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I think it is part of the bargain...

She is only submissive because she is less beautiful and less desired. Had it been she is beautiful, she won't even consider you.

Then again, women are selfish creatures. She found comfort with you (away from the shame she receive). That is the goal.

Is it safe to travel from the east to Gombe on road for official assignment?

Their initial plan was to use the military to flush out ESN, then pave way for the jan.jawe.ed islamic terrorists to wreck havoc in the south east. But they don't know that ESN is formidable and resilient.

ESN is not waging war against the nigerian army, rather reverse has been the case.

ESN was created to "chase away the fulani terrorists from our forests"

Handwork of loan apps

I love Kuda Bank App.

Ecobank app rocks too!

In addition, pretend that you are in a deep shit, like you lost your job. Tell them about your situation and ask them for financial help of up to N30k. The one that sends you the money is really committed to the relationship.

You are at a point where delaying the decision is already becoming a decision on its own. Both women are asking you to meet their parents because they likely see the relationship as moving toward commitment. If you continue with both while unsure, the risk is that someone eventually gets deeply hurt — including you.
The confusion you feel is normal. Attraction, attachment, and compatibility are not always the same thing.
Here’s a practical way to think through it.

1. Stop asking, “Who do I love more?”
Instead ask:
Who gives me peace?
Who brings out discipline and purpose in me?
Who fits the kind of future I want in 5–10 years?
Who handles conflict maturely?
Who genuinely respects me?
Around who can I be fully honest?
If money became hard for two years, who would still stand well with me?
Which relationship feels stable instead of emotionally confusing?
Love alone is not enough for marriage. Stability, character, respect, and shared direction matter heavily.

2. Fear of making the wrong choice may actually mean you are avoiding pain
Part of your fear may not be “What if I choose wrong?” but also:
“What if I hurt one of them?”
“What if I lose someone valuable?”
“What if the one I leave later becomes more successful?”
“What if marriage changes everything?”
That fear can keep a man stuck between two lives for too long.
But maturity sometimes means accepting that clarity comes with sacrifice.

3. Observe who is truly compatible with your future
The nursing graduate and the polytechnic graduate may both be good women. But marriage is not a beauty contest or certificate competition.
Watch for:
Emotional maturity
Financial attitude
Respect during disagreements
Family values
Spiritual beliefs and lifestyle
Temperament
Loyalty
Ability to build with you
Ask yourself:
“If attraction reduced tomorrow, who would still make a strong life partner?”
That question reveals a lot.

4. Do not meet both parents if you already know you can only choose one
Meeting parents in many Nigerian families is seen as serious intention. If you are still uncertain, avoid giving both families strong expectations at the same time.
Instead:
Be honest with yourself first.
Take a short period to decide intentionally.
Reduce emotional juggling.
A man cannot think clearly while emotionally feeding two serious relationships equally.

5. Create a private comparison — not based on emotions alone
Take a notebook and divide it into sections:
Quality
Woman A
Woman B
Peace of mind


Trust


Respect


Communication


Shared future goals


Family compatibility


Emotional maturity


Supportiveness


Attraction


Ability to endure hardship together


Be brutally honest. Patterns will start appearing.

6. Ask yourself one uncomfortable question
If today both women suddenly disappeared from your life forever…
Which loss would truly break you the most — not because of ego, beauty, or benefits — but because you know that person genuinely fits your life?
Sometimes your heart already knows, but your fear keeps creating noise.

7. Once you decide, be clean and respectful
Do not keep one as a “backup option.” That creates long-term guilt and confusion.

When you decide:
Commit fully to one.
End the other relationship respectfully and clearly.

Avoid manipulation or false promises.
That is part of becoming serious in life.
You do not need a perfect choice. You need a wise, intentional, honest choice.

What would make someone commit rape and murder this small girl for goodness sake?

By beauty? She is not even beautiful. No shape.

By wealth? She is definitely not rich.

This could be family feud and vendicta
or

A soured relationship in which she played a fast one on an illiterate reckless village cultist.

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

Since you really have time by your side and she asked you for a written proposal, go to ChatGPT:

1) write what you are in quote. E.g

"I am a business man, i am 32 years, and i am responsible. I am not educated but i have a good business i am doing."

2) past the quote on chatgpt and write,

write a 2000 words article on the quoted statement, make it look funny and appealling to a church lady. Make the age to be irrelevant. Also make it look like i have a good vision in life and i can sustain any lady i marry.

ManLikeL:
What's your doubt by calling me fake life?? Is it that you don't believe I have the listed systems or that I can't have them and need helps on way to go?
I never said I've been jobless all my life... I said I'm currently without job... It could mean I've just lost a job and not ready to start all over again. No part of that lines means I've been jobless all my life. If I want to be fake, I'll list things that aren't tech related but I have as properties ranging from the kind of car I drive and phones I use but nah, I just need guidance. And those systems are in all honesty, the least of what life has blessed me with. Consider it a very humble brag.

How much are you going to pay me?

