoffensive as a show on CBS. They’re pleasant enough, but they’re otherwise as arousing as unfinished dough. There’s just nothing there to stir somebody’s loins or imagination. Assholes, at least, are polarizing. They’re unpleasant to be around, but they provoke emotions that go past “huh, ok.”
If you are a decent enough guy but you aren’t getting the attraction you want from women, the problem isn’t that you’re nice. So what is the issue?
The Nice Guy Doesn’t Have That Oomph
The reason why nice guys do poorly with women isn’t because there’s something wrong with being nice. It’s that you don’t have your “it” factor. Your swagger. Your “oomph”. The thing that’s missing is that certain thing, that je ne sais quois that triggers the primal part of somebody’s brain and makes them go “phwoar”.
That lack of “oomph” is key to everything when it comes to attraction. The “oomph” factor is what can utterly transform a person from “nice enough” to “You. Pants. Off. Now.” in no time flat. Finding your oomph, your swagger, your thing is part of how you hit the cosmic reset button when you want to turn a friend to a lover. You can always tell when somebody’s found their particular “oomph” because there will be something different about them. Sometimes it will be obvious – they’ve had some profound personal transformation that changes how people see them. Other times it will be this nebulous factor that you can’t put your finger on, but you know it’s there.
Now, odds are good that you may be saying “great, so that leaves me out.” And just like that, you’re falling for one of the classic blunders, the most famous of which is “never take a date to a concert headlined by Asia”.1 Only slightly less well known is this: we assume that – like chemistry or charisma or just old-fashioned sex appeal – this “oomph” is a binary state. You have it or you don’t and there’s nothing you can do about it.
You couldn’t be more wrong. Yes, some people have a natural charisma, but this doesn’t mean you have to be born with it. Swagger, oomph… whatever you want to call it is something you can develop.
As long as you understand it. cont... https://osagiesblogs..com.ng/2016/11/being-nice-guy-isnt-good-enough.html

Bearing my partner’s anger gives me the possibility of understanding its real roots and of converting it into something positive for both of us and for our relationship


One thing I’m learning in my relationship (and what a wonderful school it’s turning out to be), is that when my partner is upset with me about something that seems trivial to me, the real cause may not have mainly to do with that particular issue at all. And although it’s directed at me, especially if it seems disproportionate, her anger is probably rooted in an older pain that is too deeply buried to come to the surface right away.
If I only focus on the apparent cause of her frustration, and respond defensively, I’ll get sidetracked from getting to the heart of what the real issue is for her, and we’ll be doomed to go around in a neverending circle of arguing, coming back to the same kind of topic over and over again, each time putting more distance between us until the relationship breaks down. It’s a familiar pattern to me, I’m sorry to say. But when I can sidestep what may feel like a personal attack, and listen “through” her words to get to the heart of her pain, I can try to hear and understand what her deeper feelings are. This is true “love alchemy,” converting something negative into a chance to strengthen our sense of connection and commitment.
How I respond to her criticism will be largely determined by my reaction to her emotions
I come from a typically quiet (i.e. emotionally repressed) British family, and the first time I encountered a woman’s strong feelings, rather than the detached rationality I was used to, I panicked. I simply didn’t know what to do. For me, emotions felt unfamiliar and threatening, as if they had derived from a place of fear and defensiveness. I interpreted her anger as a sign I wasn’t loved or respected. My self-preservation instincts told me I was in a dangerous place and needed to walk away. Sadly that’s exactly what happened on several occasions. It was only later as I recognized the pattern of how I was responding that I found a better way to deal with conflict, especially with a woman.
If I get stuck trying to be reasonable, defending myself, trying to show her why she is wrong, or if I get frustrated that she can’t seem to understand my point of view, this will get me nowhere except in the presence of an even more upset woman. But if I see conflict with my partner as an opportunity to learn more about her and myself and for us to move forward together, that’s more likely to be the outcome.

What she needs from me is not my defensiveness against her accusations
She probably already knows if they’re unreasonable, but can’t stop her deeper feelings leaking out! I need to step back from reacting and try to hear what she’s actually upset about and respond to that reason.
Recently, my partner berated me for leaving the gas on in the kitchen when I went out. Not a smart thing to do, but to me it felt unnecessary for her to say much to me about it. I fully understood I screwed up and had already resolved never to do it again. So, I felt a bit annoyed that she seemed to have decided to ‘rub it in that I’d made a mistake by talking more about it. Then I realized that, in fact, she was really expressing how insecure she felt about whether we had a future together or not, and was looking for reassurance about whether she could rely on me or not. So, rather than feeling defensive, I bypassed the gas conversation and reassured her that I loved her and wanted to be around for the long term. Soon, I had a very happy and loving woman on my hands.
My partner needs me to be strong enough to handle what to me might seem her occasional unfair feelings of anger towards me, so I can offer support and comfort in relation to what she’s actually upset or anxious about. And that worry, which may be an extension of the relationship she had with her father, will often be whether I still love and respect her, whether I care enough to take the trouble to show that to her regularly and in ways she can feel.
Even though it is hard not to react defensively to what feels like being unfairly judged and criticized, instead of any attempt at self-justification, the best antidote is to offer a lot of love and appreciation. When I’ve been able to do that, the result is often great lovemaking instead of mutual acrimony and isolation.
I call that the epitomy of a no brainer!
https://osagiesblogs..com.ng/2016/11/how-converting-your-partners-anger-will.html

