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Because he is relevant

I don't know if I should laugh or cry

Very good lesson for men

Next time you desern your partners.

If he/she portrays some evil attitude, you exit.

That's a sensitive and spiritual president

Our problem is that our president is an unbeliever

He doesn't listen to men let alone God

May God almighty help us

eduman365:
We are also highly hypocritical and we hate each other. You cannot love God without loving your neighbours. Even God who we claim to love is usually because of our search for material things... Humans are the same everywhere.

Hmmm

eduman365:
You are talking in the nonsense, you are talking in the rubbish...

So God hates them in America? Your eyes will soon open, shebi una dey for Naija. Continue deceiving yourselves.

God does not hate them but this is a lesson to solely depend of God.

Nigerians are highly spiritual and we love God.

Someone deleted my post

How come USA now has the highest death rate?

That means God is with us in �� Nigeria

His head is bald

Pride is devilish, why not invite Ngozi Okonjo Iweala and Charles Soludo to advice you better?

Oil is on his bald head.

Mmmm

Yes o, no time

Eat the jollof rice

Please shed more light on the PayPal biz, thanks

So sad, that beautiful woman.

Take heart Sir, hope it was cancer and not corona virus

Akunwafor:
Still looks like the old one.

The new one has an eagle or something

Oh ok, thanks.

They all look strong and healthy.

May ours be like theirs by God's grace.

Those that have lost either of their parents, may the new generation begin with you.

They have bought the land

Affected people will be compensated with peanuts or get a rented apartment.

But the land has been acquired by zenith bank.

What a subtle method

God bless you Sir, I hope Nigerians will patronize these nice cars.

Nigeria is working again.

The new IVM logo used, is it the one that young Nigerian designed?

Congrats, let me go and buy football boots for training.

A motivational speaker told me I can do it if I believe, persevere and determine.

Good, so that we can differentiate intelligent ones from dummies ?

Whiteangel1234:
Buhari nobi guy man nah

True talk, him no smart at all

Why not in Nigeria?

They really have to pursue!

This is getting out of hand. But be of good cheer, Jesus has overcomed the world.

50,000 for what exactly?

Short time?

Shiiiit!

Women are bad

What conspiracy!

Only death by hanging?

The woman too, death by banging!

Shiiiit!

Legendary!

They should pass it to the president too, he needs to implement this for now.

Buhari is not doing well

They will take you for a joke Sir.

Dem no go hear

Lostz:
yes he will go far places like mechanic shop. He will even sleep in those far places before finally trekking to far places

Stop smoking in the afternoon, weather is hot.

He is naturally nice and you can't change that.

He will go places and you will regret it at last!

Leezah:
Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner.

If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own. Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.

I especially think in todays world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in othe areas. Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it. Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.

Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

You talk too much