My former wife had five of these attributes!!

Person abused by her ex-boyfriend.
Homeless and or lived in his/her car.
Smokes
Extensive Tattoos
Adopted
Emotional Baggage
Emotionally Abused
Cigarette Smokers
Have or continue to do drugs stronger then marijuana or XTC.
Women in financial debt.
Spends more money then you.
Can't balance a check book.
Children by more then one father.
Living with divorced or widowed mother.
A girl too close to her mom. Her mom will dictate your relationship.
Generally if mom's ugly your women will be ugly to.
Turns holy on you during the relationship. God comes before you.
Takes women's studies class and you become the oppressive boyfriend.
Describes many past abusive relationships.
Strips for a living.
Insists on not using condoms or protection.
Does not kiss you.
On antidepressants.
Sexually molested.
Not finished high school.
Obsessive about prior relationships.
Has a very dirty car that hasn't been washed in ages.
Always let to an event regardless of how important it is to you.
Chick says that she has never had a orgasm. How interested will she be when you have sex? This is a very big sign.
Women with single roommate always wants to go out with you.
Dating someone that doesn't want you to meet her best friend or family. That is a booty call. Don't confuse that with love or romance. You can't have a relationship with someone like that.

A word they say is enuf, 

@ FroZen1

WILL U MARRY ME?   (jus jokin)

Sorry abt what happened to u. Maybe now some pple will believe these things do happen!

btw any tips for coping wit betrayal & heartbreak?

thanx NL 4 all ur responses even though some were more insultin than objective. please no insults - she's still my wife

i got thru to her @ 3am this morning and she really sounded happy (mus have caught her at a good time). I BEGGED her to come back (for d fifth time) and she refused again. she finally confessed she stopped lovin me 2months into d marriage and wuld've left but for preg and school. she said i was too serious minded. she had felt choked for the last 2yrs & 10months and really needed some space. i asked if she was willin to work on the marriage, and she said NO cause her feelings wuldn't change overnight. she's currently out of town wit some friends and left my baby wit her mum (this kills me). she has scheduled a meetin wit her lawyer for next week and when i asked if she will be willin to tell her lawyer d truth, she laughed at me and said (in her own words) - "don't worry, i know what i will tell my lawyer".

i am currently so depressed and feel like a failure (always been an achiever), not been to work today and already downed a bottle of wine. i really love her still and wuld give anythin to have her back (she's so fine).

maybe i shuld have given her momsy and siblings more money
maybe i shld have spent more time wit her instead of chasin money
maybe i shuld have been more sensitive (whtever dat means)
i guess i was tryin to be a straight and responsible naija husband instead of givin her enuf fun.

i jus dey confused and a bit tipsy,

thanx becommrich - ur reply was quite insightful

nobody has said how i will get my child back ( i love her too much to walk away).

replies-

am a full blooded nigerian. jus came back 3ys ago after 9yrs outside. very successful by naija standards so d problem is not money (in fact am still in shock) .

d mum obviously supports her action as she has refused to respond to invitations frm my family for a discussion. we are actually not in good terms due to an earlier incident (she was askin for too much stuff and i decided to ignore her). she insists i come and apologize to her first b4 she intervenes. btw she's a divorcee who raised her kids mostly alone.

only crime i can think of - i probably worked too hard and never gave enuf time. i don't club, smoke, womanize,drink, and i did not beat her. she complained she was being treated as a housewife even though she culdn't work cause she was still in school!!.

naija wives have really gone mad! i don't think i'll try marriage again if i survive this,

What are my rights concerning my baby? She has refused for me to have access or even know where she is. Any lawyers here? How long does she have to be away b4 i can file for abandonment?

We lived in lekki part of lagos, nigeria but necessary marriage rites were conducted (church, court, traditional). I think she was tired of the marriage and jus needed an excuse to leave. She jus keeps changin her numbers and callin me to ask dat we go to court and dissolve d marriage and prepare to give her half of my properties and pay child support and alimony.
Does dat work in naija?

518KB/s is equal to 4144kb/s in real bandwidth. Now i haven't seen anythin faster in naija even with Mweb.

Lets always try to give kudos to pple that are doing d right thin. Somethin good can come out of naija afterall (if they can keep it up),  

Its simple maths really, (for those dat paid attention in nursery school)

a) Customer device to local hotspot wireless access point = 54mbps

b) Hotspot location to swift office = fiber (>100mbps)

c) swift office to internet over fiber = maybe >100mbps


a + b + c = GREAT SERVICE!!

i tried d silverbird service and i culd watch a movie frm start to finish without breaks ( while eatin lunch too)! dis is far faster & better dan any sleazy cybercafe.

SWIFT CONTINUE D GOOD WORK!!

b4 we got married, we agreed on d timing so why d change? i am financially secure and take good care of my family. so why wait? she's no longer even interested in sex. she's scared i will try to get her pregnant i guess, As as i said earlier, she jus picked up my daughter and moved in with her Mum 2 months ago. All attempts to get her to come back has failed. Jus to think dat i paid her tuition for 2yrs and now as soon as she gets her degree, she remembers she's a career woman. I jus get these bad feelin i have been conned. I guess i shld be expectin d divorce papers anytime soon,

I am married to a pretty and vain wife and we have a 3yr old daughter. I want us to try for another baby but she has bluntly refused. Reason - she wants to keep her figure and focus on her career for at least 6 yrs!!I suspect she is not interested in any more kids. I am in my early 30s and had hoped to have three kids by 35yrs. At this rate i will be 50yrs b4 she agrees for another child. ha this is d problem wit marrying a fine babe. She has moved out becos of the pressure and d marriage is about to hit d rocks. NL members how do we resolve this? Egba mi o!!