₦airaland Forum

meum:
A very weak response(clap back) in defense of bread baking by an institution of higher learning


I understand they want to make money but it’s not an achievement worthy of commendation by an institution of higher learning

Nigerians must criticise anything and everything. FUTA has been making and selling bread for the past 15 years

I guess they are taking back their country as promised. Bunch of hypocritical intolerant

Youngpaperboy:
#760,000 and stll never recover the money up till now walahi

Chai! This is a large amount of money to lose just like that!

uuzba:
If you do a transfer at an ATM it sometimes shows the name and other times no name .
So it's very possible to make the error.

I'm always extra careful and check it again if atm doesn’t display name of the account holder

Epositive:
No, but I have recharged a wrong number #200 airtime, it was misplacement of number. I used USSD I let it go because it was a small amount. Recently, I mistakenly recharged my cousin #1000 because his number was the last on my Opay. I forgot to switch to mine. He paid me my money in full Sha. I worry am no be small.

I mistakenly recharged someone account N500 and N200 on the spot. I later discovered that I pressed a wrong digit. Never get my money back despite contacting him on WhatsApp

Keziehenry:
Please share your experience.

Yes.
I wanted to transfer 25k from someone's account to my first bank account. The person gave me his small phone to use USSD and I mistakenly interchanged two digits. I didn't scroll down to see the name of the account because I was confident. I entered the pin and money sent. Few hours later, I didn't receive alert. We crosschecked and discovered that the money had gone into wrong account.
To cut the story short, the receiver, an igbo man clergy returned my money that day or the following day.
I still have my chats with him on messenger.

And money was wrongly transferred to me twice which I returned to the senders after their account numbers were sent to me. Long story

IfnobeGod20:
If he thinks the votes were rigged, he party should go to tribunal and prove it. For now he is saying rubbish because even a political novice knows that APC cannot fare well in south east. Even Tinubu himself knows. During APC presidential primary, Tinubu never went to south east. How many visit did he made to south east during presidential campaign? He knows from his inner mind that they won't vote him.

He went to the south east states while campaigning for the party ticket.
And during the campaign for general election, how many times was he supposed to visit each state in the south east?

TheGoodJoe:
In my unit in Port Harcourt, accredited voters, 55. Peter Obi got 53 votes. While Tinubu got one and Atiku got one. Then think of what happened in Anambra.

The same thing happened to Obi in the North, yet he and his zombies are crying that the election was rigged, lol.

rickleye:
So ... It's a subset of him -not being romantic.!
You are correct that social media and Tele-vision which is someone's vision of how things should be imprinted on our minds via the telly has played a factor.
Yet, the cravings of piercings, tattoos, leg chains etc are outward beauty accessories which cry of
" I want to be seen ; I want to be appreciated " " I am still a babe also ; I still have it " when your husband comes home and doesn't recognize a new hairstyle , or tight jeans flaunting her figure , she "dies a little ". or doesn't compliment her as woman, his wife. Being married shouldn't be the dearth of all things sweet, lovely and romantic. IMO

I do hope that you are right and that this is what it is all about.

starlingbawa:
What's the BIG DEAL about the comment? I'm more worried about the fact that soon Nigerians may need to pay 750 for a litre of gasoline. You should too!

Lol. I don’t trust Buhari not to attempt it because we don't even know who he is anymore. But the incoming president can't take that path. Yaradua once reversed the petrol price increment, it can still happen again

Samantha124:
Ah ah!!! Don't say you guys because where I'm from our men encourage us to make our own legit money.

You guys are the ones who corrupted your women by making them believe that there's no love without money, and you still try to do the same thing when you travel to other countries.

You Nigerian men are your own problem, but your ego won't let you see it.

Okay, you're not in Nigeria. But wherever you are, it is not your men encouraging you to make your own money, it is the culture and mentality. You don't have options than to work for your own money. Here in Nigeria, the culture and mentality of our ladies is totally different.

I've seen a good number of unemployed men or men with low paying jobs building families with women who have good paying jobs .

I'm not sure you are referring to Nigeria situation. But if you are, there are few exceptions to every rule. An average Nigerian guy without loaded pockets is prone to a series of rejection. We have all been there.

Ayopercent:
Sope oti lo😂

Geovanni412:
Run DNA test for ya children.

I get sth we wan check - the transformation is too sudden.

But I dey fear you guys on Nairaland o. Most comments would make you laugh because it look like jokes or comedies but there is always elements of truth in it.

