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Some of the guys in this thread are perfect examples of why we need feminism.
I'm hearing people talk as though the woman is crazy for hitting him, but the man is strong for hitting her. Very few are saying that domestic violence is wrong. No matter who is giving or receiving
If you slap her back, it shows weakness as a man. it might lead to fight and it is good for you
If you let go, it shows strength and her concise will judge her. She will sure come back to beg you for forgiveness.
Learn not to beat a woman no matter what, it will help you in your home later.
It's dangerous to tell men not to slap women because if they do they are weak.
What happens when the man doesn't care about being weak? What if he doesn't care about his home? What is she doesn't apologise and he gets even more angry?
Don't attack people. Full stop. Man, woman, intersex, child, nobody should go out of their way to hurt others.
No the existence of "trans people totally reinforces the male/female binary. Afterall, trans people are either transitioning to one or the other are'nt they?
Nothing to address; human beings that don't "work that way", are not working properly. That says nothing about how we treat or manage that working, but it is too accept it for what it is.
And why are you ranting on an oldish thread?
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Wait. So you can reply to me on an oldish thread...but I shouldn't talk on one. Na wa.
And apparently human beings that are complex are not working properly. Did you actually think about what you said? Or is discriminating against people so important that you managed to forget that one of the constant things in nature is change. And that humans are complex, varied beings.
There are trans nonbinary people. And trans people who transition to another gender but still remain feminie or masculine, depending on how they feel. Don't talk what you don't know. The existence of trans, intersex and nonbinary people proves that gender is not the rigid, unbreakable two way street that a lot of people wish it was.
And it's just a short video, nothing in-depth, but you can watch this is you want to have an idea of what I'm talking about:
So now saying that you have to make sure your partner is interested before having sex is unsexy? Wtf is unsexy about having your babe go 'god yes' in response to 'can I kiss you?" Or "f*ck you're really turning me on" or hell, "I brought condoms". How uncreative can people get?
also, active consent doesn't just fall on guy's shoulders. Lesbians exist, as do gay men and bisexuals, and Hot women. All that good stuff.
Lol as if race is just colour. What foolishness. The existence of trans people does not enforce the gender binary, it dismantles it. Do you even know what transgender, gender, sex, karyotype, chromosomes, genetic variation, race, social construct, hormones, v agina, testicles, uterus and ovaries mean?
I'm tired of people assuming life is as simple as they wish it was and trying to force that view onto others by using out dated baby logic, instead of just reading a book and entering the 21st century already.
You still haven't addressed intersex people and the trans person you just made up to make yourself feel better isn't even close to an actual trans person's experience.
It's telling, how all but 1 (who was LGBTQIA himself) anti-feminist I've ever met has been hateful towards LGBTQIA people, simply because they remind them that HUMAN BEINGS DON'T WORK THAT WAY. They are complex, always have been, always will be. You can make your assumptions, but they will almost always turn out wrong.
stop pretending that there arer no man-haters among feminists. Infact, with most real sexism against women gone, anyone who identifies herself as feminist today is probably a man hater or has a problem somewhere only she can tell and explain but others can also figure out.
People have strong reasons to be against feminism. The reasons i have against feminism, which many other people share with me too (i am going to be starting threads talking about what's wrong with feminism from other women's view. I am also going to be starting threads of feminist's response to those critics so as to achieve a balance and fair minded people can make better judgement), are not along those lines you mentioned. They are real!
I just said that yeah, there are man haters among feminists. They're usually called TERFs. Feminism is not a hive mind, for god's sake. A large group of people coming together under one name, no sh*t we'll have a*holes. What I like about feminists is that we (for the most part) can acknowledge the a-holes, that we call them out and openly disagree with them. We know how to fix the issues within our own movement, and the people screeching 'AHA SEEEEEE. I TOLD YOU THEY WERE ALL CRAIIIIZY' while doing absolutely nothing ti help just piss us off. Obviously, I can't speak for all feminist, esp. because there is not one kind of feminism, but the only one that I think matters is intersectional feminism.
"My feminism will be intersectional or it will be bullsh*t"
gender, which referes to the role associated with a sex, may be a social construct, but that doesn't mean that it is not constructed on inherent nature.
