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RaYwon6:
Kogi state Can you give me details of it please? Do you have admin to sell? How much do you think it gonna cost me to get an admin logins?

Getting bet9ja admin is very difficult, for you to see seller, you must have @least 3m and above....
Go for betking... it's very easy to the account with them

RaYwon6:
Good day fellas, please I plan on starting up a bet9ja business but I don't know how to go about it. Please if you are a bet9ja agent here, please can you tell me how does the business works? How am I going to earn commission? How do bet9ja pay their agent? Please urgent answers are needed please..

Where is your location bro?

chineduuf:
Bro, obviously you found yourself a good woman. And from your tread you seem to be doing well for yourself too. Sometime ago we saw a tread about a guy whom the bride's family demanded so much for bride price without compromise and then later asking the guy to bear part of the bride brother's wedding burden (Which I for so change am for the family, nonesense). As far as the parents will not compel you to carry the entire family's burden, honestly I will give you a green. Secondly, you should also consider your bride, is she a hustler? She shouldn't end up just being a house wife, can she support the family goals and dreams?
Person weh say if you leave her, na okpoho straight.
Do you plus and minus man.

And as for the brothers, Bleep those niggas man. If the sister is 22, then I believe the brothers should be between 24 and 33. Make them go hustle, man up and clear them, na their mate you be. If your hustle na transferable skill, teach them, rather than give them petty cash.

Not transferable...for my woman... shix willing to work...thank you so much.

Limassol:
You are very foolish and unintelligent guy(no malice intended bro). Firstly, you are still in school, marriage shouldn't be in your short-term plans atleast for now. Graduate with good grades, acquire in-demand IT skills and develop yourself all round, aiming for these will be more profitable and benefitial for you at this stage of your life. Do you realise how finacially a burden marriage could be especially if became unemployed. 200k is the least that could sustain a single adult in current Nigeria, do you earn double that? Are you deluded? Secondly, who obliged you to sponsor her education? On top say you wan drill toto abi? Are you out of your f**king mind? If you are that generous you would have helped the orphanage. Thirdly, you are extremely naive if you kowtow to her blackmail of commiting suicide if you dont marry her, its a trap and you will regret for the rest of your life if you go ahead with that marriage. And why are her siblings a problem to you. Dude you are too stupid and naive,please GTFOH!

smile..anyways I earn it dubble...
I started my business when I was in my 200l...
Anyways thank you for your advice.

jesmond3945:
to be frank with you, you are being played. Now I would love to do an experiment. Tell her that your business has collapsed and you are broke. Do it for one month. Also tell her parents as well. If she stays marry her at all cost. If she start complaining then run. Her brothers aside. Just do the test for your own good and update the House.

I wish I can do that..but she's staying with me.... Honestly she don't like visiting her house..she only calls her mum and dad.

dozai:
She is a good girl in the present. I cannot say if she will remain the same in the future.
Secondly, I did not see the part where you consulted your father unless he is late.
I did not see where you seek the counsel of your siblings unless you are the only child.
By and large. You are student picking up the responsibilities of another student. Definitely you are a diamond that cannot be thrown away. Have u tried playing broke?? Not being able to pay up her fees again?? Not even pocket money etc. Try it first, then advice yourself. Tankio

dad is late nd I'm the first.... Well she stayed mostly with me as she hardly visit her house because of her brothers not willing to do anything...
She has thought of starting something for I herself, but I told her to wait nd finish school..or I introduce her to my business which is stres free..nd she has already too.
Thank you.

Ikesho:
Firstly you sound like someone in a haste to get married to her but you are scared of the future. Can i ask, what you do for a living & are you the only child & what about your dad, cause you were mentioning only your mum here. My advice is this, take time to monitor the brothers, ask questions about them, then take your decision. Las las, na you get the final decision

well my dad is late, I'm not the only son, infact I'm the first...
I do something meaningful for living...

afrika:
Nobody likes to patronize poverty, failure or unsuccessful. Love is good but best when every thing in life is balanced. Let's not manage words.

No lady would want to attach herself where she does not benefit. But guys, if she does not have big ass, she has big bress or something shaa is driving u crazy about her. U tend to forget the basis... Like financial uplift. Now the handwriting is boldly scaring u aware and u are forcing ya self into the affair.

Kwantinew.

By the time u enter fully, we will hope to read ur letter on how they want to kee u because u said u don't have.

she does have those, she' calm nd gives me peace of mind...
She's willing to work or learn a skills but I want to introduce her to my line of business which she has agreed..we both are still looking for a good location for her.

firstratedcitiz:
I am not in a position to advise you to marry or not marry the girl. You'll still go ahead and make your own decision in the end, judging from the way you've been responding to advice here. But I am worried whether at all you're taking the right steps.

You mentioned that both you and the girl in question are students. Obviously your parents are the ones shouldering financial responsibility for your education. But you took upon yourself the burden of bearing responsibility for the girlfriend's education. That's irresponsibility on your own part, if I may say so. How many of your own sisters and younger ones did you even assist in paying their school fees?

