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Timantech:
DM me on WhatsApp
08123042104

Can I also send you a message pls

bob55dave:
okay I have something for you only if you can take it serious. am into it also but it takes a long time to achieve. I did mine in 3 months and 2 weeks. it pays about 380k. you don't have to invest any money whatsoever. its totally free for registration. no initial investment is required. but you will need to complete a project every day and its pretty simple. even if you miss a day or a full week no problem but it only makes you cash out take longer time...

like I said everything is totally free, so hit me up to get started or for more questions.

08122033791 (WhatsApp)

Can I DM you too

iLegendd:
If 20 people type "interested," I'll drop the complete article.

Interested

manuroq:
Please is the govt free registration of business names in cac still on? I need reply and i stay at kd

Yeah pls anyone with info should pls let us know if the free CAC registration is still going on

Solatium:
NO to all the questions

Ok thanks

BeckyChinelo1:
Yes you need to apply as a company. With your company details and staff details. But I don't think the registration is still on

Alzirida:
Don't worry calling back.


What they do is this....

The pull out some people in the list submitted by Ur company... Call to verify their information.
They pay everyone so long as the few Parson they called gave them reliable information.

So I read through all the comments but I have a question, please

1. Can an individual with no CAC register for this survival fund or it's just for company owners

2. If individuals can register how do you go about the payroll thing that stands for proof of workers payment.

3. Is the registration still on.

Thanks in anticipation.

mumumugu:
Your dad is a narcissist. It is difficult for an experienced psychologist to correct him because they are beyond correction.
Go to pdfdrive.com or any freeebook site If you are a bookish girl or YouTube if you learn via videos, or simply ask Google .search for survival tips children of narcissist c parents. You will learn how peoplyin your shoes survived. Their stories will let you know you are not alone and keep you strong

Nawa o........so I started reading immediately so I decided to try google first and I am shocked although I am not yet through with this particular article but what I just read describes him all......

Pls are you a psychologist and besides I have heard the word nacissism before but I never connected it to him

Thank you cos this man has frustrated sotey it's been God that has sustained me, infact I copied this ⬇⬇⬇ from there and it is so true because this is the game he tries to play with me and it is painful he even beats me sometimes that I am lying against him.

"Resist Gaslighting Attempts
It’s very common that a narcissistic father tries to make you believe that you’re delusional or crazy. He may tell you that you’re wrong when you’re obviously right. He may claim you’re remembering things wrong or making things up. When, in reality, that’s what he’s doing.

He may express seemingly sincere concern for your mental wellbeing, but this is one of his tricks. It’s a well-known narcissistic manipulation tactic."

I am still reading though but is it a psychological disease because the article I am reading says it is a psychological disorder but still is it a disease, I mean a sickness or just a habit/behavior and does this character happen from birth for people exhibiting it or it is a character that is acquired whether consciously or unconsciously.


I am still reading though but if you have answers to my questions or if you are a psychologist I just want to knows more about this cos you just enlightened me.....never thought people like that are many, thought it was just my dad alone.

Thanks.

mumumugu:
Your dad is a narcissist. It is difficult for an experienced psychologist to correct him because they are beyond correction.
Go to pdfdrive.com or any freeebook site If you are a bookish girl or YouTube if you learn via videos, or simply ask Google .search for survival tips children of narcissist c parents. You will learn how peoplyin your shoes survived. Their stories will let you know you are not alone and keep you strong

Hmmmm enlightening, thanks I will do that..........I am so grateful. So it actually pays to speak out.

I will read the books or watch videos and see how it goes........hopefully I may come back to share a testimony. Thanks a lot

laughitall:
can I have your what's app number

I just sent you a mail now

StubbornGENIUS:
What a dad!Does he even deserve to be a father Stay strong,it is well.

Hmmm the thing is he has always being aggressive and hot tempered but very responsible but now he wants to deal with mum through me and doesn't want to sponsor my studies anymore although I know the burden can be a bit much for him financially still before now he has always been abusive only that he isn't sexually abusive (Grateful for that because he is a Christian) but I grew up to know him as a verbally and physically abusive person with no respect to human feelings........in fact I thought of suicide several times even last month I just felt it would be the most stupid thing to do to try to do that because of someone although it hasn't been easy but God has kept me going.

laughitall:
can I have your what's app number

Yeah sure.
I am trying to send you a mail now but it is not going, I will make sure I do.