Regardless of how kind or easy going a man is, if he doesn’t feel loved, respected, and valued in a relationship – he will begin to slowly pull away from you. Here are some phrases that will give him all of the feels.
Most of my articles revolve around what men can do and say to make the woman in their life feel valued and respected. I don’t believe that any man should need a reason or a reward in order to do these things, but one thing is for certain: Open affection and communication in a relationship need to go both ways.
It is not often that you will come across articles or discussions about how men need or want to feel loved. We are ‘supposed to be’ the less emotional of the genders and many times our desires for affection go overlooked.
Regardless of how kind or easy going a man is, if he doesn’t feel loved, respected, and valued in a relationship – he will begin to slowly pull away from you. Here are some phrases that will give him all of the feels.

“You look handsome.”
A good man should always be reminding his woman how beautiful he thinks she is (as well as complimenting her on non-physical traits of course), but it is also a great feeling for a man to be told he is handsome by someone he cares about. Just the word ‘handsome’ holds a different meaning than other compliments and seems to hit us a little differently.
For those of us who do put effort into our appearance and don’t just toss on a t-shirt and jeans to go out to dinner, it is appreciated when our efforts are noticed. It will give us a boost of confidence and keep us smiling for the rest of the day.

“I’m proud of you.”
Men see their self-worth differently than women do. I remember being asked why I am so driven to succeed professionally. “Isn’t being a good man enough?”
We strive towards goals and accomplishments whether it be at our job or a business we have chosen to start. Much of our confidence is dependent on how well we do in accomplishing these goals. Having the support of the woman in our life and know that you think we are doing a good job (professionally or personally) is reassuring in ways that many other statements can never be.

“I can really see the difference!”
Men get down on themselves about their bodies, too. We all want to have better abs or a more defined chest. We want to feel like we can protect you, and ourselves. We want to feel strong. We want to feel like men.
When we do put in the effort to start eating better and working out, we are hoping it gets noticed. But, not just by anyone – by you. Telling us that you can see an improvement (no matter howsmall) from our efforts will reinforce us and encourage us continue along our path.

“I want you.”
There are many times when the man is the one to initiate physical contact in a relationship. Whether it be by a verbal comment or touching you in a certain way. But there are times where we wish you would take control and make the first move. We don’t want to feel like we are always initiating sex, because we may start to wonder if you are actually attracted to us and are just complying to make us happy.We want to feel wanted too, and even more so, we want to feel like you want us.

[/b]“I love how you make me feel.”
Men take great satisfaction in satisfying the woman they love. We are willing to listen, learn, and take direction to be the best lover we can for you. Knowing that we are doing something right is a confidence booster and will keep us eager to make you feel that way again. And again. And again…cont... https://osagiesblogs..com.ng/2016/11/13-things-men-are-dying-for-women-to-say.html

Jordan Gray says that sex addiction is more about shame, isolation, and unworthiness than it is about sex. This is his story.

“My name is Jordan, and I’m a sex addict.”
As soon as the words left my mouth, I felt like a total impostor.

The men and women seated around me, legs crossed and arms folded, draped over orange plastic chairs, would see right through me any second now. Even though I was staring down at the floor, I could feel their eyes burning in to me.
These people had real addictions… my problems felt so entry-level by comparison. They had serious problems, not me.
I mean, sure, I’d slept with countless women who I felt no emotional connection to.
Sure, I’ve felt a deeply permeating sense of shame at the core of my being after compulsively acting out sexually.
And, if I’m being honest with myself, I’ve probably cumulatively spent weeks of my life watching porn, scanning sex ads, and frequenting massage parlours and sex workers in multiple countries.
Bleep. Who am I kidding?The more I listened to the stories of the people around me, the more I realized that I was in the right place.

Don’t Trust Your Thoughts
As human beings we have a brilliant capacity for bullshitting ourselves.
It can take years of spinning our wheels in the mud before we realize that we aren’t making any progress in a certain area of our lives.
Some people think that sex addiction isn’t a ‘real’ addiction. Some people say dismissive things like, “Well, if that’s what sex addiction is, then every guy I know is a sex addict.” As with many process addictions, sexual addiction is a commonly misunderstood one.
So what is sex addiction, and why is it so frequently misunderstood?

