Despite your law degree, your lies are so easy to spot from a thousand miles. Not everyone is gullible, so please spare us the general public these lies. You claim to have been scared and under duress, yet it took you 2 long hours before you agreed to open the cheque. If you were really a hostage and under duress, and you didn't wanna do the online transfer for him, you would have atleast opened the cheque within the first 10mins he entered your office and demanded it of you. And if he didn't let you go after you opened the cheque, then it'd have been a totally different thing. But you didn't, and if this is the case, i believe he couldn't have cut-off your CCTV monitor, you did that yourself, deliberately tampering with evidence. From your story, one would think you're a saint, but your whole story is FALSE. You're a liar and a very bad man

I traveled out, i saw things, my mind became exposed and i developed. I read through all your reasons and when your mind has developed beyond it's current state, you'll think differently too. I'll give an example and you may even relate that with your post. I used to hate and be scared of girls who put on chains on their ankles or waist, i used to think they were either prostitutes or marine spirits. But i went to India and then to the Arab world and it was a norm for them, just something for beauty and affluence. Before coming home, I bought a silver ankle chain for my girlfriend, hehehe. Now another dude may see her and say she's an olosho or marine spirit, i don't care though. But i believe maybe you catch my drift, peace.

Really many Nigerians nor just get sense sha. You see one of your own being beaten and the first thing you look at is the shape of head and other rubbish. If it were someone you knew personally, you'd be crying injustice for the world to hear. but now its someone else's son, brother, friend and it doesn't prick your conscience.
is it confirmed he's a thief? how many times have innocent people being wrongly accused by other people and even by the NPF?
and for those saying worse could have happened to him in Nigeria, jungle justice has been condemned even in Nigeria and other places in the world. When you see something wrong, condemn it. let's follow due process and respect the rule of law. A thief is to be tried by a judge in a competent court of law and not after he's been beaten and most of his bones broken.

We must learn to see ourselves in each other and feel each other's pains as though it were our's. Maybe then, the world can start to be a better place. PEACE

some folks be saying i pity you and shit. the op wrote not only out of his own reasoning but with facts to back it up as well. some poor folks and girls that have only hope, don't even have a job be saying; "i pity you". i don't intend to get married on a 35k monthly salary. but the op did good with his analysis. thumbs up @op, some ppl never see life.

i like this. dude is handsome too

OP u know ur mom and gf better than all of us here. u need to first determine the reason ur mom didn't approve of ur girl. could it be tribal, caste, religious, moral, spiritual or perhaps they even knew before you introduced them(no one truly knows, maybe even you).
Behind every successful man is a woman(his wife). if you've been with this girl 9 years, probability is that you guys will have a happy and blessed marriage. Marriage is an institution and its for the rest of your life.
My decisions and choices are respected in my family and i'm also stubborn, but i won't just get married to my girl without my mom's approval. Plus my mom already knows my girl, but once it gets to marriage, i know she'll turn detective then. so get to the bottom of the issue immediately. your mom is still a woman, after some small small petting and begging, she must change her mind or at least make a shift. But leaving the girl because your mom doesn't approve, is a no no.
There's nothing worse than getting married to the wrong woman. Peace bro

If she's playing too hard to get for you, it's good sign that she might not be interested. Stop wasting your time on her. That same girl is easy to get for another dude somewhere..

Word to the wise

Why he con dey vex. someone can not ask him how he made his money again? Na Wah O

If na clean hand u take get am, then i'm more than happy for you. congrats bro

thnx bro, currently researching into this. i discovered something though. i dont think ppl really knw d diffrence btw d archachatina marginata and the achatina achatina. still researching till now, so pls if u come up with anything before me lemme knw. i'll be sure to post back when i get something useful, buh 4 now its peace bro