Just don't want to drop my number here.

iLegendd:
Now I'm touched and the worst I'll do is read and ignore. I have been abused too as a kid and online, so I understand how you feel.

Send me a PM let me have your number so we can be talking once in a while.

Alright......thanks.
I just sent you a mail

iLegendd:
Embracing them, as in: he or she abused you and wants to make you as miserable as himself or herself, then you have 3 options

1. Ignore them (this really hurts them)
2. Embrace them (this makes them feel you FEEL their pains)
3. Play along with them (this is if you want to be mischievous too)

Now, let's talk about "embrace them."

This is when you act as if you're in the same shoe as them or you feel how they feel, then you run for your life after projecting your empathy.

It's just you embracing their opinion as a way to make them smile, then run and avoid them.

Example:

Abuser: You're stupid and blah blah blah.
You: That's true. (Or you have a point).
Abuser: (abuser thinking of what to say again, but agreeing to his initial comment has made him weak and disorganized).

At this point he or she is confused on abusing you more or giving up. When they abuse again, you just ignore.

This way, you've embraced this frustrated soul and he will be wondering the kind of person you are.

There are different ways of handing people and it's based on the outcome you want.

Hmmmm
Actually it has to do with my dad, He is someone like that in a very high level.
He abuses me verbally and physically. I am a lady and he still beats me.

If there's anybody that has body shamed me it is him.
There. was a time I loved to sing and anytime I was singing he would just shout and say "shut up, your voice sounds like an "osanyin" so one day I asked him what it meant and he said it is a demon in Yoruba land. He has said things like I am ugly, who will marry me......infact last week he said I don't calm down and behave like a relaxed person and that he was thinking maybe he should tell his doctor to give me injections to stepdown my brain and that I was behaving like someone with mental problem.

Sometimes back I used to do something to him anytime he said "you are stupid" I would just nod my head so later he started threatening that "the next time I am talking to you and you nod your head, I will beat you mercilessly" so I stopped.

So I started "ignoring" I mean why won't I when he wants to use trouble and toxicity to frustrate me. Then he started saying "is it me that is talking to you and you are not responding" even though I would give him little response.

He makes several threat and does a lot of things, if I am talking I dare not get angry at my younger bro for doing something but my younger bro is allowed to talk to me anyhow. (there's favoritism btw I and my younger bro although it didn't extend to the area of responsibility but now it does)

People he knows used the embrace method you talked about, they will come and pretend like they are in support of him and leave not to ever come back.

A lot of family friends have come to settle stuff btw mum and dad also btw I and dad and during those times I and mum was right but the guests came and pretended they supported him according to them "they wanted peace to reign" so right now dad thinks everyone is in support of him but they see mum later and apologise and this has made things to escalate because things that dad didn't have the courage to do he now threatens to do them because he thinks he has everyone on his side.

He behaves as he pleases without anyone to caution him(but he doesn't drink or womanize)

He dominates every conversation and is always right in fact don't try to prove him wrong cos he will boil. The house is always tensed and hot I really enjoy when he is not home.

Now everything centers on me......cos he threatened not to pay my school fees and knows mum doesn't have the capability to sponsor me right now and he once did it before that I and mum had to go bring family friends and church members too, they were like 20 in number in our sitting room and I had to keel down at the center of the sitting room while they begged him with some of them pissed and angry at him but all pretended, some pretended because of fear and respect for him because he has this charisma that will captivate the mind of everyone and most people will shut up and keep mute while he talks while some did that because of sake because if they didn't and had let him know how they really felt he would have walked everyone out and tell me to go and meet them to pay my school fees. (after spending 7+yrs at home before gaining admission despite having good scores in jamb and putme, so he knows it will be painful for me)

Did I say he loves it when you are at his mercy.......oh yes he loves to play God and infact he keeps saying he is my Ga
od in life and without him I can't survive and honestly I have always wanted to be independent but right now things are like this but I know GOD is in control and will surprise him one day and I believe that day is near although I don't know how but I know I have God.

So right now I don't know how resumption will be for me once we resume because everyone I can call to help beg him as usual is so pissed at him that most don't even come to our house. again but he doesn't know they are pissed at him he thinks everyone is busy with life that is why they don't come to our house anymore.

Right now the best thing I can do is bcom independent as I have always wanted to and get out to his surprise but that is on God but pending that time what can I do to handle this issue? Honestly I am fed up

Sorry I have wanted to reply you since you replied but I didn't just know how to put my words together, sometimes I would start typing but stop midway.

iLegendd:
I'll go first.

