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Sex, in many ways, is a possession ritual.

Not in the occultic or demonic sense, no—but in a deeply psychological one. It’s an act that grants access—not just to the body, but to the mind. To sleep with someone is to leave an imprint on their psyche, to be etched, however faintly, onto the chalkboard of their memory.

Whether we admit it or not, we remember those who’ve entered us—or whom we’ve entered. It’s why sex is never just sex. It leaves traces. It creates mental loyalties. It forges invisible ties.

This is precisely why a woman often hesitates. Why she withholds. Especially when she meets someone new. She knows what’s at stake. She knows that if she gives in too quickly—and the man is good, really good—then he doesn’t just take her body. He leaves a stamp. He becomes a reference point. A standard. A ghost she might struggle to exorcise.

And men? Men understand this too, even if they don’t admit it out loud. It’s why many of them drown themselves in aphrodisiacs, performance enhancers, and all manner of virility boosters—not necessarily to enjoy the sex, but to perform. To impress. Because deep down, they know that women remember the ones who make them feel most alive between the sheets. The ones who crack something open in them. And once that happens, something shifts—attachments form. Preferences solidify. Decisions follow.

This is also where chastity comes in—not as some archaic religious punishment, but as a guardrail. A mental firewall. When we abstain, we prevent our hearts from building hierarchies of desire—ranking Person A above Person B simply because Person A bleeps better. And whether we like it or not, we do this. All of us. We keep score. We compare. We pine. And then we choose, not based on values or shared futures, but based on who activated the most primal part of us.

It is the reason why a married woman may still ache for a past lover. Why a man may leave a stable home to chase the thrill of a more skilled partner. Because once sex is introduced, objectivity is compromised. Boundaries blur. Soul ties form. Our decisions become less about what makes sense—and more about what makes us feel.

That’s why the ancients outlawed fornication. Not because they were clueless or prudish, but because they understood something our generation scoffs at: that sex, uncontrolled, untethered, ungoverned—leads to confusion. To misaligned unions. To misplaced loyalty. To heartbreaks that feel like spiritual warfare.

The moment we start to fornicate, we stop seeing people for who they are—and start seeing them for what they do to us. And when that becomes the basis of our love, our choices begin to betray us.

Because let’s face it: most of us aren’t choosing from wisdom anymore. We’re choosing from memory. From sensation. From imprint.

And yet, we dare to call it freedom—this drifting from body to body, chasing echoes of pleasure we mistake for connection. But real freedom isn’t in indulgence. It’s in discernment. What we parade today as liberation may, in truth, be the most elegant form of bondage

Adebiyifunmi:
Good morning gurus in the house…Please for those that are in UK already,can I carry raw rice when travelling…I already packed it inside my luggage and a friend told me it is not allowed

ThierryJay:
Mmeli has strong resemblance with DMX and Gaetano (BBA 1)

victorVIC1:
Please what intake are you referring to?

IFSHR:
It may just be the school is not yet giving offer...I applied to 10schools and I have gotten positive response from 5, without using any agents...some schools are still dealing with some Jan and Feb set.

jorez:
What is you graduation grade? sometimes schools give priority with people with higher grades first

duncanmighty:
7 days later? Some people seem to be lucky here . I have applied to over6 different schools since close to 2 months now, and I haven't heard a word from any.

May i ask which you you applied to pls?

dduchess90:
Hello


Not necessarily but always prepare

As a genuine student you shouldn't be worried about this.

Cheers

indomitableoba:
It's not a random selection, it's based on your study gap.
The interview is to confirm if you're really going for studies the number of student abandoning studies and jumping over to skilled worker's visa is increasing. They're trying to curb it according to a report I read.

ezenwaez:
You will be paid soon.

Baggiomarrio:
Please guys stay away from micro finance bank o.. I have seen 2 refused applications today because bank did not respond to emails.. and does people dat has almost expired tb test result some one just got his application refused because of it ... please be safe

Sulegee:
Can someone list schools that might be available for either January or February entry pls? Really urgent. I just got rejected after paying deposit and doing preCas interview for university of East London

Phil46:
Thanks for your response. But does that mean they won't count 15th with it?

Phil46:
Morning Guys,
Please, help me out on this o, because my confusion is confused right now.

Is 15th October to 11th November up to 28 days?

That's what I used for my application. But for like 2 days now I've been doubting if my calculation was right or wrong. Abeg help me reason am guys.

Ocool:
Gurus in the house, I'm still expecting your response to this o.

Please, help a brother.

Babamonsura:
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