What Is Sexual Addiction?
I’d say the biggest thing that most people don’t understand about sexual addiction is thatsex addiction isn’t about sex. The way that I see it, sexual addiction is more about shame, isolation, and unworthiness than it is about chasing after sexual experiences.
Or, as one SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) member once so eloquently put it in a meeting that I attended, “When I act out with sex workers, I’m not thinking to myself ‘Oh boy, this is going to be super fun!’. But rather, I’m thinking ‘I have such a tornado of pain inside of myself that I either have to kill myself or compulsively act out to numb the pain.’”
Compulsive sexual behaviour is what sex addicts use to numb out their emotions, just like alcoholics often use staying drunk to avoid feeling their underlying difficult emotions.
Sexual addiction, just like any drug addiction, can have a sliding scale of symptoms – ranging in severity. For some people, sex addiction looks like chronic masturbation to porn, where they don’t feel like they can function in society without climaxing at least seven times a day. For others, sex addiction could look like occasional flare ups of wanting to ‘use’ or ‘act out’ with sex workers only when they’re going through emotionally trying times (breakups, divorces, losing their jobs, death of a friend or family member, etc.). cont...
https://osagiesblogs..com.ng/2016/11/how-i-overcame-sexual-addiction.html

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I recently read an article for men on “Why women just won’t go for the nice guys…” and realized men are being fed just as much misinformation as their female counterparts! I want to take a moment to debunk some of the information men are given regarding the dating scene, as well as offer a little encouragement to those single fellows out there.

MYTH #1: Women seek danger. Thus, they are attracted to the “bad boys.”
Simply not true. Speaking both from personal and professional experience, for the average healthy female (not to mention men and women, alike) it is often the opposite. Most people ultimately seek security in a relationship. Do women often end up dating the outgoing, thrill seeking “bad boys?” Sometimes, but it is not for the reasons you may think. This often happens for one of two reasons:

The confident, even arrogant, guy is more likely to ask her out.
The confident ‘alpha’ male is more likely to step up and help her when faced with danger. This assertiveness and courage is attractive. However, courage and assertiveness can often be confused with arrogance and impulsive behavior, too. A guy who consistently engages in risky, thoughtless behaviors from any partner usually results in the relationship ending fairly quickly. Humans, as a whole, do not feel safe with those who consistently force them into dangerous situations.

MYTH #2: Arrogance is attractive.
No. Confidence and assertiveness are attractive. Arrogance, egocentrism, self-importance, immodesty, and inconsiderate behavior is definitely a way to make others run for the hills. What is the difference? Arrogance is used when someone is trying to convince someone else that they are worthy of that person’s time and attention (ie. trying too hard). Confident individuals do not feel the need to prove their worth. Arrogant people talk about themselves. Confident people spend most of their time listening to others and learning. Arrogant people engage in conflicts by inflating their own experiences, “talking big” and throwing insults. Confident people seek understanding, even when they disagree, and seek compromise and relatedness. Arrogant people speak down to and dismiss those who disagree with them. Assertive people spend most of their time listening and share their thoughts only when asked and, often, in a calm manner. Be sure you are exuding confidence…not arrogance.
kontinu... https://osagiesblogs..com/2016/10/5-myths-about-dating-women-and-some.html

by Sandra Hudson (Psychologist Harvard)

There is a lot potential for heartache with falling in love with someone before you see the real them.

When the veil of sex and passion eventually falls, what is revealed is the real person. That is the person you have to love. More importantly, that is the person your partner has to love. ~ David Soto Jr.

Of all the insecurities I have, love making is not one of them. Now that I think about it, maybe it is. But, it’s one of the things that I’m the least insecure about. I fancy myself a good lover. I mean there are a few women out there that would disagree but hey, 80/20 right?
So, why make this self-proclamation that I am good in bed? Because it doesn’t mean shit. That’s why! In fact, it may have made my life worse. For decades I have equated great sex with my soulmate. Do you know how many soulmates I have had? It’s romanticized in books and movies. The couples hot passionate love lead to a long happy life together? I even put this bullshit in my novel. “They’re passion is one of the things that kept them together.” What a crock of shit.
Here is a common cycle that has happened in my life over and over and over again: I meet a girl, we have sex, the sex is great, we fall in love, I reveal the real me, the real me is bleeped up, she leaves. Sometimes, I left to preempt her leaving. It’s time for me to realize that I’m 42 and single and something that I am doing is not working. (You have to understand that I have an unpublished article written entitled something to the effect of, “Why nothing matters if you are a good lover.” Seriously, this was just a few months ago. When am I going to be wise enough to stop being stupid?).

“Being great in bed and not having your shit together is like being rich and an asshole. After a while, no one cares and will stop hanging out with you.”

There is a lot potential for heartache with falling in love with someone before you see the real them.
When a couple quickly jumps into bed, and the sex is good, they can’t see who their partner for who they are. They may or may not be in love, but they are definitely infatuated. As the infatuation fades what’s left standing there is the actual person they are in love with. A person they hardly know and may not even like.

There is a lot potential for heartache with falling in love with someone before you see the real them.
When a couple quickly jumps into bed, and the sex is good, they can’t see who their partner for who they are. They may or may not be in love,cont... https://osagiesblogs..com/2016/10/the-difference-between-good-sex-and.html