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WhiskeyTangoFox:
Listen to urself once again, wot exactly are u being private about after una don marry? Wot exactly is dat information dat shldn't b shared with ur husband rightfully? Then she shld've stayed single in her house pressing phone and keeping passwords and all sorts of secret.


Also I'm not justifying his action even if he bought the fone, jst stating dat it cld've ended alot worse than him destroying an inanimate and replaceable object.

Lest u forget again, pls tell me wot privacy she's seeking after taking her matrimonial vow to be one with her husband in life and death?

exactly why it is called privacy. Everyone should respect that.


One question... What would be your reaction if the tables were turned? If it was the other way round? He hid the passwords from his wife and she broke his phone? What would you say?

Excellence2017:
Madam, the moment he paid your bride price, your privacy was part of the things he paid for. After spending 1.5m for traditional marriage den anoda 1.5m for white wedding n reception, you come dey say u get privacy, say d man na beast. Werey le leyi ooo. Oya sponsor d marriage to keep ur privacy.

HOGWASH.

Marriage constitutes a man and a woman.
If your wife to be isn't financially stable to support your marriage and the financial Responsibilities that come with it. Then, don't marry. Nobody sent you to marry liabilities and come screaming on nairaland.

Tollzara:
Still baffles me how ANYONE AT ALL would make any attempt to justify this uncivilized, barbaric, beastly, ultra-possessive and over-obsessive behaviour! It defies all logic.

But look, not just one person, but a lot of them, finding faults with the woman and ignoring the psychopath whose lunacy is not only dangerous to his family, but to all human beings around him.

this. This melted my heart.


There are still good guys. I have to keep telling myself that.

munas:
That is why he said...if you want privacy,the remain single...Its a simple as that

NO. I'd rather marry a sane human. Someone that trusts me and doesn't have a family history of madness and latent paranoia.

vivalavida:
U can't be in ur husbands house and be playing hanky pinky games. Those are games u played while u were single. I don't subscribe to such brutality from the guy but still I don't blame him or any man who even goes further to pummel the woman. Once you are married, u have given up ur freedom

if marriage is all you've written, I'd rather be single till eternity.

Firstly bruh, it's OUR HOUSE.
I would not live in a house I Also didn't contribute financially to. He's my husband, not my father.

Secondly, I am a very private person. And would continue being that person FOREVER. I wouldn't trade that for anything . because I choose to lock my phone doesn't mean I am cheating on him, What is with y'all and over possessiveness? What is it with the repulsive OWNERSHIP mentality? She is your wife, not a property.

It is a marriage, not a prison. Only prisoners give up their freedom. I refuse to be one.

Asowari:
shutup Nigerian men paid bride price, u no get sense at all

Smh.


You are disgusting to read.
So, Paying bride price gives them the rights to treat their wives as toddlers? They disobey you, you break their leg?

Are you mad? Who's your mother for christ's sake??!?

WhiskeyTangoFox:
Mehn, u sound like u know she's hiding stuff and u kinda support her as per gender backing. Firstly, privacy no de marriage between husband and wife. If u want privacy then remain single. Secondly, what is so important in d fone dat she had to password it and not share d password with the husband? Thirdly, he broke a fone he probably bought for her (not justifying), bt some other men wld've gone farther and turned it into a physical tussle. Or mayb u wld've preferred he sent her packing due to her refusal. In all, seems like she was hiding stuff, and if she was, it must be something pretty bad.

if she bought the phone with her money nko? He had no right!
sent her packing? Because she demands privacy?

Oh, God! All this entitlement mentality!
Reason I keep telling women to always be independent. Always have their houses. He sends her packing, she moves into her own house.

missyadorable:
Except he bought the phone with his money
But if my money bought a phone and a man in the name of husband demands my password (Yeah,cos I always lock all my mobile devices) and proceeds to damage my phone,he will not live to regret it.

Arrant nonsense!
Men don't allow women get close to their phones yet they want to live inside women's phones...

I no touch your phone, what's your business with my phone?

