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SpicyMimi:
Ond thing about Men in Uniforms - Distance.
Well, I wouldn't advise you quit your job since his salary his far below what you earn and he has so many responsibilities like his family to cater for. By the way, if you left your job for him, what happens when he gets transferred to dangerous places? You keep following him? Trust me, you'd end up being frustrated.
Try to visit him during your ovulating period, play rough and ikeep doing this often until you get pregnant and also never forget to pray and trust in God, He alone can calm the storm in your home.

Thank u very much. time of ovulation is the issue because my job is a very demanding at times i don't av time to go and even if i want go to him some times it might not be a good time to visit him the only time am able to go is doing xtian public holidays which at time is not always my ovulation period

Hi all pls I need ur advice and got married two years ago to a military officer but we are both leaving apart cos i av a job that pays well. at first i thought i was managing well but now i don't know what to think any more am so lonely and depressed because i av being trying to get pregnant but its just not working.

i am thinking of quitting my job but am sacred of d outcome am an independent woman i av lived alone since i started higher education so thought i can cope with leaving alone my main problem is my husband job is junior officer in d army his salary is less than mine though i got to know after marriage but i was not bothered but his family are all depending on him for finances like he spends almost half of his salary on them. i got to know this because i mange his savings account so whenever his family needs money am the one that send to them from his account if i complain he tells me its his money his giving them and this is affecting our plans.
For the past 6 months he has not come to visit me i av been the one going to him, at times they will transfer him to places that i cannot go and visit him due to the danger involved infact the last visit i made was so dangerous i had to rush back after spending some days with him and i don't think he's cheating though i av my doubts sometimes but no prove.

Hes not that bothered about our not having a child yet if i bring d mata up he will be comparing us with couples that are living together for years with out a child. am so lonely and frustrated.

mummykyrti:
mama omoyeni3601 I greet u o, trying to familiarize myself with some monikers, so I won't always be calling a particular group of people.
@ fruitfulray, fvine , 4realwoman, gloriaakin, una well-done

kisses........

MummyJJ:
Lord break this evil cycle in my life

Period(time of sadness, seems hope is lost)

Ovulation (it seems am ovulation ooo, renewed hope with prayers)

2WW (anxiety, expectation, constructing my testimony)



And then



Bam!!! Period AGAIN


When my uterus sheds, a part of my heart sheds like I lost a child and now my eyes sheds hot tears like I have never wept.

How do women go years and years through this pain? I already feel like giving up and it's only the 12th cycle!!!

Thinking of going to the doctor but with the "plenty" money we have now hmmm!!
Hormonal profile- 15k
HSG-10k
Ultrasound-3k
It's well. But waiting isn't helping either.

Am gradually withdrawing into my shell and it's not good for me and those around me. I want to wake up and all these are over.


End of rant and I hope end of tears. Am broken, praying is hard and all I need now is God's help!!

Its is well my sis this ttc journey is an emotional roller coaster for us still waiting on d Lord for miracles its like u know what am passing thru but through it all trust God will make us overcome. On the test u can start some where like i did because of the financial constraints i started with the hormonal assay and am schdued for the concluding part with pelvic scan cos that want i can afford for now i will save the hsg for later. lets just keep faith and trust God and be prayerful.

Loisemm:
Mummykyrti , thanks. Yes o. I am so glad we are doing all these tests and moving forward towards bfp!
At least, we would know the right targets to be hitting.
My HSG was painless oo to the glory of God. I took Ibruprofen 5mins before I was called in.
The lab contact I called earlier told me not to bother taking painkillers for it. That the pain will only be minimal. I asked if they had the option of pain relieving injection then. She said no. I replied OK. But in my mind, I planned to take pain killers.
The radiologist was impressed that I didn't feel any pain (only slight pressure from his instrument). He asked if I was a nurse cos I knew what to take before coming.
I replied that I read a lot. (My Ppl thank you jor. Na una teach me).

But we women dey try o. See as we dey open leg yakata for medical procedures. God o abeg. Make my next leg opening be for cervical check when I dey pregnant!