Building and insfrastructures are engineering constructs. But they are built based on inherent laws of nature and geometry which are very very fundamental and independent of human influence.
It is exactly the same with gender! If you want to insist that gender is a social construct, and therefore become confident that that assertion of yours is intellectually superior to all known and yet to come counter arguements, then you might want to have a rethink.
Gender may be a social construct, but it is built, for the most part, on inherent nature. When we say boys should be more into those chores that require more energy, then it is because he is naturally more suited for the job, no arguements there. If we say the boy should go hunting, then it is because we know via our knowledge of evolution that he is dispensible therefore making his loss less injurious to the specie. This is our burden as men and there is nothing anyone can do about it! The interesting thing about nature is...it makes us even want, aspire and crave for that which puts bursen on us. Despite the risks and burden the male role places on him, he still craves it and is inclined to it. It is the same with the woman. We hear women shout so much about pains of childbirth. Yet, "you will never know the pains of childbirth", is one of the biggest insults you can ever insult a woman. She will hate you for life!
If we say the woman is the primary care giver of children and therefore, she should be more into 'caring' roles, then it is because we know via our knowledge of the human brain that her left hemisphere, which is the seat of the affective domain, is more responsive than the right hemisphere. She also has the hormones to back it up!
Infact, we did not force anyone, man or woman into any kind of gender roles pe se; the roles they assume will be their natural behaviour if they were left to behave freely. We already have enough life experience and statistics to back that up.
I'm not talking about engineering, neither am I talking about biological differences, or peopld who are happy with their gender roles.
Building constructs =/= Social constructs.
'If I want to insist' I would gather and post links to about 30 different websites, articles, books, videos and professionals who have examined gender and race and decided that they are both social constructs, but I've done that twice today, and they will probably go unread.
Read up, thoroughly, on what a social construct is, because I think the issue here is a serious lack of 101 knowledge. Let's link this to race. Black skin exists right? So do big butts and flat noses, right? Yeah, no 9ne is saying that they don't. What is ridiculous, is the amount of worth and value we put on those attributes. Some believe they signify stupidity, laziness, mad basketball skillz, etc. THERE WAS EVEN SCIENTIFIC STUDIES DONE TO PROVE THAT PEOPLE OF AFRICAN DESCENT WERE INFERIOR.
Obviously, all these traits exist biologically, but the way they are racialised, the way peopld react to these traits on different, lighter body types, is very much social.
That is a social construct. Unlike in engineering where these layouts are NECESSSARY, labelling someone a criminal bc of their skin tone is NOT necessary. And if you think they are...oh boy.
Biological difference in hormones, phenotypes, karotypes, chromosomes and genitals all exist. But the values we place on them and the personal things we assume about people because of them are very much social.
When you look at someone, you have no idea if there's testosterone in them, or oestrogen, or neither. You don't know if they are XY or XX or XXY, you don't know about their genitals and you won't ask because wtf? that's weird as hell. Lol
you look for social markers like a skirt, or boring navy mens clothing (wtf is up with that though? I'd kill for some funky men's coats), or their haircut, or the way they present themselves. You're also look for visible biological stuff, like boobs, or curves or rock hard abs or something. Then you make your assumption. Fair enough. Humans like to simplify things.
But an assumption is still an assumption, and you could end up dead wrong. The person might get mad at you, they might feel scared and unsafe and let you go on, they might feel awkward and pull you aside after to talk, whatever. The point is, you can't sit there going, "UM, XCUUUUUSE ME, BUT YOU ARE WRONG AND I KNOW YOU BETTER THAN YOU KNOW YOURSELF AND HERE IS WHY" because they will hate you forever, you can however, just go "oh, I'm sorry", and carry on with your life, unscathed by life's complexity (like a champion).
I don't actually care about people who LIKE to fit the mould, I'm worried about those who feel forced or coerced to, and those who CAN'T like transgender and intersex people. People like to conform, we all know that. When given an easier choice, a lot of people will take it. But I don't want a young generation of Nigerians growing up thinking they HAVE to fit the mould or they will get hurt and apparently DESERVE to get hurt, or that nobody will love them, or that God will f*ck them up. We don't need that. We need confident young people, who can be themselves and who are guided, not by fear of eternal suffering, or prejudice, or social stigma, but by an aversion to hurting others.