Learn:
1) Video ads editing and 2d animation
2) Learn digital marketing

Yes. We have AI but in the end, how many people would keep paying for AI pro subscriptions? Just be good at them and be patient, you'll earn money in USD both ways.

You lots are ignorant TBH.

You think the US doesn't know his whereabouts from the onset?

That dude finally refused to do the bidding of the west, so they have to take him out.

dominique:
Cancer has been in existence for centuries but it was not diagnosed at the time.

So cancer has been in existence for centuries in Nigeria so much that we witness young people in their 30's and 40's dying from cancer?

In the years of my grandfathers, young people hardly die except from accidents and war. When a young man die, it is believed to be an evil omen. Now, you'll see a young man of 30 something or 40 something die, then they'll tell you it is cancer. Which kind cancer? Abeg.

There is something sinister going on in this era and present society that we do not yet know.

It's really a sad news. May God comfort the family.

But why is cancer cases rampant these days?

Back in the 80's and 90's, we hardly hear of cancer cases. What is really happening?

Emmy2022tech:
UPDATE: Error fixed and was paid for those still asking.

How were you able to fix the error?

Do you mind sharing any step by step guide?

Can it power a laptop? If yes, for how long?

Enskynelson:
That means you are qualified. But also notr that you must meet the O level requirements

Ok sir. Thank you so much sir.

Enskynelson:
You must have at least Credits (NCE credits) in any two of these subjects:
Maths
Physics
Computer Science
Chemistry

Yes sir.

Maths - Credit
Computer Science - Credit

funnyDM:
Please someone should help me.

Am I eligible for Direct Entry (200 level) into B.Sc Mathematics/Computer Science at NOUN, if I have NCE(Mathematics/Computer Science Education) at Credit Level?

Please, I need responses to this question.

These specie of reptiles are not found in Nigeria...

SmartPolician:
Nobody should be policing the world. We need peace, fairness, equity and justice

If nobody is policing the world, there would be great lawlessness in the world.

It is good that there are two bi-polar super powers in the world. One can checkmate the other.

If there are multi-polar powers, then be rest assured that there will be WW3 sooner than you expect.

Since the US has blockaded their oil export, the iranian govt have now turn to youtube for content monetization. Hunger bad!

Well, anything for the money!

You people don't see well to be honest.

The happiest is no 3.

For a woman to hold umbrella for you under the rain?? Whereby she will be hanging her hand Omoh! She must have loved you be that.

And the man loves her wife, and wants to help her with the bag. He is a real gentleman.

TheDevilIsALai:
An eyewitness to the massacre, Strategius of St Sabas, was more vivid:

Thereupon the vile Jews… rejoiced exceedingly, because they detested the Christians, and they conceived an evil plan. As of old they bought the Lord from the Jews with silver, so they purchased Christians out of the reservoir… How many souls were slain in the reservoir of Mamilla! How many perished of hunger and thirst! How many priests and monks were massacred by the sword! How many maidens, refusing their abominable outrages, were given over to death by the enemy! How many parents perished on top of their children! How many of the people were brought up by the Jews and butchered, and became confessors of Christ! Who can count the multitude of the corpses of those who were massacred in Jerusalem!’

Strategius estimated the victims of the holocaust at 66,000.

In plain prose, the Jews ransomed the Christians from the hands of the Persian soldiers for good money to slaughter them at Mamilla Pool, ‘and it ran with blood’. Jews massacred between 60,000 and 90,000 Palestinian Christians in Jerusalem alone, almost 1.5 million in today’s values (the total earth’s population was according to the Encyclopaedia Britannica about 300 million, twenty times smaller than today). A few days later, the Persian military understood the magnitude of the massacre and stopped the Jews.

If this story is true, then the jews killed their own brothers who converted to christianity, not some random arabs. This also shatter the lies peddled by you folks that jews never lived in palestine nor in jerusalem.

But some things surprises me greatly...

Why do asian monkeys look like the asians themselves

And

African monkeys look like some africans and their politicians cum presidents??

Elusive001:
Go and rest bros.

Kindly tell how many Christians muslims have killed, raped, kidnapped, forcefully converted to islam, etc.

Tell us how many Christian countries muslims have taken over and the ones Jews have taken over.

No Abrahamic religion that has not committed atrocities.

Jews hated christians, and killed them during the early years of christianity.

Catholics (claiming to be christians) once killed and persecuted jews.

The muslims hated both the jews and the christians, and have killed both jews(in the battle of kabba) and christians.

But my question is this: I thought they said that jews never existed in the present day palestine, that they were land grabbers

Shadowpyper:
I heard the interest will keep adding up even if you pay some money

From my experience, no.

Apart from blogging and youtube, every other thing online in nigeria is scam.

thrillionaire:
This Sowore is a confused human. He's neither here nor there.

What exactly does he want? Who does he support? In his eyes, who is worthy to lead Nigeria?

Or is he covertly working for the disaster called Tiffnubu?

Ask the Hausas the meaning of berebe... You will understand why.

Our people used to say, "i bu usu, ibughi anu elu, ibughi anu ala."

Meaning, "a bat is not an animal of the skies, yet it is not an animal of land."