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MRbrownJAY:
@poster
definitely an insecure, very jealous CONTROL FREAK.
let him know that you want to have a mind of your own and that he should accept (or leave) who you are as a person RATHER THAN trying to make you act/be into who he desires.

YOU are also part of the problem, when allowing this charade to go on and on, the minute you put your foot down, is the minute you will start to live.

the threat of killing you should have been the moment to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH and bye bye!

MBJ, you are right. I think i am part of the problem because, part of me love him too. If i should tell my parents about all what is going on, definately my parents will ask me to stop. But i am afraid of what he will do next.

xxcarolxx:
You have a control freak on your hands, have you spoke to him about been a control freak, You need to have a life that involves friends and not revolves around your bf,

I think he is more of a control freak. I once threaten to leave him if he continues this way, but he in turns says, if i ever leaves him, he will kill me and my eventual boyfriend and then kill himself. Since then, i am afraid to even tell my parents what i am going through.

I have a boyfriend who will not let me see my doctor alone except he is present. one time i went to the clinic to complain of an ailment, the doctor ask me what was wrong with me, before i could open my mouth to talk, he cuts in and started the explanation on my behalf. The doctor said he should allow me to do the explanation my self since i am not dumb, he got angry and walks me out from the clinic.

When we go out, either to a restaurant or public parks, if i should look in the direction  where it happens that other guys are sitting , he will ask me why am i looking at other guys. When we go to club, is either he dance with me or i dance with the wall, he doesn't allow any person to dance with me.

He alienated me from my female friends, because he his afraid that they will spoil me. Right now i don't have any friends both female or male.

To make matter worst,  each morning  he comes into my office and kiss me in front of my boss. I am afraid that if it continues like this i may loose my job.

This is getting out of hand and i don't think i can handle this any longer.

Please i need a honest and sincere advise.