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@Londoner, i think you still don't understand fully.

@ Genuine, maybe I mistook what you were describing. It sounded to me that you had nothing to end with the Naija girl, she kept telling you no for two years according to you.

She didnt say NO, she just kept giving silly excuses about going into a relationship.

I think is unfounded because from what you described, the Naija girl told you she liked you but didn't believe you were being honest about your single status.

Another one of her silly excuses at the time, trust me, she doesnt even mention anything like that right now.

Come on, tell the truth, in all those two years you haven't been seeing anyone else, even though you were not in a relationship with the Naija girl? I don't know if I would believe that either, lol

Like i said earlier, some of us are still good out there. Even she is now a strong believer.

One word of advice. You never really know someone ,  until you seen their good bad and ugly side, trust me everyone has all three sides in differing degrees. Dont let the fact that a woman is not Nigerian make you think that she only has a good side, she's still human and two months is still within the "honeymoon" phase for most budding relationships. At that  point, we all put our best foot forward.

Thanks for the advice, but when you see the true affection, you can recognize it from miles away. Unfortunately i was beside this Nigerian for 2yrs and still feel she hid her good side away from me because over the past few days i've seen a different her.

oziomatv:
the guy is more confused than his advocate soprano.

Stop being a nuissance

@Londoner:
I dont think u understand, i like to end anything with any girl before i go into another. I only informed the Nigerian that i had found someone else and i was moving on because i know she will probably come later to say that i wasted her time for 2yrs when there was nothing between us and she was the one delaying.
It was at this stage that she suddenly started feeling love for me. I think i've "dithered and delayed" a bit over it because she indeed was my attraction for years, she never really said NO but just kept saying she's not ready for a relationship, or lets just be friends, or she's still thinking about it, or another funny talk. All these until she heard i was moving on with someone else.

why do our girls just dither and delay for so long with their initial gragra sef? Now my mobile is being bombarded by both girls.

@Soprano:

Thanks for the advice, it is logical to shun the Nigerain chic but e no easy oh, she has become a one-woman-riot-squad! My mobile is having a tough time, and she has started campaigning to my family that i want to give up on her for a foreigner
Yesterday was not easy between my mum and me, today my elder brothers are arranging a meeting and i see trouble in the air

D-reloaded:
Oya, come and beat me now, isnt it NUMBIAN sef

Look at this bloody liar

One min it's "she's sexy than the other one" now it's just "finer face"

My friend, sharrap

Also quit being so corny. d-reloaded now overloaded. Ugh. maybe that's why the other one was so rude because you're so damn lame. Bloody cornball.

Okay, i give up, i'm not the type to fight so pls i no fit beat u, i no even sabi where u dey but make we just forget this our fight abeg.
I understand your contribution well, and i appreciate it too.

Let's go back to the topic.

Thanks

D-reloaded:
despite being "short and stout", even your own stupid mouth confessed that your Nambian chic isnt nearly as sexy as the "mean" Nigerian girls

so please comot from my face. After he marries her now, he will come back to Nairaland looking for Sexy Naija girls to cheat with,

Oloshi 

Oh dearie, u should see the namibian, she's very tall and pretty, and her figure is the bomb! and oh, she's a nurse so she knows whats up - financially and sexually
The Nigerian only has a finer face, and look at u talking about coming back to look for a Nigerian chic to cheat with? Well sorry to burst your bubble, there are still a few loyal men out there - chasing one girl for 2yrs doesnt strike me as one of the qualities of a cheat! You are probably saying all that about nigerian chics because you know they are pretty cheap and easy to buy out lol!

@Debosky
I'm a huge fan!
How are u today? Good to hear you tell a few home truths about the nigerian girl, but "overloaded" has already given me sufficient reason to run away from the nigerian girl because they sound very alike

And by the way, @"overloaded", learn to spell "Namibian" correctly, please

Na short short people dey too vex like this
I can see how short and stout you are, no vex for my head abeg carry your anguish to God

No be only reloaded, u for kuku answer overloaded make we know say u don land

D-reloaded:
or what will you do?

beat me? Rofl

abeg choose your Nambian chick and make we hear word like anyone cares about what you can't stand about Nigerian chicks. My friend, we don't.

No be me go do you, na the man wey go finally marry your type i dey pity.

D-reloaded:
spoilt, the point of this thread is for the OP to say "I think Nambian girls are better thjan Nigverian ones because they are respectful and blah blah blah"

There's no more to it unless of course we are truly to believe that a 30 yr old would actually register onto a forum just to ask such a pitiful question. Pleasde tell me it's the former

Now thats exactly why i can't stand the Nigerian, it feels like a plague or something she just snaps and this girl has just snapped in the same manner just when something appears to be important to someone. What has age got to do with it? I joined the thread simply to ask that question because of the importance to me, but before now, i have always visited as a guest and gone through what people were doing.

