₦airaland Forum

durasome:
shebi u go dey collect from me,and after spending that much on you it may later turn that you either jilt me or something else happen,then all my fortune spent on you became wasted.

No Durasome, i dont wait on my Date to pick up my bills, he is not obligated to, more-over that's a yard-stick for demanding intimacy.

Thanks

KOPT55:
Two words: damaged goods.

I find those very disturbing. I find it highly incongruent with your quest. You are a woman on the lookout for a non-sexual relationship with the potential of marriage yet your speech suggests that you have commoditized your body, hence, the reason why you see yourself as a potential damaged good.

How does sensible sex lead you to become a damaged good? I wonder what they fed you in those places of worship you frequent.

Hmm, everything about your quest doesn’t quite make sense to me.

Let me ask you this – are you already damaged and waiting for time to undo the damages that have been wrought?

I ask this because from what I can tell from you writings, you seem to have led a life of sexual recklessness in the past, and now you look for someone to coop-up with who will buy the final tokunboh.

Well, if that’s the case, then let me tell you you’re going about it the wrong way.

You kopt55 do not deserve the honour of getting an answer from me over your demeaning questions.

When sane people on here ask questions they would surely be given answers.

Take your bitterness and mischief out of here.

KOPT55:
I have no moral compunctions about having sex outside of marriage and I suspect that people like me are in their millions in this country.

I don't see why a woman should be afraid of sensible sex. I see no reason to live a sexless life. Sex is a biological imperative. The creator who made us put sex there so why should we refrain from it in a supposed bid to stay pure, or to please the most high?

Please tell me something else.

Sex is love for me. You can't love me and not allow me access to your most intimate parts: Where is the love in that? We need to come together, we need to explore our deepest parts, we need to unlock chemicals in our bodies that can only be released through coitus.

The men who have taken a walk from a your life on account of your no-intimacy shenanigans, are indeed, wise men. After a certain point of our biological development and growth as humans, sex becomes a need and not a luxury.

No sane person should abstain from sex unless on account of pain, disability, or incarceration. Never for reasons of staying pure or whatever religious and sentimental motives.

Go get a good dick and release essential hormones in your body my dear.

Your opinion, and just as every one has got an ass' you are entitled to your opinion...have a good day.

Tizbid:
Yea there still are.... but not so many share this ideology. Some very spiritual folks I know still have this ideology,however folks who don't do so are mostly for obvious reasons of uncertainty and deceit from the other party.

Yea, its understandable...so much insincerity in today's world.

Nellychinma20:
Truth is, society makes such men feel inferior and weakling and so they prefer not to talk about it .
We still have male virgins out there .

Okay, sadly it ought not to be so.

Pidgin2:
It is an insult to liken a human being to a car, is your mother a car, was her punna test driven and sampled by your father several times before purchase? Nonsense

Please Sis, don't waste your breath on that nonsense, can you imagine criticizing females for being promiscuos which led to body part becoming bore hole' and at the same time kicking hard against abstinence' is there any sense there at all?

jashar:
Even if the lady is a non-virgin and tells a guy no to premarital sex, doesn't she have right to say no?

@ OP, there are ooo... But they ain't many and they keep it to themselves. I know some sha...

Okay Jashar, kindly send the one you know here. Thanks

Stephanie22:
Yes poster, they are everywhere. Is just that they are quiet cause it isn't in vogue.

Okay Stephanie, kindly send the 'single searching one' to this thread if you can. Thanks.

abimbawealth:
I believe there are, may be rare though...

Ok dear, thanks.

alexialin:
Heheheheheheheeh..

My dear, I didn't beg you to pray for me


And news flash: such prayer and wishes cannot work on me.

U know why?
I don't marry blindly. And hope for the best.

I marry with all my eyes and five senses wide open, before signing the doted lines.

So am not moved one bit about the prayer, uv indirectly cast on yourself.

Better be wise and don't marry with eyes closed, or else you will. Come back online and start crying your newly wedded husband cant get it up since wedding night till date.

A word is enough for the wise.

I know that you are the wisest in the universe, thats why i pray same for you, as you wish others so it will be unto you, simple law of nature.
EOD !

Vutseck:
that moment a young chap sheepishly agrees in no sex before marriage


eventually discovers they aren't sexually compatible after he must have finalized all marital formalities


regrets and frustrations sets in


I doubt if a civilized fellow can fall for it


on a second thought, an impotent man will welcome no sex before marriage with an open arms since it will help cover his weaknesses.
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Enough of this madness ! why are you so pained over this thread title ? you are a professional sampler damaging goods since time immemorial.

Use the door, get out of here.

Take Note: dont even think of quoting and responding back cos you have been IGNORED.

alexialin:
Yes, there are men who supports your view op.

Men whose dicckkk refuse to rise or function during sexual pre-intimacy. Such men will gladly accept this request of yours and play along, until the dotted lines are signed and sealed.

So be patient op.

I pray and wish you just the same. Amen.

NoToPile:
You just summarized a whole lot about the male species.

Flowersforme you will find just what you are looking for, its just a matter of time and yeah men with no sex policy are abound everywhere don't be deceived. Since you have made that decision stand by it, don't let any one feel you are making a mistake.

Thanks so much, bro.

Iseoluwani:
N who told you she comes to my house likr that? M not dating her m courting her. There is a difference there

Bro, please ignore....

Oma307:
Op, i congrat u for taking this bold step by saying u want to remain abstain from pre-martial intimacy till u are married. What u need to know where you meet this type of people with their first impression matter. For instance, i met a lady while traveling, we got talking and exchange contact, to cut the story short, she came to my house and what she wanted was sex, i refused and ever then she has been calling impotent guy. So the places matter. Secondly, ur style of dresses and make-up matter

Sorry about your experience.

