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They won't tell the truth... They're just talking about hustling this and hustling that as if they won't be having sex with their wives if they were hustling in Nigeria.

Even a hustler needs some time to rest and recoup every now and then... Especially men because they're sexual beings and they would use sex to unwind after a long day at work.

Tunde835:
What you just quoted was intellect you females are mostly devoid of. The only thing females know is overhyping themselves and hating on men. Tell what was so offensive in his post that you had to render an insult

shantti:
To a woman, this more often than not, represents that you are in control of the direction your life is going and know how to fend for yourself and can support a family if she has kids with you.



So a yahoo guy, a spoilt drug addicted brat who inherited fotunes from his parent is in control of the direction his life is going simply cos he has money

While a teacher or clerk earning 35k each month is not in control of his lifes direction cos he is poor.

It is well with the discrimination. May God bless all guys.

Samantha124:
Sure, women want an exclusive monogamous relationship, but you'll be shocked to find out that most of those women in long distance relationships or marriages also have side dudes and in most cases, their boyfriends or husbands never get to find out about it.

Most men who are in long distance relationships or marriages keep fathering children that are not biologically theirs...

So if men are polygamous in nature, then it also means that women are polyandrous in nature too and you guys should respect that...

lavylilly:
Multiple signs show that humans are mostly monogamous by design. Males and females are roughly the same size (the small difference seems to have been inherited from Australopithecus, and has decreased steadily since), we seem to mostly share the inherent emotion of jealousy which makes no sense for us to have otherwise, most human societies have been monogamous, and so on.

A very intelligent analysis that deviates from this mentality imposed by societal norms.

But humans are also infinitely inventive, and in situations with shortages of men or women, societies have adapted and allowed polygamy or polyandry; up until very recently, it has been much more difficult or even outright impossible to be successful outside a family, so an excess of either sex was a problem to be solved.

And, of course, some people are born without any sense of sexual jealousy; those are today known as polyamorous. It seems to work fine, too, so that's obviously also part of our nature.

There were men who decided to be monogamous. They would have been religious men, so the the impetus would have been religious in nature.

My answer is based on the facts that:

1. Historically, men in general would never have allowed a woman to make this or any other decision, most especially if it affected the law or their sex life.
2. Religion has historically been behind most cultural ideologies.
So, to answer the question, many but not all human beings may desire to have sex with more than one person. Many but not all men may wish to have more than one spouse.

Men, who historically were in charge of everything while women stayed home, chose to institute monogamy. Other men decided to move their families into these societies. Sometimes human beings had these ideologies forced upon them by other men. As time passed, monogamy became the cultural norm for many nations and states.

Oyindamolah:
Men are naturally non-monogamous.
Men are also naturally monogamous.

Women are naturally non-monogamous.
Women are also naturally monogamous.

The question has no yes-or-no answer because the question itself is not well formed. It contains a false assumption: that there is one way people “naturally” are.

There isn’t.

There are evo psych “just so” stories passed around on pseudoscience Web sites about how men evolved to spread their seed and women evolved to seek the best man and so men are naturally non-monogamous and women are naturally monogamous and blah blah blah whatever, but it’s nonsense. I’ve never met a real evolutionary biologist who believes that.

The fact is, there is no one single reproductive strategy that is “best.” Every strategy involves tradeoffs.

And human beings—well, human beings are incredibly diverse and variable. That variability is our secret sauce. As much as our opposing thumbs and our big brains and our cooking fires and our tool use and our language, the fact that we have an incredible, unprecedented range of individual variability and an astonishing adaptability is what has allowed us to dominate the planet.

Different strategies involve different tradeoffs, so the human answer to that is…we employ all of them!

Stable pair bonds and cooperative child rearing? We do it! Promiscuity and its attendant genetic variability? We do it! Asexual individuals who help through kin selection? Yep, we do that too! Cooperative societies that provide a stable foundation for serial monogamy and extended kin groups? Sure, we’ll do that too! You name a strategy, there’s a human somewhere who uses it. We haven’t met a reproductive strategy we don’t employ.

All of this is natural. Monogamy. Non-monogamy. Serial monogamy. Kin selection. It is all natural for us.