You call it a pitiful question, thats your view, do not impose your opinion on anyone and if you don't have any useful contribution then move on and stop being such a naughty little "Nigerian" girl

londoner:
The fact that you met the Namibian girl who ticks all boxes on paper, BUT STILL HAD THE NAIJA GIRL ON YOUR MIND tell me that you want the Naija girl, even though the other girl may be better for you ( or so you think, you've known her for two months, two years down the line, when you've seen her not so pleasant side which EVERYONE has) then you will be able to see the person for who they are.

Have you considered that you are attracted a woman you have to chase and not one who is too keen for you to ask her out? If the Naija girl thinks you are a player and you talk like one, why would she be romantic toward you? Would you want and respect her if you thought she was a female player?

As far as the criticisms of Nigerian women, I mean look how many so called "foreign women" come here crying about what some heartless Naija man has done to them. People complain about our men MORE than the women.

So should some of you are throwing stones, while in glass houses.

Abeg oh, this has to stop oh!
This is not a battle of supremacy between men and women!
I would like everyone to focus on the topic and help out with your opinions, i welcome all positive responses

Interesting to see how much split decision and controversy have clouded the response i've got so far from everyone who has participated.
The guy who spoke about marriage mode made serious sense to me, but all those who said the Nigerian chicks are not very sincere also made serious sense.

Its a difficult one but i have to choose a route, can anyone suggest a plan to catch them unawares? Like a test of sincerity and trust?

There are 2 girls in my life because i have not made a choice yet. The Namibian is where my heart is but my brain says she is a foreigner and the fight with family can be fierce. The nigerian is the one my brain is recommending but i'm not sure she will be anything close to what the Namibian would have been.

Its hard to choose without feeling guilty about hurting someone

I'm a Nigerian man in his early 30's and I need help right now: I've got 2 girls in my life.

Meet Girl (A):

Nigerian Girl of 26yrs. Intelligent, quite caring, very good at cooking Nigerian dishes, very sexy looking (though not romantic), but also very stubborn - has very little respect for a guy. I've been on this girls's case for like nearly 2yrs now, pleading with her to date me and let's move on from there. The impression she always gave me was she liked me alot but had reservations because i look and talk like a player. She doesnt believe I could seriously tell her i'm single and expect her to believe me - her perception of me is an intelligent, good looking, hard working young man who doesnt have a problems - and those sort of men cant claim to be single.

Meet Girl (B)

Namibian Girl of 25yrs. Intelligent, extremely caring, very good at cooking Namibian dishes but happy to learn how to cook Nigerian dishes too, not as sexy looking as the Nigerian but extremely romantic, very respectful and always mindful of offending me. I got introduced to her about 2 months ago and we've been in touch since then. She percieves me to be her perfect match and is very keen to date me - all i need to do is ask.

I know some people are wondering where the problem lies - well, the problem is I was going to ask the Namibian girl out but decided to tell the Nigerian girl about it before moving on. I wasnt sure it was the best of decisions to tell her about it but i decided to let her know before she comes up with some accusations - as they normally do nowadays. Her reaction was swift and sleek! All of a sudden she's interested, she says she's always been interested but only wanted to be sure i was for real - now she is convinced i'm for real.
I would gladly date her if i had not met this Namibian, she is exceptionally different from the normal Nigerian girl, she's all i think of and its giving me a funny feeling of guilt when ever i remember the Nigerian one. On the flip side however, it would be really difficult to get my family to accept a foreigner as a potential wife, that is going to take alot of energy.

I'm on serious parole

I've gotta get some on val's

Ex Boyfriend must've whooped that ass like it was hot

The girl proly just woke up to the sad reality that she was with someone who could not perform

I aint blind but trust me, after reading the entire thread i still don't see what the problem is.
She played a game? For GOD's sake that 'game' was not a funny game!!! She was even lucky the guy decided to just play along, there are guys who will settle the balance sheet straight away!!!

When girls feel they are clever and want to start showing it off, then they should also analyze what they stand to lose, they have to make sure they're smarter than who they want to show this wisdom off to, and finally, they have to make sure they don't come off worse.

If a girl tells me she's done with me, i'll say BYE-BYE.

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windywendy:
Hmmm, me na "after-thought" abi? If I see your email ehn, I go just delete am sharp sharp  

Abeg no vex. You know say, among the rest, you are relatively quiet. I followed this thread religiously for almost a yr before registering today but you are always intermittent. . .  e be like say you sabi take holidays of like 2 weeks or more

But you are not an after thought oh.

Ehen, abeg make una send me una emails Easi, wanajo, fatherof2, wendywendy and roughcut. I enjoy your analysis and i also think we can establish an invincible rapport that focuses on better ways to invest with more likelihood of capital appreciation and reduced risks.

I asked a question earlier about how this consolidation of insurance companies will affect those who have bought their shares and somebody said it will bring more money to investors.
Can someone please explain how it will bring more money to investors when proshareng are advising people to stay away and stop all transactions with those 7 companies.

Naijasoil at gmail dot com, abeg, i'd like to keep in touch with people wey sabi. . .  Especially Easi, Wanajo, roughcut and Fo2!

oh and wendy oh!

Can somebody explain the effects of the insurance companies consolidation, especially for thos who have a huge holding in their shares?