You haven't even addressed masculine women, and feminine men and what happens to them when people continue to view them as sub-standard rather than non-standard. (Hint: it usually involves violence, nd/or threats of violence).
Love how you people always think that everybody is biased EXCEPT YOU. HEAVENS NOT YOU.
craziebone: Exactly why feminism is gaining evil reputation as the day goes on.
Don't agree with them or you express a contrary opinion then you are shown the way to the gallows. What an attitude from feminists.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I haven't had that experience, at least not from intersectional feminists. (TERFs tend to be a*holes, so I avoid them like the plague)
I also think that a lot of people mistake feminist's anger at SEXISM for anger at THEM, which probably explains why some anti-fems call people like Laci Green a 'man-hater', 'feminazi' and other rubbish. I doubt you would do this, but sometimes when someone expresses a 'contrary' opinion on feminism to me, it's usually along the lines of 'women are ""crazy""', 'lesbians are hot, but gay men and asexuals should be killed', 'so what if a b*tch gets herself raped? Why shouldn't I blame her mini-skirt?'...and so on, ad infinitum.
At some point, you just stop giving a sh*t about those kinds of people, and you let them know it.
Gentleman, I think you are getting your conclusions wrong. Things are not that bad in Nigeria like you presume. At least we are better off than the Syrians as well as many other African countries. Alot of people are better off in this country and despite the 'badness', are living happily and in freedom. I wonder why you think that 1 day living indoors like a vampire or constantly wary of security agents can beat a day of hustling in Lagos. If all you hear and believe about Nigeria are the negatives and you are an illegal migrant, I implore you to change your thoughts and reconsider. You will not share these same thoughts when you are 60 and still where you are, believe me.
speak for yourself and the other 1% of Nigerians.
also, Syria has nothing to do with Nigeria. I hate that 'THEY have it worse so STOP WHINING' like OK so if someone has it BETTER then I should START whining? Why can't I just address my own problems while acknowledging that yeah, other people have problems too?
ZUBY77: It is because, you hooligans don't know your jobs.
Why wont we migrate when you earn over 400 million Naira annually while the annual minimum wage in your country totaled at N18000x12 = N216,000. Yet still, the University students pay more than that. Yet you dont pay the minimum wage or hold those responsible for it. - Thats your job.
We prefer to live illegally at a place where there is constant electricity than to live freely where there is generator fumes that are poisonous to our single lifetime. - It is your duty to provide light for us.
We prefer to live illegally at a place where there is always water running in the taps than where we buy dirty waters packed inside a nylon bag. - It is your duty to give us water.
We prefer to live illegally where the annual total deaths due to good roads are 500 than to live where deaths due to bad road is 500 in one day. - It is yet your duty to provide good roads.
We also prefer to live at a place where foods are checked and certified before being sold as against where everybody sells everything to unsuspecting public. - We voted you in to secure our lives.
Dear senators, you are actually the reason for our illegal status over here. We are simply economic and political migrants. You were given the powers to impeach any President that is not performing. No president has done anything in Nigeria, yet none has ever been impeached.
Finally, we prefer to live illegal over there because, you also fly there to treat yourself in good hospitals with our money.
The moment you do your jobs, we will come back. You chased us away.
let's not forget the violence , abuse and hate crimes against not just women, children and LGBTQIA people, that goes unchecked, or even worse, is brushed off as 'normal' or 'discipline' or 'deserved'. At least in the UK you can even TALK about it, and maybe even call the police knowing that SOMEONE in law enforcement will give a sh*t.
So to add to the never-ending list of f-ups that our govt should be taking care of: violence, robbery, lynchings, abuse and hate crimes.
This is why Nigeria will not move forward. In a (short and admittedly flawed) post listing some of Nigeria's natural resources, people would rather shout 'YOU'RE WRONG. YOU FOOL', make irrelevant and tribalistic comments, and general offer absolutely nothing to add to, or support this list and/or the ideas it presents.