Honestly i dont like the idea of that hsg at all i. don't feel comfortable with lab guy one bit. imagine him telling me i don't need to do pelvic scan that u just go straight for hsg! and he was trying to discourage me from doing pelvic scan i said i hear but av made up my mind to insist on the starting with d pelvic scan first based on my doctor's advice i av started my hormonal assay am told to come back on cd21 for the concluding part.

it is well dear i felt the same way last weekend i cried to the point that was exhausted but after i while i feel ok it is better to let it out at times. my prayer is that God should put an end to our secret tears pls cheer up our miracles is here.

fpeter:
Today na wa, I am so teary and just want to wail and cry very hard and long.
I don't know what the problem is but i am sad and depressed, I just want to
Vent but i can't...I wish i could just face my Creator and hear from Him when
it is that I'd finally come out of this mess of TTC. Talking about my feelings to
people who aren't wearing my shoes is even out of the question. God help me
I'm gradually losing my mind.

Adiahaakwaibom1:
My waka story this morning ;
I went with DH 2 a newly recommended trado woman dis morning. She specialises with infertility issues amongst couples & has been doing it 4 a long time. When we got there; she told me 2 lie down & massaged my belly 4 a long time ; asking me 2 change positions in btw. During her examination; she touched a spot slightly off 2 my left & d pain l experienced was out of this world. She then told me that neither ovulation/ conception was d problem but instead it's implantation.
I asked her why & she said l had a little fibroid that was @ a strategic position . In which whenever l conceive, d baby finds it hard 2 implant cos d region wasn't accommodative.
I told her l have conducted numerous scans but haven't seen fibroids of recent,she then said that its size might be negligible so it might not be seen yet on scan.
She recommended herbal treatment for 3 months with weekly pelvic massage & charged 40k for it. Maybe d way I kept my face that's why she surprisingly said that lf l felt she wasnt genuine l shouldnt pay her till after d treatment period( in which she positively believed l wud have conceived b4 then). She also advised l start d treatment on d lst day of my next cycle if this cycle is not successful.
Na so my waka this morning happen..( somewhere in my heart; l believe her diagnosis. Cos most cycles that l feel "this is it" r always elongated & during that period l have severe cramping Abi Na "biting " sensations that never cease till I start bleeding). Am just praying this should be my last bus stop 4 ttcing waka if this current cycle is not successful.
# Sorry4dlongpost

I think she an expert in the field u can give it a try if af show face though i pray she goes away for the next 9 months. fruitfulness is our portions this year in Jesus name it will end in praise

Adiahaakwaibom1:
In dealing wit infections esp recurrent types ; it's better to follow it up aggressively. So both u & DH must run a culture test ; then based on d sensitivity result report; an appropriate antibiotic (s) wud be recommended . Check older pages of d trend; there r unlimited successful infos on dis topic.

Thanks for the reply ma God bless u

Good morning all pls i want to ask will the use of antibiotic affect hormanal assay test? after the doc appointment i was given drugs for pid even though i did not run any test but based on my chat with the doc i was prescribed some drugs with antibiotics. i av not started using the drugs because i just started my hormonal assay test on cd3. but av feeling itchy down there but am confused that if start using the drugs it might affect the outcome of the test. and pls i need advice on probiotics because i observed when ever i use antibiotic drugs for yeast infections i get some relive but after a while the infection comes back so i think the drugs is killing both the good and bad bacterial in my system i read online that probiotics does replace the good bacterial and pls what drug can dh use cos i think am getting the infection back from him cos he has not being on any medication for this infection before though he as no symptoms of any infection. sorry for my long post.