Exactly. The man needs to see different psychiatrists. He has deep seated Anger management issues. Like Wtf?


Any Dude that does that to my phone or anything I bought with my money would live to regret it. I'd let him eat his cake and still have it. Literally

Nigerian women and tolerating mad men with god complex cloaking as HORSEBANDS

Wife Cuts husband's phone with a cutlass because he didn't give her his passwords.


If this didn't make any sense to you and you supported the Horseband's puerile Act, you're nothing but a fugly hypocrite! For fúck's sake! He has no right!

It's not sickening dumbo, She's saving his life.

donstan18:
You stole something from me

ftc?


My bad... You'll be alright jhoor.

donstan18:

lol. What?

Okay, this is just gory, unfortunate, Stupid and totally psycho.

Dear Women with Community Pénises as husbands, There's no rule that says He can't cheat. He could. He's a sneaky douchebag and isn't worth an ounce of your love, True.

But biko, Nothing should justify killing/maiming/Castrating a man based on the fact that he CHEATED. It hurts, Yes. But simply walk away to maintain your sanity. DIVORCE the asshole abeg!


This. Is. Just. Sick.

Tollzara:
True. Not every one of them is beyond redemption yet. Although some have crossed the irrational rubicon already. But there's still hope.

in their case. They can't be saved. .
We'd just let them Wallow in their mental slavery.

What should you do?
What are we, your therapist?
What are you, 10?


You're an Adult oga, tell her you ain't ready.
If she can't wait till you're ready, then, she might as well leave.

Wangsy:
I like the way you talk. VERY MATURE

thank you.

Safiaaa:
but I never said a woman shouldn’t be ambitious and have her own money. All I’m saying is that a mans role especially in a family is to provide and take on the financial responsibilities. Anyways, it is well.

you'd have all that money and keep it yo yourself?


Sister, haba.

Doesn't work for some girls. To each, their own.


Most girls love assertiveness. A guy that knows what he wants and isn't afraid to show it.

Tollzara:
I've noticed their tendency to 'confuse' feminism with misandry is usually a deliberate tactic on their part. It's a way of making you stuck in the stage of trying to make unnecessary clarifications that are bound to make any further discussion impossible----as per my experience.

Allowing them to have a field day throwing around convenient tags does help in bypassing that stage and exposing their stupidity. But, it doesn't always help in educating them. At times, it thickens their cloud of delusion and pushes them further away from any form of redemption from the very disease of being hung up on dead trees of ideas that go as far back as the stone age. They remain locked in the limbo between 1495 and 1500.

It's however understandable----adults almost rarely abandon entrenched ideologies, especially ones that benefit them. So the only meaningful way to further the cause is the orientation of school children who're still forming their world view, ideas, and beliefs.

I acquiescence with all you've said. Especially the last paragraph. The kids, they're the Building blocks of the future. Imbedding these ideologies in them would undoubtedly make Our posterity well abreast with Choice, feminism and just life itself.

The adults, however Unfortunate as it sounds, make the present. I'm afraid we'd still have to make them unlearn, understand, then learn again for it to really be cemented to their skulls. It worked for me, all hope isn't lost yet. Fingers crossed.

Firstly, rude much?
The dude has conceited boldly written all over his fugly face.
Whatever happened to being totally mature/AdultISH after a mutual break up? Rather than painting her a hoe to the public in the confines of bad sarcasm.


Secondly,girl, you could easily wipe that face off your arm by just re-tattoing. Or just remove everything with laser surgery. Easy peasy! You'd be alright, eventually.

Safiaaa:
I’m not going to go back and forth with you. We can agree to disagree but with time you’ll realise the truth. Have a good day. We tend to be delusional about things when we’re young, but age teaches us how to be smart. Bye for now.

age wouldn't do nothing, Sis. i'm ambitious, Money oriented. I wouldn't trade that for rigid gender roles.