Kudos to you for showing you can control your emotions.
About dress-sence, modesty is my watch-word.
Thanks for stopping by.

DonOms:
The fact that a man is found in a church does not mean a church is in him.

As regards your topic, yes of course there are such men. One fact of life is that there are always exceptions to conventional ideas/beliefs. That you have been meeting "beta testers" doesn't mean you're attracting them and neither does it mean all guys out there are the same. Some things only happen so that we can learn from them and that God can take glory from them.
Sooner or later, you'll find what you're looking for (or rather, what you want will find you).

Many thanks to you and Amen to " getting what i want".

claremont:
I find it disgusting the way some supposedly educated Nigerians correlate premarital sex and ''unserious/immature men''. People make decisions to have sex or not, it cannot be used to define them as being unserious and/immature. The decision to have sex or to abstain isn't a measure of maturity, seriousness (whatever that means?), or chastity.

As far as I'm concerned, safe sex with a trusted partner is an integral part of modern relationships. The analogy someone raised previously about testing a product prior to purchase is very apt. It's a very wise and sensible practise to 'test' someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with, sexual incompatibility is a leading cause of infidelity in many marriages.

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Iseoluwani:
Yes, we exist

M in a relationship that z 4yrs as at may 5, n we have avoided it by God grace, it wasn't easy but we have been avoidinh it like plague

We intend doing our introduction this year

How did we avoid it

BY REMINDING OURSELVES OF GOD PROMISES, WE PRAY N WHENEVER THE URGE COMES I CAREFULLY LEAVE HER PRESENCE

Okay, that's remarkable. More of God's Grace on you and your's and congratulations in advance.

Iseoluwani:
Thank you for your testimony, m in a 4yr old relationship n to the glory of God even when d huge comes, we pray together or excuse the house... .. Mere having d thought I counted it as sex then because d heart was not guided jealously


So we can abstain

Kudos to you and bae.

Iseoluwani:
If you truly want to stand the test of time over this issue, remain in God, all those who want sex are not God plan for you

Okay, thanks bro.

Owiii:
That was what I prayed for and I got it by God's grace. I decided I was going to involve myself in sexual activity after my graduation from the university but as God would have it, got born again in 2011- knowing God and having the feeling that even kissing is a sin. Because if you do remedials, you must do degree. #teamabstenancetillmarriage#

OMG ! finally a success story...this is re-assuringly cool, thanks dude.

damesilver:
Yes, ma'am. There are who go for no-sex until marriage. They may have had sex before and come to the realization that it's worth to wait until marriage. They harbour no fear or pretence of o hide anything whatever. You may be meeting this kind of people if you habour the fear of not meeting such men. It is your fears that is attracting them into your reality.

Let go of all fears. But I think sincerity is very important. If you find someone who says he's not in support of no-sex, do not be quick to dismiss such. They posses a good virtue of sincerity which is very rare. You may gently let them understand what they stand to gain by waiting and staying free of fleshy lust at this time.

If you insist on getting a man who is for no-sex until marriage, I suggest you make friends with guys here online who have the same view. Humility is our safest guild in everything. It is not a taboo to first extend hand of friendly invitation to anybody you feel comfortable with and hope to form a good bonding. Let go of pride and the fear of rejection. Remember the word sincerity.

Be open and wiling to communicate. Openness is very important. Do not restrict yourself by self-limiting rules. If someone rejects my advances I don't feel perturbed as long as my motives towards them are completely pure. It means we are not meant to be together. Anyway, I wish to have a friend who's for no-sex until marriage. Smiles.

Have a wonderful evening. Thanks.

Wow !!
Points are noted with thanks, Sir.
Do have a wonderful evening too.

tunde82seidat:
My dear ,most men r scumbags o..m subscibing to same n dats because v not had it before.Now I almost compromised in my last relationship not knowing d idiot was already married.it pays to zip up jare

Wowzer ! married lady ?!! God saved you.

Yea it sure pays...keep it up !

Acidosis:
The only way to keep unserious men away is by denying them s e.x and money.

Lol, noted with thanks.

Daviddson:
Single, but not actively searching

Okay.

domexydomen1:
You'll meet them soon enough... But before then, weigh your risks.

I can tell you the risk is higher abstaining... Its like gambling a big odd. What are the chances?

Yea, its risky but life itself is a huge risk, thanks.

sisisioge:
Oh, you see a good size 40 leather shoes that promised durability, comfort and affordability. Baby, you a perfect size 40. Thank God! It should fit...You took it home a happy person.

On your first wear, it didn't quite fit well but you told yourself it's leather, it's one of a kind, you will grown into each other Whew! cos now you've got tons of blisters to show for your bravo. May God help us shop for the best fit... hallelujah

I didn't kuku say anything, I just said check your shoes wella

......To each his/her own. Live your life how it pleases you, but dont attempt to ridicule others' on how they live their's.

Daviddson:
Lol...one is speaking to you now.

Oh, okay...are you single and searching?

thorpido:
It's the impression a lot of guys have and you can't blame them because nowadays young girls have gone distances even their mothers may not have reached.
What is important is to hold on and let the relationship grow so you know what the man is about.
There are like minded men anyway.Don't worry about what many guys think.Just pray that which is for you surfaces.

Alright. Thanks a bunch !

madridguy:
I'm number 1.

Oh, okay..

I actually meant for you to send them to see my topic in the hope of possibly getting acquainted with the 'single and searching one'...

bellong:
I believe you will. However, diamonds and golds don't come shining in their raw form until they pass through fire. The person may not have the outward characteristics you are after but will surely have the depth that you desire.

Goodluck and Godspeed.

Really insightful ! thanks so much.
Amen.

madridguy:
Yes.

I'd like to know them please.