Thank you for making this, and I wish I had more to add on the subject of Nigeria's natural resources, but I'm still reeling from GOLD in Nigeria. Wow.
craziebone: It is a constant source of irritation to me that women are still fighting the feminist battle. Surely feminism has run its course and the word should now be banished from the English language. I was interested to see last week that Sweden is to distribute a copy of best- selling author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's book 'We Should All Be Feminists' to every 16-year-old student in the country. It is hoped this works as a stepping-stone for a discussion about gender equality and feminism. The book is adapted from Adichie's renowned TED talk of the same name, and aims to offer a modern definition of feminism and outline the discrimination and oppression facing women in the past. It is really interesting and, by putting feminism into historical context, is very useful. Continue reading below... The book asks the question I am constantly asking. Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that? Adichie does attempt to answer this in her book, saying to declare you are a believer in human rights rather than a feminist would be dishonest. "Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general - but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender." Promoted Articles Recommended by She says it would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. "It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women. That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human." Adichie concludes by saying that for centuries, the world divided human beings into two groups - men and women - and then proceeded to exclude and oppress one group. "It is only fair that the solution to the problem acknowledge that." I don't think what Adichie allows for, though, is the fact that men and women are "divided", for want of a better word, because they are different in lots of ways. For a start, men and women are physically different. The way a woman's brain perceives information is different from how a man perceives it because women develop very differently from men. This is a scientific fact. And blame the X/Y chromosomes, but men can never be pregnant and give birth. I have said it here before but women - and indeed men - can't have it all. We have choices to make. Some make those choices gracefully and get on with their lives. Others do so kicking and screaming and in denial. I have seen some great women friends suffer because they fought to have it all - the high flying career, the glam lifestyle whilst being super mom at the same time. I am constantly amazed still that in this day and age we have the feminist brigade all over the world flying the well-worn feminist flag and bleating about lack of equality and opportunity. When will women wake up and acknowledge the huge strides that have been made - we are 20 years too late with the feminist mantra. We burned the bras (although why beats me, as we do actually need them. Men don't!) The more we highlight the issue of feminism, the more we are setting ourselves apart from men. I have a 24-year- old daughter who I reared to believe she can do most anything that a man can do - and better - without having the feminist chip in her shoulder. I have also taught her that its okay to make a choice and to decide she doesn't want to do something to prove that she is equal to a man. My hero is my mother Kitty, feisty as ever at 80 years of age and with more energy than I have. She would be appalled if she was labelled a "feminist" - even though in truth she was one of the early feminists in Ireland. Labels she would prefer to apply to herself, I imagine, would be hard-working, determined, business-minded, stoic, focused, tough. She was one of those civil servants in the early 1960s who had to give up her job because she married. Hard to believe that nowadays. She went into business with my father in the late 1960s. When he died suddenly aged 45, leaving her pregnant with her tenth child, she had two choices. Fall to pieces or, as she says herself, "get on with things". She got on with things, reared us all and saw the business (selling horses, very much a male domain) become a huge international success. She taught her five daughters that with hard work, dedication, fairness and compassion anything is possible. She never told us that we couldn't achieve anything because we weren't a man. Equally she taught us that it is okay too to be a woman and to recognize there are differences, and not to be unrealistic and to put ourselves under pressure to do it all. It is interesting that Adichie's book is being distributed in Sweden to not just 16-year- old girls but to boys also.
Gender is a social construct. And sex is just gender in a lab coat. There are as much innate psychological differences between men and women as there are between blacks and whites.
Are there physical differences between PoC and white people? Of course. Do they matter as much as society pretends they do? Nope.
That argument against feminism is rooted in a very outdated, 100x debunked gender binary that places men and women as polar opposites with little room for overlap.
Feminine men exist. Masculine women exist. Intersexed people exist. Trans*men who could never accept the socialisation of women exist. As do trans*women. As do a whole host of other nonbinary genders that we wouldn't even NEED to name if everyone just sat down for a hot minute and realised that there are almost never any black and white distinctions when it comes to human beings.
Sexism still exists, alongside other forms of discrimination, in overt and insidious ways. No amount of pointless rhetoric against the ~word~ feminism is going to change that. And relying on the gender binary is just a recipe for disaster.