ZIMDRILL:
why worry about things that havent happened, than focus on things thats have been said

Time doesnt matter 10 years or not, definately she has been either putting up with it or may be busy making hubby happy than also focusing on her own needs

Have every heard of women pretending, eg faking orgasm ? its becoz they put up with it

Do you realise that the first 5 years of marriage, is run by what one really wished (dream marriage) for before they got married than actually understanding your wife/hubby

You would be wanting your wife/hubby to be the perfect hubby/wife you have in your heard as time goes by to start to learn who your wife/hubby is really is

Thats the reason sometime husbands fight with wives, or vice versa each partner is saying my wife should be like this/my hubby should be like this, we tend to like to change them for the person we have in our minds than accepting who they really are

Three kids in this Nigerian economy with two adults to feed and cater for, but the issue is the husband not being romantic? Lol.
Must we kill ourselves to make someone happy? Someone who is just looking for a flimsy excuse to do what she's determined to do!
BTW: why ignoring? Something is fueling that cravings, right? But we must pretend like it is not there? Okay.

Samantha124:
Maybe you used money to woo her, isn't that how you Nigerian guys woo ladies? By using money?

She might've fallen for it hoping that you're this romantic guy, only to find out that you're not.
B

The last time I checked, that's the only language many Nigerian ladies understand. We have seen how you guys responded to men who try to date you but lack money.
Go and ask random dudes out there who don't have money how their relationship life with their girlfriends is? It is rejection after rejection. You too would have seen it on Facebook week in, week out how your gender see relationship with men.

wanimo:
I mentioned no names, no states and no regions. I wonder why you feel that I'm throwing a jab...at who exactly? Unless you are have a feeling of guilt somewhere deep inside of you.

I'm just saying, you're not informed!

ZIMDRILL:
Really, do you really need to invite her family for a simple thing like this ?

1 why always call family when you can directly talk to hubby or wife? lets be wise to be able to sort problems before anyone

2 the maturity is that she has talk directly of areas hubby next to improve

3 lets not be biased by gender hubby can say the same eg wife wearing those fully covering dress that hides the curves of a woman, wife can nolonget look sexy in those clothes hubby can say the same to wife to dress better

The way this issue is going, it is not simple anymore. The relationship might be heading towards the rock going by what want the wife is saying and wants

ZIMDRILL:
remember we are just sharing our point of views as individual, to you that how you solve that issue, to me i got a different approach

like i said getting a new wife, wont solve hiis issue if he is really unromantic

He needs a self reflection eg by asking wife the specific thats the wife view as not being romantic and he reflects on it and
see if he willing to change

in simple terms both can chat on things that each other think are lacking each other's sife

Telling her husband that he's not romantic after 10 years of marriage! As if that's not enough, now she wants to pierce, get ankle chains, get tattoos and so on. How does these things related to her husband not being romantic?

rickleye:
Haha, it’s called midlife crisis.

Just tell her she is right and start the dating process again.
Many of us think our wives are like our mothers . Marry and keep for home. The game is changing bro. I am sure she has a friend on WhatsApp with whom she has discussed this with already.

1. Plan a date nite every week . Go catch a flick and have someone watch the kids.
2. Do something together with the family once a month. Go to Olumo Rock and Beach . A family outing .
3. Don’t forget her birthday make it exciting ( get her flowers or money - depending on her love language)
4. Make an effort to show PDA infront of the kids. Steal a kiss 💋, slap her buttocks , call her sexy mamacita or siren.
5. Make sex impromptu. After coitus , ask would like a glass of water or wine to relax ( she will laugh and say , thank you yes or no )
6. If you are just Spooning dude , change into missionary or doggy . ( now sex and love are not the same) . Massage and ask her where she may want to be touched to excite her …

Make the effort !!! You might not be comfortable doing any of the above but as you mentioned it appears she never “ lived “ done anything she wanted to do . Her first born is 10.
And it’s been mummy this , mummy that !

I would give her the leg chain *

Don’t ignore her warnings or else someone else will fill the void.

Rokiat:
Maybe you are actually not romantic but you can change that if you want.

Just a simple
Question, if I was to ask you what your wife love language was do you know it?


Now for your wife, wanting to get a tattoo etc just have a talk with her if that is something you are against.

Also ask her what she means by you not being romantic. Ask her what are things she considered romantic and start implementing those in your relationship. People make relationship harder than it is really.

There was no need to even come online with this, you could have simply have a conversation with her and fix things but your male ego got hurt because she called you unromantic so now you came online and highlight some bad things she’s considering doing just so we can now bad mouth her for those and deflect the attention from on you thereby stroking your own ego.


That is not how marriage work my gee you have to put your ego aside if you want to make it work.


Many people married young when they have no clue even what marriage is all about and what they even really want and then enter their 30s and start questioning all their decisions.


Because the 30s
Is when you truly know who you are and what you really want.