1. The noise I made that changed lives and impacted the world:

Answer: There was a time I was posting lots of sex and relationship articles on a regular basis and I was loud about it. A lot of people got irritated and abused me, but the truth is: the noise has impacted hundreds, if not millions of men positively today and it generates me a staggering amount that has made me not to bother about job anymore, but be the one to create jobs for others.

2. The silence I embraced that had impacted me and the world positively?

Answer: When I noticed an emotionally unstable person is abusing me, I either ignore or embrace them positively to avoid making them become more depressed than they were.

As humans, when we treat depressed people right, the universe rewards us positively.

When I noticed an emotionally unstable person is abusing me, I either ignore or embrace them positively to avoid making them become more depressed than they were.

Including toxic people that are just there to frustrate you without any reason? As in people who just like trouble and love to see you been emotionally, psychologically and mentally tortured? And people who continuously love to inflict emotional and mental torture on you irrespective of the position they are holding in your life?


I know you can ignore but embrace them?
Please can you explain more?
Can you also explain about the "ignore" aspect although I already know about it before.

Abouwaza:
Too long to say here
Pm?

Yeah sent you a mail now

LikeAking:
U have too learn how to make friends gradually.

Start by showing love to few hand picked offline/online friends. Like their pics, call dem etc.

Have u seen the footage wia Beyonces younger sister attacked her husband? Jazzy knows Beyonce gat a pit bull, so he must behave himself. Your hubby will not be your companion like that.. Its very rare to find such a rare man. Certain factors must compel him to do so. There nothing wrong with a little fear... People will respect you the more when they know you have a stand by army.... Na so life be. Humans love to take advantage of people they perceive to be weak or harmless.

Hmmm I think you are right.......story of my mum now.......she's no7 out of 7 children but all her siblings her faraway so dad behaves somehow most times like she doesn't have anybody.

illicit:

Na so I see am sir.........or let me say na so I be

Abouwaza:
Nice to meet you too
Meanwhile we are GOATS for a reason

Hmm hmm.........what reason if you can enlighten me

LikeAking:
Have u heard about harmless destroyers? Thats the role many Nigerian parents play. They make harmful laws/upbringing that destroy the lives of their children in the future. All the problems we face in life comes from our home.

Only few Nigerian parents actually know watsup. Only few Nigerian parents have actually brought up their kids to be the best. Most Nigerian parents/educational sys encourage self destructive attitudes like keeping no friends, shyness,been timid and settling for less.


Let me give a big advice that will save your from poverty, frustration,loneliness,lack and unemployment in the future.

Its a simple advice: Now that you are young and in school make millions of good friends, thats the only way to have a bright future in this generation. Their is no future for the shy/timid man. Make friends now, they will link you up later in the future. Make friends with all your lectures too. If you have lots of friends even your huby will fear you, He wont Bleep wit you any how. But, the opposite is a big disaster. . Your neighbors will also fear and respect you. The list is endless

The youthful vices, except some few harmful ones like cultism and violence are part of a learning process.

I know many parents are been over protective

Every thing na connection.

Pick your friends, your friends should not pick you.

Every thing for Nigeria na friend, friend.

.Having lots of friends = connects.

Thanks.........although I pray to have a hubby that will be my companion and not take advantage of the number of people I can call my own or class of people I roll with socially ...............still I think you are right.



But the problem is how do I make friends.........I just don't know how to

geletor:
Yeah am good, just that sometimes or maybe most times I kinda find it to difficult while studying. like too much thoughts distracting me from focusing. And I don't know if am the only one but am also into too much daydreaming and imagination...and stuffs like that.

Some people have the habit of being imaginative

Sunflawa:
I'm 13th

You mean January?


I am 13th too
Nice meeting you bro

Abouwaza:
January bro
I have a girl who we share same date shes totally different, so im thinking maybe this only implies with we males

So I was reading comments and I read about the Capricorn stuff and its relation with January so I read online and I realised I am the same too

I am also January and a female

I learn something new today.......thanks....those zodiac signs have always been trash to me till I learnt more today

Although I don't like the sea goat image they gave it.

LikeAking:
The problem is from the way you wai brought up.

The did has been done sis,

Just make sure you dont bring up your children, the way your parents brought you up.

Theere is no cure for your sickness,just manage it.

Women like you will enjoy loads of sex in marriage,at least thats something.