Thanks for sharing this. Keep the conversation going!
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Moment of truth,ladies gather in here and see ways your online personality can hook you your husband
NB : This thread is strictly for ladies of marriageable age with requirements for marriage eg a stable source of income,maturity and nice character,but if you know you don't have all this attributes please keep having fun until you are ready then you can deactivate your current account and Open a New one then follow this steps.......
Now down to business
1)Your Moniker : your moniker says alot about your personality ladies,how you want to be addressed among other,therefore it will be wise to choosemonikers Rokiatu,Jolllyjoy blessedfavoured etc..monikers like misspicy,Eroticangelina or sleekyshuga etc discourage men who are really ready to settle down
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Never be caught in E-fights or banter : avoid fighting or exchanging banters with people not even when they insult your parents....always keep cool and collected...men love calm and gentle ladies
9)Avoid Feminist threads and support every female bashing threads : Never br caught advocating for feminism or anything like it inshort denounce every atom of feminist blood in you,always portray yourself as a submissive lady and support ecery thread by tosyne2much or wristbangle inshort try to be on the front page like aminat508
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11)Time spent online : Avoid been seen online at akk times like misspicy it portrays you as been jobless or unserious inshort make a pattern for time spent online eg nights only or evenings only
12) add yours......
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Tallesty1: The issue of rape has become so prevalent in our society that there's hardly a day that passes without a new rape case.
I don't know what's happening and I can't tell what is really wrong with people but I think the time for reasoning is here.
I know there is a law that protects rape victims but is there really a law that protects the falsely accused? Especially in a country like ours where the rich can always have their way?
Ever wondered why women scream rape anytime there's a fight and accuse the man of beating her up at the slightest provocation and starving her anytime they're caught cheating.?
It is because these two things always give them upper hand in most cases.
Now I am not trying to say there are no rapists out there. Many of them are roaming the streets looking for the next lady to jump on but there are some that were accused falsely and they are the ones I want to tell how to protect themselves in the future by following this steps because a significant number of false rape claims can be avoided by exercising caution and staying clear of situations where the likelihood of a false rape claim is enhanced.
1: Don't Date A Minor: I personally cannot date a girl who's less than 20. The reason is, it doesn't matter if you have been dating her for years, it doesn't matter if she's a queen in the jungle, once caught, her parents will be shouting you raped my daughter. The girl will not stand up for you. Her mother will ask her. "He raped you right"? She will not say NO, in other not to be beaten, she will nod head in affirmation and that signs you deal with the police.
2: Tell Your Parents About Your Relationship: If you're too young to let your parents or the girl's parents, or any of her relations to know what's going on between two of you then you're obviously too young to date.
3: Don't Drink To Stupor if you are taking a woman home: So that you will still have sense to stop If she says "No", at any time. Women no longer play "hard to get." If an adult woman wants your sexual companionship, then she'll make it abundantly clear. If she does not, don't bother. If she says "NO", please buckle up and send her home even if the time is 1am or sleep in another room if her reason is genuine.
4: Don't Sleep With An Intoxicated Lady Unless You Have Been With Her For Long: If the woman is high or intoxicated, don't even try for sex.. Call her a cab or take her home and then leave.
5: Don't date an insecure and unstable woman: If you get any signs that the woman is insecure or unstable, end whatever you have with her as quickly as possible. Do not contact her again.
6: Don't Take a woman home for sex after a bad date without some receipts: Make certain that you are able to account for your time in the wake of a "bad date." Stop at a fast food restaurant, just anything that will support your claim that you were with throughout the evening
7: Leave When You Sense Problem: If you get into any kind of dispute with a woman who you don't know or who you don't know well, end the argument and leave the scene.
And Finally don't cheat on a person that loves you. Anger, frustration and jealousy might just push them to frame you up. I know That Trials require evidence but what happens when the people handling the case like bribes?
Becareful around things that have engines and tires and around people that have breasts, they will definitely give you troubles.
Some of this was misogynistic, but mostly good points. Thanks.
By the way, no. 1, 3 and 4 are actually classified as rape. Good post, just wanted to clarify that misinformation. (:
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