pls mamas in the house any advice will be appreciated

Good morning all pls i want to ask will the use of antibiotic affect hormanal assay test? after the doc appointment i was given drugs for pid even though i did not run any test but based on my chat with the doc i was prescribed some drugs with antibiotics. i av not started using the drugs because i just started my hormonal assay test on cd3. but av feeling itchy down there but am confused that if start using the drugs it might affect the outcome of the test. and pls i need advice on probiotics because i observed when ever i use antibiotic drugs for yeast infections i get some relive but after a while the infection comes back so i think the drugs is killing both the good and bad bacterial in my system i read online that probiotics does replace the good bacterial and pls what drug can dh use cos i think am getting the infection back from him cos he has not being on any medication for this infection before though he as no symptoms of any infection. sorry for my long post

aghaibiam:
After a long absence I am happy to inform my lovely mama's that God has done it for me again.I tested positive and fetal pole has been seen.I pray that every woman here will sing a song of joy soon.

congrats stress free 9 months in Jesus name Baba God answer all the TTC mamas in the waiting room

Adiahaakwaibom1:
@Gloriaakin24
I don't know u 4rm anywhere but l had a dream concerning u last nite. In d dream ;we(#2017moms#) were congratulating u on ur bfp; so my dear rejoice cos ur testimony is near.

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank u Jesus i receive it
whao want can i say than to calm this beautiful prophesy thank u. This is our year of bountiful bfp in Jesus name

lavivaavril:
My dear I'm telling you, church is the worst! Anytime they are doing baby dedication, even when I don't know the couple or I feel I can dance there on my spot without coming out, lie lie! Women leader will find me and drag me out to dance to the alter along with people. Other women will be saying words of encouragement! I know they mean well but the attention makes me feel sooo bad!
Pweetymii thanks for the advise

We will all dedicate our own babies soonest! Amen

Amen o as in church.... but y will dey drag u forward if u don't want to, to me it not fair but i know it will sha end in praise

lavivaavril:
My sisters good morning, hope we slept well? Hmmm there's this girl in my office that recently got married and just yesterday, I heard that she's pregnant. God I can't describe how I felt! My marriage is over a year and I'm still looking onto God. It is well...

It is well my sister i am aving almost the same situation with one of my colleague that gave birth last year January. i never knew she was pregnant again with her third child only for her to resume work after the new year break with a baby bump. my marriage is also a year and some months. My prayer is that God answer our prayers soon.

CravingChic:
Please go to the hospital...this irregularity is abnormal. You may need to run a blood pt and even do TVS. I wish you well.

ok i with go to the hospital to know what's going on thanks so much

fpeter:
Just relax since you will be going to the hospital soon. You may stop the medications until further notice.
meanwhile do a random PT...you may be surprised.

thank you ma i av done hpt 2 days ago which shows negative

Please i want to ask can i go for my hormonal assay test on Saturday which will be cd3 of this my current period or should wait till cd21
Because my formal period i did not feel any cramp and d flow was very light that i spottted for 4 days before i had i normal flow for a day. but this one am feeling cramp like its a normal period and the flow has changed from spotting to normal flow. pls waiting for advice.

hi all i a being aving so episode since my last period but i av never taken it serious but now am getting worried. i av book appointment for my test which include hsg, hormonal assay and pelvic scan. d hormonal booked me for the 30th of dis month cos i am suppose to be on my cd21 but now i don't understand any more. on d episode am experiencing av been feeling weak, i av headache frequently, av being aving pain on my legs for the past 2 weeks, pain on my boobs and cramps for on and off and today which suppose to be my cd17 i started spotting am confused i dont no what is happening to me cos i av never experience this before. the only thing i did differently this cycle that i started taking foli
c acid with vitamin b12. could this be the cause for all these episodes. one a quick note av not had sex since my last period cos dh is out of town. pls mamas in the house any clue on what is happening to me? sorry for the long post.

mummykyrti:
yes ma u can do one per month, but all the tests has a particular day of ur cycle u are to do it, so if possible ask dem at d lab so u can bear that in mind... like hsg heard u cannot do it close to ur ovulation period, den prolactin or so think its cd3 ...that's why me am waiting 4 my next cycle( tho I have faith and praying deyd b no next cycle till after my baby is born)

thank u very much ma i will go to the lab and find out

hi beautiful mamas i went to for appointments to at d hospital today the doc said i will do three test which include pelvic scan, sono hsg and hormonal assay pls which one should i do first i heard these tests are quite expensive. can i do one per month? or all must be done at ones.

miraclebaby:
I wouldn't suggest you tell him anything just yet since you didn't disclose before marriage.