Nigerian parents are the number destroyers of their children's happiness.

Ahh ahh, bro......what are you saying? Lol......anyway you are hilarious


So back to your point well I think ypur point about parental upbringing is true because I am exactly like she said she is although I am a student but in school I don't have friends which some people think is strange in a typical Nigerian campus (and I don't think my parent mean harm).

Now I am not comfortable with the way I keep to myself but I have always loved it not until now that my parents have issues in their marriage and everything centers on me........the heat is just too much.


Now I wish I had friends because in school I feel lonely and I sometimes look forward to the holiday but on the other hand home is always hot and because I have always been neutral unlike my younger sibling who supports dad and dad wants undiluted support so he keeps threatening not sponsoring my education anymore after waiting 7+ years to gain admission (not that I didn't use to pass o, I was just being denied admission every year) so he knows it will be painful.


So now he extends the fight he has for mum to me.

I just wish I have friends to talk to nowadays

So sometimes I ask myself "what exactly do you want?" To be in school? Or to go home? Because there's loneliness in both places.

In school I am alone, at home I am not alone physically but I am practically alone with a yearning for peace.



About women like that enjoying sex a lot in marriage.........hmmm do you think so? but seriously how did you connect it together?
Sounds funny.

So do you mean there's no cure really and all I can do is manage it? Well I think you are right but it is not a sickness.

Goalnaldo:
Nawao how can the man who brought you to this life be so cruel and wicked to you. My own depression is not because of my family but because of an event that occurred in 2014 and some shortcomings in my life. I feel suicidal at times but God will see us through

The thing is he used to be responsible but harsh as in really harsh so I used to put up with the harshness but now he is threatening not to sponsor my education again because I am neutral between both sides and mom isn't financially capable to sponsor me.

AMEN.........May God see us through

Goalnaldo:
Nawao how can the man who brought you to this life be so cruel and wicked to you. My own depression is not because of my family but because of an event that occurred in 2014 and some shortcomings in my life.


The thing is he used to be responsible but harsh as in really harsh so I used to put up with the harshness but now he is threatening not to sponsor my education again because I am neutral between both sides and mom isn't financially capable to sponsor me.

I feel suicidal at times but God will see us through

AMEN

Meedon:
Sorry for calling you "bro." I don't know you're a female. In the aspect of keeping to yourself, I think you're my female version. It is hard out there if you can't socialize - you'll miss a lot of things, but it is God's mercy that have been seeing me through.


About blogging - you can make research on it with Google and also you may consider checking out Ilegendds thread.



They are a lot of things to learn from his thread in regards to making money online.


God will help us.

It's alright Lol



I will check it out.



AMEN.........Thanks again bro

Meedon:
@ gloniks you can check this thread


https://www.nairaland.com/5319181/bayubars-method-online-wealth...to-deleted



.....

Ok I will.......Thanks

Meedon:
I feel emotional reading this - mine was just 1 year of staying at home and I'm feeling somehow.


It is going to be well bro... You can consider learning a skill, with that you'll keep yourself busy and the thoughts of suicide will be eliminated with time.

Also, prayer and developing a thick skin can play a crucial role in helping you in times of problem.


It is going to be well bro.

Thank You......actually I am a female and I eventually gained admission into the university 2 years ago and he knows the pain I went through to have that admission especially considering the fact that I am not a dullard and I kept passing outstandingly in jamb and put me so he knows it will be so painful.......as in damn painful to dropout now.


About learning skills, I learnt shoemaking and bag making (leather) while seeking admission those years and I really love and have passion for it but I don't have equipments and he refused to buy for me and I don't want to do anything promiscuous to raise funds because I know it doesn't pay.

My birthday was January and he didn't wish me a happy birthday and I didn't even notice until August or July he was telling and bragging to his friend that he didn't wish me a happy birthday and I couldn't believe it and he said I should go to my Facebook account to check of he wished me a happy birthday but we lived under the same roof and that means he might not have wished me happy birthday (I didn't notice) if he could brag about it months later.


If I have to raise funds for equipments maybe I will do it online in a legit way that's why I want to know more about blogging cos I have been thinking about it and others for a while but I don't have start up capital to pay for online skills.

He was even telling me that he paid a part payment for one of the tools that I provoked him and he told the seller to remove #500 out of #5000 he deposited out of #15000 and collected his money back and that he wanted to surprise me on my birthday���.