Your parents decided to take on the burden of sending you to school so that one day you would assist in paying school fees of the younger ones. But if you finished training that girl in school and she ended up marrying someone else, it would have been a fruitless effort.

Smile, my dad is late..I wasn't born rich.... I'm taking care of every bills in my family my siblings fees inclusive... I'm the first son... sometime ago, I wanted to write my success story or let's say my breakthrough to encourage other youth...but I decided to stop..it will reveal so much about me...I have introduce 3 nairalannder to my business line nd only one is very appreciative till tomorrow...he don't joke with me... he sometimes send me airtime, my birthday he paid for my birthday cake.....let me stop here for now....

Plut01:
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This thread seem like a Déjà vu to me..... From the first comment to the last one on the front-page, I have read something of such before.


Well, Son you have my blessing. Marry the girl and build your life with her. Challenges will come married or not, and having someone by your side will be a good motivation to face it.


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thank you.

Arckeen:
which work u Dey do ?

Smile..I have my own business bro...

greggng:
My brother I think you are been naive ....marriage is not for children ....you are too young to get married especially when you don't 've a job. You must be from a Rich family to 've just graduated and got married . How did you get the money ? Do you plan on living with your parents ? Live na jeje ...graduate , serve the country , get a good job....work for sometime to save money , then plan your marriage .

As per her brother's , I agree with your mum ...they can't force money out of you ....let them know you didn't get to where you are by laziness. The lady is not gonna be a liability since she is in school and will be graduating too...God's willing she gets a good job....both of you can now plan about your life ....what is your dad saying about the lady?

currently have 4 sales girls that earns atleast 25k monthly.... I'm not from any rich family...anyways that's by de way.. thanks for your advice.

Rubbiish:
This is why some persons are saying u are not ripe enough for marriage! For a man, marriage is leadership! U are about to lead a family!!! As a man, when u set your mind to do certain things, u do it & damn the consequences. Why are u going about trying so hard to convince everyone? Are they the ones that will sponsor your wedding? If u want to lead a family, u should be able to make certain decisions & stand by it! The way u are wavering on this tells a lot about your level of maturity!

thank you too.

hapheeyxz:
This is the best time for both of u....
Once u are together, those big bros will swerve.

Thank you so much.

general111:
firstly, it is not about the material things you have acquired bro, it is about maturity..
But believe me, i think you are mentally matured enough to be married..
Now here is my advice..

You are getting married to the girl, not her brothers.
The girl seems to be a very good thing.
Her parents seems to be very good and understanding too.
Marry her as soon as possible..

Thank you so much.

shortgun:
Please go for your girl and disregard any other advice you got here.
You will surely regret it in the future if you miss this girl......you don't know what you have.

You are perfectly ready for marriage and matured enough to have a happy home if you decide to become a man.
I don't know the kind of "men" we have these days that will always run away from little challenges and miss the prize at stake.
Don't let anyone discourage you, your woman is the big prize, her brothers are obstacles you need to overlook/ignore/manage to claim your prize.

Winning battles or learning from them is how boys become men not running away from every little problem.

As you navigate through life, you will face battles, challenges and obstacles....how many will you run from?
how long will you continue to run?

I'm not running, I'm facing it real ...my woman is a very good girl...each she keep telling me she knows what she wants.. that she may be a kid by each but not intellectually.... The last time I spoke with the dad, he told me planely how he wished he can change to become a man nd stand in his family..that she's the only one she can boast of being his true offspring.... So I know what I have... thanks for your advice bro

horlahwaley:
Bruh i commend ur hustling spirit o, you should be proud of yourself taking care of someones basic needs at 24, kudos... But y una dey rush, take things slow my brother. You are getting it at this your age you can still do more. Don't rush things like that. Enjoy yourself bruh. U still have a long way to go. Marriage doesnt favour man at all, you wont be able to do things on a fastlane. Your family will hold you down. Atleast achieve a lot more. Had it been she has a source of income now i would have advice you to go ahead cos u will definitely support each other but as it is now OYO be ur case.

I'm afraid too another guy may come into picture nd I will cry a regret... We have been together for Time nd I know what I want in a lady..she has all....I love her nd afraid another guy may see the qualities nd you know Ladies.... though not all shaaaa...but I'm afraid.

Lush100:
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Yes you guys are not yet ripe.

You want to know when you are ripe.

When you guys, the two of you , start discussing how to solve challenge that come to ANY on of you nd the two of you are ready to share the burden to get it solved.

Then you guys are preparing psychologically.

When you realize that you guys, the two of you , discuss how to take money together or defer the matter by waiting , then you are preparing financially. I hope u know if you guys don't have a source of income, u have to create one together not putting the burden on one person.

The this as rule anywhere anytime

I'm planning to introduce her to my line of business, after her study. She has accepted already. ..as a matter of fact she almost perfect in it.
Thanks.

anthonyuncle:
if in the end, she leaves you for another guy, then you should be happy.
be happy cause worse would've happened if you had gone ahead to marry her.

Okay thank you for your time

DaddyRochie1642:
It very obvious that you're not ready for marriage, better follow that Wise advice to avoid Weeping and gnashing your teeth in the Future.

