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Come on Mr.Jay you say you understand why a man would be attractive from a girls' perspective, but you couldn't say "oh yeah he's a handsome guy" I find that hard to believe,

@claremont you are so right. But I think the discrepancies between westernized cultures and others are caused by lack of education. I used to be biased about a lot of things until I gathered enough knowledge to know the truth. Like how mental illness is treated here in America, I'm sure it's viewed differently in developing countries. But not too long ago we viewed it the same, only recently has it been acknowledged as a real issue.

LOL this is so funny to me, cause one of my friends (18) just found out she has been talking to a guy in his 30's. Needless to say she has cut off complete communication from him. And she is petrified and embarrassed, Girl I hope you don't read Nairaland. i know you'd kill me for putting your business out there.

@pleep. If I can say a girl is sexy or cute and not be looked at funny, then a guy should be able to too, I long for a day when people can freely express themselves without fear or judgement from society.

Mr.BrownJay, forgive me, but I had to re-read your post. Did you say you like to indulge in a.nal s.ex? Are you the receiver or the giver?

Pleep you obviously never had a 5th grade gym class, lol I remember all the boys were getting it up then. Actually my first experience with a guy doing that was during strength training week when we had to do several different agility tests, and we were paired up. I held a boy's leg while he did sit-ups, Haha let's just say I had a lot of questions after that.

Mr. BrownJay really good points,   But on your last point I wonder why is such a big deal for guys to find other men attractive, cute, or sexy. I find girls all those things everyday,  Does that mean I have bi-intimate tendencies? Maybe,  but if I can have bisex.ual tendencies? What's wrong in men having the same?

Personally I loove my men tatted-up. There's something about a man covered in tats that gets me all excited,

^^^ actually this is the most reasonable thing I have heard so far. What you said actually gave me a lightbulb moment. I remember now in one of my social psychology class our prof saying something about us all being naturally bis.e.x.u.a.l. that none of us are full hetero or homosexxual. But something we finally project our desired preferences according to social perceptions and upbringing. . . or something like that. So I guess men tend to repress those feelings as opposed to females, because its more socially accepted. Ok I have had a revelation lol I don't think there's anything wrong with men being bi

And no I am not bi

sexkillz:
I thought you said in an earlier thread that you have a bi guy as your best friend? Why dont you ask him then?

My best guy friend is h.o.m.o.s.ex.u.a.l not bi. He actually doesn't understand how guys can be bi either. He is very ghey, and he says bi's shouldn't be excepted by the ghey community. Even the females. His opinions are his and not shared by others in the community.But I'm asking from the perspective of straight females and males, I wonder why among straight male and females it is not accepted for men to be bi.

@tpia what thread, are you talking about. I am a female I promise.

Ekpoma okk, I got you I see where you're coming from. tpia@ lol I am not, nor ever been a male.

Mrs. Chima, good for you for not being one-sided. But you know that a lot of people don't think guys can be bi. It really is a double standard. @iice I agree with you.

Ekpoma1:
Nah! Thats disgusting. The attraction wouldnt be there in the first place. I know myself.

LOL that's what you think. These days its so hard to tell if guys are gay, let alone bi. But do you think is acceptable for females to be bi?

^^^ aah see that is the type of response I appreciate. And yes, you make good points. Oh and thank you.

Ok so I really really am confused on what to think about this. I don't know why, but its widely accepted in our culture (American) for girls to swing both ways, it's even encouraged. And I'm not going to lie, even I too have been indoctrinated by the propaganda. #LesBeHonest. I could never date a guy who has had relationships with males. Yet, several of my female friends are getting wifed up by men who know they've had relations with other women. What do you guys think? Fellas, would you date/marry a female who has had relations with other women? idon'tthinkievenhavetoask. And ladies, I know we are more open-minded and accepting than men, so what do you think?

geez claremont, why are you attacking me. I'm sorry I used the word miscegenation, I hear it used all the time in regular diction, and I think any one with a mid-level college education would know the word. *kanye shrug* And who said anything about them marrying for papers? not me. I was born and raised in America, and I'm talking about men like myself who were also born here, or are legal American citizens. My question was not a personal attack against Nigerian men, like I said I find nothing wrong with interracial relations, since I am a bi-product of that type of relation. Anyways like I said, the majority of American born Nigerian males marry and date outside their race, largely disproportionate from American born Nigerian females. Are males more open to the possibilities of expanding outside of their race?  Oh and Claremont if you can't respond to me in a manner that is not rude/disrespectful you can keep your thoughts to yourself. Not all of us are as bitter about life as you are, so if you see any posts by me, kindly skip it, or pretend like you never saw it #sityocrustyazzdown

pleep:
Miscegation? Eek that sound like a really bad thing oo

anyway @topic I dunno.

LOL miscegenation is just another fancy term for race mixing. Honestly, I don't mind, but my friends and some family members are complaining that they're losing men to women of other races.

Where I live, I've noticed a lot of Nigerian men dating and marrying outside of their race, whether they were born in Nigeria, or are 2nd or 3rd generation. I am not opposed to miscegenation by any means, since I too am a product of miscegenation, but I am really curious as to why this is. I rarely see Nigerian women marrying outside there race. So why is it common among the men.

Sure, why not? lol

^^^ 190 boo, don't tell me you haven't heard the song "Smell yo dic'k" by Riskay? I encourage you to look that song up on video. You will get a good laugh, I swear.

smell his dic'k

I really don't think you should have even wasted your time trying to convince claremont with credible evidence. I think all of us who are rational and sound-mind know true love exists. There is no point going back and forth with him, he is obviously set in his ideas and beliefs, and that is one thing I can actually admire.

Preach!!