Asking “are men naturally polygamous?” is like asking “Do men naturally have brown eyes?” Yes. And men also naturally have blue eyes. And hazel eyes. And green eyes. And gray eyes. And black eyes. There is no one eye color that men naturally have. There is no one reproductive strategy that men naturally use.

That’s humanity. We are large. We contain multitudes.

DaddyCoool:
Those are outliers. The vast majority of women, no matter how much money they have, want an exclusive monogamous relationship with ONE man they are attracted to. Men are wired differently

Ivimmanuel:
we confess to even our friends or anyone else to feel better when we are in guilt. Till now people people still go for therapy and they feel better after the session. Stop bringing this civilization this in to every issue we know where to apply science where necessary and some of us have accepted our religion as an inseparable part of our life's.

cooooooks:
A country with high fertility, teenage pregnancy, prostitution, and celebrity worship across the entire country is hounding a young lady to death because she "twerked on a video"

Tobichuks08:
Many of us watch porn behind closed doors oh, but that many are condemning her because we are just hypocrites..
Religion is one the major problems in Africa

sanpipita:
SMH Nigerians and their faux pas morality when it comes to anything sex

Vinnie2000:
My brother
Don't mind diz Guys Criticizing her!
We have Many pretenders in dis Country!

Calling her terrible names!
Yet if one Hot, sexy Busty babe corner Dem, d way dey will Quickly bring dier Rod out ehn...

CountVersailles:
What's the difference between what his girl did and what Tiwa Savage did? Yet, Tiwa Savage na the queen. Nigerians are just full of shit.

DropsMic:
One thing blacks especially we Nigerians are good at doing is pretending... Over here na who them catch be thief... Rotten society

KusherAbel:
Naija land of Hypocrites. Still chilling in top 3 Pornhub download stats worldwide but always forming Holier than thou

Omoluabiii:
no we are not slaves, just that majority lack the maturity and wisdom, thats why they loom in total confusion.
This was in this same shoe last month at my place of work,
there re two fine good ladies i fancy, then i talked to the first one, she object totally, she like the idea but shakara and she wanting me to stress, i reverse straight....
And i started getting close to the next lady,
she noticed that im getting closer to the other lady, then she began to disturb me and that lady anytime we are together,
i began to wonder?
Then she began to confess, that she has agreed...
Im like ?
So, the bottom line is, make your intentions known, leave the rest to her.
Yes, i stay,
no, i move.
Next!

Omoluabiii:
i dont waste my energy o.
As soon as i tell you, and you said no, that you are not interested.
I withdraw straight, i move to the next person.
Last last, na my money i wan spend.
Abi a lady ready to spend on a man?
So, whats the stress for?
As soon as she reject my offer, i wount mention it again.
No be me you dey toss like kite.

BabaCommander:
What's the trill that come with the hunt if the game is tied to a tree already?

midnighter:
Strolling is a form of regular exercise too, I don't mean that the person should suddenly start running miles without taking any precautions. Regular exercises strengthen your body and don't make it weaker as long as the type of exercise you do is suited to your condition.

People in wheelchairs still ought to do some form of exercise to stop themselves from wasting away.

Lack of exercise and overworking the body are both dangerous extremes that should be avoided.

Junk food is the partly the cause but lack of exercise is also implicated. Diet and exercise are related to each other, you can't mention food and expect to still be healthy without being active.

Premiumwriter:
Actually I know my game very well.

What surprises me the most is how you girls tend to make it look like its a previlege for a guy to go out with you.

Because of this single reason I've had to unfriend most gals on my fb.

The reward in most cases is not worth the effort and time. Most of y'all have nothing to offer

explosiveskull:
Not exercising will kill you faster, people who exercise have a lower chance of having heart problems and stroke.
When you want to exercise, you start small small till your body adjusts then you increase by a little. Don't you feel heavy and disadvantaged that you'll be losing your shape due to additional weight gained.
My own wife must exercise with me, 5km running not jogging 3 times a week then gyming 2 times a week.
She needs to stay attractive and healthy.

midnighter:
Not exercising regularly is what causes the original problem. As far as you go for check up and you don't overwork yourself you will be fine