You too.

dingbang:
you are being unpolite

my apologies.
Feminism has only one meaning and it's on Wikipedia.

dingbang:
I would like to know what's your idea of feminism

the only idea of Feminism there is.. Google. Learn.

dingbang:
your reply as well as hers

Again, feminism has no business with this Sir.

efesodje:
Now this is a smart woman. One after my heart

Awwwwe!


Aren't you the sweetest?

Tollzara:
Thank you. Same here.

Lol. I get it. Until there are no more cheap shots to fire or diversion tactics to employ, then they'll have to deal with the real issue.

lol. Exactly. Took the words right outta my mouth.

dingbang:
Safiaa should understand that fluidqueen ain't broke and doesn't depend on men for survival...


Fluidqueen should understand that safiaa is not a feminist and believes that men should be the providers.

this topic has nothing to do with Feminism.

Safiaaa:
First of all please do not downplay the role of women who happen to be housewives. Whilst I do ‘nothing but wash his clothes, be his kitchen mistress and take care of his children’.. sorry do you think that’s an easy job? To turn a house into home? You equate the financial part of a household so high to the extent where every other thing doesn’t matter. Please change that mentality.

All I'm saying is be financially independent. Stop depending on men to provide for your every need. It reflects independence, Parasitism, Vulnerability, immaturity on the part of the woman. Every adult, irrespective of ones gender, should be able to fend for themselves and not depend on ANOTHER ADULT for basic needs.

Realistically they’ll always be some kind of movement with the roles, but generally the roles should stay in place. The man is the provider, and should carry most if not all the financial responsibility in the house. And if he’s got a problem with that then clearly he’s not capable of doing his job or he’s looking for a room mate to take the financial pressure off him not a wife.

This is what years of sociocultural brainwashing has done to us. Do away with such illbred mentality. Its Just not right.

That’s my personal opinion and men these days are just too feminine to accept that. Women are so masculine these days that they have become the man, mother, wife , gateman and everything and beyond in the house.

In other words, A female that's financially independent miraculously grows muscles?
Are you listening to yourself?

When you see them beyond a certain age they look so haggard due to them not understanding their position. Then he will leave you for a fresher babe after he has used you up, and provide for this babe completely.

that's your problem. INSECURITY. You think having A steady job and providing for your family's need would make you grow older and bAAAAAAM! He'd divorce you?
Lol. You've got deep seated insecurities. You're in urgent need of self actualization.

Abeg please be smart. This is not to dispute that women can have their own money, but understanding your role in a relationship is super important.

all I'm saying is OWN YOUR OWN MONEY.
PROVIDE FOR YOUR KIDS. Buy your man things. Pay your kid's fees too. Just don't sit around all day doing nothing but waiting for your husband to bring home the bacon.

Safiaaa:
So a man who provides automatically becomes my father? Men these days are becoming so feminine, what they truly want is a woman to take care of them. That’s why women these days are so masculine, because the roles are switched. Relationships don’t last any longer and finances are the major cause. Let men be men, let’s stop trying to switch roles.

so, you really think it's a man's responsibility to feed you, clothe you, provide financially for you while you do nothing but wash his clothes and Well, be his kitchen mistress?


The roles should never be switched. Rigid gender roles is the Bane here. When women do away with the unrealistic notion that a man should always be their Meal ticket and actually get the 'ticket' themselves, only then, would the family feel balanced and happier. Such responsibility should never be on one human's shoulder. It's paralyzing.

Man2utd:
And women are naturally meant to be what..

everything a human should be.

Providers
Nuturers.
Equal Partners

majekoam:
Its so simple to label things...
My parents brought me up with no boundaries...
I was made to clean, to cook etc
In other words, do whatever you can to get the job done.
There are no "roles".
There are many instances where the men are nurturers and the women are providers.

If I was to say as a woman your role is to be in the kitchen, you would descend upon me.
Personally my role as a Man would be to make sure I found a mature woman who would TEAM up with me as an EQUAL to get the job done.

You are a smart man. You'd birth queens.

Safiaaa:
Men are naturally supposed to be providers.

They are Men, not Santa Claus. Not Your Father.