Talk to him about going for tests since you're over a year. That's normal for all ttc case. Both of you have to decide hospital to use. Then meet the doctor and run the tests. You might even be surprise there might be no problem or it might not be with you. Leave the past and face the present.

I also won't advice running personal tests, reason is if there's any iasue, it might weigh you down and affect you more. Normally when there's a problem, you need someone to cheer you up and give you hope. Secondly, what if you go and there's no issue with you, how do you convince dh to go with you especially if he senses you've done yours previously?

So I would suggest, take your time and tell him that you guys may need to see a good gynae. He might like you to go first but I don't encourage that. Some doctors too won't even do any much tests when both of you don't go together as they might say you're not ready yet.

As for telling him about your past, leave that off for now. If there's need later after you must have run some tests, you'll have to devise a way to let him know so as to help you solve the issue (if any)

Problem we have most times is that we find it hard to forgive oneself. Thus that sin keeps tormenting the soul making it look fresh daily. You have to first forgive yourself, ask God to forgive you. Go to confession if you worship in one of the churches that offer confession. Then pray earnestly and move on.

In other news,
Do you ovulate regularly? How frequent is your cycle? Do you have normal flow? Any signs of ovulation? Do you think you might have infection? Any previous tests for infection?

How is your feeding habit? Do you get enough rest or are you stressed? Sometimes we worry more and the body won't perform under stress.

Note: don't think your dh will rightly accept visiting hospital, men are always calm when it comes to some matter. So if he doesn't buy it, take your time to convince him. Also take it to God in Prayer.

i don't no if i ovulate but i use ov calendar to calculate it. my cycle is between 25 to 28 days though i had one 31 day cycle which was the longest. i use to have whitish discharge with itching went to a private hospital and i was diagnosed with candida yeast infection i was prescribed drugs which i used but no improvement but of recent i take local herbs and it reduced the symptoms, i still av discharge but not as much as b4 and i feel d itching ones in while but not as b4, i just started taking folic acid last month. feeding habit how? sorry but am just curious to no and it think am stressed and worried cause of the ttc whala at times especially when i am close to my period i use to av too much anxiety to miss my period which always show face earlier or later. thanks for d advice i really appreciate.

whao thanks all i feel so loved already , thanks for the word of encouragement and prayers. dont mind me i dont no how to mention names or tag names rather. i know with time i will no how. i av gotten enough courage to go for the test i will update with the result. thanks so much i feel so much at home here. i pray God gives us all bfp speedily (big fat postive) she? hope i got it right.

Hi momies am new here av been looking for forum like this for long am glad i found one. I av being ttcing for a year and some months now and getting tired already. i aving guilty conscience because of the mistakes of my past and i wish I told my husband abt it b4 getting married i av not gone for any fertility test before cos am scared of what will come out of it but now i think am ready to take the courage to do it and face my fears. how i wish i can turn back the hands of time to undo my past.

Hi momies am new here av been looking for forum like this for long am glad i found one. I av being ttcing for a year and some months now and getting tired already. i aving guilty conscience because of the mistakes of my past and i wish I told my husband abt it b4 getting married i av not gone for any fertility test before cos am scared of what will come out of it but now i think am ready to take the courage to do it and face my fears. how i can turn back the hand of time.

Thanks so much @angelTI

hi everyone am Gloria I got married last year December I av being TTC a year before my marriage the TTC journey for me is so stressful and depressing especially when everyone around u are getting pregnant easily among these people are my two elder sisters, they said they are done giving but now they are both pregnant the worst of it all is that they did not tell me even my mum too did not say anything I heard from my junior sis when I went visiting her. I was called this morning that one of then has put to bed; infact am so depressed and angry at the same time but am happy for her safe delivery. I had to find a way to let it out with this post my prayer is that God grant me n any one in this kind of situation answers to our prayer amen so sorry for the long post