Good advice and long stories at the same time. But the truth is that, if she is determined to explore and see what is outside her marriage, no romantic gestures from her husband can stop her.
Telling her husband that he's not romantic is just an excuse to do what is on her mind. We can't ignore the fact that she married very early and we all know the possible outcome of this for women.
At the same time, we can't ignore the effects of social media and the kinds of people and things she might be exposing to online.
She wants piercings (could it be nose, ears or somewhere more private?), tattoos, leg chains, waist beads! Is all these new cravings is as a result of the husband not being romantic too?

mortalincarnate:
If you’re part of this then nothing will save you, I repeat nothing will save you… You take that to the banks

Not everything is karma or judgement. Accidents happens all the time.

Amotolongbo:
One would wonder why Ekweremandu didn’t patronise the hospital with his daughter instead of the London Hospital

You know why

AsaBlackheart:
Kidney transplant is a fairly routine operation though.
Just 11 in four years? Meh

Problem of compatible donors and money

wanimo:
The land of the rising sun.

While they running a government of agberos and hatred in their region, igbos are gradually putting things together to become self sufficient in a few years time.

With this awareness on Nairaland, I can guarantee you that by the end of this year they would be running kidney transplants in that hospital on a weekly basis.

Medical tourism to Igbo land

Lol. I guess you didn't even know before that a lot of teaching hospitals in Nigeria are carrying out kidney transplants successfully including some private hospitals . Your lack of awareness is the only reason throwing jabs here.

purples25:
Some mother in laws want to prove to the wife that they are the first love of their son.

Some sons also want only their mom in top position, while wife's relatives have no strong hand or say. It's not just a woman's thing.

Omo.

Aunty didn't even address the issue at hand. Aunty was saying something completely different

Joshcoli:
I had a similar experience where I wanted to bring my cousin to live with us, but my wife objected. Despite her objections, I brought my cousin to stay with us and he was a hardworking and diligent person who even helped my children with their reading habits. However, my wife still disliked him and gave him numerous errands to do, even going as far as to prohibit him from using the washing machine. I had to intervene and insist that he should be allowed to use the machine, but my wife became angry with me. Eventually, I had to send my cousin back to the village after almost two years of living with us.

Later, when my wife's brother needed a place to stay, she tried to guilt me into letting him stay with us, but I refused and warned her not to try to bring anyone else into our home. I told her to do the work herself since she had let her dislike of my cousin blind her to the good work he was doing for us. In the end, I walked away from the situation.

In conclusion, I suggest that the person who posted the original message should stand their ground and not allow their wife to bring in her mother after rejecting their mother. They should not feel bad about their mother's death, as death is a natural part of life. They should treat their wife in the same way that she treated them and not feel any remorse about it.

Op: Their! Their!! Their!!! That's for non binary gender. Op is he, not their.

donaldchidi:
My brother, I saying parents should not stay more than necessary no mean u should not take care of them and is not a must that is only in ur huz ur parents must be taken care of...
Besides I don't think your married yet to know what am saying Sha but anyhow very soon you will

He's right, not all parents are troublesome. And the man must know how to be in charge and not like the s!mp we have here as Op. 11 years and counting that my wife and my mother had been living together

GreyLaw:
That boy obviously lied, but here in the UK thsse guys don't joke with such things. If you come with your kid to my hospital and I see that he has some questionable injuries I am mandated to report you without your notice.

That boy has attracted a huge curse on himself and his lineage for what he has done. I don't think he was deceived. He lied about his age. He lied about everything else. And now they will also grant him asylum in the UK because he'll say he fears for his life in Nigeria. But has he escaped? No, never!

For being saved from being used as disposable? Where are the primitive people like you coming from? Go and donate one of your mother's kidneys now

highchief1:
their own daughter is now like a curse to them.may we never regret having kids. Even after the jail term he is crippled forever.It’s quite unfortunate.

Stop blaming the daughter. They have other kids which they couldn't persuade to donate a Kidney instead of looking for disposable. They could have simply done the transplant here in Nigeria after getting their disposable but instead decided to export their lawlessness and wickedness.

That boy is a wicked boy he won’t end well.

That God saved him from being exploited by moneybags who saw the opportunity to capitalise on poverty they created? He's already ending well, idiot.
He wouldn't have ended well if their plan to exploit him had succeeded. Can that kid maintain one kidney?

mortalincarnate:
This is just the beginning

Lol. Dying through the road accident is now some sort of judgement or karma? If you know how many Nigerians die on daily basis through the road accidents, you wouldn't be displaying your ignorance here.

maasoap:
But Space Karen is busy fighting everyone.

Musk did gra gra, now he don collect. Even on his poll he created on twitter, majority of the twitter users asked him to step down.

AAbuja:
glad you found your soulmate.
Good afternoon sir, how has it been?

I just read this since June. Thanks. It has been good so far. Hope there is something solid going on now with someone special now?

thatgirl504:
dominique, rocktation justwise Nlfpmod, GetMeRight is the same person as Moh247. Rule number 19

Mods are not as dumb as you, individual's phone has unique IP. My moniker is probably older than Moh247