When a man is ready for marriage, he will Feel it inside him.

From your story, your girlfriend told you she'll commit suicide if you leave her.
-- Any Individual on this planet Earth that threatens another individual with "Suicide" is a very Dangerous person because such a person has nothing to loose, and the victim of that "Suicide" threat has everything to Loose.

She has already started subtly threatening you with Suicide, Just pray for your Sake that this your relationship doesn't reach that dangerous and dreaded stage of "If I can't have you, nobody will have you".

For her to indirectly threaten you with Suicide, she'll have no problem in taking your Life and taking her Life too if things don't go her way.


It is well with my Soul.... Amen.

Thank you, although I didn't see the sucide as anything....our relationship is has gone beyond...as a matter of fact she and her family has turned down 3 men because of me...the mother said I can't see her through her school finish nd another guy will marry her nd she won't allow such....I think that's why she talk about sucide when I discussed with her....thank you so much.

anthonyuncle:
what you mentioned above are part of what am saying.
you think you are ready but I'll advice you use some time to build yourself and your lover more.
work on your strengths and weakness.
don't rush into marriage(cause that's how it looks),
marriage will not be the end of your troubles except you start working on your troubles (effectively) now

What if in the cause of waiting to build another guy came into picture... You know women though not all can be influence plus other peers advise too.... Every guy is afraid of training a woman in school because of their nonsense altitude...can you advise me to take such risk or quit the relationship?

anthonyuncle:
being matured is beyond riches and material possessions.
a little quake in your life can shatter everything you say you own.

your psychological and mental state is still shaking

It's a lie bro....if I add how much I have spent on the brothers you will pity me...the second son as I talk to you is oweing me 250k nd has refused to pay me...keep giving me excuses....she knows about it...
As a man, you can't endure all this, I have seek advice from different individual.. everyone conderms such act.... By the brothers..... anyways you won't know... match I spent 45k to make sure the last BRO was realized after involving in rubbish act...
Anyways..thank you for your advice.

anthonyuncle:
i don't need to explain it.

are you sure your parents really supported you to marry her now?

Smile, yes bro...

Maybe because I didn't add I have got a house (4 bedroom flat) land properties too... what I don't have now as a man is car bro... anyways I won't dig deep about myself... I know myself just want to be sure of my marriage...
In my community a young guy at 22 that knows what his doing can get marry and settle perfectly fine...

What delayed me till now is my education.. I hope you understand now?

anthonyuncle:
guy,
you are still immature for marriage

Why do you say so?

Torylanez:
- My brother you need to hustle more
- Move forward and achieve something
- Obviously you both aren't ripe for Marriage una just de do gra gra
- You both are marrying for the wrong reasons
- Anytime a man marries you marry all the good and bad of your wife family and she does the same with your family

Marriage is not about age neither is it about size
Marriage is more of a spiritual, mental and psychological move

You are not ready my bro

Take this as a golden advice from a married man

Lol...I know this advice will eventually surface...but let me ask you.. How do you know a man who is ready for marriage, does age count too or it's because I added my age and her age??

Gbongwon1:
You're 24 years old, still in school. She's 22 years old and she is still in school too, and all you're thinking about is marriage

My advice for you comes is one word "Hustle" .
Check my signature and thank me later

Though I didn't add nobody should advice me to to hustle.... Even as a student, I have a stable income bro...

Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

emnite:
Continue typing .......

Lol

GoldenJAT:
How owner de endure all these broke girls with entitlement mentality HOW??
I don't advice people like you! Cos u go still go BEG HER for back.

Lol

larryjonze:
Did you just say enough, when you're spending on a lady there is nothing like "enough" ... that gurl you are giving 50k per month another man can give her 500k just in one nite
Whatever you do for a woman now consider it charity cos another nigga wil certainly do more.
koko be don't do pass urself to impress her so that when shiit happens you have broad chances of moving on.

thanks bro, though enough I mean is that I never sieze to give her even when she don't request....
Anyways...I always give what I can afford to let go anytime, anyday.

SweetCunt97:
So because she collected money from another guy u pissed? Who's the loud mouthed roommate sef? I for wozz her long mouth.

Ladies collect money from guys they dont even have intention of seeing..

Not really but because I give her enough too, I spend enough on her to the extent even her friends too are envy
.... Though I have already got the mentality that whatever in our relationship dies with it...
Hence I don't feel she owe me anything because I'm spending on her.....if it ends for good, no p, if it's end otherwise...still no p...
Thanks.

Reasonwithme2:
My dear there's nothing bad in investing in someone you love. It's never a waste even if you guys aren't together. I believe she was just testing you. And even if it wasn't a test, so you want to quit at the first hurdle, no bro, no. If she bleeped up forgive her and give her second chance, at least she never cheated. Even God gives us multiple chances then who are you not to give a second chance,
My advice to you, sort things out instead of running away.

Since yesterday she has been begging and sending texts, even begging my Best friend' to come help her beg me which my guy has been doing too..

But the major problem is, I can't even trust that girl anymore..... That's my major fear.