I didn't say a word and he said sometimes back like 2 months ago that I should learn how to beg him which I used to do before but he would still not yield.......(He likes when you are at his mercy)

��� I can go on and on but I would still be saying the tip of the ice berg.

Sorry for this long story but if I need to raise funds I have to learn online skills.....if I consider working as a sales girl I hardly find jobs because I am not sociable.......I tend to keep to myself although I am trying to change that's why I can have the courage to say this here (cos it is unusual)

I tell people I am looking for a Job but I don't get........I am so choked and fed up

I even started regretting not involving in some youthful delinquencies and trying to be a good girl to mum and dad��

But I tried to brush that thought away and I think and strongly believe I did the right thing that will pay off for me assuredly.

And my big mistake➡ was making family the center of my world cos right now I am just alone in my world..........Thank GOD for GOD.


Just pouring my heart out

Sorry.

Bellq:
I'm touched by your story. It hurts alot when someone's behave as if they aren't your biological parents. Keep hope alive, I pray God almighty come to your aid.

Yeah very painful, frustrating and torturing.

AMEN......Thanks bro.

I know there is GOD for me. I know. May he come to my rescue quicker than I think.

Please.continue with the story..........I am interested in the reading and blogging aspect.

Meedon:
2019 for me was all about uploading videos on YouTube and playing games online and earning little cash, but I had to stop gambling (betting) because I was losing now and then. I only played Sportybet twice or so this year.

My story long oo... But cutting it short is what I'm going to do.
In 2018, I gained admission into Uniagric, Makurdi - but till now I did not attend the school because of lack of funds. Father, who was in the position to help, gave up on me. No one to help.

Every time I reminisce about my past experiences, about my higher education, I felt like crying - all the transportation, all the JAMB registration and all the change of course, etc. Are all a waste of time and energy, but I thank God, maybe I would have joined a cult group in Makurdi. You may be surprised, don't be - it was one of those things I used to think of then, to be rugged in school, but I'm now a changed man after going through the say no to cultism thread.

I fell into depression, I was contemplating suicide all the time, but with a consistent prayer from mother and with God's help, I was able to defeat depression and the thoughts of suicide.




....................

Sorry bro, I can feel your pain.......I spent 7+ years at home before gaining admission into the university, not because I didn't use to pass jamb and putme but because I was been denied admission every year, if I didnt use to pass people would have told me to go and marry bit thank God dad didn't give up on me.



But now he wants to give up because he and mum are not on good terms so he thinks the best way to deal with mum is through me since mum doesn't have the financial capacity to sponsor me.

Currently the house is always hot and I go through domestic and verbal abuse and I have thought about suicide several times but it ain't worth it.......I mean I can't give up my Life because of anybody.......my Life is too precious than that (although it's b3eh God that has kept me going coupled with discipline)

There's favoritism between the children and I get blamed for what the other does despite the fact that I am older but the favoritism didn't extend to the area of responsibility but now it's about to.
He still blamed me this evening for what my other sibling did


I am in my 20s and I still get beaten with blue black with belt and wire.

He said it before and he repeated it again few days ago that he was thinking of telling his doctor maybe I should go for injection to step down my brain that I behave like some one with mental disorder........I take all this harsh words in and behave like nothing is wrong because i dare not cry the next thing is for him to take his belt and say "you want to cry abi, you will cry well" so I suck everythimg in, I love to sing and he said I have a bad voice despite the fact that I know there's nothing wrong with my voice but I don't even bother to sing anymore. Do you know what he says? He usually say I sound like "osanyin" I asked him the meaning and he said a name of a demon in Yoruba land. I a lot of times feel choked up and frustrated. He can disgrace me anywhere, and he has started threatening not sending me to school which he does every time we are to resume.
If anyone has ever body shamed me it is him.


I know I maybe clueless but I know GOD understands.


So I thought, now that I am in the picture and things are like this I better not do something stupid because no one would care and my mom might be shattered, don't know of she will cope but is that GOD'S will? No so I will stay to see the GLORY OF The LORD IN THE LAND OF THE LIVING.



Sorry I don't mean to interrupt your story just that I have a heavy heart and I even cried this night so I just need to pour my heart out somewhere so saw your story and decided to share mine.

Thanks.

repairpalng:
yes with touchpad: 9k to buy. 08137013426

what about 8k and besides I am based in Ib so do you accept pay on delivery and is your number on whatsapp.

I can only do payment on delivery.